Zamkati
- 1. Amadziderera
- 2. Sadziwa zomwe ali nazo
- 3. Kutaya chilakolako kumapangitsa kuti kusochere mosavuta
- 4. Pali kusokonekera kwa kulumikizana
- 5. Sanakonzekere ukwati
- Palibe chowiringula
Funso: Chifukwa chiyani amuna amanyengerera akazi awo atakhala zaka zambiri akukondana?
A: Ndiwooseketsa.
Zomwe tikufuna kumaliza nkhaniyi pano ndikuchita ngati ndicho chifukwa chokha chomwe tili nacho, tonse tikudziwa kuti ndizabwino kwambiri kuposa izo. Ngati munthu abera, adalakwitsa ndipo palibe chowiringula. Koma pali zowonjezereka zoti mukambirane pamutuwu. Pali magawo ambiri oti tibwerere m'mbuyo ndikulingalira tisanadumphire ku yankho losavuta kwambiri loti "amuna ndiopusa."
1. Amadziderera
Izi zingawoneke ngati zosagwirizana. Ngati wina ali ndi kudzidalira, sizomveka kuti angakhale akuyandikira ndikucheza ndi akazi osasintha, sichoncho? Koma ndi mbali imodzi yokha kuti muwone nkhani yodzidalira iyi.
Kudziderera kwawo kumatha kuwapangitsa kumva kuti ndi ocheperako kuposa anzawo okwatirana nawo. Atha kumayang'ana akazi awo nkuganiza kuti, "Ndine wotayika, sindingathe ngakhale kugona ndi mkazi wanga." Kukula kwa malingaliro olakwika kungawapangitse iwo kupita kukawona ngati ali nawobe. Atha kufunafuna chisamaliro kuchokera kwa amayi ena kuti adzipangitse kudzimva kuti ali bwino posowa chikondi kunyumba.
2. Sadziwa zomwe ali nazo
Pambuyo pazaka zambiri ali pachibwenzi, mnyamatayo amatha kuiwala zomwe ali nazo kunyumba. Amatha kumvetsetsa kuti mkazi wake ndiwokongola, wanzeru, komanso woseketsa, koma nthawi yomwe yadutsa imachepetsa kuwala komwe kumakhalapo pamwamba pake.
Mkazi watsopano akalembedwa ntchito kapena ngati woyandikana naye watsopano amabwera, zachilendo zakupezeka kwake zimatha kumukumbutsa chifukwa chake mkazi wake ali wamkulu chonchi. Musanazindikire, atha kukhala kuti akulera wina watsopano pomwe mkazi wake akadali kugogoda komwe adakwatirana.
Akafika ku ― kaya atuluke kapena ayi ― ndikukumbukira chifukwa chomwe mkazi wake alili woyamba, amamva zoopsa. Koma zitha kukhala mochedwa kwambiri kwa ena, chifukwa amazindikira momwe ukwati wawo udalili kuyambira pachiyambi.
3. Kutaya chilakolako kumapangitsa kuti kusochere mosavuta
Nthawi yochulukirapo yomwe muli pachibwenzi, m'pamenenso muyenera kudziwa zinthu zambiri kuti muzisunga ndi kulimba. Chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe zimatha kuchepa ndichilakolako, chomwe chimatha kubweretsa zovuta zambiri panjira yaukwati - kuphatikizapo kubera.
Moto wokonda moto womwe umangobangula umatsika pang'ono, anyamata amatha kuyamba kuyang'ana kwina kulumikizana koteroko. Chosangalatsa ndichakuti chitha kupezeka mosavuta. Usiku umodzi maimidwe ndipo zochitika zitha kupatsa munthu mulingo womwe amawukhumba chifukwa chatsopano, chatsopano, komanso chowopsa. Ngati zinthu zapakhomo zili pamiyala, zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zosavuta kutsimikizira kuti mwapereka mayesero. Mtima wake umathamanga ndipo asanadziwe, adzasokonekera panthawi yomwe banja lake litha.
4. Pali kusokonekera kwa kulumikizana
Kukhala ndi chibwenzi kuti mukwaniritse chosowa chodzaza ndi vuto limodzi lokha lomwe lingafunike kudzazidwa. Kuphatikiza pa chisankho chofuna kuchita chinyengo, bambo amatha kubera mayeso chifukwa pali kulumikizana pakati pa iye ndi mkazi wake.
Angamve kuti sakufunidwa.
Angamve kuti sakufunika.
Amatha kumva ngati sakumva.
Izi zati, izi sizimamupatsa chiphaso chaulere kuti apeze mkazi wokongola wotsatira yemwe amuwona ndikupita naye ku hotelo yapafupi. Kulankhulana ndi njira ziwiri. Ngati akuwona ngati sakumvedwa, ayenera kuyankhulapo. Ngati akuwona ngati zosowa zake sizikukwaniritsidwa, ayenera kunena malingaliro ake.
Kulola kusayankhulana ku snowball kumalo komwe kubera chifukwa chake ndi vuto lake monganso mkazi wake.
5. Sanakonzekere ukwati
Anyamata ambiri amangowona ukwati ngati gawo lina laubwenzi.
"Chabwino, takhala pachibwenzi kwa zaka zingapo, takhala limodzi pafupifupi miyezi 9, ndikuganiza ndi nthawi yoti tidzipereke limodzi moyo wathu wonse ..."
Ngakhale ndikupitiliza ubale wokhazikika, ukwati umasainira a moyo wonse kukhala ndi mnzanu. Ndizambiri zofunika kuziganizira ndikuziganizira, ndipo palibe chomwe muyenera kuthamangira.
Anyamata ena atha kukhala achichepere kwambiri akaganiza zomangiriza mfundozo. Mumasintha kwambiri m'ma 20s ndi 30 anu kuti inali kanthawi kochepa kuti pakhale mtunda pakati panu ndi mkazi wanu.
Anyamata ena sangazindikire kuti akulembera kuti "Ndipita kogona ndi munthu m'modziyu mpaka ndidzafe." Ndikutanthauza, si ma morons, amalingalira izi. Koma sangadziwe kuti izi zimachitika bwanji mpaka mtsogolo muukwati.
Amuna ena amangonena kuti "Ndimachita" asanakwanitse. Ngati ndi choncho, nthawi yomwe iye ndi mkwatibwi wake adzatchulidwe kuti amuna ndi akazi, bomba lomwe lili ndi nthawi yokhazikitsidwa limakhazikitsidwa ndipo zimangotsala pang'ono kuti munthu yemwe sanatero kwenikweni okonzeka kugwidwa akuwonetsa.
Palibe chowiringula
Nkhaniyi si mndandanda wazifukwa zomwe amuna angagwiritse ntchito pofotokozera chigololo chawo; ndi zitsanzo chabe zomwe zingapangitse abambo kuchita zopusa.
Amuna amabera. Akazi amanyenga. Palibe munthu wosalakwa.Koma ngati anthu awiri aganiza zokhalitsa nthawi yayitali, ayenera kudziwa zomwe akulembetsa.
Gwiritsani ntchito mndandandawu ngati zizindikiritso zomwe mungachite kuti mugwirizane. Ngati mukusowa chidwi, yatsani moto. Ngati mukulephera kulankhulana, khalani pansi kuti mukambirane. Gwiritsani ntchito izi ngati chiwonetsero chazomwe zitha kuchititsa kuti wina azinyenga mnzake.
Mutha kutsiriza.