Zamkati
Zakale zakhala zikukambirana zambiri komanso kulemba zambiri za maubale ofanana. Ena amaganiza kuti ubale wofanana ndi pamene onse awiri amapanga ndalama zofanana. Ena amaganiza kuti kufanana kumatanthauza kuti onse awiri amagawana chimodzimodzi pochita ntchito zapakhomo. Enanso amati kufanana kumakhudzana ndi kugawana maudindo olera.
Nthawi zambiri malingaliro pazakufanana amachokera kuzikhulupiriro zina ndipo zimakhazikika paubale wa m'modzi kapena mnzake. Bambo wina anati, “Makolo anga anandilera motere ndiye kuti ndizabwino m'banja lathu.” Mzimayi akhoza kunena, "Maganizo anu ndi okonda kugonana ndipo akuyenera kusintha." Aliyense akufuna kudziwa kufanana malinga ndi zikhulupiriro zake.
Kufanana Kwenikweni
Mwakutero, kufanana kwenikweni kumayamba ndi kulemekezana komanso kulumikizana bwino. Banja lirilonse limasankha kufanana potengera momwe zinthu ziliri, osati pazikhulupiriro zokonzekera. Nthawi zina mamembala onse awiriwa amagwira ntchito ndipo amafunika kuthana ndi dongosolo laling'ono potengera zomwe ali nazo mphamvu ndi zofooka. Sikoyenera kugawa ntchito zomwezi pakati pawo, koma kuchita zomwe aliyense angathe, ndikupeza mgwirizano kuti izi zikuyenera aliyense wa iwo ndipo ndi wofanana.
Nthawi zina mkaziyo amakonda kukhala pakhomo ndikusamalira ana ndipo mwamunayo amasankha kuti azisamalira banja. Zikatero adzafunika kukambirana moyenera ndi m'mene angapangire ubalewo kukhala wofanana. Ngati mwamunayo (kapena wogwira ntchito) samangopanga ndalama komanso kusankha momwe banjali lidzagwiritsira ntchito, izi sizofanana. Pambuyo pa zokambirana zabwino, banjali lingavomereze kuti amasintha ndalama zake zonse kapena zochulukirapo sabata iliyonse ndipo mkazi amakhala ndiudindo wolipira ngongole. Kapena itha kukhala yosiyana; mkazi ndi amene amasamalira banja ndipo mwamunayo amasamalira ngongole.
Palibe njira imodzi yokhala ndi ubale wofanana, koma pali mzere wofunikira. Ngakhale aliyense atenge mbali yotani mu ubale ndipo ngakhale ubale wayendetsedwa bwanji, onse awiri akuyenera kulemekezana ngati ofanana mwa kukhala anthu. Palibe kusiyanitsa komwe kungachitike malinga ndi jenda kapena amene amabweretsa ndalama zambiri kapena amene ali ndi abwenzi ambiri. Kufanana kwenikweni kumaphatikizapo kukambirana kosalekeza ngati aliyense akuwona kuti chibwenzicho ndichabwino, chopindulitsa komanso chosangalatsa.
Kuyankhulana Kwabwino
Kuyankhulana kolimbikitsa kumatanthauza kulumikizana komwe cholinga chake ndikulimbikitsa kumvetsetsa komanso kuyandikira. Zimatanthawuza kusiya kufunikira kokhala wolondola, ndikudziyang'ana wekha moyenera kuti muwone zomwe mwina mukuthandizira pamavuto omwe angabwere muubwenzowu.
Mu ubale wofanana pali kupatsa-ndikutenga. Palibe bwenzi limodzi lomwe lili ndi mayankho onse kapena amene amadziwa zomwe zili zabwino. Wokondedwa aliyense ayenera kumumvera mnzake ndikukhala okonzeka kusintha maganizo ake omwe alibe. Ngati wina akhulupirira kuti akudziwa mayankho onse ndipo winayo ali ndi vuto nthawi zonse ndipo ayenera kusintha kuti agwirizane ndi lingaliro laling'ono la kufanana, kufanana kwenikweni kudzagwa munjira. Pakulankhulana bwino, anthu modekha amakonza zinthu mwaulemu komanso moyenera. Palibe mnzanu amene amayesa kunyengerera mnzake, kumuwopseza kapena kumuchitira nkhanza.
Kulumikizana komanga kumabweretsa kufanana chifukwa ndi njira yomwe membala aliyense wa banja ali ndi gawo lofanana muubwenzi.
Ganizirani Nokha
Momwe mumakonzera ubale wanu, mitundu yamgwirizano womwe ubalewo umakhalapo, sungakhale wophatikizika ndi zomwe ena amawona kuti ndizoyenera. Momwe mumalumikizirana ndi mnzanu zitha kuwoneka zopusa kapena zosafanana kapena zachikale kwa anzanu, makolo kapena abale ena. Mwachitsanzo, m'modzi wa inu akhoza kugwira ntchito ndipo winayo atha kukhala kunyumba ndikugwira ntchito zapakhomo. Anzanu amatha kuyang'ana izi pamwambapa ndikuziwona ngati zachikale. Amatha kuuza munthu amene akukhala pakhomo kuti, "Si zofanana. Akukugwiritsirani ntchito. ”
Anzanuwa amatanthauza zabwino, koma akuweruza ubale wanu ndi miyezo yawo. Sadziwa kuti mwagwira ntchito yofanana pakuyankhulana kwabwino. Abwenzi otere atha kuganiza kuti pali njira imodzi yokha yolumikizirana, ndipo ngati chitsanzo chanu sichikugwirizana ndi lingaliro lawo, ziyenera kukhala zolakwika.
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Ndikofunika kudziganizira nokha osatengeka ndi ena omwe angawopsezedwe ndi chibwenzi chanu chifukwa sichikugwirizana ndi zomwe amakhulupirira. Ndikofunikira kuti inu ndi mnzanu mumvetsere mawu anu amkati, osati mawu a ena. Ngati ubale wanu ulidi wofanana, udzakhutitsani ndi kusangalatsa inu ndi mnzanu (osati ena), ndipo ndizofunika kwambiri.