Zamkati
- Kulemekezana
- Kudalira
- Thandizo
- Kukhulupirika
- Lingaliro lachilungamo
- Zizindikiro zosiyana
- Kulankhulana bwino
Ndikamaganiza za mawu oti kukhala wathanzi, ndimaganiza za kukhala bwino; china chake chomwe chimagwira monga chikuyenera kukhalira; kukula ndikukula bwino; ndipo ndikutsimikiza mutha kuwonjezera mafotokozedwe enanso ambiri.
Ndimalongosola mwachidule "ubale wathanzi" ponena kuti china chomwe chimakula, kukulira, ndikugwira ntchito momwe chidapangidwira.
Nthawi ina ndidamva wina akunena kuti "kumanga ubale" ndi "anthu awiri omwe amatha kulumikizana wina ndi mnzake m'sitima yopita komweko, ”Nayi tanthauzo langa lathunthu la maubale abwino.
Anthu awiri omwe amatha kulumikizana, adalowera komweko, pomwe akukula, kukulira ndikukula limodzi m'njira yomwe imathandizira moyo wa wina ndi mnzake. (wow, ndiko tanthauzo lalitali la ubale wabwino)
Mfungulo zisanu ndi ziwiri za ubale wabwino
Pali mafungulo asanu ndi awiri omwe ndapeza ndekha omwe amagwirira ntchito limodzi kuti apange ubale wabwino m'miyoyo yathu.
Ubale wabwino umakhala ndi:
- Kulemekezana
- Kudalira
- Kukhulupirika
- Thandizo
- Chilungamo
- Zizindikiro zosiyana
- Kulankhulana bwino
Kulemekezana
Ngati chikondi chili mbali ziwiri, "mumapereka ndipo mumalandira", ndiye kuti ulemu nawonso.
Pali nthawi zina ndimaganiza kuti mkazi wanga akhoza kuda nkhawa zazing'ono kwambiri, zazing'ono kwambiri muubwenzi wathu wathanzi.
Zinthu monga "ndi iti mwa mabulawuzi asanu awa omwe akuwoneka bwino ndi siketi iyi?", Panthawi yomwe tachedwa kale kusankhidwa kwathu. Pakadali pano ndikuganiza kuti "Ingotengani chimodzi kale" koma chifukwa cha ulemu ndinganene kuti, "chofiyacho chimakometsera makongoletsedwe anu, pitani nacho (iye amavalabe chabuluu).
Mfundo ndiyakuti, tonsefe timamva kuti malingaliro a ena, malingaliro awo, zosamalira zawo ndimomwe amachita nthawi zina zimakhala zopusa, ndikutsimikiza mkazi wanga amamva chimodzimodzi za ena koma, ife lemekezanani zokwanira kuti tivomereze malingaliro athu ndi machitidwe athu, osakhala amwano, kunyozana komanso kusaganizira anzawo.
Kudalira
China chake chomwe chingakhale chovuta kupeza ndikutaya mosavuta. Imodzi mwa njira zomwe zingathandize kukhala ndi ubale wabwino ndikumangirira ndi kusunga chidaliro chosagwedezeka pakati pa abwenzi.
Chifukwa chakuti ambiri a ife tavulazidwa, kuzunzidwa, kusayendetsedwa bwino, kukhala ndi maubwenzi oyipa, kapena kukumana ndi nkhanza zomwe nthawi zina dzikoli limakhala, chikhulupiriro chathu sichimakhala chophweka kapena chotchipa.
Kwa ambiri a ife, kudalira kwathu sikungopezedwa ndi mawu okha koma, pakudziyesa tokha mobwerezabwereza.
Payenera kukhala chidaliro china muubale wonse kuti iwo akhale athanzi ndi ogwira ntchito.
Mkazi wanga akapita kunja ndi abwenzi ndikuchedwa, ndimatha kulola malingaliro anga kudzazidwa ndi mafunso ambiri omwe angasokoneze mtendere wanga ndikundipangitsa kukhala wokhumudwa kwambiri akabwerera. Kodi adakumana ndi munthu wina ali panja? Kodi mnzakeyo ali mchinsinsi chake?
Ngakhale ndimatha kuyamba kumukayikira popanda chifukwa ndikuchulukitsa nkhawa zanga, ndimasankha kuti ndisatero.
