Zamkati
- Ukwati ndi luntha lazamalingaliro
- Kukhala mwamuna wanzeru pamalingaliro
- Momwe mungachitire ndi munthu wanzeru zam'mutu
- Ukwati ndi mwamuna wanzeru
Zaka khumi zapitazi, tidamva zambiri za Emotional Intelligence (EQ) komanso kufunikira kwake monga IQ. Ndi lingaliro losangalatsa kwambiri kuyeza kuthekera kwa munthu kudziwongolera komanso kulimbikitsa malingaliro a anthu owazungulira.Munthu aliyense woganiza bwino amadziwa kuti zochita ndi zisankho zomwe zimachitika atapanikizika nthawi zambiri sizabwino kwambiri. Popeza dziko lenileni ndi lopanikiza, munthu yemwe amatha kuchita mokakamizidwa ndiwofunika ku bungwe lililonse. Popeza maukwati nthawi zina amakhala ovuta, mwamuna wanzeru pamalingaliro amakhalanso wokondedwa wokondedwa.
Ukwati ndi luntha lazamalingaliro
Anthu ambiri, makamaka osudzulana, amadziwa kuti palibe chinthu chonga chisangalalo chokhazikika m'banja. Ukwati weniweni umakhala ndi zosowa ndipo ukhoza kukhala chochitika chosapiririka kwa anthu ambiri. Kupsinjika kwa ubale uliwonse, kuphatikiza banja, ndi chifukwa chake nzeru zam'mutu ndizofunikira.
Pali nthawi zina pamene moyo umaponyera mpira wokhotakhota, matenda kapena imfa m'banja, mwachitsanzo, ndizosapeweka zovuta zomwe mabanja okwatirana amakumana nazo nthawi ina m'miyoyo yawo.
Mabilo ndi maudindo ena samayimilira kuti athetse vutoli. Kupitilira maudindo azitsiku ndi tsiku aukwati, ntchito, ndi kulera ndikotopetsa, kutopetsa, komanso kutopetsa.
Ngakhale maphunziro onse akuti akazi ali ndi nzeru zam'mutu kuposa amuna papepala, azimayi amakonda kuchita mantha ndikukulitsa vutoli nthawi zambiri pakagwa tsoka. Mwamuna aliyense wokwatira komanso membala wa dipatimenti yozimitsa moto amadziwa izi.
Muukwati, pamakhala magulu awiri (kawirikawiri), mwamuna ndi mkazi wake. Kuti muyambenso kulamulira vutoli ndikofunikira kuti mutha kukhala ndi bata ndikupewa zolakwika zomwe zingapeweke mukamakumana ndi zovuta. Mwamuna amatha kuletsa ndi kuwopa mkazi yemwe akuchita mantha, koma osati mosiyana. Zidzakhala zovuta kuti mayi aliyense aziletsa amuna awo osapweteka popanda kuvulala.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake pankhani yanzeru zam'mabanja, ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti mamuna wanzeru atenge nawo mbali pamagulu aukwati.
Kukhala mwamuna wanzeru pamalingaliro
Munthu wanzeru pamalingaliro amakhalanso mwamwamuna wanzeru pamalingaliro. Momwe munthu amachitira ndi zochitika nthawi zambiri zimakhala chimodzimodzi. Malire a chipiriro chawo ndi kulimba mtima kwawo amagwiritsidwa ntchito pamagawo omwewo kudera lonselo. Zimatanthawuza kuti ngati ndi momwe munthu amakhalira kuti akhale wodekha m'ngalawa yomira, iwonso adzakhala chimodzimodzi m'banja lomwe likulephera.
Tsoka ilo, palibe magawo omwe amafotokozera izi. Zimakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi zomwe munthu amakonda. Kungoti munthu atenga chipongwe kuchokera kwa makolo ndi ana awo, sizitanthauza kuti avomera zomwezi kwa alendo.
Zomwezo zitha kunenedwa kwina, chifukwa sangawathandize kuba nthawi zonse, sizitanthauza kuti sangayankhe ngati wovulalayo ndi mwana wawo wamkazi.
Nzeru zam'mutu zili ndi mabelu ambiri, zosewerera, komanso likhweru masiku ano koma ndizomwe zakhala, "chisomo choyaka moto."
