Zamkati
- Kulumikizana kwamtchire kwenikweni
- Zizindikiro zowoneka zakukangana pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi:
- 1. Muziyang'ana diso lanzeru
- 2. Khalani oseketsa komanso osamvera, koma muchepetse seweroli
- 3. Musalole kuti nthawi yoyamikirayi idutse
- 4. Mangani malo oyandikana ndi ziweto zangozi
- 5. Onetsani zomwe muli nazo, sewerani ku zomwe mungathe
- Pewani kulakwitsa kotereku poyesa kulimbikitsa zachiwerewere
- Kumbukirani kuchitapo kanthu ngati mukuyenera, koma osapitirira
Kukumana ndi zovuta zakugonana ndimkhalidwe wosangalatsa, womwe umawonekera pachiwonetsero chanu chanyama kwambiri mukamasangalala ndikumverera kopanda tanthauzo nthawi zonse mukamayandikira munthuyu.
Kuphatikiza pa kulira, kupweteketsa thupi, komanso kuchita zachiwerewere pakati pa anthu awiriwa kukopana, mavuto azakugonana atha kukhala chifukwa cha kulumikizana kwakuthupi. Mutha kusankha kuchitapo kanthu kapena kusachita nawo kukoka kwanu kwaphokoso, kwamtchire, komanso kokondana.
Kulumikizana kwamtchire kwenikweni
Zizindikiro zakumangika pazakugonana zitha kufotokozedwa bwino ngati momwe zimakhudzira kumverera komwe mukufuna kuyendetsa galimoto kapena kuyenda mtunda wautali kuti mukawone munthuyu, kusangalala ndi kuyandikana wina ndi mnzake, komanso kuyamba kumva bwino za mawonekedwe anu mukamakonda galasi m'mawa.
Kulumikizana kwamtchire kooneka bwino ndikutengeka kwakuthupi kumatha kumatha kuphwanya dziko lapansi, kugonana kwachikatolika kapena kumangokhala momwe ziliri, ngati mpweya wapakatikati womwe umangoyimilira kwa kanthawi kenako nkuzimiririka pambuyo pake. (Komabe, ndibwino mpaka zitatha!)
Ngati mukuyang'ana zizindikilo zosonyeza kuti ndi njira yolumikizirana ndi njira zopezera mavutowa, musayang'anenso kwina!
Zizindikiro zowoneka zakukangana pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi:
- Kuyanjana kwa diso limodzi ndi kuyang'anitsitsa kwakubedwa komwe kumangokhala pakati pa kupumako ndi kubwezerana - kumawonetsera vibe yakugonana.
- Kukhazikika pamalumikizidwe anu pomwe mukulimbana ndi vuto loti musagwire batani lozungulira nthawi yanu.
- Mumapezeka kuti mumaganizira za munthuyu nthawi zambiri pogonana, ngati mwambo.
- Vibe yamagetsi pomwe mumalimbana ndi chidwi chofuna kumukhudza munthuyo ndikumangomuthokoza chifukwa simukuwona zozimitsa moto zikuchitika nthawi yomweyo.
- Pali zochitika zachikondi pazochitika zilizonse zomwe mumagawana nawo.
- Anzanu kapena anzanu, ngati kuli kuntchito, akuuzeni kuti mugawane nawo chemistry.
- Chidwi chomwe mumakhala nacho nthawi iliyonse akamadutsa chimamveka. Kuyenda kwawo, kumwetulira, kapena kupezeka kwawo ndizomwe zimakuyenderani pakugonana!
- Thupi lanu limasokonekera pamaso pawo ndipo mawonekedwe anu ndikumwetulira kopanda mawonekedwe kulipo kuti awone ndikungodziwa!
Zizindikiro zakumenya kwa abambo kapena amai sizovuta kuzimvetsa. Zizindikiro zakumangika kwakugonana amuna ndi akazi zikuwonetsa kuti pali mwayi woti mutengere gawo lina.
Ngati mukukumana ndi zizindikilo zakugonana izi ndipo mukuyesetsa kupeza njira zolimbanirana ndi amuna kapena akazi, nazi malangizo amomwe mungalimbikitsire kugonana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi.
Zizindikiro za umagwirira ndi momwe mungapangire zovuta zakugonana ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna, osakhala opanda pake:
1. Muziyang'ana diso lanzeru
Kuyang'ana mochenjera komanso kuyang'ana kwakubedwa ndiko njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera kusiyana pakati pa kukhala osilira mwakachetechete komanso kuchita nawo zachiwawa. Khalani ochenjera komabe, simukufuna kuti mudzioneke ngati nyama yolusa mukamayenda.
Yang'anani, gwirani mawonekedwe amenewo mwachikondi chochepa, yang'anani kumwetulira mwachangu kenako ndikuyang'ana kwina sekondi.