Ndiyenera kukhala wokhwima mokwanira kuti ndikhulupirire kuti apitiliza kudzipereka kwake kwa ine kaya tili limodzi kapena sitili tokha, ndikumupatsa chipinda chokulira popanda kuwononga ubale wathu ndi zomwe ndimaganiza komanso mantha pokhapokha atandipatsa umboni wosatsutsika wosamukhulupirira.
Chifukwa cha kudalirana, ubale wathu ndiwotseguka, waulere, wolimba komanso wokonda ngakhale patatha zaka 10.
Thandizo
Thandizo limatha kubwera m'njira zosiyanasiyana ndipo ndilokwanira kwambiri kuti tikambirane kwathunthu pano koma, pali kulimbikitsana, kuthandizidwa mwakuthupi, kuthandizidwa ndi malingaliro, kuthandizidwa mwauzimu, kuthandizidwa ndi ndalama etc.
Ubale wathanzi umabweretsa malo otentha komanso othandizira komwe tingatsitsimuke ndikupeza mphamvu zopitilira tsiku ndi tsiku. Mwachitsanzo;
Masiku ena Lonnie amabwera kuchokera kusukulu atatopa kwambiri atatha tsiku lotopetsa lophunzitsa. Nthawi zambiri ndimafunsa kuti, "Lero lakhala bwanji ?," lomwe limatha kudzetsa nkhawa, zokhumudwitsa, komanso zovuta zomwe zimachitika masana.
Izi zipitilira kwakanthawi ndikungomvetsera pomwe Lonnie amatulutsa zomwe adasungira kuyambira tsiku lake osandidzudzula kapena kuweruza.
Akamaliza ndimakonda kumutsimikizira kuti ndi mphunzitsi wabwino ndipo amachita ntchito yabwino ndi ana yomwe imangowonjezera malingaliro ake.
Timalimbikitsana m'njira zambiri zomwe zimatithandiza kukula ndipo tonse timapindula chifukwa chokhala paubwenzi komanso kukhala gawo la moyo wa wina ndi mnzake.
Izi zimatipangitsa kuti tikhale ogwirizana komanso kuyatsa moto wachikondi chathu kwa wina ndi mnzake.
Kukhulupirika
Kukula tili ana tinkakonda kunena kuti, "kuwona mtima ndi njira yabwino kwambiri," koma tikakula, tonse taphunzira kubisa chowonadi. Kaya ndikupulumutsa nkhope, kuwonjezera phindu, kuchita bwino pantchito, kupewa mikangano, tonsefe tidataya mwayi wina wowona mtima womwe tidali nawo tili ana.
Pali gawo lina mu kanema "Amuna Ochepa Oyenera" pomwe mawonekedwe a Jack Nicholas ali pamlandu akuti, "Zowonadi, sungathe kunena zoona."
Nthawi zina tonsefe timamva kuti mnzathu amene tikunena naye zoonayo, sangathe kuthana ndi zomwe zachitika. Chifukwa chake, nthawi zambiri timangokhala chete mpaka atazindikira pambuyo pake ndipo zotsatira zake zafika poipa kwambiri.
Chimodzi mwazigawo za ubale wabwino ndi kukhulupirika kapena kuwona mtima. Payenera kukhala kuwona mtima kwina, komwe popanda ubale kumakhala kosavomerezeka.
Ndikukhulupirira kuti kuwona mtima mu maubale ndizowona kwa inu nokha ndi munthu wina yemwe mudapereka nthawi yanu, mphamvu zanu ndi momwe mumamvera.
Ngakhale tikhoza kuperewera kamodzi pa kanthawi, timayesetsa kuti izi zisachitike pakati pawo.
Lingaliro lachilungamo
Ine ndi mkazi wanga nthawi zambiri timafika kunyumba nthawi yofananira madzulo aliwonse chifukwa choyendetsa ndikupita kuntchito ndimalo omwewo.
Tonse tikhoza kukhala otopa, anjala, osakwiya chifukwa cha zovuta za tsikuli ndipo timangolakalaka chakudya chotentha ndi kama wofunda.
Tsopano, ndi udindo wa ndani kukonzekera chakudya chamadzulo ndikugwira ntchito zapakhomo?
