Zamkati
- 1. Kodi mawu oti 'lonjezo' amatanthauzanji?
- 2. Kodi zowinda ziyenera kukhala zazitali bwanji?
- 3. Kodi pali njira zosiyanasiyana zochitira malumbiro aukwati?
- 4. Ndani amapita koyamba - mkwati kapena mkwatibwi?
- 5. Kodi mungalembe malumbiro anu apabanja?
- 6. Kodi malonjezo aukwati achikhalidwe ndi ati?
- 7. Kodi mphete pamalonjezo aukwati ndizotani?
- 9. Kodi mawu oti 'ukwati wokwatirana woyera' amatanthauzanji?
- 10. Nchifukwa ninji anthu ena amakonzanso zowinda zawo?
Ngati inu ndi wokondedwa wanu mukuganiza zopanga lonjezo lanu laukwati nthawi ina iliyonse, mwina mungakhale mukuganiza zazinthu zochepa, ndipo mwina mungakhale ndi mafunso m'maganizo mwanu. Chifukwa chake nkhaniyi iyankha mafunso khumi omwe amafunsidwa kawirikawiri pamutu wa malumbiro aukwati motere:
1. Kodi mawu oti 'lonjezo' amatanthauzanji?
Musanapange malumbiro, ndibwino kuti mudziwe tanthauzo la kulengeza kotere. Kwenikweni, lonjezo ndi lonjezo lokhazikika lomwe munthu amapanga, ndipo pankhani ya malumbiro aukwati ndipamene anthu awiri amalonjezana, pamaso pa mboni kuti athe kukwatirana mwalamulo komanso mwalamulo. Malumbirowa nthawi zambiri amachitika pamwambo womwe wakonzekera makamaka cholinga chopanga ndikusintha malonjezo. Ndikofunika kudziwa bwino ndikukonzekera musanapange lonjezo, makamaka lumbiro laukwati, chifukwa sichinthu chomwe mungachotse ngati mutasintha malingaliro anu pambuyo pake.
2. Kodi zowinda ziyenera kukhala zazitali bwanji?
Ngakhale malumbiro aukwati ali ofunikira komanso olemera, safunikira kukhala aatali. M'malo mwake, pafupifupi mphindi ziwiri pamunthu nthawi zambiri zimakhala zokwanira kuti mfundo zazikuluzikulu zigwirizane bwino, osapitilira. Kumbukirani kuti malumbiro ndi achindunji komanso malonjezo akulu, pomwe nthawi zambiri pamakhala nthawi yolankhula kwanthawi yayitali pamwambo wolandila pambuyo pa mwambowo.
3. Kodi pali njira zosiyanasiyana zochitira malumbiro aukwati?
Momwe mungasankhire malumbiro anu aukwati ndi nkhani yaumwini kuti nonse awiri musankhe. Kwenikweni pali njira zitatu zomwe banja lingasankhe, ndipo nthawi zina njira ziwiri kapena zingapo zimagwiritsidwa ntchito. Choyamba, mungafune kulemba kapena kusankha malonjezo anu ndikuwerenga kapena kuwalankhula. Chachiwiri mungafune kuti omwe akukuyang'anirani asanene malonjezo, chiganizo ndi chiganizo mukamabwereza. Ndipo chachitatu, mutha kusankha njira yomwe wogwirizirayo akufunsani mafunso ndikuyankha ndi 'Ndimachita'.
4. Ndani amapita koyamba - mkwati kapena mkwatibwi?
M'miyambo yaukwati, nthawi zambiri mkwati ankanena zowinda zake kaye kenako mkwatibwi amatsatira. Nthawi zina banja lingasankhe kunena malonjezo awo limodzi. Malumbiro nthawi zambiri amalankhulidwa pomwe awiriwo amatembenukira kwa wina ndi mnzake ndikugwirana manja, akuyang'anizana pamene akulankhula moona mtima komanso mozama malonjezo omwe akupanga kwa wina ndi mnzake.
