Zamkati
- Chitsanzo chenicheni
- Pokambirana muukwati, pali malo ambiri omwe amatha kutha
- Mverani
- Musalole kuti zokambirana zikhale zovuta
- Onetsetsani kuti mumacheza pafupipafupi zaubwenzi wanu
- Pewani mawu oti "Nthawi zonse" komanso "Sanayambe"
- Khalani odzidalira
- Mabanja ambiri amakangana nthawi zina
Pa ntchito yanga yothandizira, anthu nthawi zambiri amandifunsa "Kodi ungatithandizeko?"
Funso ili limabwera nthawi zambiri pomwe cholinga ndichithandizo cha maanja, pomwe ndimakhala ndi anthu awiri omwe akhala patsogolo panga akuyembekeza kupulumutsa ubale wawo. Njira yosavuta yofotokozera momwe munthu amathandizira maanja ndi kuwonetsa kuti zambiri zikuthandiza anthu awiri omwe ali muofesi kuti amve ndikumvetsetsa.
Ndimangonena zambiri, "Zomwe ndimamumva akunena kuti X," ndipo "Mukatero / mutero, zimakankhira batani mwa iye kenako sangakhale munthawiyo kapena kumva zomwe ukufuna kunena. ”
Chitsanzo chenicheni
Nthawi ina ndinali ndi banja lomwe lidabwera chifukwa amafuna kuthana ndi mavuto ena asanakwatirane. Sizinachitike mpaka magawo angapo pomwe ndinazindikira kuti dandaulo lake lomwe adapereka monga lopondereza, loumirira, ngakhale nthawi zina kuzunza, linali gawo chifukwa Chingerezi sichinali chilankhulo chake choyamba. Malankhulidwe ake komanso momwe amafunsira nthawi zambiri zimangokhala zokometsera, zopanda pake komanso zowona. Anamva ngati akufunsa funso losavuta, "Kodi mungatulutse zinyalala?" koma imadziwika kuti "MUNGATENSE. KUTULUKA. THE. NDALAMA! ” Kuwonetsa momwe amalankhulira mosiyana, mosiyana kwambiri ndi momwe mnzake akumvera komanso malingaliro ake osavuta, zidamuthandiza kuwona kuti mwina samayesa kumulamulira, koma ndimomwe amalankhulira mosasamala kanthu zomwe akunena . Adaphunzira kumva uthenga wake bwino ndipo adaphunziranso kuwulankhula. Ndinakulira ku Brooklyn.
Pokambirana muukwati, pali malo ambiri omwe amatha kutha
Sitimamverana wina ndi mnzake monga momwe tiyenera, chifukwa nthawi zonse timaganizira zomwe tikufuna kunena, mosatengera zomwe anzathu akunena. Tikukhulupirira kuti tikudziwa zomwe abwenzi athu akufuna kuchita. Tonsefe tili ndi kuthekera kokuthandizira kuwonongeka kwa kulumikizana: ngakhale ife akatswiri omwe modekha timathandiza anthu ena kuthana ndi mavuto awo, kenako nkubwera kunyumba kudzakangana ndi akazi athu pazinthu zomwe nthawi zambiri zimakhala zazing'ono.
Nawa maupangiri othandizira kukonza kulumikizana pakati pa okwatirana, zomwe zingathandize kupewa chizolowezi chomenyera zinthu zomwezo mobwerezabwereza:
Mverani
Izi zikuwoneka ngati zophweka, koma ndikofunikira kudziwa. Nthawi zambiri sitimvera zomwe anzathu akunena. Timamva zomwe ife ganizani akunena kuti, timanena kuti cholinga chawo ndi zomwe akunena, sitimangotenga zomwe akunena, ndipo timabweretsa malingaliro athu, matepi omwe amatipanga ife omwe tili, pagome. Tikalephera kumvetsera munthawiyo, titha kuyankha pazomwe timaganiza kuti wina akutanthauza osati zomwe akutanthauza.
Izi zimachitika pomwe mkazi amapempha mwamunayo kuti afotokoze zomwe adachita kumapeto kwa sabata ndipo amamasulira kuti zimakhudza chifukwa zimabwerera kuyambira ali mwana ndikumangokhalira kudziwa komwe ali, kapena mwamunayo akawonetsa nkhawa kuti mkazi wake akugwira ntchito kwambiri, ndipo amawona ngati chosowa kwa iye, kumufunafuna pafupi, osadandaula kuti watopa. Tiyenera kumva uthengawu, ndipo sitingachite izi pokhapokha titamvera.
