Kodi zimakuvutani kufotokoza zosowa zanu, zofuna, zoyembekezera, zokhumudwitsa, ndi zina zambiri, mwachindunji kwa mnzanu?
Kodi nthawi zina mumakana malingaliro anu enieni pazinthu zosokoneza kuti mnzanu akuchita kapena sakuchita, akudziyesa kuti "ali bwino" chifukwa mukuganiza kuti angakudzitchinjirizeni?
Kodi mumadabwa momwe mungayankhulirane bwino ndi mnzanu?, kapena ngati simukugwiritsa ntchito njira yolankhulirana yoyenera?
Ngati chilichonse chikuyenera-osadzinyenga nokha ndikukhulupirira kuti simukulankhulana kapena njira yolankhulirana yanu ndiyolakwika. Momwemo, mumakhala omveka bwino, koma osati mwachindunji, mukuyenera kuti mukungokhala chete.
Chifukwa chake, simudzasangalala ndi zabwino zokambirana moona mtima.
Osadandaula, komabe, simuli nokha!
Tengani Sally, mphunzitsi wa kalasi yachinayi, ndi Pete, wopanga mapulogalamu, mwachitsanzo, onse azaka zoyambirira za 30 omwe amafuna kuyambitsa banja. Kumapeto kwa tsikuli, onse anali atatopa kwambiri, osasiya mphamvu zogonana.
Komabe, kutopa ndi zopanikiza nthawi sizinakhale vuto lawo lalikulu. M'malo mwake, onse anali ndi mkwiyo wosaneneka.
Tsoka ilo, Sally kapena Pete sanakhulupirire kuti zingakhale bwino kulankhula zomwe zikuvutitsa aliyense wa iwo ndipo adagwera mumsampha wosafuna "kupanga kanthu kopanda kanthu."
Pansi pake, Sally adakwiya chifukwa Pete adalephera kukwaniritsa udindo wake wogwirizana panyumba, monga kuchotsa zinyalala ndikuwatsuka mbale, zomwe zimamupangitsa kuti azidandaula ngati angadalire iye akadzayamba khanda.
Koma Pete, adapeza kuti Sally amakonda kupeza zolakwika ndipo nthawi zambiri amadzudzulidwa pazinthu zazing'ono.
Komabe, m'malo mongomuuza zakukhosi kwake, amangokweza maso ndi kumunyalanyaza. Pambuyo pake, amabwerera kwa iye mwa "kuiwala" kuti amugwire ntchito zapakhomo.
Sally ndi Pete osadziwa, adapanga mayankho olakwika kapena njira yolankhulirana yolakwika, pogwiritsa ntchito njira zankhanza zongonena.
Kwa Sally, m'malo mogawana mantha ake oti akhale ndi mwana ndi Pete, amamangirira makabati ndikupanga ndemanga zonyoza Pete atamumvera, akuyembekeza kuti amuganizira za zinyalala zomwe zadzaza.
Kwa Pete, m'malo mouza Sally kuti mayankhulidwe ake kapena kumudzudzula kumamupweteka komanso kumukwiyitsa, adanyalanyaza, akuyembekeza kuti asiye kudandaula. (Mwa njira, Sally amakhulupirira kuti amapereka mayankho ogwira mtima, koma si momwe Pete adamasulira.)
Ngakhale amakondana, awa Kuwonetsa kosawonekera kwachisoni chawo kunapereka mafuta oyaka moto kwambiri pakaphulika thanki yamagesi m'banja ndipo ubwenzi wawo udapitilira kuchepa.
Mwamwayi, Sally ndi Pete adafunafuna thandizo ndipo pamapeto pake adazindikira kuti ayenera kukumbukira momwe akumvera komanso kufotokoza iwo moyenera zomwe zimawalola kuti athetse zovuta zawo ndikumanganso ubale wawo wapamtima.
