Pomwe lumbiro laukwati ndilofunika ndipo limafunikira kulingalira ndi kudzipereka (apo ayi ndi mawu ndi milomo yokha!). Sayenera kukhala opanikizika, kapena opanda umunthu kwa inu ngati banja. Malumbiro anu aukwati akhoza kukhala oseketsa, okoma, achikondi, ndakatulo, kapena othandiza - chilichonse chingachitike. Koma ngakhale sitingakuuzeni choti muchite, zingakhale zabwino kuukwati wanu wamtsogolo ngati zomwe mwalemba mu malonjezo anu achikwati zidasankhidwa kuti zitanthauzenso - ngakhale sizikudziwika kwa alendo anu.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati m'malonjezo anu munena kuti "Ndikulonjeza kuti sindingagone mukasankha kanema pa Netflix" akhoza kuseka ndipo mwina mungatanthauze izi kwenikweni. Komabe, tanthauzo lakumbuyo likutanthauzanso china chake kwa inu. Monga, mumalonjeza kuti muzilemekeza zomwe mnzanu wasankha, kapena onetsetsani kuti mupezeka ndi malingaliro kwa wokondedwa wanu nthawi yomwe angayamikire, ndikumverera kuti ndinu ofunika ngati mutero.
Ena mwa malumbiro ang'onoang'ono oseketsa ukwati, amathanso kukhala chokumbutsa kukhala okoma mtima ndi odekha wina ndi mnzake - posalola zinthu zazing'ono zomwe zili pachibwenzi chanu kukhala zazikulu komanso zosafunikira.
M'moyo wabwinobwino watsiku ndi tsiku, zina mwazovuta zomwe timakumana nazo pamaubwenzi zitha kukhala zazing'ono, monga kusatsuka mbale, kutola zala zakumwa, kukhala wochedwa nthawi zonse. Kungolephera kuchita china chake chomwe chingawoneke ngati chosavuta kwa mnzanu.
Ubwenzi wamtundu wanji womwe muli nawo ndi bwenzi lanu, padzakhala malumbiro aukwati, kuti (ngakhale akuwoneka oseketsa, kapena zinthu zazing'ono) atha kufika poti muyenera kukumbukira malumbiro anu achikwati, ndipo dzikumbutseni nokha kuti munadzipereka kuti mulandila china chilichonse (ndi zosasangalatsa) zomwe mnzanu angakhale nazo.
Nawo malumbiro 6 osangalatsa achikwati, omwe amawonetsa zazing'onozing'ono zomwe nthawi zina zimakhumudwitsa-
"Ndikulonjeza kuti muzimvera nthawi zonse, ngakhale mutasokosera"
“Ndikulonjeza kuti ndisadye maswiti ako, ngakhale ndiganiza kuti watenga nthawi yayitali kuti upite”
"Ndikulumbira kuti ndiyese ngati kuti ndili ndi chidwi ndi masewera apakanema aposachedwa (ikani chizolowezi choyenera) kutengeka kwambiri"
“Ndikulonjeza kuti ndidzakukonda, ngakhale sudzapeza chilichonse pawekha”
"Ndikulonjeza kuti ndidzagwiritsa ntchito chinsinsi ngati chitsogozo pakukonza chakudya"
"Ndikulonjeza kuti ndikudalirani ngakhale titachoka pamndandanda wathu wamagolosale, kuyenda kwa GPS kapena zolinga zamoyo"
Palinso nthawi zina m'moyo zomwe titha kukhala otanganidwa kwambiri ndi moyo, ndikugwira ntchito, kulera ana, kuchita zosangalatsa - ndipo ngakhale kukhala mwa 'ife tokha' m'malo mokhala pachibwenzi. Nthawi izi ndizovuta pachibwenzi, ndipo ndizomwe zimayambitsa mikangano.
Nawo malonjezo ena omwe akuwonetsa vutoli ndipo akutikumbutsa kukumbukira zomwe tidalonjeza popereka malonjezo aukwati, ngakhale mnzathu atatikhumudwitsa posakhalapo-
"Ndikulonjeza kukumbukira kuti palibe aliyense wa ife amene ali wangwiro koma m'malo mwake ndimayesetsa kukumbutsa za njira zomwe tili oyenera wina ndi mnzake"
"Ndikulonjeza kuti ndikukhulupirirani mukandiyamika, ndikungogwiritsa ntchito mawu onyodola pakakhala pofunikira"
“Ndidzakukondani ngakhale masiku amene sindidzakukondani”
"Ndikulonjeza kuti ndikulimbikitsani chifundo chanu chifukwa ndi zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala apadera komanso osangalatsa"
"Ndikulonjeza kuti ndidzakwaniritsa maloto anu chifukwa kudzera mu iwo mzimu wanu umawala"
“Ndikulumbira kuti tidzayamikira kusiyana kwathu monga momwe timagwirizanirana”
"Ndidzasangalala ndi zochitika zathu zambiri komanso zovuta"
Pomaliza, gawo lina lamalumbiro amwambo omwe amafanana ndi malonjezo omveka, amaperekedwa m'njira yoti aliyense amvetse tanthauzo lenileni (chikondi, ulemu, kukoma mtima ndi kuthokoza).
Tsopano, malonjezo awa sangakhale oseketsa monga ena a iwo, koma atsimikiza kukhudza ngakhale mitima yolimba kwambiri. Ndipo zikuthandizani kukukumbutsani, panthawi yakusowa, kapena kuthokoza kukumbukira momwe mudalonjezera kuchitira mnzanu.
Nazi zitsanzo zabwino kwambiri za malonjezo awa, ochokera ku Pinterest-
"Sindiwona malonjezo awa monga malonjezo, koma ngati mwayi, monganso ndimawona moyo wanga ndi inu ngati mwayi - osati lonjezo chabe"
"Ndigwira nanu ntchito limodzi, osakhala nanu koma ndikugwira nanu ntchito limodzi"
“Poyamba sindimakhulupirira kuti pali okwatirana, koma ndabwera lero chifukwa mwandipangitsa kukhulupirira”
“Ndiseka nanu, osaseka inu”
“Ndikulonjeza kuti simudzakhala wachisoni, ndipo simudzasungulumwa komanso kuti mudzandisewera nthawi zonse”
“Ndikulonjeza kuti ndidzakukonda monga ulili, osati monga munthu amene ndimaganiza kuti ungakhalire”
Ndipo chomaliza chathu, koma a wokondedwa lonjezo - mwina chifukwa chakuti latsala pang'ono kudziwa chowonadi ndi lumbiro ili laukwati:
“Ndikukulonjezani kuti ndimakukondani, kukulemekezani, kukuthandizani ndipo koposa zonse onetsetsani kuti sindikukuwuzani chifukwa ndili ndi njala ”