Zamkati
- Mkazi wokonda - chilichonse chachikondi
- Momwe mungapangire kuti mkazi agwe mchikondi
- Akazi muzolemba zachikondi
Ngakhale titanena zochuluka motani kuti sitidzakondananso kapena tikhoza kuyesetsa kuti tisakondane - zimachitikabe.
Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa chikondi ndichotengeka, kutengeka kwamphamvu kwambiri komwe tingakhale nako kumva chisoni, ngakhale titayesetsa motani kuti tisakondane - pamapeto pake timatero.
Kumvetsetsa azimayi mchikondi ndizovuta komanso zosavuta nthawi imodzi. Kuti timvetse bwino momwe akazi, amagwera mchikondi, choyamba tiyenera kumvetsetsa momwe tingawapangitse kuti ayambe kukondana poyamba.
Mkazi wokonda - chilichonse chachikondi
Kodi mudakondanapo? Kodi akazi amakondana motani?
Akatswiri amanena kuti umagwirira wa ubongo wathu limodzi ndi mankhwala ofunikira kwambiri m'thupi lathu amatenga gawo lofunikira pakukondana.
Tiyeni timvetsetse momwe mankhwalawa amatithandizira kuti tizikondana.
- Dopamine - Ndi mankhwala omwe ubongo wathu umatulutsa tikamakhala achimwemwe kapena osangalala. Ichi ndichifukwa chake munthu yemwe amatipangitsa kuseka komanso kukhala achimwemwe, amathanso kutipangitsa kukondana.
- Testosterone - Kuwonjezeka kwa dopamine kumayambitsanso testosterone. Tonsefe titha kudziwa mankhwala awa ngati mahomoni ogonana amuna kapena akazi koma ngakhale azimayi amawamasula ndikuwapangitsa kuti azikhala ndi chilakolako chogonana - chomwe chimakopa chidwi chomwe akazi amakhala nacho kwa wina.
- Norepinephrine ndi Phenylethylamine - Kupita patsogolo, amayi omwe ali mchikondi adzakhala ndi norepinephrine ndi phenylethylamine m'makina awo omwe amawapatsa kumverera kwa "matsenga" mu maubale awo.
- Oxytocin - Izi zidzakupangitsani kusindikiza chikondicho chifukwa chimapangitsa kuti amayi azimverera ndipo, mwanjira ina, azimayi amakhala omangika kuposa amuna momwe akazi amapangira oxytocin kuposa amuna. Ichi ndichifukwa chake azimayi nthawi zambiri amakondana mwachangu kuposa amuna.
Palibe amene ayenera kunyoza akazi mwachikondi chifukwa mungadabwe kudziwa momwe angaperekere ndalama chifukwa chongokondana komanso kukhala mchikondi.
Tawona nkhani zambiri za azimayi akuchita chilichonse mwachikondi ngakhale zitakhala zosamveka konse, ngakhale zingawoneke ngati akugwiritsidwa ntchito - amakhulupirirabe kuti ndi chikondi chenicheni.
Kodi mungafikire pati mpaka pomenyera nkhondo munthu amene mumamukonda?
Momwe mungapangire kuti mkazi agwe mchikondi
Momwe akazi amakondera zimadalira pazifukwa zambiri.
Kodi mungakumbukire nthawi yoyamba yomwe mudakondana ndipo ndichifukwa chiyani mudakondera munthu wapadera ameneyu?
Tonse tili ndi zofunikira zathu za omwe timakopeka naye koma chowonadi ndichakuti, simungadziwe yemwe mudzakondane naye komanso kuti zidzachitika liti - timangochita.
Ngakhale, azimayi omwe ali mchikondi amayamba bwanji kugwa? Kodi mungatani kuti dona ayambe kukukondani?
- Khalani owona mtima - Momwe mungapangire kuti akazi azikukondani? Khalani owona mtima! Palibe chomenya icho. Ambiri adzakhala okongola komanso okongola, koma si onse omwe angakhale ndi zolinga zabwino. Kukopa kumatha kutengera chidwi cha mkazi koma kuwona mtima kumamupangitsa.
