Zamkati
- 1. Lembani zinthu zonse zomwe mukuopa kutaya
- 2. Onetsani mantha anu kutsogolo ndi pakati
- 3. Osati kholo limodzi lokha
Mukamaganizira momwe moyo wanu udzasinthire akangofika kumene, chabwino, ifika, ndi kusintha kotani komwe mumakhudzidwa kwambiri nako? Mwinamwake mukuwopa kuti mbali zofunika za chibwenzi chanu zidzatha. Chifukwa chiyani simukuda nkhawa ndi izi? Ndikutanthauza, anthu amakonda kutiuza izi
“Chilichonse kusintha! "," Tsanzirani zogonana! " ndipo “Simudzagonanso. Nthawizonse! ”
Pali zonse / ndi yankho pazakuyembekezeraku. Pali njira zomwe mungapangire mwana wanu kukhala woyamba komanso kuyika ubale wanu patsogolo.
Njira Zina Sankhani - kutseka khomo la china
'Njira Zina Kupatula' ndichotengera cha John Gardner Grendel amene katswiri wa zamaganizo Irvin Yalom nthawi zambiri amatchula.
Ndinaganiza kuti ndizoyenera poyang'ana mantha omwe angabwere ngati mabanja asankha kukhala ndi mwana. Ndi mutu watsopano wosangalatsa, koma pali zinthu zomwe zatayika. Chomwe chimapangitsa anthu ambiri kukhala opuwala komanso osadzipereka ndi lingaliro loti nthawi iliyonse mukapanga chisankho pamoyo wanu mukutseka khomo la china chake.
Zokhudzana: Malangizo a makolo: Kukhala Watsopano Pokhala kholo Tapeza Malangizo Othandiza!
Zili ngati kuimirira m'sitolo yosungira mabuku osasankha buku loti muwerenge chifukwa chofuna kuwerenga Nkhondo ndi Mtendere zikutanthauzanso kuti mukuganiza kuti musamawerenge Wokondedwa, kapena Gatsby Wamkulu, kapena Moyo Wachidule Wosangalatsa wa Oscar Wao. Ndipo pamapeto pake simumawerenga kalikonse.
Mwasankha. Inu ndi mnzanu mukubweretsa mwana m'banja lanu. Banja lanu laanthu awiri lokhala ndi zokambirana zonse, kusintha kwa moyo, komanso kuphatikiza banja komanso anzanu atsopano omwe mumayenera kukhala nawo mukamachoka ku 'single' kupita ku 'chibwenzi' tsopano mukuyenera kukhala ndi wina. Ndipo moyo wosankha wa ana ndi ana womwe mwasankhawu sungaphatikizepo zina mwa zomwe mungakhale nazo pamoyo wanu.
Kodi mukuwona nkhawa iliyonse yomwe ikukwera mukamaganizira za izi? Nazi zomwe mungachite kenako:
1. Lembani zinthu zonse zomwe mukuopa kutaya
Pangani izi mwatsatanetsatane momwe mungathere, koma ingochotsani pamutu panu ndikulemba pepala (kapena pulogalamu ya notsi kapena china chake chadijito. Ndine wosinthasintha. Palibe amene ati asonkhanitse izi. Ndimakonda kupanga mndandanda onga uwu chifukwa nkhawa zina zoyipitsitsa padziko lapansi ndi pamene pamangokhala mantha opanda mawonekedwe omwe samalumikizidwa ndi chilichonse. Kungokhala ndi nkhawa zopanda malire zokonzeka kukugwetsani pansi ndikumenyani m'matumbo, ndikukusiyani mutangodabwa.
2. Onetsani mantha anu kutsogolo ndi pakati
Pakadali pano mwina mungachite mantha kusintha osamvetsetsa kuti ndikudandaula chiyani posowa. Tiyeni tipeze mantha amenewo kutsogolo ndi pakati. Izi zitha kukhala ngati 'Lamlungu laulesi pabedi limodzi ndi pepala' kapena ngati 'kuwona usiku wotsegulira kanema waposachedwa wa Star Wars - zomwe mungachite nthawi zonse tiwonere limodzi! '
Ikani zonse pansi. Ngati muli ndi zinthu zosakwana khumi ndiye kuti simunamalize. Mudakhala ndi nthawi yayitali pomwe munali nonse awiri, chifukwa chake lolani kuti mukhale munthawi zonse zachinsinsi zomwe mumada nkhawa kuti zidzatayika. Mwinanso mutu waukulu komanso mantha kwa ubale bwerani ku: Kodi nditaya mgwirizano womwe tapanga? Kodi sitidzamvanso ngati "banja" kachiwiri?