Ambiri aife timachita zankhanza pokhapokha ngati tili otetezeka kugawana malingaliro athu ndi malingaliro athu momasuka.
Koma zikagwiritsidwa ntchito m'mabwenzi athu apamtima, izi mawu osiyanasiyana osakhala achinsinsi atha kuwononga monga kuchita nkhanza, mwinanso kuposa pamenepo.
Koma, mutha kusiya makhalidwe aukali ndikukhala olankhula moona mtima komanso momveka bwino m'malo!
M'munsimu muli malangizo asanu okuthandizani kulankhulana bwino mu ubale wanu:
- Lembani mndandanda wazakwiya zanu komanso zodandaula. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri kuti muzitha kulankhulana bwino m'banja
- Patulani zinthuzo kuyambira kwa "omwe atha kukhala ochita zosokoneza ngati atasinthidwa osasinthidwa" mpaka "omwe alibe phindu pakapita nthawi."
- Tengani omwe ali patsogolo kwambiri ndikukhala ndi njira yolumikizirana yotsatirayi (m'mawu ako omwe, inde).
"Wokondedwa, ndikawona (lembani za kufotokozera kwamakhalidwe), ndimatanthauzira kuti zikutanthauza (mwachitsanzo, kuti simusamala zosowa zanga, kapena mukutanganidwa, ndi zina zambiri) kenako ndikumva (khalani osavuta wachisoni, wamisala, wokondwa, kapena wamantha).
Ndimakukondani ndipo ndikufuna kwambiri ngati tingapeze njira yothetsera izi kapena kupanga mgwirizano watsopano. Ndikufunanso kudziwa zomwe ndingachite kuti ndikhale ndi malo abwino oti mundiuze madandaulo anu. ”
Onetsetsani kuti mwachokera pamalo okhala ndi zolinga zabwino. Kumbukirani, cholinga chanu ndi choti mnzanu alandire uthenga wanu mwachindunji komanso mwachikondi kuti asalimbikitse kudzitchinjiriza.
Kudziwa momwe mungalankhulire ndi mnzanu kumayamba ndikudziwa njira yolankhulirana yoyenera.
- Khazikitsani nthawi ndi wokondedwa wanu kukhala ndi zokambirana komwe mungamufunse ngati angafune kuti mukhale "omvera" kwa mphindi zingapo kuti muthe kufotokoza zomwe mukufuna kunena, kutsimikizira mnzanuyo kuti mumupatsanso nthawi yoti ayankhe kamodzi mukumva kuti mwamveka. Kenako fotokozerani zomwe mwachita mu # 3.
- Pemphani mnzanuyo kuti alembe mndandanda ndikupanga nthawi yoti akufotokozereni nkhawa zake. Izi zikuwonetsa kuti mukumvetsetsa kuti abwenzi abwino amasinthana kuyankhula komanso kumvetsera.
Kenako bwerezani # 3-5 mukuyenda pamndandanda wanu. Mwinanso mutha kuzindikira kuti podutsa zinthu zoyambirirazo, zizolowezi zimadzikonza popanda kudutsa chilichonse chomwe chili mundandandawo.
Mukayika zinthuzi, mwachiyembekezo mwayamba kupeza zabwino zosiya mawu okwiya kumbuyo kwanu ndikulowa m'malo owoneka bwino!
Gwiritsani ntchito malangizo a kulumikizana kwa maanja m'banja mwanu kuti muzilankhulana bwino komanso kuti mukhale ogwirizana.
Ndipo, osadandaula, ngati nthawi zina mumalakwitsa, ingodikirani ndikuwunika, kenako nkubwereranso mumsewu waukulu!
(Chidziwitso: Ngati muli pachibwenzi, chonde funsani akatswiri chifukwa maupangiri awa sangakhale opindulitsa. Komanso, popeza ubale uliwonse ndiwosiyana, palibe chitsimikizo kuti zomwe zimagwirira ntchito munthu m'modzi / banja zithandizira wina.)