- Khalani oseketsa - Tonsefe timadziwa momwe akazi amakonda amuna owoneka bwino komanso otentha, koma kodi mumadziwa kuti munthu woseketsa amathanso kukhala wokongola? Mungadabwe kudziwa kuti ndi angati omwe adakondana ndi mnyamata woseketsa.
- Mtengeni ngati mfumukazi - Amayi achikondi amakhalabe ndi mwana wamkazi wamwamuna wamtunduwu, chifukwa chake onetsetsani kuti mumamuchitira bwino. Khalani aulemu komanso mumusamalire ngati iye ndi chokongoletsera chabwino ndipo onetsetsani kuti ngakhale mutakhala kale mchaka chanu choyamba kapena chachiwiri, mukugwirizana ndi zomwe mumachita.
- Khalani oteteza - Amayi ambiri amakhala odziyimira pawokha. Sangachitire mwina koma kugwera munthu amene amateteza ndikuwapangitsa kumva kuti ndiwofunika kwambiri padziko lapansi. Ngakhale akazi awa akhale olimba komanso odziyimira pawokha, nthawi zonse amakhala ndi malo ofewa kwa anyamata oteteza.
- Khalani abwino pabedi - Makhalidwe ena onse ndiofunikira kuti mkazi azikukondani, koma musaiwale kukhala akulu pabedi. Pangani zochitika zake zosaiwalika ndipo alakalaka zochulukirapo!
- Khalani ndiudindo - Zachidziwikire, kukondana ndikwabwino koma musaiwale kuti chitetezo ndichofunikanso. Ngati mukufuna kukhala moyo wanu ndi iye, khalani odalirika ndikuwonetsetsa kuti musasinthe. Akazi masiku ano, ngakhale ali mchikondi amakhalanso ndi zofunikira kwambiri ndipo sangakwanitse kukhala amuna osasamala.
- Khalani okhulupirika - Sitiyeneranso kufotokoza izi mopitilira. Amayi achikondi amayembekezera amuna awo kukhala okhulupirika. Palibe zifukwa zabodza!
Akazi muzolemba zachikondi
Mkazi wachikondi amatha kusuntha mapiri ndipo amatha kufalikira ngati duwa lofiira. Kugawana ena mwa akazi okongola kwambiri pamalingaliro azachikondi.
"Sukonda munthu chifukwa ali wangwiro, umamukonda ngakhale kuti sali wangwiro."
- Jodi Picoult, Mlongo Wanga Wosunga
Mukapeza chikondi, mumazindikira kuti sizokhudza ungwiro. Sikuti iye ali ndi thupi labwino, nkhope yokongola kapena thumba la mafuta. Mumangomukonda munthuyu chifukwa ndi momwe alili.
“Palibe nthawi kapena malo achikondi chenicheni. Zimangochitika mwangozi, kugunda kwamtima, munthawi yochepa, yopumula. ”
'' - Sarah Dessen, Zoona Zamuyaya
Ngakhale mutakonzekera kukonda munthu wina mutakwanitsa zaka zinazake kapena kukonzekera kukondana ndi munthu amene mukufuna chifukwa cha mikhalidwe yake, ndiye kuti mumapezeka kuti mukukonda munthu amene simungamukayikire komanso nthawi yosayembekezereka kwambiri.
Zolinga zanu, malingaliro anu komanso malingaliro anu adzakuperekani mukapeza "imodzi".
"Ukudziwa kuti umakondana pomwe sungagone chifukwa zenizeni zimakhala bwino kuposa zomwe umalota."
- Dr. Seuss
Pomaliza, mukudziwa kuti mukukondana pamene simutha kugona chifukwa cha chikondi chachikulu komanso chisangalalo chomwe muli nacho. Kudzuka kumabweretsa kumwetulira pankhope panu - kowala komanso kokonzeka kukakumana tsiku lina.
Ngati mungadzawone akazi ena ali mchikondi - sangalalani nawo chifukwa adatha kupeza wina yemwe amawapangitsa kukhala omasuka komanso osangalala.