Zamkati
- Kodi ndinu osangalala?
- Chitani mwachifatse
- Lonjezerani kusaka kwanu
- Dziwani zina mwazomwe mungachite, osapachikidwa pazambiri
- Kugonana sikopanga zambiri
- Sankhani munthu amene amakukondani monga momwe mulili
Kodi sizingakhale zabwino ngati pangakhale chilinganizo cha masamu kunja uko chomwe, ngati chikatsatiridwa, chimapangitsa kuti pakhale mgwirizano wachikondi wopambana? Mtima, komabe, uli ndi malamulo akeawo.
Wafilosofi wotchuka waku France, Blaise Pascal, adati ndibwino kwambiri: Mtima uli ndi zifukwa zake chifukwa chake sichizindikira
Izo zinati, pamenepo ali zinthu zofunika kuziganizira posankha bwenzi lomanga nalo banja. Mutha kukhazikitsa mndandanda wazomwe mungatsatire zomwe ziziwonetsetsa kuti masewera anu adzakhala ndi mwayi wokuthandizani kukhala ndi ubale wosangalala kwanthawi yayitali kuposa ngati mungosiya chilichonse kuti mukonde, kukhumbira komanso mwayi.
Nawa maupangiri omwe mungaganizire mukamafuna mnzanu wokondana naye, kapena mukaganizira ngati mnzanu wapamtima ndiye "ameneyo."
Kodi ndinu osangalala?
Izi zitha kukhala "nsonga" yodabwitsa, koma ndizomveka.
Kuti musankhe wokwatirana naye wathanzi, muyenera kukhalanso pamalo athanzi.
Anthu osowa chochita amasankha zoyipa, mwaukadaulo komanso mwawokha. Ndi maubale angati obwereranso omwe amakhala opambana? Ochepa kwambiri. Chifukwa chake musanapange nawo gawo, onetsetsani kuti mwagwira ntchito pazinthu zanu zonse zamalingaliro, mwadzipangira nokha moyo wosangalala, ndipo ndinu okonzeka kukopa wina yemwe ndi woyenera kudzipereka kwanu.
Chitani mwachifatse
Posankha bwenzi lodzakhala naye moyo, tonse takhala tikukumana ndi munthu yemwe akuwoneka wosangalatsa. Chilichonse chinadina usiku woyamba uja; ndiwotentha, ali ndi ntchito yayikulu, ndi wosakwatiwa, akuyang'ana kuti akondane, ndipo amamvera mawu aliwonse omwe mukunena. Mukumenyedwa ndipo mukufuna kuthera nthawi yochuluka ndi munthu wamkuluyu momwe mungathere.
Koma pang'onopang'ono.
Osayika mphamvu zanu zonse kwa mnzanuyo nthawi yomweyo. Pitirizani kukhala moyo wanu waukulu. Pitani ndi anzanu ena. Limbikirani. Kulimbitsa thupi.
Ndipo dzichepetseni ndi munthuyu, kumuwona kamodzi kapena kawiri pamlungu. Ngati ichi ndichinthu chenicheni, mudzafunika kukulira pang'onopang'ono, ndikupatseni mphatso yakudziwana kwa nthawi yayitali.
Ngati uyu alidi mnzanu wapamtima, mudzafunika kulumikiza ubalewo mopitilira muyeso, kuti ukhale wolimba komanso wokhalitsa.
Lonjezerani kusaka kwanu
Zachidziwikire, muli ndi malingaliro anu pazomwe mungafune kuti mnzanu akhale.
Koma tsegulani zosaka zanu pang'ono kuti mukhale ndi mwayi wopeza omwe angakhale nawo pabanja. Ngati mumangokhalira kukangana, yang'anirani mwamunayo yemwe ali chete koma woganizira za gulu lanu lamabuku.
Ngati mndandanda wazomwe mungafune posankha wokwatirana naye wophatikizira akatswiri apamwamba, musanyalanyaze mnyamatayo yemwe akuchita bwino ndi bizinesi yake yojambula. Khalani ndi nthawi yodziwana ndi anthu osiyanasiyana.
Chilengedwe chimatha kukudabwitsani ndi mnzanu yemwe simukuwoneka ngati momwe mumaganizira, koma yemwe ali wangwiro kwa inu.
Dziwani zina mwazomwe mungachite, osapachikidwa pazambiri
Ndibwino kukhala ndi mndandanda wazikhalidwe zomwe mungafune mu bwenzi lanu, koma izi ziyenera kukhala zikwapu zazikulu osati zazing'ono zosindikizira. Mwanjira ina, yang'anani pamakhalidwe omwe aliyense wokhala ndi zolinga zabwino ayenera kukhala nawo. Chisoni, kukhulupirika, kuwona mtima, kukoma mtima, kuwolowa manja komanso kusamalira ena.
Ngati mnzanu ali nazo, muli ndi maziko olumikizirana kwambiri.
Chotsani pamndandanda wanu zinthu zazing'ono zomwe sizomwe zimachitika chifukwa cha chibwenzi - zabwino kuphika (izi zitha kuphunziridwa), zimatha kukonza zinthu zapakhomo (mutha kugwiritsa ntchito izi), nyimbo zomwezo (sichoncho? Don ' Kodi mukufuna kuphunzira zamagulu atsopano oimba?).
Kugonana sikopanga zambiri
Tonsefe timadziwa maanja omwe amafanana pang'ono kupatula kukondana wina ndi mnzake. Osagwa mumsampha woganiza kuti ngati zinthu zili zotentha kuchipinda, zikutanthauza kuti munthuyu ndi amene.
Kugonana kwabwino ndikofunikira muumoyo wonse waubwenzi, koma ngati ndizo zonse zomwe muli nazo, sikokwanira kupanga mgwirizano wanthawi yayitali ndi.
Sichimavomerezanso machitidwe oyipa mbali zina za chibwenzi chanu. Chifukwa chake chotsani magalasi odzazidwa ndi chilakolako ndikuonetsetsa kuti mnzanuyo ali ndi zina zomwe akumupangira kupatula luso lakugona. Chifukwa nthawi ina uyenera kutuluka m'chipinda chogona ndikukhalanso ndi malingaliro komanso anzeru.
Sankhani munthu amene amakukondani monga momwe mulili
Tonsefe timakhala ndi nkhope yabwino kwambiri tikamakhala pachibwenzi.
Mudzavala, kudzikongoletsa, komanso zokambirana zanu zimakhala zamatsenga komanso zomveka. Koma popita nthawi, ndi munthu woyenera, mutha kukhalanso ndendende omwe muli: kumapeto kwa sabata mu thukuta lanu lakale laku koleji ndi zazifupi, oyera nkhope komanso otopa kutsatira zochitika zandale.
Ndi munthu woyenera, mutha kukhala womasuka komanso wowona, kuwonetsa mbali zonse za umunthu wanu kuyambira wolimba mpaka wovuta kwambiri.
Ndipo amakukondanibe. Izi sizitanthauza kuti mudzilole kuti mupite, kutali ndi izo.
Tonsefe timakonda okondedwa athu kuti ayesetse kutikopa, ngakhale titakhala m'banja zaka 20. Koma zikutanthauza kuti ngati mwapeza wina yemwe akuganiza kuti ndinu chinthu chabwino kwambiri kuyambira buledi wodulidwa, ngakhale mutangokhala pamenepo mukuchita mawu osokonekera mu hoodie yanu yakale ndi buluku la masewera olimbitsa thupi, ndiye kuti mwadzisunga.