Njira 10 Zokuthandizani Kuopa Chikondi (Philophobia)

Zamkati

• Kuopa chikondi ndi chiyani (Philophobia)
• Zizindikiro za 10 mukukumana ndi mantha achikondi
• Nchiyani chimayambitsa mantha achikondi?
• Njira 10 zothetsera mantha anu achikondi
• 1. Onani mbiri yanu yachikondi kuti mukane
• 2. Mumadziona bwanji
• 3. Siyani kumvera mawu amkati
• 4. Onetsetsani kuti munthu amene mumamukonda ndi woyenera
• 5. Kuopsa sikuipa
• 6. Yesetsani kupumula osayembekezera zambiri
• 7. Lembani momwe mukumvera
• 8. Ganizirani kukhala opanda munthu yemwe mumayamba kumukonda
• 9. Lekani kuwongolera
• 10. Dziwani kuti ndinu vuto
• Maganizo omaliza

Kukhala ndi mantha achikondi ndi mantha enieni. Phobia malinga ndi zamankhwala amawona mantha opanda pake kapena owopsa pamikhalidwe, chinthu, kumverera, malo, nyama, ndikupangitsa mantha mwa munthu. Kuopa chikondi kumatchedwa "philophobia." Philos ndi Chi Greek chifukwa chokonda, ndipo Phobos akuwonetsa mantha.

Madikishonale azachipatala sali pantchitoyo, ndipo akatswiri satha kulankhula za izo m'mabuku, zomwe zimabweretsa vuto kwa iwo omwe ali ndi vutoli poyesera kumvetsetsa momwe akumvera kapena, makamaka, kuti apeze chitsogozo pakuwongolera.

M'madera azachipatala, mantha kapena ma phobias amakhala mgulu la zovuta zamatenda, pomwe anthu amangowonetsa zizindikilo akakumana ndi zomwe akuwopa.

Pankhani ya philophobia, chodziwikiratu ndichakuti anthu amapeza mgwirizano wopanda tanthauzo kapena wokokomeza pankhani yachikondi.

Ali ndi kuthekera kwakuti atha kukhala amantha ndi nkhawa atangoganiza za chikondi chomwe akatswiri azachipatala amati ndi "vuto longoyembekezera."

Kuopa chikondi ndi chiyani (Philophobia)

Kaya anthu amasankha kapena ayi, chikondi chimapeza njira yoyendetsera moyo wa aliyense, makamaka pomwe sizikuyembekezeredwa.

Anthu ena samawona lingalirolo ngati chochitika mwamwayi. M'malo mwake amawopa zochitikazo mpaka kufika pochita mantha mopanda chikondi kapena kuwopa ubale.

Sayansi imati ndi phobia yakukondana, makamaka philophobia - kuopa chikondi.

Kuopa kumeneku kapena kuchita mantha kwambiri kukondana ndi munthu wina ndizowona ndipo ndizopweteka kwa ena mpaka kukhala ndi mantha chifukwa chongotengeka mtima kapena china chilichonse chosakondana.

Pali kuthekera kwakanthawi kochepa komwe kumakhalapo ndikamakambirana za moyo wachikondi wa munthuyo.

Yesani: Ndikuwopa Mafunso a Chikondi

Zizindikiro za 10 mukukumana ndi mantha achikondi

Mutha kukhala munthu amene samakumana ndi zodabwitsanso za tsiku ndi tsiku, koma ena amavutika tsiku lililonse, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kukulitsa kufanana kwa moyo watsiku ndi tsiku.

Zizindikiro zomwe muyenera kuzisamala ngati mumakonda anthu owopa anzawo (awa ndiofala ndi ma phobias ambiri):

• Opepuka
• Osakhazikika
• Thukuta
• Chizunguzungu
• Nseru
• Kugwedezeka / Kunjenjemera
• Palpitations / Kuthamanga Kwa Mtima
• Short Kupuma
• Kukhumudwa m'mimba
• Chiwopsezo / Nkhawa

Zizindikirozi sizinafotokozedwe m'mankhwala ndi akatswiri azachipatala pano.

