Zamkati
- Sinthani ma binoculars anu mkati
- Sulani chithunzi cha kalonga / mwana wamkazi wamfumu wangwiro
- Yesetsani kukhala anzeru osati ovuta
- Aliyense ndi wosiyana, palibe amene sangasinthe
- Sinthani khalidweli, ngati simungasinthe momwe mumamvera
- Mutaye mtima munthuyo, osati chifukwa cha chikondi
- Chikondi chimakhala mkati mwathu, osati mzake
Ndizosatheka kukumana ndi munthu yemwe kamodzi pa moyo wawo sanamve ngati amakonda munthu yemwe sanabwerenso momwe akumvera.
M'mikhalidwe imeneyi, timafulumira kuganiza kuti pali china chake cholakwika ndi ife, china chake chomwe tiyenera kukonza kuti tikondwe ndi munthu ameneyo. Komabe, chikondi sichinthu chodziwikiratu chomwe ngati mutsatira sitepe ndi sitepe chimapereka zotsatira zake.
Tikudziwa kuti chikondi chimakhudzana kwambiri ndi mankhwala muubongo, titha kuwazindikira ndikufotokozera kusintha kwawo pakapita nthawi. Komabe, pakungoyang'ana mankhwala omwe sitingathe kufotokoza chifukwa chake timagwera munthu ameneyo.
Yankho lake limakhala mwa psyche yathu, koma nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kuti timvetsetse zomwe mtima wathu wasankha.
Komabe, ngati tikufuna kukhala achimwemwe, titha kufuna kukumba mozama ndikumvetsetsa chifukwa chake timagwera munthu amene sakufuna.
Mukamaganizira zomwe muyenera kuchita mukamakonda munthu amene samakukondani ganizirani izi:
Sinthani ma binoculars anu mkati
Mosakayikira mudamvapo kuti pamene mudana ndi munthu wina, muyenera kudziyang'ana nokha chifukwa nthawi zambiri zimakhala zowona kuti zomwe mumadana ndi munthu wina ndichinthu chomwe simumachikonda mwa inu nokha.
Zoterezi zimachitikiranso chikondi. Timakonda kukonda ena mikhalidwe yomwe timakonda mwa ife tokha komanso / kapena mikhalidwe yomwe tikufuna kukhala nayo.
Kungoganiza kuti tikufuna kuthetsa vutoli, choyamba tiyenera kudziwa kuti ndi chiyani chomwe winayo ali nacho chomwe timasirira kwambiri.
Ndi ziganizo zotani zomwe timazigwiritsa ntchito tikamawafotokoza? Kodi ndichinthu chomwe ali, china chake kapena momwe amatipangitsira kumva? Tikamvetsetsa kuti ndi chiyani, titha kuganizira momwe tingadzipezere tokha osadalira munthu wina kuti abweretse miyoyo yathu.
Chifukwa chake, kutengeka ndi munthuyo kumachepa. Musaganize kuti timaganiza kuti iyi ndi ntchito yowongoka, koma pomwe pali pali njira.
Dzifunseni nokha: Galasi, galasi pakhoma, bwanji, chifukwa chokondana ndi munthuyu, ndidagwa?
Sulani chithunzi cha kalonga / mwana wamkazi wamfumu wangwiro
Tikamakonda munthu sitimakonda kuwona china koma zabwino zake. Kodi mudayesapo kuyika zolakwika zina mwa munthu amene mumamukonda? Nthawi yomwe mwabwera ndikutuluka opanda kanthu - dzifunseni kuti "kodi ndimamudziwa bwino munthuyu ngati sindingathe kulemba zoyipa zilizonse?"
Chibwenzi chimamangidwa pakati pa anthu awiri, osati pakati pa munthu ndi choyenera.
Ngati mungalembe ma specks angapo poyambiranso bwino, mutha kupeza kuti mukuwonjezera kumapeto: "..koma ndizomwe zimawapangitsa kukhala apadera kwambiri". Poganizira kuti mwazindikira zomwezo mwina mumazipeza zosafunikira komanso zofunikira, apo ayi, sakadakugwirani.
Pakadali pano, mwasankha kuwanyalanyaza ngati opanda pake. Ngati izi ndi zoona, dzifunseni kuti: "Kodi ndingakwanitse kufikira liti kuti ndisiyane ndi khalidweli?"
Pomaliza, ngati mukanakhala kuti mulibe mndandanda wazolakwika, komabe mumawadziwa bwino ndikuganiza kuti ali angwiro, dzifunseni funso lovuta: "bwanji sindiyesa kupeza munthu amene angandifotokozere chimodzimodzi?" Chifukwa chiyani mukuyang'ana pa munthu amene samakukondani, pomwe mutha kuyesetsa kuti mupeze munthu amene akuganiza kuti ndinu angwiro momwe mulili?