Ichi ndichifukwa chake mibadwo yakale, tidatumiza ana ovuta kumasukulu ankhondo.
Lero, tili ndi mitundu yonse yamisonkhano yatsopano yomwe "imaphunzitsa" luntha lamaganizidwe. M'malo mwake, imaphunzitsa lingaliro lakumvetsetsa kwamaganizidwe, koma sizimaphunzitsa momwe munthu angakhalire anzeru.
EQ kapena kuti chisomo choyaka moto chimangophunziridwa kudzera muzochitikira. Kulimba mtima ndi mkhalidwe womwe umapangidwa ndikugogoda mwamphamvu osaphunzira m'mabuku kapena kumisonkhano.
Ngati mukufunadi kuphunzira nzeru zam'maganizo, lowetsani ku dipatimenti yodzipereka yozimitsa moto kapena zina zomwe zingakupatseni zovuta kapena zoopsa.
Momwe mungachitire ndi munthu wanzeru zam'mutu
Vuto la anthu omwe ali ndi EQ yotsika ndi omwe amachititsa kuti vutoli liwonjezeke ndi zochita zawo, kusachita, kapena kungolira / kukuwa. Ngati ndinu munthu amene mumalira ndi kudandaula kwambiri, ndiye chizindikiro chotsika cha EQ.
Ndikosavuta kunyalanyaza anthu otsika a EQ nthawi zambiri, koma pochita ndi munthu wanzeru zam'maganizo komanso maubale, ndiye kuti imasewera masewera osiyanasiyana. Mwachitsanzo, kukwatiwa ndi nagger ndi ubale woopsa komanso wosavulaza.
Chomaliza chomwe mukufuna kuchita ndikuwayankha ndi zifukwa ndi madandaulo (pokhapokha mutakhala loya). Zingokulira mpikisanowu ndikufuula osathetsa chilichonse.
Ngati yankho lirilonse lingapezeke, osachepera mmodzi ayenera kukhala wodekha komanso woganiza bwino. Khalani oleza mtima kudikira kuti amalize kulira kwawo. Mukamayankha kwambiri, mumangowonjezera moto pamoto. Kumbukirani kuti aliyense ali ndi malire. Palibe amene angasunge izi kwa nthawi yayitali, ndizotopetsa. Zimawononga mphamvu zawo, ndipo onetsetsani kuti mukusunga zanu.
Mphamvu zawo zikangogwiritsidwa ntchito, iwo omwe adasunga mphamvu zawo mosamala nthawi akhoza kukambirana ndikuchita zothetsera mavutowo.
Ukwati ndi mwamuna wanzeru
Kukhala ndi chipilala cholimbikira m'banja lililonse ndi chinthu chamtengo wapatali. Ngakhale m'mabanja osagwirizana, bambo ayenera kutenga mbali kuti akhale mzati wosagwedezekawo. Mwamuna wanzeru pamalingaliro amasiyana ndi kukhala mwamuna wosaganizira. Sizitanthauza kuti simumvera chisoni kapena kumvetsetsa momwe wina aliyense m'banjamo akumvera. Zimangotanthauza kuti ngakhale zili zonse, bambo wanyumba amakhala nazo zonse pamodzi.
Akazi, ngakhale azibambo amasiku ano owolowa manja amayamikira amuna olimba mtima komanso amuna anzeru. Apanso, tifunika kusiyanitsa momveka bwino mwamalingaliro ndi opanda chidwi. Munthu wopanda nkhawa sangathe kuwerenga momwe akumvera ndipo sangadandaule kuti amvetsetse malingaliro a anthu ena asanachite zomwe asankha.
Mwamuna wolimba mtima amapatsa mkazi ndi banja lonse ufulu woti achite mogwirizana ndi zofuna zawo.
Zosankha mwanzeru komanso zanzeru nthawi zonse zimatsogoza njira osasandutsa banja lanu kukhala zida zankhondo zankhondo ngati zankhondo.
Mwamuna wanzeru amatha kutsogolera ndi kuteteza banja lokhazikika pamavuto aliwonse omwe moyo ungakhale nawo.