Chizindikiritso ndichakuti akatswiri ammudzi akuyenera kupanga zambiri za iwo omwe akuopa kukonda kuti amvetsetse lingaliro lakulonjeza zosankha zamankhwala zomwe zingapezeke kwa odwala.

Nchiyani chimayambitsa mantha achikondi?

Ogwira ntchito zamankhwala, kuphatikiza zama psychologist ndi psychiatrists, akuyesera kuti amvetsetse zomwe zimayambitsa kuopa chikondi.

Malingaliro akuwonetsa zifukwa zingapo zomwe zimapangitsa ena kupeza chikondi chitha kukhala chowopsa, monga mwina zokumana nazo muubwana, chochitika chosautsa, kapena mwina chibadwa.

Aliyense amene angawope kusakondedwa kapena, makamaka, kukanidwa kumapewa kulowa pachibwenzi, chifukwa chake palibe mwayi wochititsidwa manyazi kapena kuwopseza kunyadira kwawo zikachitika.

Omwe adakumana kale ndi kukanidwa, monga kusudzulana kapena kusudzulana koyipa, nthawi zambiri amapirira mantha achikondi.

Njira 10 zothetsera mantha anu achikondi

Philophobia imafotokozera tanthauzo la kuopa chikondi. Mantha owopsawa amabweretsa kusungulumwa, kudzipatula, komanso kusungulumwa, kupangitsa anthu kudzimva kuti sakugwirizana ndi anthu ndipo amalakalaka zinthu zokongola zachikondi.

Ngakhale pali mantha omwe amabwera chifukwa chololeza kukonda munthu wina, sizitanthauza kuti mulibe chidwi chofuna kukondedwa komanso kukhala ndi chidwi.

Anthu ambiri omwe amawopa kukondedwa amafufuza njira zosinthira malingaliro awo ndikuphunzira momwe angathetsere mantha a chikondi.

Kuthetsa phobia iliyonse kumakhala kovuta kwambiri, koma sizitanthauza kuti sizingatheke. Tiyeni tiwone njira zingapo zomwe mungayesetse kulimbana ndi manthawo.

1. Onani mbiri yanu yachikondi kuti mukane

Kutenga nthawi kuti muziyang'ana mozama za chibwenzi chilichonse cham'mbuyomu kungakuthandizeni kudziwa komwe mungakanidwe, kupweteka, mwina mphindi yomwe inali yovuta chifukwa chodzidalira.

Chilichonse mwa zinthuzi chimatha kupanga mantha kupita chitsogozo chofuna kucheza ndi munthu wina.

Ngati sipanakhaleko nthawi yayikulu yochiritsa kapena simunakhale ndi njira yothandizira kukuthandizani kupweteketsa mtima, uwu ukhoza kukhala muzu wa philophobia yanu. Zitha kukhala poyambira kuchira.

2. Mumadziona bwanji

Kudzikonda nokha ndikofunikira kuti tizitha kukonda kapena kukonda wina aliyense. Kuti mudziwe nokha, muyenera kukhala ndi kudzidalira ndi kudzidalira. Izi zikutanthauza kuti mutha kuwona mfundo zanu zabwino, koma mutha kuwonanso zolakwika ndikuvomereza.

Ndinu osangalala pakhungu lanu. Palibe malo okhala pazolakwika ndi inu komanso kuyesetsa kukonza nokha.

Ngati ndinu munthu amene mumadzipanikiza nthawi zonse, komabe, mabalawo amayamba, amafunika kudzipenda kuti adziyang'ane moyenera.

Izi zitha kutanthauza upangiri kuti mumvetsetse chifukwa chake simungathe kutsimikiza nokha.

3. Siyani kumvera mawu amkati

Aliyense ali ndi liwu lamkati lomwe limalankhula nafe pafupipafupi pazabwino ndi zomwe sizili bwino, zomwe tiyenera kuchita ndi zomwe sitiyenera kuchita, komanso zomwe tiyenera kuda nkhawa osati zambiri.