Musalole kuti zokambirana zikhale zovuta
Apa ndikutanthauza, kodi mukugwira ntchito yochulukirapo kuposa momwe muyenera kukhalira kuti amuna anu aiwala kugula mkaka? Kodi zokambiranazo ndizokhudza mkaka? Ngati ndi choncho, tulukani. Ngati pali mtundu womwe ukukwiyitsani, yankhulani nawo, koma osakweza mawu pamkaka, chifukwa ndizovuta kwambiri kukambirana mozama za nkhani zaubwenzi wina akakwiya. Ngati pali vuto lalikulu, yang'anani vuto lalikulu, koma kufuula za mkaka woiwalika kumangomupangitsa munthu winayo kudzitchinjiriza chifukwa yankho lake silofanana ndi "umbanda".
Onetsetsani kuti mumacheza pafupipafupi zaubwenzi wanu
Khalani nawo m'malo osalowerera ndale. Ndipo mukhale nawo nthawi ndi nthawi, osati mukakhala mukukangana. Kuyankhula mukamayenda kapena pochita zinthu limodzi panyumba nthawi zambiri kumatha kukhala mwayi wabwino woti, "Mukudziwa kuti mkangano womwe tidakhala nawo tsiku lina, zomwe zidandivuta, ndidazindikira, anali X, koma sindinatero ' Ndikuganiza kuti ndimatha kulankhula nawo panthawiyo. ” Ngati mutha kukambirana nkhaniyi pomwe palibe amene wakwiya kwambiri, mutha kuzindikira kuti malingaliro anu pankhaniyi ndi ofanana, koma simunamvetsetse mfundo zanu.
Osadandaula kuti mukamagona mokwiya
Sizinakhale zomveka kwa ine, lingaliro ili kuti mukhale ndi banja labwino simuyenera kugona mokwiya. Ngati mwakhala mukukangana koma osathetsa ndipo mwatopa, pita ukagone. Mwayi wake ndikuti mkwiyo ndi zovuta zambiri zimatha usiku, ndipo nthawi zina kuyang'ananso m'mawa kumakuthandizani kuti muwone momwe mungafotokozere bwino zomwe mudakwiya nazo poyamba. Nthawi zambiri mikangano siyothetsedwa nthawi yomweyo, ndipo ndibwino kungochokapo, kukagona, kufotokoza nkhaniyi, kapena china chilichonse chofunikira kuti muchepetse kunenezana ndikukangana pazinthu zomwe sizingathetsedwe nthawi yomweyo .
Pewani mawu oti "Nthawi zonse" komanso "Sanayambe"
Ndikosavuta, china chake chikachitika, kupangitsa mkwiyo wathu kukhala wochulukirapo, monga, "MUIWALA mkaka WONSE," (ndikunena kuti, "chifukwa simusamala zosowa zanga ndi zomwe ndikufuna"). Kapena "MUSAMATENSE zovala zanu pansi" (mwina sizowona). Tikangolowa mumkhalidwe wosanenapo, anzathu amadzitchinjiriza. Sichoncho inu? Ngati wina wanena kuti MWAIwala mkaka WONSE, nthawi yomwe mwatenga zakudya zonse pamndandanda zatha. Ndiye mukukangana kuti kangati mwaiwala mkaka motsutsana ndi kangati pomwe simunatero, ndipo umakhala wopusa.
Khalani odzidalira
Mwinanso koposa zonse, kudziwa zomwe timayambitsa ndi momwe timamvera ndikofunikira m'banja. Kodi ndimakwiya kuti mamuna wanga sanachite kanthu, kapena ndikudzimva kukhala wowonda kwambiri pantchito, ndipo kuyang'aniridwa kosalakwa kumangondipangitsa kumva kuti pali zambiri zomwe ndingachite? Kodi ndikumva kufowoka chifukwa cha funso la mkazi wanga lokhudza zomwe ndidakonzekera kumapeto kwa sabata, kapena ndikutengera bondo kuyambira ndili mwana? Kodi ndizoyenera kukangana ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna wanga pankhaniyi, kapena ndikungokhumudwa chifukwa ndinali ndi tsiku lalitali ndipo mutuwu ukundipangitsa kukhala wokwiya?
Mabanja ambiri amakangana nthawi zina
M'malo mwake, kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti ndi maanja omwe musatero kukangana omwe atha kusudzulana, chifukwa amalola mavuto kukula ndipo samawonetsa kusakhutira kwawo pakafunika kutero. Nthawi zina, zowonadi, mikangano imakhala yopusa; ngati mukukhala ndi winawake, kaya ndi wokwatirana naye, kholo, m'bale wanu, kapena wokhala naye, nthawi zina mumatha kukangana pazinthu zazing'ono. Koma ngati mungachepetse mikangano yazing'ono, ngakhale kugwiritsa ntchito nthabwala kuti muchepetse zinthuzo zisanakhale mkangano, ndikugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanu kuthana ndi nkhani zofunika kwambiri, ndiye kuti muli panjira yolumikizana bwino.