Zamkati
Kodi mumapanikizika kuti banja lanu silikuyenda bwino? Kodi mumadabwa? chifukwa chiani ukwati uli wovuta chonchi? Nanga nchiyani chimapangitsa ukwati kukhala wovuta?
Kodi simukusangalala kuti ubale wanu ndi wokondedwa wanu umakhala wankhanza komanso wankhanza?
Vuto ndi maukwati amakono ndikuti akhala ovuta kwambiri. Mabanja ambiri amawoneka okonzeka kulimbana ndi amuna kapena akazi awo m'malo moyesetsa kuti banja lawo liziyenda bwino.
Nzosadabwitsa chifukwa chiyani maukwati amakono akuvuta, ndipo chisudzulo chikuchulukirachulukira.
Kodi zonsezi zikutanthauza kuti maukwati m'masiku akale anali osavuta komanso ogwira ntchito bwino?
Mwanjira ina, inde. Tenga nkhani yanga, mwachitsanzo. Ndakhala pabanja zaka 18, ndipo chisudzulo sichidakhalepo m'malingaliro mwathu ngakhale kamodzi.
Inde, ine ndi mwamuna wanga tinali ndi mikangano yambiri, koma ukwati wathu sunali wowawa. Ndewu sizinapitirire tsiku limodzi, ndipo tidayesetsa kukonza ubale wathu ndi chikondi, chisamaliro, komanso chidwi.
Ndiye bwanji simungathe ukwati masiku ano khalani motere inunso?
Maubwenzi ambiri amasowa kulolerana komanso kuyanjana masiku ano, ndikupangitsa banja kukhala lovuta kwambiri.
Nazi zinthu zina zofunika kuzikumbukira pazaka zovuta kwambiri m'banja.
Nkhani zandalama
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Ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa malingaliro amnzanu - kodi amatenga ndalama kapena amasunga ndalama? Zimathandizanso kulumikizana ndi mnzanu kuti muwonetsetse kuti zomwe mukuyembekezera pachuma komanso zomwe mumayika patsogolo ndizofanana.
Dziwani kuti simuyenera kubisa zinsinsi za mnzanu. Konzani zachuma chanu, onetsetsani kuti mukudziwa momwe mumalandirira komanso kuchuluka kwa zomwe mukuwononga.
Muzikambirana moona mtima za zinthu zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito mwezi ndi bajeti.
Onetsetsani zomwe mukuyembekezera, ndipo ngati mukumva kuti mukufunika kuthandizidwa kuthana ndi mavuto azandalama, ndiye kuti funani 'chithandizo chazachuma' malo omwe akuchulukirachulukira omwe aperekedwa makamaka kuthandiza maanja kuthana ndi mavuto azachuma.
Therapy imatha kukuthandizani kuti mupange dongosolo lazachuma lomwe lingagwire ntchito nonsenu ndikuwonetsetsa tsogolo labwino lazachuma m'banja lanu.
Kusalolera
Kusalolerana ndichinthu chofala m'mabanja ambiri amakono. Zolakwa zazing'ono zimakulitsidwa ndikupanga gawo lalikulu.
Kulolerana ndiko kumapangitsa banja kukhala losangalala. Kukhoza kwanu kuzindikira, kulemekeza, ndi kuvomereza zolakwa za anzanu ndizo zimalimbikitsa chikondi pakati pa inu ndi mnzanu.
Ndikofunika kukhala omasuka ku lingaliro la kusintha ngati mukufuna kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino - ndipo izi zikuyenera kuchitidwa ndi onse awiri.
Kusamalira banja lanu mosamala kwambiri, mwachikondi, komanso moleza mtima kumatha kuthana ndi mkwiyo komanso kusapeza bwino. Kuleza mtima ndi kulolerana ndizo zabwino zomwe zimapangitsa banja kukhala lachikondi ndi lolimba.
Ukwati ndi wovuta pomwe simukuzipeza mumtima mwanu kuti mukhale achifundo komanso ololera ndi wokondedwa wanu.
Zosayembekezereka
Munthu akalowa m'banja, atakhala ndi ziyembekezo zosayembekezereka, amakhalanso ndi mantha.
Ndikofunika kudziwa kuti ukwati suthetsa kusungulumwa komanso kusungulumwa; sikungopezeka mwakugonana kapena kusintha kosavuta, chifukwa chake.
