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Zamkati
- Landirani udindo wa yanu gawo
- Zoyenera kuchita
- 1. Vomerezani njere ya choonadi
- 2. Tsimikizani cholinga chanu
- 3. Muzipepesa
- 4. Chitani zenizeni
- Chifukwa chiyani izi zili zofunika?
- 1. Akuwongolera kupita ku yankho limodzi
- 2. Amateteza kusudzulana
Mwachita zonse zomwe mungathe kuthetsa vutoli. Palibe chomwe chikugwira ntchito. Mukamakulirakulira, sizikuwoneka kuti mnzanu amakumverani. Chomwe chimakhala chokhumudwitsa kwambiri ndikuti amangokupatsani mlandu! Kapenanso, kubwerezanso zolakwa ndi zolephera zakale. Mwafika povuta. Wakhazikika, watopa, ndipo sudziwa choti uchite.
Ngati muli ngati anthu ambiri, mwina mungasiye kuyeserera. Mumasiya nkhaniyo nokha ndikukhulupirira kuti mudzakhala bwino tsiku lotsatira. Monga mwachizolowezi kumverera kwanu kocheperako kumatha pakapita nthawi, ndipo kumakhala kosavuta kunyalanyaza vutoli ngati litheka lokha. Kapenanso mwina mukuyembekeza kuti sizinali zofunikira kwenikweni.
Vuto ndi izi ndikuti nthawi zambiri sichitha. Vuto lalikulu lomwe limayambitsa mkangano lidatsalira ndipo lagona mpaka chinthu chomwe chimayambitsanso.
Ndiye mungasinthe bwanji kuwonongeka kumeneku? Yankho lake ndi losavuta modabwitsa. Njira yofikira poyambira imayamba ndi ... kuvomereza udindo.
Landirani udindo wa yanu gawo
Tawonani kutsindika kwake yanu gawo. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti muziimba mlandu anzanu kapena kupepesa pazinthu zomwe simunachite. Komanso sizitanthauza kuti mukugwirizana kwathunthu ndi mnzanuyo. Kungokhala ndi gawo lanu pamavuto omwe muli nawo, ngakhale atakhala akulu kapena ang'onoang'ono.
Ndizothandiza kukumbukira kuti ngati mukufunadi kuti muthe kuthetsa mikangano yanu, muyenera kuyesetsa kwambiri kukhala wogwira mtima m'malo molondola. Mwanjira ina, musaiwale cholinga chanu chachikulu - kuthana ndi mavuto ndikukhala ndi banja labwino. Funso lodziwika bwino lomwe alangizi a mabanja amafunsa kuti, "Kodi ukufuna kunena zoona, kapena ukufuna kukwatiwa?"
Kulandira udindo sikukhudzana kwenikweni ndi yemwe ali woyenera kapena wolakwika, komanso kukhudzana ndi kuchita bwino muubwenzi. Mukasankha kuvomera udindo wanu, ndiye kuti mukunena kuti "Ndili nanu, osati kutsutsana nanu. Tiyeni tizilingalire limodzi. ” Zikuwonetsa kuti ndinu okonzeka kupeza mfundo zomwe mungagwirizane, kuti mutha kuyanjana pamodzi, ngati gulu.
Zoyenera kuchita
Nazi njira 4 zovomerezera udindo womwe ungakuthandizeni kusintha kuwonongeka kwanu.
1. Vomerezani njere ya choonadi
Ngakhale simukutsutsana ndi kutsutsana, kudandaula, kapena kunyozedwa komwe kumakukhudzani, nthawi zambiri pamakhala chowonadi chazomwe zikunenedwa. Tiyeni tigwiritse ntchito chitsanzo kuchokera m'nkhani yanga yomaliza, "Kusintha Kocheperako Kulumikizana Kungasinthe Kwambiri Ubwenzi Wanu."
“Zatheka bwanji kuti osakhetsa zotsuka ?! Nthawi zonse mumangondisiira kuti ndikakhutule, ndipo simumaganizira kuti ndikhala nditatopa bwanji kumapeto kwa tsiku. ”
Mutha kutsutsa kuti inu ayi chotsani chotsukira mbale ndi kuti inu nthawi zonse musiyireni wokondedwa wanu kuti atulutse kanthu. Koma mwina ndizowona kuti nthawi zina simuganiza za kutopa kwa mnzanu kumapeto kwa tsiku. Kuvomereza njere ya chowonadi kumawoneka motere.
"Mukunena zowona. Sindinazindikire kuti utatopa kumapeto kwa tsiku. ”
Mukamachita izi, mukutsimikizira malingaliro a mnzanu ndikusokoneza mkangano.
2. Tsimikizani cholinga chanu
Ndikofunika kunena zomwe mukufuna kuti mnzanu ayambe kumvetsetsa malingaliro anu ndikutsimikizira kuti simunali kufuna kuchita zoyipa zilizonse.
Mwachitsanzo, “Inenso ndakhala nditatopa kumapeto kwa tsiku, ndipo nthawi zina ndimangokhala pa nthawi yopuma moti sindimaganiziranso zoyenera kuchita panyumba. Sindinkafuna kuti inu muzimva ngati kuti muyenera kuchita zonse. ”
3. Muzipepesa
Ingonena kuti, "Pepani." Ndichoncho! Mosiyana ndi zomwe ambiri amakhulupirira, kupepesa ndi chisonyezo champhamvu, osati kufooka. Osapeputsa mphamvu zakupepesa zomwe zingakhudze mtima ndikuchepetsa mkangano.
4. Chitani zenizeni
BWANJI mumalankhulana kutenga udindo kumapangitsa kusiyana kwakukulu. Ndikofunika kukhala owona mukamagwiritsa ntchito luso ili. Wokondedwa wanu adziwa ngati simunena zowona kapena mukungotsatira zomwe mwachita. Ngati mumadzimva kuti mukumangika kwambiri mpaka kufika poti simungakhale otsimikiza pakadali pano, pumulani. Dzipatseni nthawi kuti mukhale chete ndikulingalira mozama za gawo lanu lomwe lili pamavuto komanso zomwe mungapepese moona mtima.
Chifukwa chiyani izi zili zofunika?
Ichi ndichifukwa chake izi ndizofunikira-
1. Akuwongolera kupita ku yankho limodzi
Mukamatsimikizira mnzanuyo pozindikiritsa zoona zake pazomwe akunenazo mukupatsa mwayi wokambirana momasuka. Anthu akamakhala otetezeka kufotokoza zakukhosi kwawo, amamvanso kumva. Izi zimapangitsa kuti pakhale chidwi chofuna kupereka ndikutenga pakafunika kutero komanso cholinga chofananira chothetsa mkangano pamodzi. Bungwe la Gottman Institute likuti, "Mwa kuzindikira ndi kumvetsetsa malingaliro a mnzanu, muli ndi mwayi wopeza yankho lomwe limalemekeza onse awiri. Chinsinsi chake ndi ichi. ”
2. Amateteza kusudzulana
Chimodzi mwazinthu zodziwika bwino za maukwati omwe amabweretsa chisudzulo ndi kudziletsa. Chosiyana podzitchinjiriza ndikutha kuvomereza udindo. Mwanjira ina, kuvomereza udindo ndiye mankhwala otetezera.
Mukakhala ndi chizolowezi chovomereza udindo wanu pamavuto anu apabanja, sikuti mudzangoyambira patsogolo kuti mugonjetse kusamvana kwanu, koma mudzakhala mukudziteteza ku chisudzulo.