Zamkati
- Palibe yankho lolunjika pazochitikazi
- Ndikofunika kupeza malo ogwirizana ndi mnzanu
- Nawa malangizo amomwe mungayang'anire
- Pitirizani kulankhulana moona mtima
- Ndikofunika kufunafuna upangiri
- Tsatirani mawu anu obadwa nawo
- Chitani izi limodzi
Titha kutenga mopepuka kuti kukondana ndi ukwati zimayendera limodzi koma chimachitika nchiyani ngati pali zovuta zaumwini, kapena zamaganizidwe zomwe zimayambitsa kusowa kwaubwenzi, kapenanso kusakhala pachibwenzi? Kodi kukondana m'banja ndikofunikira kuti banja lipitirire? Ndipo ngati zingathandizire, kodi kuphatikiza kwakusowa chiyanjano ndi ukwati kungakhale kosangalatsa kwa onse?
Yankho lake ndi lovuta chifukwa chitsanzo chilichonse chaubwenzi ndiukwati (kapena kusowa kwawo) ndichapadera. Inde, banja limatha kukhala popanda kukondana, koma kwa nthawi yayitali bwanji kapena ngati chibwenzicho chitha kukhala chokwanira kwa onse awiri chimadalira onse omwe akukhudzidwa.
Palibe yankho lolunjika pazochitikazi
Vuto lokhala paubwenzi wapabanja ndikuti pali zinthu zambiri zovuta kuzilingalira, monga chikondi, kudzipereka, ana, makonzedwe okhalamo kapena mapulani, ndikusintha kulikonse kumadalira malingaliro ndi zosowa za munthu aliyense amene ali nawo m'banjamo. Zomwe zikutanthauza kuti palibe yankho lolunjika pazochitikazi. Mulimonsemo ayenera kuyesedwa payekha kuti atsimikizire ngati kukondana m'banja ndikofunikira.
Ndikofunika kupeza malo ogwirizana ndi mnzanu
Mwachitsanzo, banja lomwe onse amakhala opanda chidwi chofuna kukondana atha kukhala ndi moyo wosangalala komanso wokwanitsidwa limodzi chifukwa onse ali ndi zokhumba zomwezo. Komabe, banja lomwe mwamuna kapena mkazi wake yekha alibe chidwi chofuna kukondana limakumana ndi zovuta. Banjali limakondana kwambiri, koma kuti akhalebe ndi chibwenzi, m'modzi ayenera kuyanjana kwambiri pankhani yachibale ndi banja. Kaya kunyalanyazaku ndichokhwima komwe kumadalira malingaliro a mnzanu yemwe akupanga kunyengerera.
Izi sizitanthauza kuti ngati mukukumana ndi zotere ndiye kuti ndinu oyipirapo kuposa chitsanzo choyamba. Pambuyo pake, okwatirana omwe apeza malo ogwirizana popanda kukondana muukwati wawo atha kukhala kuti akuwononga kukula kwawo ndikukhala pachibwenzi chodalira. Ndipo nthawi zonse amakhala pachiwopsezo chosintha chilakolako.
Ndikosavuta kuwona kuti kusowa pachibwenzi m'banja kumabweretsa chiopsezo chachikulu cha mavuto. Kapenanso zimapangitsa kuthekera kokula msinkhu kuposa banja lomwe onse amakhala ndiubwenzi wapamtima. Koma sizitanthauza kuti banja lanu liyenera kutha ngati chibwenzi ndi banja sizigwirizana.
Nawa malangizo amomwe mungayang'anire
Pitirizani kulankhulana momasuka komanso moona mtima ndi mnzanu, kuti nonse muzitha kumvetsetsa momwe mukumvera, ndikupanga njira zothetsera mavuto aliwonse. Ngati wina akufuna kukondana, koma winayo sakufuna, mwina mungavomereze kuti mukambirana. Momwe okwatirana omwe akufuna kukondana amadikirira kwakanthawi, ndipo munthawiyo, wokwatirana yemwe samakondana amapempha upangiri kuti awathandize pavutolo.
