Zamkati
- Nchiyani chimapangitsa kuti ubale ukhale wogwira ntchito?
- Njira zomwe mumamverera pafupi ndi mnzanu
- Njira za Surefire zomwe zingapangitse wokondedwa wanu kumva kuti amakondedwa
Ubwenzi wapamtima ndiye maziko aukwati wosangalatsa.
Mabanja omwe amatha kukhala ndi zotetezedwa ndikupanga kulumikizana kwamphamvu ali atha kukhala pachiwopsezo chokhala pachiwopsezo.
Erik, wazaka 42, ndi Amanda, wazaka 40, banja lomwe ndidawalangiza posachedwa adabwera kuofesi yanga kudzafuna kulimbitsa kulumikizana kwawo chifukwa chovutika mtima atamwalira mwadzidzidzi amayi a Amanda ndi Erik atachoka kuntchito ndipo samatha kumuthandiza pa nthawi yake nthawi yachisoni chachikulu.
Amanda ananena motere, “Miyezi isanu ndi umodzi yapita inali yovuta kwambiri amayi anga atamwalira ndipo Erik anali kutali kwambiri, ndipo tidasiyana. Sanakhalepo panthawi yomwe ndimamufuna ndipo ndidayamba kupsa mtima ndikuyamba kumukayikira, kuwopa kuti angakumane ndi munthu wina kapena adayamba kundikonda. ”
Erik anayankha, "Amanda akunena zowona ndipo ndikumva kuwawa ndi izi. Ndikungofuna mwayi woti ndipange naye. Ntchito yomwe ndimagwira inali yokhudza kuyenda kunja kwa boma ndipo sindinathe kukana. Inali nthawi yoyipa ndipo ndimakonda Amanda ndipo ndikufuna kutsimikizira izi kwa iye. ”
Kukulitsa chibwenzi ndikulola kuti mukhale osatetezeka ndikukhulupirira mnzanu.
Maubale onse amakhala ndi zovuta nthawi zina. Komabe, ndikofunikira kuti okwatirana azigwiritsa ntchito vutoli kuti akhale ogwirizana, okondana, komanso omasuka kunena zakukhosi kwawo, zomwe akumva, komanso zomwe akufuna.
Nchiyani chimapangitsa kuti ubale ukhale wogwira ntchito?
Mabanja achimwemwe amatha kudziwa ngati kukhulupirirana kwawo kumachokera pachibwenzi chawo cham'mbuyomu kapena ndi zotsalira zam'mbuyomu.
Mukasanthula mosamala mbiri yanu komanso mbiri ya mnzanu, musiyenso kubwereza zakale.
Ndizotheka kuthana bwino ndi mizukwa yamakedzana potambasula kukhulupirirana wina ndi mnzake kudzera m'mawu ndi zochita zomwe zikugwirizana ndi malingaliro achikondi, komanso okhalitsa aukwati.
Mwachitsanzo, Amanda adatha kuzindikira m'machiritso a mabanja kuti zomwe amakhulupirira zidayamba kuyambira ali mwana kuyambira pomwe abambo ake adapandukira amayi ake kwa zaka zambiri pomwe anali woyendetsa galimoto ndikupita ku Florida kwakanthawi.
Zotsatira zake, Amanda adauza Erik kuti tsopano wazindikira kuti kukayikira kwake kumachokera ku zakale ndipo malingaliro ake adakula kwambiri atatuluka kunja kwa boma.
Mwanjira ina, popeza maanja onse amabwera ndi akatundu, ndikofunikira kukambirana momasuka zomwe zimayambitsa, zomwe zidachitika m'mbuyomu, ndi nkhani zakukhulupirirana koyambirira kwaubwenzi wanu. Kukambirana kotseguka kumeneku kumalimbitsa ubale wanu pakakhala kukayika kosalephera kapena kuphwanya kudalirana.
Njira zomwe mumamverera pafupi ndi mnzanu
Kukondana ndi kukhulupirirana zimayendera limodzi, ndipo maanja omwe ali otetezeka amatha kufotokoza zosowa zawo ndi zomwe amakonda.
Njira imodzi yotsimikizika yopangira mnzanu kuti azimukonda ndikuwonjezera chilakolako ndi chidwi chamabanja anu.
Mofananamo, miyambo ya tsiku ndi tsiku monga kukhudza, kuyang'anitsitsa diso, kumvetsera, ndikulankhula za zomwe akumana nazo, imalola okwatirana kukhala okondana komanso kuwonetsa zamabanja awo.
Kutengeka ndikumverera kosangalatsa komwe maanja amakumana akamakhudza, kuwona, kulawa, ndikumverera - monga kuyenda mutagwirana manja pagombe.
Zimaphatikizapo zambiri kuposa kugonana.
Kutengeka ndi njira yolumikizirana ndi mnzanu pakadali pano, malinga ndi a Howard J. Markman, Ph.D., ndikuwonetsa kukondana ndikukopeka ndi mnzanu.
Njira za Surefire zomwe zingapangitse wokondedwa wanu kumva kuti amakondedwa
M'malo mosintha njira zomwe mwakhazikitsa m'mabanja anu, ndikofunikira kudzipereka kukulitsa kulumikizana kwabwino.
Chifukwa chake, ndi zinthu ziti zina zomwe munganene kwa mnzanu kuti mulimbikitse kulumikizana kwanu?
Yesetsani kuphatikiza ndemanga, mawu, kapena mafunso ena abwino pokambirana ndi mnzanu.
Zokambirana zotsatirazi zikuwonetsa njira zina zomwe Amanda ndi Erik adakwanitsira kuchita izi atakumananso kumapeto kwa tsiku.
Erik: "Mungandiuze zambiri za tsiku lanu?" Mawu awa akuwonetsa chidwi chachikondi pomwe akuthandiza mnzanu kukhala omasuka kukhala osatetezeka.
Amanda: “Chimene chikundivutitsa pakali pano ndi momwe mkulu wanga amandionera. Ndimamva ngati kuti sindingachite chilichonse bwino. ” Yankho la Amanda likuwonetsa Erik kuti amamkhulupirira mokwanira kuti athe kuwulula zakukhosi kwake kwa woyang'anira wawo.
Erik: “Ndikuyesera kuti ndimvetse zomwe mukukumana nazo. Popeza sindigwira ntchito pasukulu, mungandipatse chitsanzo cha zomwe mukukumana nazo? Yankho la Erik likuwonetsa kumvera chisoni komanso kufunitsitsa kulumikizana kwambiri ndi Amanda.
Amanda: “Kwa ine zimatanthauza zambiri kuti mumandifunsa mokwanira. Ndatopa kwambiri kuti sindingafotokozere tsatanetsatane pakadali pano, koma tinene kuti, zikuwoneka kuti mwakhala muli nane ndipo izi zimandisangalatsa. ”
Kumayambiriro kwa chibwenzi chatsopano, pamakhala zokonda zambiri komanso zosangalatsa, koma chomwe chimalimbikitsa ubale wachimwemwe komanso wathanzi ndikulimbikitsa kukondana kwakanthawi kwakanthawi ndikulimba mtima tsiku ndi tsiku.
Zovuta zatsiku ndi tsiku zokhalira limodzi zitha kukhala zovuta, mabanja atha kukhala zovuta kuti mabanja azikondana ndikukhalabe odzipereka kuti azikondana tsiku ndi tsiku.
Njira zoyambirira zomwe maanja angachitire izi ndikukulitsa kukondana kwawo kudzera muzokambirana za tsiku ndi tsiku zomwe zimawonekera poyera osawopa kuti atayidwa kapena kuti ataya chikondi.