Zamkati
- Nchiyani chimakukokerani kwa munthu?
- Nchifukwa chiyani munthu ameneyu anali wolakwa kwa inu?
- Mumakonda chiyani za ine?
Chikondi ndichimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu kwambiri padziko lapansi; Ikhoza kukukwezani kwambiri ndikupangitsani kumva kuti palibe chopinga chomwe simungadutse. Kumbali inayi, pamene sitikondedwa m'njira yomwe timafunira zingayambitse zokumana nazo zopweteka kwambiri komanso zopweteka. Tonsefe nthawi ina m'miyoyo yathu timadabwa kuti bwanji munthu amene mumamukondayo samakukondaninso.
Mosiyana ndi zikhulupiriro zabodza zokhudza chikondi, sikuti nthawi zonse zimangokhala “mwachimwemwe mpaka kalekale.” Ndikulakalaka wina atabwezeretsanso chikondi chathu sichingabweretse chisangalalo. Mbali yomvetsa chisoni komanso yosasangalatsa ya chikondi imatipangitsa kulingalira za “Cholakwika ndi chiyani ndi ine?”, “Ali ndi chiyani chomwe ine ndilibe?”, “Chifukwa chiyani sakufuna kukhala nane?” ndi motalika.
Chikondi chimatha kuphatikiza kukongola ndi kuyipa, ndipo ngati mungadziyese panokha kufunafuna chikondi khalani okonzeka kukumananso zachisoni ndi zowawa.
Ngakhale kuopa kukanidwa komanso kupwetekedwa kumatha kukulepheretsani kupita kukafufuza posaka chikondi chenicheni, simuyenera kulola kuti chikulepheretseni.
Pomwe chitseko chimodzi chimatseka china chimatseguka. Kukanidwa kulikonse kungakuthandizeni kuphunzira za inu nokha ndi zina, pazomwe mukusowa ndi zomwe winayo akufuna ndipo, pomalizira pake, zikulimbikitsani kuti muwongolere mndandanda wazomwe Mister Right. Kulibwino kungoyang'ana pa "bwanji sakundikonda" yesetsani kuitanira ena mafunso omwe angakhale othandiza komanso omveka bwino.
Nchiyani chimakukokerani kwa munthu?
Tonse tingavomereze kuti munthu aliyense ndi wapadera, sichoncho? Komabe, mawonekedwe apadera samatanthauza kuti sangasinthe. Kumvetsetsa zomwe mumawoneka zokongola kungakuthandizeni kuzindikira kwa anthu ena, osati omwe mumawakonda pakadali pano.
Khalidwe limodzi lotere silosungidwa kwa munthu m'modzi yekha. Kuphatikiza apo, mukadzapita tsiku lotsatira, mudzatha kuwunika tsiku lanu molingana ndi mikhalidwe yokongola yomwe mukufuna mnzanuyo. Pomaliza, mfundozo zikafotokozedwa m'mawu, mutha kuzikonza ndikusintha mosavuta.
Mukazindikira momwe mungasankhire bwenzi mutha kupanga chisankho chofuna kupita njira ina.
Nthawi zambiri timakhala ndi chidwi ndi anthu omwe siabwino kwenikweni kwa ife. Mwachitsanzo, titha kufunafuna mnzathu yemwe tikumudziwa kuti sitingathe kumudalira, yemwe sali wokonzeka kutithandiza ndi kuyika chibwenzicho. Zosankhazi zitha kutidabwitsa ndikupangitsa kuti tidzifunse kuti "chifukwa chiyani"?
Mwachizolowezi, pali china chake chofunikira chomwe munthu ameneyu amatibweretsera m'moyo wathu ndipo ndichifukwa chake timasankha kuchita izi. Mwina ndiwoseketsa, osaka kapena owoneka bwino.
Kwenikweni, timalakwitsa kuganiza kuti tiyenera kuvomereza zophophonya za wina chifukwa pali zinthu zomwe timakonda kwambiri mwa iwo. Izi sizowona.
Kunena zowona, timalola kunyengerera, popeza palibe munthu wabwino. Komabe, zomwe tili okonzeka kunyengerera ndichinthu chomwe chikuyenera kumveka kwa wokondedwa wathu, koma koposa zonse kwa ife.
Chifukwa chake, m'malo mongofunsa "bwanji sakundikondanso" mungafunike kudzifunsa kuti "chifukwa chiyani ndimamukonda munthu ameneyu"?
Nchifukwa chiyani munthu ameneyu anali wolakwa kwa inu?