Ngati ndinu wokwatirana naye, amene safuna kukondana komanso sakufuna thandizo, itha kukhala nthawi yoti mupatse mnzanu ufulu, osalakwa, kuti asankhe kukhalabe muukwati kapena ayi. Zachidziwikire, mutha kukhalabe, abwenzi apamtima, ngati atasankha kuchoka ndikulemekezana angawonjezeke ngati angasankhe kukhalabe.
Pitirizani kulankhulana moona mtima
Ngati muli muukwati wopanda kukondana ndipo nonse ndinu okondwa ndi izi, pitirizani kulankhulana momasuka. Kambiranani mutu wamaubwenzi anu pafupipafupi ndipo kumbukirani kuti nthawi zina zinthu zimasintha. Anthu amasintha, ndipo zokhumba za munthu zimasintha. Mwanjira imeneyi ngati china chake chisintha muubwenzi wanu ndiye kuti mutha kukhala okonzeka m'malo modzidzimutsidwa kapena kuchita mantha.
Ngati mwamuna kapena mkazi wakhalapo pachibwenzi kenako nkusiya mwadzidzidzi, ndibwino kulingalira zopempha upangiri mbanja kuti nonse mumvetsetse zomwe zachitika, ndikuzikonza.
Ndikofunika kufunafuna upangiri
Mlangizi wazokwatirana akuthandizani nonse kuthana ndi zovuta zomwe zingabweretse vutoli. Pakhoza kukhala njira zina zosangalalira ndi kukondana komanso banja lomwe vuto lanu silikhala vuto. Nthawi zonse, mlangizi wabanja angakuthandizeni kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi mgwirizano wabwino, ukwati, kapena ubwenzi.
Chinthu chimodzi chomwe chimangowonjezera pamavuto awa ndi chikondi ndi kudzipereka komwe mungakhale nako kwa wina ndi mzake munjira ina iliyonse, kupitilira kukondana komanso malingaliro anu achipembedzo ngati muli nawo.
Pomwe mungayesetse kulemekeza malonjezo anu achipembedzo ndiukwati, ndiyeneranso kudziwa kuti aliyense wa ife ali ndi mzimu wofunikira kuchita zomwe akuyenera kuchita. Ndipo iyenera kukhala yaulele kuti ichite zomwe ikuyenera kuchita. Palibe chomwe chingapose chitsogozo chamkati chomwe tonsefe tili nacho, ndikulumikizana kwathu kwauzimu komwe kumatitsogolera, ndipo osachepera, nkoyenera kulingalira izi.
Tsatirani mawu anu obadwa nawo
Ngati mutha kuzindikira pakati pa liwu lachibadwa ndi lingaliro wamba, ndiye kuti nthawi zonse muyenera kutsatira liwu lachibadwa. Mukakana, imangoyamba kukuwa kwambiri; ndikofunikira kuti nthawi zonse muzichita zomwe zikukuyenderani. Kudzikana nokha kumachedwetsa zomwe sizingatsutsidwe.
Ndipo momwemonso, nkofunikanso kusapondereza munthu m'modzi ndi zikhulupiriro kapena zosowa zanu. Ngati mukufuna kukondana koma mnzanuyo sakufuna, zingakhale zowononga banja lanu kapena mnzanu. Koma zomwezo zimasinthanso. Ngati simukufuna kukondana, zikhala zowononga banja lanu, komanso mnzanu ngati muwakakamiza. Ndiye chifukwa chake ulemu ndi kulankhulana momasuka komanso moona mtima nthawi zonse kumakhala kofunikira.
Chitani izi limodzi
Ngati kukondana ndi ukwati ndi vuto kwa inu, kumbukirani kuti ngakhale banja lopanda chibwenzi likhoza kukhala pachiwopsezo, chikondi, kudzipereka, ndi chilungamo popanda kukondana ndilofunika kwambiri ndipo limakhala ndi chiyembekezo chokhala ndi moyo wautali. Kaya mumasankhira banja lanu, kapena mwasankha kuthetsa ukwatiwo ndikukhalabe abwenzi okondana mukakumana ndi zomwe zachitikazo ndikuchita limodzi, ulendowu ukhoza kukhala wovuta, koma zotsatira zake zingakhale zabwino kwambiri.