Liwu limenelo limabweretsa mantha, kuphatikiza zopanda nzeru monga kuopa chikondi.

Tiyerekeze kuti mudakhala ndi zokumbukira zabwino za nthawi yachisangalalo, mwachitsanzo, kukhala ndi moyo wautali ndi makolo osangalala, abale anu m'mabanja okondana, abwenzi ogwirizana. Zikatero, mawuwo akukupatsani chidziwitso cholakwika pamene akukulangizani kuti muyang'ane chikondi ndi mantha.

Ndikulenga chiopsezo ndikukulepheretsani kuti mumasule kuti musangalale ndi zonse zomwe ena akukuzungulirani.

Chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe mungachite ndikuyesa kuzindikira chomwe chikuyambitsa mukatsala pang'ono kukumana ndi chibwenzi ndikuyesera kuthana ndi zikhumbo zothawa.

4. Onetsetsani kuti munthu amene mumamukonda ndi woyenera

Zowonadi, sitingasankhe amene timakondana naye. Palibe malire. Komabe, iwo m'moyo wanu alibe tsankho ndipo amatha kudziwa ngati wina walondola kapena walakwitsa ndipo chifukwa chiyani.

Anthu ambiri nthawi zambiri amalephera kumva zomwe abwenzi komanso abale akunena pazokhudza mtima.

Koma ngati mukucheza ndi munthu yemwe ena akuwona mbendera zazikulu zofiira, mverani machenjezo kuti musawonjezere mantha anu mtsogolo.

5. Kuopsa sikuipa

Nthawi zambiri, anthu amawopa kumva momwe akumvera, ndipo ena amakhulupirira kuti kusatetezeka ndi chizindikiro cha kufooka. Ndibwino kukhala osatetezeka, ndipo ndibwino kukhala ndi mantha achikondi.

Zowonadi, anthu ochulukirapo kuposa omwe sangakhale ndi philophobia kuposa momwe amafunira kuvomereza.

Ndizowopsa kuyanjana ndi wina ndikudziyika pa mzere wokanidwa. Palibe amene amafuna kuvulazidwa. Ndipo zimatengera munthu wolimba mtima kuti alankhule zinthuzi.

Mukapeza wina amene mumamumvera, cholinga chachikulu ndikuchepetsa mantha anu, ndipo njira yabwino yochitira izi ndikutsegula mtima wanu ndi kuwauza ndendende zomwe mukukumana nazo.

Mwina mungadabwe kupeza kuti munthu winayo ndiwonso wamantha.

Kuti mudziwe zambiri za momwe chiopsezo chitha kukhala champhamvu kwambiri penyani kanemayo:

6. Yesetsani kupumula osayembekezera zambiri

Mukamapita ndi wina koyamba (mwina kangapo pambuyo pake), chonde osayika kwambiri.

Lolani kuti nthawi yakhala yosangalala m'malo mongodandaula kuti ndi "zachikondi". Palibe chifukwa chofunsira kukhala ndi zilembo. Izi zimapangitsa zinthu kukhala zovuta komanso zimapangitsa nkhawa kwa aliyense amene akutenga nawo mbali.

Khazikani mtima pansi ndikusangalala ndi kampaniyo. Zomwe zimachitika kuyambira pamenepo zitha kukhala zachilengedwe komanso zosavuta.

7. Lembani momwe mukumvera

Kulemba momwe mukumvera komanso zomwe mukuganiza nthawi zambiri kumapangitsa kuti zinthu zizikuwoneka ngati zopanda mantha ndikuthandizira kuthana ndi zovuta komanso nkhawa zomwe tikukumana nazo.

Nthawi zambiri anthu amakonda kumangoganizira zomwezo nthawi zonse, koma zikakhala papepala, ndizosavuta kuthana nazo.

Muthanso kuwerenga zomwe mwalembazo ndikuyeseranso malingaliro anu ndikuwona kusamveka kwawo.

Kuyika mu buku kumakupatsani mwayi woti mudziwonere nokha kuchokera kuma lens osiyana, omwe angakutseguleni.

