Zamkati
- Ndani ali ndi vuto pakusokonekera muubwenzi wachikondi?
- Timakonda kupeza mbuzi yonyamula kuti izipeza zolakwazo
- Ndikosavuta kuzunzidwa kuposa kuvomereza kusokonekera kwanu
- Mvetsetsani kuti nonse muli ndi maudindo ofanana pakukanika
Kulephera muubwenzi wachikondi? Kodi ndani kwenikweni ali ndi liwongo? Zimachitika nthawi zonse, monga kulephera kwa maubwenzi achikondi ndizofala kwambiri kotero kuti tili ndi mabanja ambiri ku America. Kulephera kumeneku mwachidziwikire kumayamba kale asanathetse ukwati.
Ndani ali ndi vuto pakusokonekera muubwenzi wachikondi?
Apa tikulankhula zakusokonekera kwa maubwenzi achikondi ndi udindo womwe umabwera tikamayesa kusintha njira zathu zamakono komanso zam'mbuyomu zachikondi. Ubale ndi wovuta. Ziribe kanthu zomwe mumawerenga m'magazini otchuka, mabuku oganiza bwino. Ubale ndi ntchito yovuta. Bola ngati mukufuna chabwino. Monga kukhala ndi thupi lalikulu ndi ntchito yolimbika.
Chifukwa chake ngati muli pachibwenzi chovuta, ndi ndani amene akuyenera kuyambitsa kukanika pamoyo wanu wachikondi? Pafupifupi zaka zinayi zapitazo, banja lina linabwera muofesi yanga chifukwa anali atatsala pang'ono kusudzulana. Mkazi anali wokonda kuwononga ndalama, zomwe zimawapangitsa kuti awonongeke ndalama, ndipo mwamunayo amamwa mowa kwambiri kumapeto kwa sabata momwe amamukondera.
Timakonda kupeza mbuzi yonyamula kuti izipeza zolakwazo
Chifukwa chake adabwera kudzayesa kuti adziwe amene akuyambitsa chibwenzicho. Zachidziwikire, ndizomwe timakonda kuchita. Pezani mbuzi yopezera. Ndipo patatha milungu inayi ndikugwira ntchito limodzi, ndidabwera kwa iwo ndi lingaliro lomwelo lomwe ndi lingaliro lomwelo lomwe ndimabwera ndi banja lililonse lomwe likuvutika ndi moyo wachikondi. Palibe aliyense wa inu amene wovulazidwayo, ndipo palibe aliyense wa inu amene amayambitsa vutoli.
Adandiyang'ana ngati ndili ndi mitu 17,000. "Mukutanthauza chiyani pamenepa?", Mkaziyo adati. "Kugwiritsa ntchito ndalama kwanga sikungawononge ubale wathu monga kumwa mowa kumapeto kwa sabata." Kuyankha kumeneko sikudadabwitsa, koma zomwe ndanena zidadabwitsa onse awiri.
“Tamverani, anyamata akhala limodzi kwa zaka 15, ndipo kwa zaka 10 pa zaka 15zo, mwakhala muli osokonezeka kotheratu. Osadalirana. Kudzazidwa ndi mkwiyo. Mukhala ndi mwezi umodzi kapena iwiri kapena itatu momwe mudandiwuza komwe zinthu zinali bwino koma pali miyezi 12 pachaka, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti miyezi isanu ndi inayi yoyamwa. Tsopano awa ndi mawu anu, osati anga. Ndiye chowonadi ndichakuti, nonsenu mukhala limodzi kwa nthawi yayitali muubwenzi wosagwirizana, akuti nonse muli ndi udindo 50% pakukanika komwe mukumva, komanso momwe mudamvera kale. "
Ndikosavuta kuzunzidwa kuposa kuvomereza kusokonekera kwanu
Ngati anthu awiri omwe akuvutika ndi chikondi, pitirizani kukhala osayesetsa kupeza upangiri wotalika, ndiye kuti onsewo ali ndi vuto lomweli pamaubwenzi. Tsopano, iyi ndi nkhani yabwino, chifukwa simungaloze chala chanu ndikudzudzula chidakwa mukawathandiza kukhalabe pachibwenzi zaka 15. Momwemonso, simungathe kudzudzula munthu amene akukuwonongerani ndalama mumaakaunti anu akubanki, chifukwa mudakhala nawo kwazaka ndi zaka pazaka zomwe akhala akuchita pakukonda kwawo.
Zidawatenga kwenikweni banjali, pomwe ndidayamba kugwira nawo ntchito limodzi, milungu inayi isanakwane kuti amvetse zomwe ndimanena. Ndipo chifukwa chake? Ndikosavuta kwambiri kuzunzidwa, kuwonetsa kuti vuto lomwe lili pachibwenzi ndi mnzanu, osati tokha.
Mvetsetsani kuti nonse muli ndi maudindo ofanana pakukanika
Koma ndiloleni ndibwereze izi chifukwa ndikofunikira kuti aliyense alowererepo ndikuzindikira. Ngati muli pachibwenzi chautali chomwe sichili bwino, nonse muli ndi maudindo ofanana pakukanika, palibe amene ali woyipa kuposa mnzake.
Mutha kukhala ndi chidakwa, yemwe ali ndi wodalira yemwe akuopa kugwedeza bwato ndikuyika malire ndi zotsatirapo zoyipa.
Mutha kukhala ndi otaya mtima, omwe ali ndiodalira, momwemonso, amawopa kugwedeza bwato ndikumaliza misala. Ndipo popitiliza kugwira ntchito ndi banjali pamwambapa, adasintha kwambiri. Zidatha kugwira ntchito pafupifupi miyezi 12, koma adatha kusiya mkwiyo wawo, mkwiyo, kuzunzidwa ndikudzudzula, kuvomereza kusokonekera kwawo muubwenzi wachikondi ndipo pamapeto pake adazibweretsanso pachimake, athanzi, aulemu komanso achikondi. Zinali zofunikira pantchitoyi, zinali zoyeserera, ndipo inunso mutha kuchita chimodzimodzi.
Kutenga komaliza
Mukayika nthawi yokwanira ndi mlangizi, mutha kuzindikira kuti chibwenzicho chinali ndi tsiku lotha ntchito lomwe munasiya kunyalanyaza, ndikuti mukadatha zaka zapitazo, ndipo mupanga chisankho tsopano kuti musamuke mwaulemu, ndikukhulupirira kuti muphunzira kuchokera ku izi kuti musadzabwerezenso. Mwanjira iliyonse, nonse mumapambana mwachikondi.