Zamkati
- 1. zoyambitsa-malingaliro
- 2. Kulephera kupirira kuvulazidwa
- 3. Kukula m'banja lozunza
- 4. Kusowa malire mbanja
- 5. Kusowa chifundo
- 6. Kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo
Ndizofala modabwitsa - anthu amakwatirana, amayembekeza kukhala osangalala mpaka kalekale, ndipo akadzawona ukwati wawo tsiku lina, chinyengo cha mkazi wokoma mtima ndi wachikondi sichitha. Munthu yemwe amayenera kumukhulupirira ndi moyo wawo komanso chisangalalo ndiye munthu yemwe amawakhumudwitsa kwambiri ndipo mwatsoka, nthawi zambiri amaika pachiwopsezo thanzi lawo ndi chitetezo chawo mwa kuzunza anzawo.
Ngakhale maubwenzi oterewa amawunikidwa m'maganizo kwazaka zambiri, ndizosatheka kudziwa zomwe zimayambitsa chibwenzi, kapena zomwe zimamupangitsa kuti achitire nkhanza.
Komabe, pali zikhalidwe zina zofala za maukwati ambiri otere, komanso ambiri omwe amachitirako nkhanza. Nayi mndandanda wazifukwa zisanu zomwe zimapangitsa akazi kuchitirana nkhanza m'banja, zomwe zimayambitsa kuzunzidwa komanso chifukwa chomwe ozunza amazunza:
1. zoyambitsa-malingaliro
Kodi maubale ozunza amayamba bwanji?
Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti chomwe chimapangitsa kuti chiwawa chikhale chokhazikika mu mkangano wabanja ndichotsatira cha malingaliro owononga kwambiri, omwe nthawi zambiri amawonetsa chithunzi chosokonekera cha zenizeni.
Sizachilendo kuti chibwenzi chimakhala ndi njira zake zotsutsana zomwe nthawi zambiri sizimangopita kwina ndipo sizabereka kwenikweni. Koma m'mabanja achiwawa, malingalirowa ndi omwe amachititsa kuzunzidwa ndipo akhoza kukhala owopsa kwa wozunzidwayo.
Mwachitsanzo, zopotoza zazing'ono zomwe nthawi zambiri zimakhala m'maganizo a olakwira, kapena m'maganizo mwake, ndi izi: "Akuchita mopanda ulemu, sindingalole izi kapena angaganize kuti ndine wofooka", "Ndani amachita akuganiza kuti ali, akuyankhula nane motero? "," Wopusa ngati ameneyu sangamvetse chifukwa chomukakamiza ", ndi zina zambiri.
Zikhulupirirozi zikafika m'maganizo a wovutitsidwayo, zimawoneka kuti palibe kubwerera mmbuyo ndipo zachiwawa zimayandikira.
2. Kulephera kupirira kuvulazidwa
Ndizovuta kuti aliyense apwetekedwe ndi amene timamukonda ndipo tidadzipereka kwa moyo wathu. Ndipo kukhala ndi winawake, kugawana nkhawa zamasiku onse ndi zovuta zosayembekezereka kumadzatipweteketsa komanso kukhumudwitsa nthawi zina. Koma ambiri aife timakumana ndi zotere popanda kuchitira nkhanza amuna kapena akazi athu.
Komabe, omwe amachitira nkhanza okwatirana akuwonetsa kulephera konse kulolera kuchitidwa zolakwika (kapena malingaliro awo monga owonongedwa ndi okhumudwitsidwa). Anthu awa omwe amawonetsa nkhanza amamva kuwawa popweteka ena. Sangadzilole okha kukhala ndi nkhawa, kumva chisoni, kuwoneka ofooka, osatetezeka, kapena okhumudwitsidwa munjira ina iliyonse.
Chifukwa chake, chomwe chimapangitsa kuti banja liziwononga milandu ngati imeneyi ndikuti amalipira mlandu m'malo mwake ndikuwukira mosalekeza.
3. Kukula m'banja lozunza
Ngakhale kuti si onse omwe amazunza anzawo amachokera m'banja lankhanza kapena munthawi yaubwana, ambiri omwe amachitira nkhanza anzawo amakhala ndi vuto lakubwana m'mbiri yawo. Mofananamo, ambiri omwe amazunzidwa ndi okwatirana nawonso nthawi zambiri amachokera ku banja lomwe zochita zawo zinali zoopsa komanso zodzazidwa ndi nkhanza kapena kuthupi.
Mwanjira imeneyi, onse mwamuna ndi mkazi (nthawi zambiri mosazindikira) amazindikira kuti kuzunzidwa m'banja ndi chizolowezi, mwinanso monga chiwonetsero cha kuyandikana ndi chikondi.