M'malo mofunsa kuti bwanji "sakundikondanso" dzifunseni "chifukwa chiyani sindimayenera kukonda munthuyu poyamba?" Ndipo yankho ndi chifukwa sakukondaninso.
Njira yoyamba komanso yofunika kwambiri kwa wokondedwa wanu iyenera kukhala kufuna kukhala nanu, kuti amakukondani ndikukuvomerezani.
Zomverera ziyenera kukhala zofananira ndipo ngati izi sizinafike pamndandanda wanu, ndi nthawi yoti muzilembe ndi zilembo zazikulu, zakuda.
Pakadali pano, kwa inu omwe simunakhalepo ndi mwayi wokhala ndi amene mumamukonda, mwina mungakhale mukuganiza kuti mungadziwe bwanji ngati munthuyo sakukukondani chifukwa choti sakukudziwani bwino. Pakuti onse akudziwa kuti akufunika kuti akupatseni mwayi ndikukhala paubwenzi ndi inu kuti muzindikire kuti ndinu omwe iwowo?
Ngati yankho ndi inde, mwachidziwikire, pitani pomwepo!
Mosakayikira, ndiwe munthu wokondeka woyenera kukondedwa, ndipo mwina munthuyu adzakuwona chifukwa cha zomwe uli - zabwino kwambiri.
Samalani, ngati mungasankhe kuchita izi - dziwani nthawi yochuluka yomwe mukufuna kuyika mwa munthuyu kuti mudziteteze pakutsata wina kwa nthawi yayitali popanda zotsatira.
Ngati mwayesapo kale kuti mupambane munthuyu ndikupitilizabe kulowera kwina, dzifunseni - kodi ndikufuna kukondedwa kapena ndikufuna kupitiliza kutsatira munthuyu? Mukuyenera kukondedwa ndipo mutha kukhala osangalala, koma osati ndi munthuyu. Sankhani chisangalalo m'malo molondola munthuyu.
Mumakonda chiyani za ine?
Chowonadi ndi chakuti ali ndi ufulu wosakukondani, atha kupanga chisankho kuti asakusankhe. Mwamwayi, mutha kumugonjetsa, amatha kusinthidwa ngakhale ali wapadera.
Komabe, munthu m'modzi yemwe muyenera kumakukondani ndi inu.
Chifukwa chake, m'malo modabwa kuti "bwanji samandikonda", dzifunseni kuti "ndimakonda chiyani za ine ndekha." Pambuyo pake, mutha kufunsa kuti "Ndikufuna mnzanga kuti azindikire ndi kukonda chiyani mwa ine?"
M'malo mokonda wina amene sakubweza, pangani chidwi chanu kufunafuna munthu amene amakuchitirani zabwino ndikubwezeretsani malingaliro ndi ndalama.
Ikani pamwamba pa Mr.Njira zoyenera momwe amakhalira - amakulemekezani, amayesetsa, kodi amakonda zinthu zomwe mumakonda za inu nokha? Ngati simungathe kuchita izi, funsani mozama ndikudzifunsa kuti "ndichifukwa chiyani ndimasankha munthu amene samandikonda", "bwanji ndikusankha munthuyu m'malo mosangalala?"
Aliyense ndi woyenera chikondi ndipo inunso. Komabe, muyenera kumvetsetsa izi, kuti mupeze zomwe zili zabwino kwambiri za inu, zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala apadera komanso zomwe mukufuna kuti mnzanu awone ndikuyamikira mwa inu.
Mukadzikonda nokha, mumakhala ndi ubale wofunikira kwambiri womwe ungakhazikitsidwe ndipo ina iliyonse idzakhala bonasi yayikulu.
Ndizotheka kuti munthu amene mumamukondayu si amene amakukondaninso, koma ulendo wanu sutha pamenepo. Ichi ndi chiyambi chabe cha nkhani yachikondi. Mutha kuphunzira kuchokera pazomwezi, kutembenuzira zowawa ndi chisoni kukhala maphunziro ndi chidziwitso cha zomwe mukufuna, zomwe mukufuna kenako ndikuzitsatira. Mukadziwa zomwe Bambo Right akuyenera kukhala nazo kuti mumukonde ndikusankha tsiku ndi tsiku, mukamvetsetsa zomwe zili zofunika, komanso zomwe munganyengerere mutha kuyamba kumusaka. Chinthu chimodzi chomwe muyenera kukumbukira kuti musanyengerere ndi ngati amakukondaninso. Ichi ndiye chiyambi cha njira yabwino yosangalalira!