Zokhudzana: Kukambirana ndi Kupanga dongosolo la kulera
Komabe, kumbukirani kuti pamene munayamba chibwenzi chanu mwina munali mukufunsa kuti: “Kodi nditaya ndekha? ” Tikukhulupirira, kudzera pantchitoyi, nonse mwaika pachibwenzi chomwe mwatha kupanga mgwirizano zomwe sizitanthauza kuti inu, monga munthu, mwatayika. Ndipo lingaliro limenelo ndi nkhani yabwino. Mudachitapo izi kale. Mudakwanitsa kupyola pamavuto amodzi amoyo ndipo mwatuluka.
Ndiye muyenera kuchita chiyani ndi mndandanda wanu tsopano?
3. Osati kholo limodzi lokha
Nayi gawo lovuta popeza itha kukhala minofu yatsopano yomwe muyenera kupanga: Tumizani mnzanu mameseji ndikupanga tsiku loti mulembe mndandanda wanu.
Izi ndizofunikira chifukwa zitha kukhala zovuta kusintha kuti "Ndine woyendetsa sitimayo komanso woyang'anira moyo wanga" kuti ndikafunse wina kuti tiwonetsetse kuti mwanayo akusamaliridwa ngati mukufuna kukhala mochedwa kuntchito.
M'banja labwino, padzakhala kudalirana kwenikweni komwe kungachitike ndipo kumatha kukhala koopsa komanso kosasangalatsa ngati mwakhala mukudzinyadira pa kudziyimira pawokha. Koma simungapange malingalirowa kapena kuthana ndi mantha awa nokha ndikuyembekeza kuchita bwino. Ndikutanthauza, mutha, koma simudzafika patali ndipo pamapeto pake zidzakhala zokhumudwitsa nonsenu.
Zokhudzana: Kuthamangitsa Kukhumudwitsidwa Kwa Kulera Kwawo Mwa Njira Zosavuta Zinayi
Chifukwa chake pangani tsiku loti mukhale pansi ndikulankhulana za nkhawa zomwe wina ali nazo, zomwe akuopa, komanso zomwe zikudetsa nkhawa- ndipo phatikizani izi ndi zomwe mumakondana zomwe simukufuna kutaya. Mvetsetsani, ndikuwathandiza kumvetsetsa kuti mantha awa alidi momwe mungatsimikizire kuti nonse awiri mutha kukhala anthu amphamvu, osangalatsa, apadera omwe nonse mwakhala.
Sankhani limodzi — mwana asanabadwe — momwe mudzakambirane nkhanizo akadzabweranso. Inde, malingaliro omwe angakhazikitsidwe bwino atha kusokonekera khanda likangobadwa, koma gawo lalikulu la kholo limaphunzira kusinthasintha -kukhala gawo lalikulu la wamoyo ndichoncho!
Kupanga mapulani pasadakhale kumatanthauza kuti mwina mukukhazikitsa zolinga. Mutha kukumbutsana munthawi yamavuto momwe mbali zina zaubwenzi wanu zilili zofunika ndikukambirananso momwe mungapitire kumeneko. Kulera ana mothandizana kumafuna mgwirizano, kunyengerera, komanso kulumikizana. Chosangalatsa, izi zikutanthauza kuti ngati mungachite bwino izi, mutha kukulitsa ubale wanu.
Kupita patsogolo
Kukhala ndi mwana kumasintha ubale wanu, koma simuyenera kutaya zomwe mumakonda. Khalani olimba mtima komanso otseguka ndi okondedwa anu pazomwe mumakonda za iwo, zomwe mukuwopa kuti mutaya, ndikupeza chilimbikitso mwa wina ndi mnzake podziwa kuti mudzakumana ndi gawo latsopanoli laulendo wanu limodzi.