Ukwati ndi ntchito yovuta ndipo amafuna chikondi ndi chisamaliro chochuluka. Lekani kuganiza kuti wokondedwa wanu ndi amene amachititsa kuti mukhale osangalala; onetsetsani kuti nonse mukuyembekezera zabwino m'banja.
Zina mwazotheka m'banja ndi izi:
- chifundo
- ulemu
- kudzipereka
- kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yabwino
- kukondana kwakuthupi ndi kwamaganizidwe
- kuyamikira
- kulankhulana momasuka
Kupatula kukhazikitsa chiyembekezo m'banja, kuwongolera zomwe mukuyembekezera m'banja ndikofunikanso kwambiri kuti mukhale ndiubwenzi wosangalala komanso wokwaniritsa.
Yesetsani kuti zoyembekeza zanu zizikhala zenizeni, dzifunseni ngati mungakwaniritse zomwezi kuchokera kwa mnzanu. Kambiranani bwino zomwe mukuyembekezera komanso kambiranani zomwe sizingachitike muubwenzi wanu.
Onerani vidiyo yosangalatsayi yomwe ikufotokoza chifukwa chomwe sitiyenera kuyembekezera zosatheka kuchokera kwa anzathu:
Kupanda chisoni
Chisoni ndi chomwe chimatithandiza kumvetsetsa momwe anzathu akumvera.
Kugwira ntchito kuti mumvetse bwino momwe mnzanu akumvera komanso malingaliro ake kumathandiza kwambiri kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino. Ulemu ndi chinthu chinanso.
Nthawi zonse muzilemekeza anzanu, ndipo musadzilole kuti muchokere kwa mnzanu m'maganizo kapena mwakuthupi. Yesetsani kumvera ena chisoni momwe mungathere.
Dziwani momwe mnzanu akumvera ndikumayesa kudziwa chomwe chimapangitsa kuti mumve choncho. Mvetserani, ngakhale zitakhala zovuta bwanji kwa inu chifukwa kumvetsera ndi njira yabwino yopangira mnzanu kukhala wosangalala.
Kutengana mopepuka
Pangani nthawi kuti muwoneke bwino ndikupanga nthawi yoti mumuphikire chakudya kapena kupita naye kukawonera. Kuganiza kuti palibe vuto kusiya zinthu izi mutakhala m'banja zaka zisanu ndi zitatu sikuli bwino!
Kusonyeza kuyamikirana wina ndi mnzake, kuwauza momwe mumawakondera, komanso kumvera nkhawa zawo pambuyo pogwira ntchito mwakhama zitha kukhala ndi banja losangalala.
Lumikizanani wina ndi mnzake ndikupangitsa banja lanu kukhala losangalatsa. Kumbukirani, muli olamulira pano!
Kupanda kukondana
Anthu ndi zolengedwa zomwe zimakhala ndi anzawo ndipo amasangalala ndikuthekera kwawo kukhala ndi ena omwe amawazungulira. Ubwenzi wapamtima ndi womwe umatilola kuti tizitha kulumikizana bwino.
Kaya ndi mwakuthupi, mwamalingaliro, zogonana, kapena ngakhale mwauzimu, kukondana ndikofunikira kuti ubale uliwonse upitirire. Kukondana kumatilola kukhala omasuka ndi osatekeseka pozungulira ena, ndipo tikamagwiritsa ntchito mbanja, kukondana kumaonedwa ngati lingaliro la kuyandikana pakati pa banja.
Kupanda kukondana muukwati kumawononga kulumikizana komanso kuyandikana komwe mungakhale nako ndi mnzanu. Kuperewera kwaubwenzi ndizomwe zimapangitsa banja kukhala lovuta.
Sikuti kukondana kumangofunika kulimbitsa ubale m'banja, koma ndikofunikanso kukulitsa thanzi lanu, kuchepetsa nkhawa, komanso kukulitsa kudzidalira kwanu.
Ukwati ndi ubale wokongola pokhapokha ukasamalidwa mwachikondi ndi chisamaliro. Osasokoneza moyo wanu wabanja ndikutaya chisangalalo chanu. Phatikizani chikondi ndi chisamaliro kuti chikhale chopindulitsa komanso chofunikira.