5. Kodi mungalembe malumbiro anu apabanja?
Inde, maanja ambiri amasankha kulemba malumbiro awo, makamaka ngati akuwona kuti angafune kufotokozerana chikondi chawo mwanjira yokomera wina ndi mnzake. Kungakhale lingaliro labwino kutenga mawu a malumbiro achikhalidwe ndikuwasintha kuti agwirizane ndi umunthu wanu ndi malingaliro anu, potero maziko ake asasunthike koma ndikupanga anu nthawi yomweyo. Kapena mungafune kuyambitsa ndikupanga china chake chosiyana kwambiri ndi chanu. Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, kumbukirani kuti ndi tsiku lanu ndi banja lanu kuti musankhe kuchita chilichonse chomwe chimakupangitsani kukhala omasuka.
6. Kodi malonjezo aukwati achikhalidwe ndi ati?
Mawu oyesedwa ndi odalirika a malumbiro achikwati achikhalidwe ndi awa:
"Ine .........., ndikutenga iwe ..........., kuti mkazi wanga (mwamunayo) wololedwa, akhale nawo mpaka lero, kukhala wabwinoko kapena choyipa kwambiri, kwa olemera kapena osauka, kudwala ndi thanzi, kukonda ndi kusamalira, mpaka imfa itatilekanitse, malinga ndi lamulo loyera la Mulungu; ndipo ndikudzipereka kwa inu. ”
7. Kodi mphete pamalonjezo aukwati ndizotani?
Malonjezowo atanenedwa, zimakhala zikhalidwe zina kuti anthu akusinthana mphete ngati chisonyezo kapena pangano la pangano lawo. Mphete mwachikhalidwe imayimira umuyaya monga bwalo lilibe chiyambi kapena mapeto. M'mayiko akumadzulo, si zachilendo kuvala mphete yaukwati pachala chachinayi cha dzanja lamanzere. Chizoloŵezichi chitayamba, amakhulupirira kuti pali mitsempha ina, yotchedwa vena amoris, yomwe imayenda kuchokera pachala chachinayi mpaka pamtima. M'miyambo ina mphete ya chinkhoswe imavalidwanso, kapena ngakhale mphete ya chinkhoswe chisanachitike yomwe nthawi zina imatchedwa mphete ya malonjezano.
8. Kodi chilengezo chaukwati nchiyani?
Mkwati ndi mkwatibwi akamaliza malonjezo awo aukwati wansembe kapena wogwirizira apanga chilengezo chaukwati chomwe chingapange chonga ichi:
“Tsopano poti ... kupatsidwa ndi kulandira mphete, ndikunena kuti ndiamuna ndi akazi, m'dzina la Atate, ndi la Mwana, ndi la Mzimu Woyera. ”
9. Kodi mawu oti 'ukwati wokwatirana woyera' amatanthauzanji?
"Ukwati Woyera" ndi liwu lina kapena mawu omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito pa banja, ndipo amatanthauza kuti ukwati udakhazikitsidwa ndikukhazikitsidwa ndi Mulungu ngati ubale wapamtima pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Ukwati (kapena maukwati oyera) ndi mphatso yochokera kwa Mulungu ndipo ndi ubale wapamtima kwambiri komanso wopatulika womwe ungakhalepo pakati pa anthu awiri.
10. Nchifukwa ninji anthu ena amakonzanso zowinda zawo?
Kukonzanso malumbiro aukwati ndichinthu chofala mmaiko ndi zikhalidwe zina ndipo pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zosiyanasiyana zochitira izi. Kwenikweni ndiko kukondwerera ukwatiwo patatha zaka zingapo limodzi - mwina khumi, makumi awiri, makumi awiri ndi zisanu kapena kupitilira apo. Banjali likuwona kuti likufuna kusonkhanitsa abwenzi ndi abale palimodzi ndikulimbikitsanso kapena kudzipatsanso wina ndi mnzake pagulu. Izi zitha kubwera atapulumuka pachibwenzi, kapenanso ngati mawu othokoza ndikukondwerera ubale wabwino womwe akusangalala limodzi.