Zamkati
- 1. Mumakhulupirira zabwino zomwe ali nazo
- 2. Zimakhudza kudzipereka
- 3. Zabwino zokha kwa wokondedwa
- 4. Ndikumverera kwakukulu komwe sikuwoneka, kumangomverera
- 5. Mumakonda kupanda ungwiro kwawo
Kukonda mopanda malire ndiko kukonda mopanda malire popanda kuyembekezera kubwezeredwa chilichonse. Anthu ambiri anganene kuti ndi nthano chabe ndipo kuti chikondi choterechi kulibe. Komabe, zimachitika zenizeni, mwa kudzipereka kwa wina yemwe sangakhale wangwiro. Ngati mumakonda wina mosasamala, mumanyalanyaza zolakwa zake ndipo simukuyembekezera zabwino zilizonse kuchokera pachibwenzi. Palibe chomwe chingaimire wokonda yemwe amakonda ndi mtima wake wonse ndipo amasamala za chisangalalo cha munthu wina. Ndi mtundu wachikondi womwe ndi wosiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe anthu ambiri amadziwa - tanthauzo la chikondi chenicheni. Ndipo ndikhulupirireni, izi sizowonekera.
Chikondi choterechi chilipo, ndipo titha kumva chikondi chosagwirizana ndi wina aliyense osazindikira ngakhale pang'ono. Pitirizani kuwerenga kuti mumvetse tanthauzo la kukonda mosakondera.
1. Mumakhulupirira zabwino zomwe ali nazo
Ndikosavuta kuyang'ana mbali zoyipa za chilichonse, koma mitima yathu imasiyanitsa zikafika kwa iwo omwe ali ofunika. Ichi ndichifukwa chake mumapereka mwayi wachiwiri. Mukamadziwa zoyipa kwambiri mwa wina, komabe mumakhulupirira zabwino zomwe ali nazo, ndicho chikondi chenicheni. Chikondi chanu chilibe malire kotero kuti simuganiza kawiri musanawakhululukire pazinthu zomwe adachita. Ndi chifukwa chakuti chikondi chikakhala chopanda malire, simumaweruza kapena kusiya munthu amene mumamukonda. Ndipo mosiyana ndi momwe anthu amamuwonera munthuyo, mumawona kupyola pazolakwika zakunja ndikuyang'ana zomwe zili mkati.
2. Zimakhudza kudzipereka
Chikondi chopanda malire ndichosavuta. Zimaphatikizapo kudzipereka kwambiri. Kukonda mosavomerezeka mwina ndichimodzi mwazinthu zolimba mtima kwambiri chifukwa simukukayikira chisankho chanu. Ndinu wokonzeka kuchitira wina kanthu, ngakhale zitanthauza kuti mutaya china chamtengo wapatali chomwe muli nacho. Pamafunika kulimba mtima kuti mupereke zofuna za chibwenzi. Nthawi zina, mutha kupita kukaimba mlandu kapena kudziyika nokha pachiwopsezo. Ndipo chifukwa chiyani mumachita izi? Kungowaona akusangalala.
3. Zabwino zokha kwa wokondedwa
Tikufuna kuwona okondedwa athu akusangalala. Mukamakonda wina mosakakamira, mumayamba kukhulupirira kuti akuyenera zabwino zokhazokha. Chifukwa chake, mumachita chilichonse momwe mungathere kuti muwapezere zomwe akuyenera malinga ndi inu.
Kukonda mosagwirizana kumadza ndi kudzikonda - mumayamba kuganizira momwe mungathandizire mnzanu. Zimakusiyani ndi chikhumbo chachikulu chowona okondedwa anu akuchita bwino ndikukhutira ndi zomwe amachita. Mumawakonda ndi mtima wonse ndipo mumayesetsa kugawana nawo chisangalalo chilichonse. Mumakhumudwa pamene sali bwino komanso osangalala pamene akusangalala.
4. Ndikumverera kwakukulu komwe sikuwoneka, kumangomverera
Chikondi cha mtima wonse sichinthu chomwe chingaoneke. Mumangogawana zakukhosi kwanu ndi munthu ndikuwalola kuti azisangalala ndi chikondi chomwe mumawakonda. Mutha kukhala wamanyazi kudziko lonse lapansi, koma zikafika kwa wokondedwa wanu, mumakhala osamala ndipo mumakhala pachiwopsezo komanso chowona mtima momwe mumamvera. Ngakhale sichinaperekedwe, simusamala chifukwa chikondi chanu chikakhala chosadzikonda, mumangokhalira kungopatsa osati kulandira.
Mukakumana ndi zokhumudwitsa monga mkwiyo, kukhumudwitsidwa, kapena kukhumudwa nazo, pitilizani kuwakonda chimodzimodzi. Palibe zovuta zomwe zingachepetse chikondi chomwe muli nacho kwa iwo mumtima mwanu.
5. Mumakonda kupanda ungwiro kwawo
Atha kukhala opanda ungwiro kwa ena, koma kwa inu, ali. Mumakhululukira zolakwa zawo zonse ndi kulandira zolakwa zonse. Kukonda wina mosakakamiza kumatanthauza kuti mumavomereza zolakwa zawo ndikukhulupirira kuti atha kusintha. Mumakonda zinthu za iwo zomwe sizitha kuonedwa ndi aliyense. Nthawi zambiri, zimakhala zovuta kukhululukira wina yemwe adakupweteketsani. Koma pakadali pano, mumazisiya. Mumatsegula mtima wanu kwa munthuyo m'malo modziteteza. Ngakhale zitakhala bwanji, mudzapezeka kuti mukumenyera nkhondo ubalewo.
Izi ndi zomwe chikondi chopanda malire chimatanthauza. Ngakhale zimakuikani pangozi ndipo zimakupweteketsani, simusiya kukonda. Mutha kukhala ndi chikondi chenicheni kwa amayi anu, mnzanu wapamtima, m'bale wanu, mwana wanu, kapena mnzanu. Nthawi zina, imabwezeredwa, koma kumapeto kwa tsiku, ndikudzipereka kwamuyaya komwe mumapereka kwa munthu wina. Kudzipereka kosasiya kumukonda, kumuganizira za iwe mwini, kukhala naye nthawi zonse zivute zitani, ndi kumumvetsetsa nthawi zonse. Uwu ndiye ulendo wokongola wokonda mosakondera. Chikondi chotere ndichamatsenga. Ndipo kuli ndi ululu uliwonse womwe ungakupatseni.