Zamkati
- Kodi kubera mayeso ndi chiyani?
- Chochitika chimodzi chokha chachinyengo chimakhululukidwa
- Yesetsani kusunga ubale wanu
- Chifukwa chiyani muyenera kudutsa chinyengo kuti mupulumutse chibwenzi chanu?
Anagwira mnzanu kubera; pano mumatani tsopano? Kodi mumasudzulana ndi mnzanu chifukwa chodutsa malire olembedwa? Kodi mumapatukana ndi mnzanu chifukwa chochita zosakhulupirika? Kodi chinthu choyenera kuchita ndi chiyani ngati mnzanu wagwidwa akuchita chibwenzi?
Izi zimadalira zinthu ziwiri: inu ndi mnzanu. Zoonadi. Palibe china chomwe chingapangitse chisankho chomwe mungapange chokhudza banja lanu mtsogolo.
Tiyeni tiyambe nanu. Gawo lanu loyamba ndikudzifunsa mafunso angapo. Choyamba, dzifunseni ngati mumakondadi wokondedwa wanu. Tsopano, mutangodziwa zanyengo zachinyengozi, mwina mudzamunyoza. M'malo mwake, kuganizira za chikondi mwina ndichinthu chovuta kwambiri kukumbukira. Koma mkuntho woyamba utakwiyitsa, ndikufuna kuti mufufuze momwe mumakondera.
Chikondi chomwe ndikunena ndi chikondi chomwe mudamva patsogolo ku gawo lachinyengo. Ngati pali chikondi chodziwikiratu, nali funso lachiwiri kuyankha: Kodi aka ndi koyamba komanso kokha nthawi yomwe wakunyengani? Ili ndi funso lofunikira chifukwa pali mitundu iwiri yabodza yomwe tikufunika kukambirana: kubera mwachinyengo komanso kubera ena. Khalidwe lovomerezeka silovomerezeka, koma sizinthu zonse zabodza zomwe zimayenera kutha ndi chisudzulo. M'malo mwake, okwatirana ambiri samangopulumuka pambuyo pa chigololo koma amapezanso chifukwa chokhala banja lolimba komanso lodzipereka.
Kodi kubera mayeso ndi chiyani?
Wopusitsa ndi munthu amene wakunyengani koposa kamodzi, ndi akazi angapo. Simudzasokoneza nambala ya wonyenga wamba. Mtundu wamtunduwu ndiwosatetezeka kwambiri kotero kuti kupusitsidwa kwa mnzake kumamupangitsa kudziona kuti ndiwofunika. Kupambana kwina kwachinyengo kumamupangitsa kuti azimva ngati munthu woyenera komanso wofunidwa. Amayi omwe amabedwa ndi wonyenga wamba ayenera kukhala osamala kwambiri kuti azikhala ndi wonyenga wamba chifukwa kuthekera kwakusintha kwamachitidwe ake ndi kocheperako.
Komabe, pali mtundu wina wonyenga womwe tiyenera kukambirana. Ndiwoonera amene adabera nthawi imodzi. Kungakhale kuyima usiku umodzi, koma mwachidziwikire, chinyengo chimakhala ndi mayi m'modzi kwakanthawi. Sindikuganiza kuti chinyengo chotere chimakhala chinyengo wamba. Sindikulola kubera kwamtundu uliwonse, koma sitingathe kukwirira mitu yathu mumchenga ndikuganiza kuti kubera konse kungayambitse chisudzulo kapena kutha. Sindikukhulupirira mwambi wakuti "Munthu akangobera, nthawi zonse amakhala wonyenga." Mafunso anga ndikufufuza kwawonetsa kuti izi sizowona.
Amuna ambiri omwe ndidawafunsa adavomereza kuti adabwererapo kamodzi pa wokondedwa wawo. Ndinaganiza kuti ndikofunikira kufunsa chifukwa chake amabera chinyengo komanso zomwe amachita pakubera. Nthawi zambiri, amakonda okondedwa awo. Kuperewera kwaubwenzi wapabanja, komanso chikondi chosabwezedwa, zidatenga gawo limodzi pakupereka. Nthawi zina, amuna ena amasankha kamodzi kuti adutse malire okhulupirirana muukwati.
Chochitika chimodzi chokha chachinyengo chimakhululukidwa
Ndikukupemphani kuti mukhale osamala kwambiri pankhani yosiya ubale wa wonyenga nthawi imodzi. Ngati kubera chochitika chimodzi sichinthu chomwe mungakhululukire kapena kukhala nawo, ndizomveka, ndipo muyenera kuchita zomwe zili zoyenera kwa inu. Komabe, musamvere anzanu. Osamvera anzanu akuntchito. Osamvera banja lanu. Mverani mtima wanu, ndikupatsa ubale wanu mwayi woti muchiritse ndikuthana ndi kulakwa kwake. Ngati chinali chochitika chimodzi chobera, ndipo onse awiri akufuna kupulumutsa ubalewo, ndiyofunika kuyimenyera.
Yesetsani kusunga ubale wanu
Ngati mukuyesera kuthana ndi chochitika chinyengo ndi inu onse akufuna ubale wanu kuti mupulumuke ndikuchira, kuphunzira kusiya ndizofunikira. Sindikukuwuzani kuti muwerengetsere kandodo ndikuchotsa zowawa ndi mkwiyo muubongo wanu. Sitife maloboti, ndipo zowonadi, kukhumudwa ndi kusakhulupirika ndizabodza komanso zenizeni ndipo ziyenera kuvomerezedwa. Tengani nthawi yomwe mukufuna. Ngati mukufuna kukhalabe limodzi, kukhululukirana kuyenera kuchitika. Sizingachitike mwadzidzidzi, ndipo pangafunike kuyesayesa konse kuchokera kwa onse awiri kuti adziwe zomwe zidachitika kale ndikusintha zofunikira kuti akule ngati banja.
Chifukwa chiyani muyenera kudutsa chinyengo kuti mupulumutse chibwenzi chanu?
Kutengera zoyankhulana zanga, amuna omwe adachita kubera kamodzi kamodzi adati kusowa kolola kuti mwambowo ukhalebe m'mbuyomu ndiomwe kudathetsa chibwenzicho mpaka kalekale. Apanso, ndi inu nokha amene mungadziwe ngati kubera ndichinthu chomwe mungakhululukire ndikuyika m'mbuyomu.
Ngati pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika mukufuna kupulumutsa ubale wanu ndikusunthira patsogolo, ndikofunikira kuti mumupatse mpata wosonyeza kudzipereka kwake kwa inu ndikubwezeretsanso chikhulupiriro chanu. Khomo lokhala ndi "chochitika" mkati mwake ndi kumbuyo inu, tsekani ndi kutseka. Ngati onse awiri akudzipereka kuti amangenso mgwirizanowu, cholinga chawo chimangokhala pakhomo lotseguka kutsogolo za inu ndi tsogolo lanu lachikhulupiriro komanso chikondi chomwe mumadzimanganso.