Ngati mukukhulupirira kuti pali mwayi wopambana munthuyu kapena mukuganiza kuti sangasinthidwe tili nawonso upangiri.
Yesetsani kukhala anzeru osati ovuta
Poganiza kuti mukuganiza zopitiliza kuyesetsa kwanu mukamakonda wina amene samakukondaninso, ganiziraninso zomwe mwachita ndikuziyika kumapeto.
Ngati mukufuna kupita kwina, musatenge msewu womwe mumakhala nawo nthawi zonse.
Ganizirani njira zomwe mungayesere kuti akhale nanu, komanso momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito kuyerekezera ngati mukupita patsogolo komanso momwe mungadziwire nthawi yosiya. Kuphatikiza apo, nthawi yomalizira ndi njira zake ndizofunikira kuti muteteze kuti musagwiritse ntchito nthawi yochulukirapo komanso osakwaniritsa cholinga chanu.
Pamapeto pake, mungafunike kudzifunsa kuti: "Kodi ndikufuna kupitiliza kutsatira munthuyu kapena ndikufuna kuti ndikhale wosangalala?"
Aliyense ndi wosiyana, palibe amene sangasinthe
Mosakayikira, aliyense ndi wapadera komanso wina wamtundu wina. Ndizotheka kuti kulakwitsa komwe timapanga ndikuwonjezera mawuwo kuti "osasinthika"
Tikamakonda munthu wina zitha kumva kuti palibe wina amene angafanane ndi izi komanso momwe amatikondera momwe adakondera kapena momwe angakondere. Nthawi zina, zitha kuwoneka ngati tikutaya chikondi chenicheni potaya munthu ameneyo. Inde, munthu amene mumamukonda ndi wosayerekezeka ndipo sangafanane, komabe, sizikutanthauza kuti sipangakhale wina wabwinoko.
Kuphatikiza apo, ngati munthu m'modzi angakwaniritse zoyembekezera zanu zachikondi, padzakhala wina. Mukaleka kuyang'ana, mutsimikizira kudandaula kwanu koyambirira - munthu amene mumamukonda sangasinthe ndipo palibe winanso kwa inu. Kumbukirani kuti: “Mukapanda kufunsa, adzakuyankhani yankho lanu nthawi zonse.”
Sinthani khalidweli, ngati simungasinthe momwe mumamvera
Idzafika nthawi yoti mudzifunse kuti: "Kodi ndimawataya kapena ndimangokhala osangalala?" Simungakhale wokondwa ngati simukukondedwa ndi amene mumamukonda, sichoncho?
Kuphatikiza apo, ngati mungapitilize kugulitsa ndalama ndi chikondi chamunthu m'modzi ndiye kuti mukudzipulumutsa nokha pazomwe mukuyesera kupeza. Komabe, izi sizikutanthauza kuti mutha kusintha momwe mumamvera, koma zomwe mungasinthe ndimomwe mumachita.
Nthawi zina kusintha kumachokera mkati, nthawi zina timasintha kakhalidwe kathu poyamba.
Kodi mungatani mutakhala kuti mukusaka chikondi? Kodi mungatuluke ndikukawona malo ochezera kuwonjezera mwayi wokumana ndi wina? Mwina. Maganizo omwe mumakhala nawo kwa munthuyo sadzatha nthawi yomweyo, koma posiya kuyesa "kumwa kuchokera mugalasi lopanda kanthu" ndiye kuti mukupatsa mwayi wokondana.
Mutaye mtima munthuyo, osati chifukwa cha chikondi
Pankhani ya chikondi, ndizofanana ndi kumaliza ntchito kapena kulemba mayeso.
Kulakalaka zinthu zabwino sikungakutsogolereni ku cholinga chanu. Chifukwa chake, mukamakonda munthu amene samakukondani kulakalaka kuti abwezeretse malingalirowo sangasinthe mkhalidwewo.
Mwachizoloŵezi, njira yoyamba ndi yovomerezeka ndiyo kuyesa kupambana munthuyo kuti akhale nanu ndikukondani. Kumbukirani, monga njira iliyonse yabwino iyenera kukhala ndi pulani kuphatikiza nthawi yomalizira. Ngati sizipanga zomwe mukufuna, musadandaule - mukumulola munthuyo kuti azipita, osadzikonda yekha.
Chikondi chimakhala mkati mwathu, osati mzake
Ganizirani izi - mukamakonda, ndiinu amene mumapereka chikondi pomwe winayo ndiye amene amakukondani. Pazifukwa zina, zomwe mwina simungadziwe zambiri, mwasankha munthu ameneyo.
Ndizomveka kuti ngati mukadatha kuchita izi, mutha kuwongolera zomwe mwasankha ndikuwongolera chikondi chanu kwa munthu amene akufuna kukudaliraninso. Chikondi chimakula mkati mwanu ndipo mutha kusankha komwe mungachiikire ”!