Mwanjira imeneyi, mumawapangitsa kudabwa ngati mumawayang'ana, kapena kungowona pang'ono komwe sikutanthauza kanthu. Kukankha ndi kukoka komanso mkhalidwe wosatsimikizika zimatha kuyambitsa chidwi chachikulu kumayambiriro kwampangidwe wokondweretsa wogonana.
2. Khalani oseketsa komanso osamvera, koma muchepetse seweroli
M'malo mokhala ochititsa chidwi kwambiri, kapena kupanga cholinga chanu pamoyo wanu, sungani zinthu zazing'ono musakhale zovuta kapena zovuta zamtsogolo.
Nthabwala mozungulira, kukhala anzeru, komanso achigololo koma osanyansa. Komanso, sungani zonse mopepuka, osapanga chinthu chomwe chimakukopani kuti chikhale chofunikira kwambiri. Kuyika chidwi chanu kwa munthuyo kumatha kuwapangitsa kuti azimva kuti akuponyedwa! Kupatula apo, simukufuna kukumana ndi munthu wosowa, wosachita chidwi.
3. Musalole kuti nthawi yoyamikirayi idutse
Ngati kuphwanya kwanu kukuwoneka bwino kapena tsitsi lawo, kununkhira, kumwetulira, kapena nsapato - chilichonse chikusangalatsani, siyani kuyamika. Simuyenera kuchita kukhala othokoza ndi luso loyamika. Kumbukirani kugwiritsa ntchito zida zingapo zoyamikiradi moona mtima.
Kuyamika kolingalira mozama, koyenera kungakhale koyambitsa kukambirana kwakukulu komanso kolimbikitsira munthu amene mumakopeka naye.
Pitirizani kukambirana mwachidule, opanda pake mukatha kuwasilira komanso kuchedwetsa zabwino zanu.
Dziwani kuti simukufulumira kubwereranso kuzomwe zili, komanso ngati kuimitsa kunyamuka.
4. Mangani malo oyandikana ndi ziweto zangozi
Kudyetsa mwangozi ndikumacheza pang'ono.
Awapangitseni kumva kukwiya kwakukwera kwakukakamizika kwakugonana mwakudya mwangozi mkono wanu motsutsana nawo kapena kuwakhudza pang'ono kumbuyo kwawo m'njira yowoneka yopanda tanthauzo. Kumbukirani kulemba m'maganizo chizindikiro chilichonse chobwezera kapena kusapeza bwino.
Gwiritsani ntchito manja nthawi zonse ngati omanga zachiwerewere.
5. Onetsani zomwe muli nazo, sewerani ku zomwe mungathe
Khalani aukali osakumana ndi mwana wonenepa.
Exuberance ndi wokongola. Idzani ndi chidwi pakulankhula kwanu. Khalani olimba mtima powonetsa thupi lanu kapena kumwetulira kwanu kowoneka bwino ndikudzidalira.
Valani kuti musangalale pakupatula nthawi mukamakonzekera ntchito ngati mnzanuyo ndi mnzanu kapena ngakhale ali wina pagulu lakusangalala. Sikuti zidzakuthandizani kuti mukhale olimba mtima komanso mudzakopeka ndi maso anu kapena mwina ndi ena omwe mukufuna kukhala nawo.
Zosalala sizosangalatsa. Ndiwe woweruza wabwino kwambiri wazomwe zimayenda bwino ndi machitidwe ako. Yendani mosamala.
Pewani kulakwitsa kotereku poyesa kulimbikitsa zachiwerewere
Zolankhula zogonana sizichepetsa ngati mukuyesera kuti mukhale ndi vuto logonana!
Amuna ndi akazi, onse amakonda kuyembekezera pamene awakopa. Zolankhula zachabechabe ndiye zodabwitsazi ndipo zimachotsa pakumangika kwa mahomoni. Zingakupangitseni kuti mukhale osowa komanso oopsa.
Zimapha chiwembu!
Kumbukirani kuchitapo kanthu ngati mukuyenera, koma osapitirira
Pangani chiweruzo ngati mukufuna kutuluka, kapena kutuluka.
Kaya mungopanga mikangano yogonana pakati pa inu ndi munthuyo, mulole kuti ifike pamapeto pake, kapena mukufuna kuti mufike pamlingo wina - ganizirani momwe mukufunira.
Musanagwiritse ntchito malangizowa kuti mumange ndikukhazikika pamavuto azakugonana, imani kaye kuti mupeze zomwe mukufuna.
Kaya musankha kuti ikhale yofunika kwambiri, chinsinsi chosungidwa bwino kapena kukhala ndi chilumikizidwe chogonana nthawi yovuta kwambiri pakati pa mapepala, kumbukirani kusangalala mphindi iliyonse yazomwe simungathe kuziyika m'mawu!
Chofunikira ndikuti musangalale nacho pomwe chimakhalapo!