Pamizere yomweyi, penyani kanemayu pomwe a Leslie Morgan Steiner, omwe amachitiridwapo nkhanza m'banja nawonso, amafotokoza momwe iwowo amagwirira ntchito pomwe mnzake, yemwe anali ndi banja losavomerezeka, amamuzunza m'njira iliyonse ndikufotokozera chifukwa chake omwe achitiridwa nkhanza m'banja sangathe kutuluka mosavuta muubale:
4. Kusowa malire mbanja
Kuphatikiza pa kulekerera pang'ono kuchitiridwa nkhanza ndi omwe amakuchitirani nkhanza, komanso kulekerera kwambiri wankhanza, maukwati ankhanza nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi zomwe zitha kufotokozedwa ngati kusowa malire.
Mwanjira ina, mosiyana ndi kukondana kwambiri, anthu omwe ali m'mabanja ankhanza nthawi zambiri amakhulupirira kuti kulumikizana sikungathe. Izi zitha kungoyankha funso lomwe anthu ali nalo loti chifukwa chiyani kuzunzika kumachitika ngakhale m'maubale omwe amatchedwa achikondi.
Mgwirizanowu uli kutali kwambiri ndi zachikondi, umapereka kuwonongeka kwa malire komwe kuli kofunikira pachibwenzi. Mwanjira imeneyi, kumakhala kosavuta kuchitira nkhanza mkazi kapena mwamuna komanso kulekerera kuchitiridwa nkhanza, popeza palibe aliyense amene akumva kupatukana ndi mnzake. Chifukwa chake, kusowa kwa malire kumawonekera ngati chimodzi mwazomwe zimayambitsa kuzunzidwa.
5. Kusowa chifundo
Chifukwa chodziwikiratu chomwe chimapangitsa wolakwayo kuchitira nkhanza munthu amene amagawana naye moyo wawo ndikusowa chifundo, kapena kumverera kwachisoni komwe kumachepa, nthawi zonse. Munthu amene ali ndi zizolowezi zozunza nthawi zambiri amakhulupirira kuti ali ndi mphamvu zoposa zachibadwa zomvetsetsa ena.
Nthawi zambiri amawona zoperewera ndi zofooka za ena momveka bwino. Ichi ndichifukwa chake, akakumana ndi kupanda chidwi kwawo pakukangana kapena pamwambo wamankhwala amisala, amatsutsa izi.
Komabe, zomwe zimawalepheretsa ndikuti kumvera ena chisoni sikutanthauza kungowona zolakwa za ena komanso kusadzidalira, kumakhala ndi gawo lawo pamalingaliro ndipo kumadza ndi chisamaliro ndikugawana zakukhosi kwa ena.
M'malo mwake, zidapezeka mu kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi University of Barcelona kuti kuyika wovutitsayo mu nsapato za wozunzidwayo pogwiritsa ntchito njira yozama yozimira, ozunzawo adatha kuzindikira momwe amantha awo amachitira akamazunzidwa ndipo zidawongolera malingaliro awo zotengeka.
6. Kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo
Kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndi chimodzi mwazomwe zimayambitsa kuzunza maubwenzi. Malinga ndi American Journal of Public Health, zidapezekanso kuti awiriwa ndiwothandizirana munjira yomwe nthawi zina omwe amachitiranso nkhanza amakakamiza omwe amawazunza kuti amwe mowa komanso mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Ziwawa zambiri zimakhudzanso kumwa mowa kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo.
Amuna ndi akazi amtundu wankhanza
Ndizosangalatsanso kudziwa kuti kuchuluka kwa nkhanza m'banja mdera la LGBTQ sikunenedwe kwenikweni makamaka chifukwa choopa kusalidwa monga gulu, malingaliro azamphamvu zamphamvu za abambo ndi amai ndi zina zambiri.
Kusalidwa kumakhalaponso pamene maudindo a amuna ndi akazi amasinthidwa mu maubale ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, momwe machitidwe a mnzake amene amamuzunzawo salemekezedwa kwambiri pomwe amanenedwa ngati wozunza ndi mkazi. Zonsezi zitha kulimbikitsanso wozunza kuti apitilize zachiwawa.
Ukwati umakhala wovuta nthawi zonse ndipo umatenga ntchito yambiri. Koma siziyenera kubweretsa kuzunza akazi ndi mavuto kuchokera ku mbali ya omwe akuyenera kuteteza anzawo kuti asavulazidwe. Kwa ambiri, kusintha ndikotheka, mothandizidwa ndi akatswiri komanso chitsogozo, ndipo maukwati ambiri amadziwika kuti amasangalala atapeza.