Zamkati
Ngati muli ngati china chilichonse chomwe ndimakhala, chinthu chomaliza chomwe mukufuna ndikukhudzidwa ndi mnzanu mukamenya nkhondo. Zimakhala kuti ine ndi mnzanga tikamamenya nkhondo, ndipo amandigwira mwanjira iliyonse, ndimachoka. Ndimadutsanso manja anga, mwinanso kutembenukira msana kwa iye. Ndipo kunyezimira. Ndinali ndi kunyezimira kwabwino kwambiri komwe ndidakula ndili mwana pomwe ndimakwiyira makolo anga.
Koma ndakhala ndikuyesera njira yatsopano yomenyera.
Ngozi & Ubongo Wobwezeretsa
Pali chifukwa chabwino chomwe timakonda kuchoka panthawi yankhondo: sitimva kuti ndife otetezeka. Makamaka, ubongo wathu wa reptilia umazindikira ngozi-moyo kapena mtundu wa imfa- ndipo machitidwe athu amanjenjemera amalimbana kapena kuthawa. Nchifukwa chiyani ubongo wa reptilian umayamba pamene tikulimbana ndi omwe amatsuka mbale? Chifukwa gawo loyambali laubongo wathu lidapangidwa kuyambira chibadwire kuti liziwonjezeka pomwe zosowa zathu sizikukwaniritsidwa. Mwanjira ina, timakhala otetezeka amayi akamatipatsa chakudya ndi pogona ndi chikondi, ndipo alamu amalira pomwe zosowa zathu sizikukwaniritsidwa ... chifukwa pamapeto pake, khanda limamwalira ngati wowasamalira sakwaniritsa zosowa zawo. Posachedwa zaka makumi angapo ndikulumikizana komwe tili nako ndi mnzathu wokondana kumawonetsera kuphatikana komwe tidali nako ndi omwe amatisamalira. Ubwenziwo ukaopsezedwa, alamu amalira ndipo timawopa miyoyo yathu.
Tonsefe tikudziwa kuti kulimbana ndi athu ena ofunika kwambiri sikuti ndi moyo kapena imfa. Chifukwa chake zomwe tikufunika kuchita ndizopitilira uthenga waubongo wathu ndikudziuza kuti zizikhala chete (ndikulimbana). Koma menyani mwanjira ina: osati ngati zokwawa, kapena makanda opanda thandizo, akumenyera nkhondo kuti tipulumutse miyoyo yathu, koma modekha komanso ndi zida zonse zazikuluzi zomwe zimabwera ndimalo osinthika a ubongo wathu: kutha kukhala achikondi, wachifundo, wowolowa manja, wachidwi, wosamala, wofatsa, woganiza bwino, komanso woganizira ena.
Chikondi & Ubongo wa Limbic
Lowani mu limbic system. Ili ndiye gawo laubongo lomwe limayang'anira moyo wathu wamalingaliro. Ndi gawo lathu lomwe limasiyanitsa zinyama monga zosinthika kuposa zokwawa; zomwe zimapangitsa kuti tizifuna kukhala ndi agalu oti tizicheza nawo kuposa ng'ona; ndipo izi zimapangitsa kuti kukondana kukhale kosangalatsa komanso kosweka mtima kumakhala kowawa.
Tikagwirana manja ndi kuyang'anizana ndi maso ofewa, achikondi, timayambitsa njira yokongola yotchedwa limbic resonance. Limbic resonance ndikulumikiza kwamkati mwamunthu wina ndi wina. Ndiko kuwerengera malingaliro kwamachitidwe am'malingaliro - kuwerenga momwe mungafunire. Limbic resonance ndi momwe mayi amadziwira zomwe mwana wawo amafunikira. Ndi zomwe zimapangitsa kuti mbalame ziziyenda limodzi ngati gulu limodzi ... gulu lonse lakutembenukira kumanzere kulibe mbalame inayake yoyang'anira. Tikakhala mu chiwonetsero cha limbic ndi munthu amene timamukonda, timasinthasintha mawonekedwe awo amkati.
Kufunika kowerenga ena
Chibadwire, takhala tikuphunzira kuwerenga anthu- nkhope zawo, mawonekedwe awo, mphamvu zawo. Chifukwa chiyani? Ndi luso lopulumuka lomwe limatsogolera kuchitetezo komanso kukhala kwofunikira koma koposa zonse, kuzidziwitso zazokhudza zofunikira zonse zamkati mwa wina. Timapeputsa kufunikira kowerenga ena, koma tikudziwanso kuti omwe amachita bwino amapambana: makolo abwinoko amalumikizana ndi ana awo, eni mabizinesi abwinoko amatsata makasitomala awo, oyankhula bwino ogwirizana ndi omvera awo. Koma luso limeneli ndi layiwalika pankhani yokhudza kukondana. Tikamalimbana ndi anzathu odziwika, nthawi zambiri timawatulutsa m'malo mowayikira.
Tikasankha kuwayeretsa m'malo mwake, timakhala ndi mwayi wowamvetsetsa bwino. Mwachitsanzo, zowona zomwe zimandikwiyitsa ndikasamba mbale sizokhudza mbale konse. Ndikuti zimandikumbutsa za nyumba yanga yachisokonezo, yosokonekera ndikukula chifukwa cha amayi anga omwe amamwa mowa mwauchidakwa ... Mnzanga akamvetsetsa izi za ine, amakhala ndi zotheka kutsuka mbale kuti andithandize kuchiritsa bala lomwe adasiya mayi anga osasamala. Tikamvetsetsa umunthu wa wokondedwa wathu ... kusatetezeka kwawo, mikwingwirima yawo ... ndiye ntchito ya banjali imayamba kuchiritsa m'malo molimbana.
Chifukwa chake, mumasankha. Mutha kumenya nkhondo ngati zokwawa, mosazindikira mukumenya nkhondo kuti mukhale ndi moyo. Kapena mutha kusankha kupuma kwambiri, tengani manja a wokondedwa wanu m'manja mwanu, muyang'ane mwachikondi ndi maso ofewa, ndikulimbitsa kulumikizana kwanu kudzera m'miyimbidwe yamiyendo. Tikamayankhulana, timakumbukira kuti tili bwino komanso timakondana. Chikhumbo chathu chodzitetezera mwa kuukira chimayiwalika ndipo chikhumbo chathu chobwezera mwachikondi. Mu chiwonetsero cha limbic, tili ndi kuthekera kowongolera cholakwika cha ubongo wa reptilia: Sindili pachiwopsezo, ndili mchikondi ndipo ndikufuna kukhalabe mchikondi.