Zamkati
- Kodi tiyenera kudziwa?
- Maonekedwe achikondi
- Kodi tidzadziwa?
- Kodi zidzakhala momwe tidazipezera?
- Kodi tingachite popanda izi?
Tonsefe takhala nthawi yomweyo pamoyo wathu pomwe tidadabwa ngati chilidi chikondi. Ndipo panthawiyo m'moyo, tonse takhala tikulakalaka kuti chikondi chikhale chinthu chakuthupi, kotero mawonekedwe achikondi atha kutitsogolera chomwe chiri kapena sichiri.
Koma tonse tamva, "dziko silimalo opanga zokhumba." Chikondi, m'mene chilili, sichinakhalepo ndi tanthauzo kapena tanthauzo.
Kodi tiyenera kudziwa?
Kusaka kwa chikondi mwanjira yake yeniyeni kwakhala kulipo kuyambira pachiyambi cha nthawi. Koma kodi timafunikiradi kumvetsetsa chikondi kuti tikhale nacho? Kodi tifunika kukhala okhoza kufotokoza malingaliro athu tisanazimve? Mwina ayi.
Nthawi zina, zingakhale bwino kudziwa kuti winayo amakukondanidi ndi umboni wotsimikizika. Koma chifukwa chakuti munthu sangathe kufotokoza kapena kuzindikira chikondi munthawi ina, sizimapangitsa kuti asamveke momwe akumvera.
Ambiri aife timakondana osakhoza kuwatchula.
Koma chifukwa chakuti sitingazindikire mawonekedwe achikondi, kodi izi zimapangitsa kukhala kofunika kwambiri? Ayi sichoncho. Chikondi chizikhala chikondi nthawi zonse, chitchulidwe, chizindikiridwe, kapena kuvomerezedwa. Ndipo nthawi zonse zimakhala zamatsenga.
Maonekedwe achikondi
Mwina sitifunikira kudziwa, koma ngati zingafunike kufunafuna chikondi muubwenzi wanu, dziwani kuti simukuyang'ana chinthu chimodzi. Zomwe muyenera kudziwa ndikuti chikondi sichitha kuwoneka monga momwe mumaganizira kapena mwina momwe wina adachifotokozera.
Chikondi sichimabwera mofanana.
Mawonekedwe achikondi sakhala okhazikika. Mwina, zingakhale zachilungamo kunena kuti chikondi ndichosintha. Masiku, zimangokhala ngati kumwetulira ndi kuseka, ndipo kwa ena, ndizovuta komanso mikangano.
Chikondi sichinthu chokhazikika chomwe chimakonzedwa kuti chikhale momwe chidapangidwira. Chikondi ndi chingwe, chomwe chimatha kulumikizidwa muzochita zanu, m'mawu anu, komanso m'zizindikiro zosavuta zomwe munthu sangazindikire.
Kodi tidzadziwa?
Tsopano popeza tadziwa kuti chikondi sichimadza cholembedwa dzina lake kapena mawonekedwe amtima momwe takhala tikuganizira, funso nlakuti, kodi tidzadziwa nthawi yomwe lidzatigunda? Kodi tidzadziwadi ngati abale athu ena amatikonda?
Ngati ndichinthu chomwe chimasintha mawonekedwe ndikubwera kwa ife m'njira zomwe sitimazindikira, ndizotheka kuti sitingadziwe chikondi?
Yankho ndi chifukwa chiyani?
Chifukwa china chake chimabwera munjira ina yosiyana ndi yomwe timazolowera, sizitanthauza kuti sitidzazindikira. M'malo mwake, mawonekedwe achikondi ndiosiyana kwambiri ndi aliyense ndi omwe amawapangitsa kukhala apadera; zosamvetsetseka komanso zosangalatsa.
Kodi zidzakhala momwe tidazipezera?
Nthawi zina timamva ngati anzathu samatikondanso chimodzimodzi.
Ndipo nthawi zina timadabwa ngati izi ndizotheka. Kodi chikondi chingasinthe, komabe? Iwo mwamtheradi akhoza. Chimakula ndikusintha monga momwe timachitira ndi aliyense payekhapayekha.
Mukakwatirana muli ndi zaka 20, muli ndi zaka 50, mwina simungakonde mnzanu monga momwe mumakondera m'masiku anu achichepere. Sizitanthauza kuti zingakhale zochepa kapena zochulukirapo, koma zosiyana. Mwinanso, amakhala okhwima pang'ono, ndikumakhala ndi udindo waukulu. Koma nthawi zonse zimakhala zowopsa. Chifukwa chake ngakhale zitakhala zosiyana pang'ono, chikondi chimakhalabe, nthawi zonse, chikhale chikondi.
Mukamayenda ndi zina zofunika pamoyo wanu, chikondi chanu chidzasintha mawonekedwe ake.
Maonekedwe achikondi, pakutha kwa nthawi, atha kukhala osiyana kotheratu ndi momwe munalili mutakumana koyamba, koma apitilira munthawi yazovuta komanso zoyipa komanso zabwino ndi zoyipa.
Kodi tingachite popanda izi?
Chikondi sichofunikira mu moyo monga mpweya kapena madzi kwa ife.
Koma ndizofunikira kwambiri. Chikondi ndikulimbikitsidwa kwamakhalidwe, malingaliro, ndi malingaliro komwe muyenera kupitako munthawi zosiyanasiyana za moyo. Popanda chikondi m'moyo, titha kukhala ndi moyo, zowona, koma osakhala amoyo. Osati mwa tanthauzo lenileni la mawuwo.
Chikondi m'banja ndichofunika.
Mutha kukoka ukwati ngati udindo wovomerezeka, popanda chikondi, koma simungawone momwe umakhalira. Chikondi ndi chomwe chimapangitsa tanthauzo la ubale wapakati pa inu ndi mnzanu. Popanda izi, ukwati ukhoza kupitilira kwa nthawi yayitali, nawonso, kukusiyani ndi nkhawa zambiri komanso zovuta.