8. Ganizirani kukhala opanda munthu yemwe mumayamba kumukonda

Ngati muli ndi winawake, mukupanga "onga" koma koma mukuwopa kuti mwina atha kukhala wopitilira pamenepo, khalani ndi nthawi yoyang'ana moyo wanu ngati munthuyo sanali nawo.

Wina yemwe mukusangalala kucheza naye sizingowonekeratu, koma bwanji ngati atatero? Kodi chingachitike ndi chiyani kwa inu?

Njira yabwino yogonjetsera mantha ndikuganizira zakuti mudali kusangalala bwenzi lanu lisanabwere, ndipo ngati atati "akusiyeni", mukhozanso kukhala bwino.

Maziko a Philophobia ndi mantha opanda pake a chikondi, ndipo maziko ofunikirawa atha kukhala chifukwa chakukana kapena "kusiya" komwe kumakhudza ubale wawo mtsogolo.

Zomwe muyenera kuyesetsa kuti mudzimvetsetse kuthana ndi mantha ndikuti ndinu odziyimira pawokha komanso otha kuchita. Mnzanu ndiwofunika pamoyo wanu.

Ngati china chake chingachitike chomwe sakufunanso kukhala nawo, mupitiliza kuchita bwino panokha.

9. Lekani kuwongolera

Kuopa chikondi ndikuyesa kuwongolera momwe mumamvera komanso ndi anthu omwe mumakhala nawo. Mukamayesetsa kuwongolera mbali iliyonse ya moyo wanu, zitha kukhala zotopetsadi ndikupangitsa kuti mukhale ndi nkhawa zambiri komanso nkhawa kuposa momwe ziyenera kukhalira.

Komabe, chikondi chimachitika pomwe simukuyembekezera, kaya mukufuna kapena ayi. Sichinthu chomwe mungayime chifukwa mudzachipeza.

Mutha kupweteketsa wina, kuphatikiza nokha, pothetsa china chake chomwe chikukondana.

Izi zimangolimbikitsa zifukwa zakugwiritsabe manthawo. Lolani kuwongolera ndikuwona zomwe zimachitika mukalola zinthu kuti zichitike.

10. Dziwani kuti ndinu vuto

Mukakhala mu mgwirizano womwe mukusangalala nawo koma mantha amayamba kukhazikika chifukwa chikondi chayamba kukulira, simungamangomva kuti mukuyankha manthawo, koma mnzanu amadziwanso kusintha kwa inunso.

Zimayamba kusokoneza chibwenzi chifukwa simuli yemweyo ndi mnzanu yemwe mudali pachiyambi.

Mumakhala opanda chiyembekezo, mukuganiza kuti winayo achoka, ndikuyamba kuwakankhira kutali.

Njira yokhayo yokonzera zinthu ndikubwerera kwa omwe mudali pomwe mudayamba chibwenzi ndikusintha kotheratu kuti muteteze mgwirizanowu. Mukuda nkhawa kwambiri ndi kukanidwa, mutha kuyambitsa izi mosazindikira.

Maganizo omaliza

Phobia ndi mantha opanda nzeru kapena okokomeza. Kwa iwo omwe akuwopa, zimawoneka ngati zabwino kwambiri. Lingaliro la philophobia kapena mantha achikondi zitha kukhala zomvetsa chisoni kwambiri kwa iwo omwe ali ndi zizindikilo.

Anthuwa akuwonetsa kusowa oyanjana ndi anthu ndikusowa zokongola, zachikondi m'malo mokhala ndi moyo wopanda kanthu. Chodabwitsa, amakankhira anthu kutali omwe, m'maso mwawo, nthawi ina adzawapweteka powakana.

Amalimbikitsa kupatukana ndikukankhira kutali maubwenzi amoyo wonse, abwino, kusiya omwe amakonda anzawo atadodometsedwa ndi zomwe zidachitikazo.

Pali zinthu zomwe zanenedwa apa zomwe mungayese kuthetsa mantha. Zimatengera khama komanso chidwi chenicheni, koma chikondi ndichofunika kwambiri.