Amuna ena amatha kunena kuti, “ndiudindo wake, ndiye mkazi ndi mkazi woyenera kusamalira pakhomo!” Azimayi ena amatha kunena kuti, "ndiudindo wako, ndiwe mwamuna ndipo mwamuna ayenera kusamalira mkazi wake!"
Nazi zomwe ndikunena.
Tiyeni tikhale achilungamo ndipo tonse tithandizane.
Chifukwa chiyani? Chabwino, tonse timagwira ntchito, tonse timalipira ngongole, tonse tinaganiza zosalemba wantchito, ndipo tonse tatopa kumapeto kwa tsiku. Ngati ndikufuna kwambiri kuti ubale wathu ukhale wathanzi, sitiyenera tonse kugwira ntchitoyi?
Ndine wotsimikiza kuti yankho ndi inde ndipo ndatsimikizira kuti ndizowona pazaka zambiri.
Inde, ndinayesa njira yina, koma nthawi zonse zimasiya ubalewo kukhala wopanikiza, wokhumudwitsa komanso wosokoneza ubale wathu ndiye kusankha. Titha kusankha kukhala achilungamo pazinthu zokhudzana ndi chibwenzi ndikukhala athanzi kapena osachita chilungamo ndikumaliza nokha.
Zizindikiro zosiyana
Conrad, ndimaganiza kuti tikufuna kukhala amodzi muubwenzi wathu, kodi kulekanitsa dzina lathu kungathandize bwanji kukhazikitsa ubale wabwino?
Ndine wokondwa kuti mwafunsa.
Zomwe timakonda kuchita muubwenzi ndikuyesera molimbika kuti tifanane ndi zomwe tili ndi munthu yemwe timakhala kuti timatayika. Zomwe izi zimapanga zimatipangitsa kudalira kwambiri iwo pachilichonse kuyambira kuthandizidwa mpaka kuthandizidwa.
Izi zimabweretsa mavuto pachibwenzi ndipo zimawononga moyo wa mnzanuyo pomangilira nthawi yawo, ndi zina zotero. Tikamachita izi, timakhala odalira iwo kotero kuti ngati sitisamala, timadziphatika maubwenzi awa ndipo sangathe kupitilirabe ngakhale sakugwira ntchito.
Tonsefe ndife osiyana m'njira zambiri ndipo kusiyana kwathu ndi komwe kumapangitsa aliyense kukhala wosiyana.
Khulupirirani kapena ayi, kusiyana kumeneku ndi komwe kumakoka anzathu kwa ife; mukuganiza kuti chimachitika ndi chiyani tikayamba kufanana nawo? Zosavuta, amakhumudwa ndikupita patsogolo.
Muyenera kukonda ndikuzindikira kuti ndinu ndani munthu aliyense asanakuyamikireni komanso kukukondani.
Ndinu amene mukuyenera kukhala, chifukwa chake dzisungireni dzina lanu, ndiye omwe akufuna kuti mukhale nawo. Malingaliro osiyanasiyana, malingaliro ndi zina.
Kulankhulana bwino
Ndizoseketsa kwambiri momwe timangopwetekera mawu m'makutu a ena ndikuwatchula kuti kulumikizana. Kuyankhulana kumatanthauza kumvetsera, kumvetsetsa, ndi kuyankha.
Onaninso:
Ndizodabwitsa kuti mawu osiyanasiyana amatanthauza zinthu zosiyanasiyana kwa anthu osiyanasiyana. Mutha kuuza mnzanu china chake ndikutanthauza chinthu chimodzi pamene akumva ndikumvetsetsa china chosiyana.
Zomwe timakonda kuchita polankhula ndikumvetsera pamene munthu wina akulankhula kuti tipeze mwayi wolowera ndi kupereka malingaliro athu ndikuwunika momwe zinthu ziliri.
Uku sikulankhulana kowona.
Kulumikizana koona mu ubale uliwonse kumaphatikizapo munthu m'modzi kuthana ndi vuto linalake pomwe mnzake akumvetsera mpaka chipani choyamba chimaliza, kenako wachiwiriyo abwereza zomwe zidamveka kuti zifotokozeredwe komanso kuti zimvetsetsedwe asanayankhe pankhaniyo.