Zamkati
- 1. Fufuzani othandizira omwe amayang'ana kwambiri chithandizo cha "maanja"
- 2. Sankhani wodwalayo ndi njira yoyenera
- 3. Pitani kuchipatala kwa omwe angakwanitse
- 4. Funani wothandizira ndi njira zomwe mumavomereza
- 5. Pezani wothandizira amene akugwirizana ndi mfundo zanu
- 6. Sankhani wothandizira yemwe amadziwika ndi mabungwe ena
- 7. Mankhwala apabanja pa intaneti
Chifukwa chake inu ndi wokondedwa wanu mwaganiza zopita kuchipatala.
Komabe, simukudziwa komwe mungapeze omwe angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi mavuto aubwenzi wanu. Musadandaule kenanso! Lero, ndikuthandizani kupeza njira zabwino zothandizirana ndi mabanja zomwe mungabwezeretse ubale wawo.
Nawu mndandanda wazinthu zomwe muyenera kuganizira mukamafunafuna mlangizi wabwino wamaubwenzi kapena othandizira maanja.
1. Fufuzani othandizira omwe amayang'ana kwambiri chithandizo cha "maanja"
Katswiri wazabanja wabwino kwambiri ali ndi ukadaulo wawo komanso ukatswiri wawo.
Ngakhale ena mwa akatswiriwa amaganizira zothana ndi wodwala aliyense payekha, pali othandizira maubwenzi omwe amayang'ana kwambiri maanja ngati makasitomala okha.
Mungafune kupita kumisonkhano yothandizirana ndi munthu yemwe amadziwa zambiri zamphamvu zakubanja komanso njira zothetsera kusamvana.
Mufunikira chitsogozo kuchokera kwa katswiri wodziwa zambiri paupangiri. Chithandizo chamunthu payekha ndi chosiyana ndi chithandizo cha maanja, choncho ndibwino kupita kuchipatala chomwe chingakhudze zosowa za mnzanu.
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2. Sankhani wodwalayo ndi njira yoyenera
Chithandizo chogwiritsa ntchito maanja chatsimikizira kuti ndichothandiza kwambiri kuposa njira yothandizirana ndi matenda amisala. Ndiye kodi chithandizo chothandizidwa ndi maanja chimatanthauzanji?
Njira imeneyi ndi yogwiritsa ntchito njira zomwe mabanja ena amagwiritsa ntchito mofanana ndi momwe zinthu zilili kwa inu.EFT ndi njira imodzi yotchuka komanso yothandiza yomwe ndiyofunika kuyesa.
Apanso, zimadalira momwe zinthu ziliri, kukula kwa vutoli, chifukwa chomwe mumafunira chithandizo maanja poyambilira.
3. Pitani kuchipatala kwa omwe angakwanitse
Ngati mukuyang'ana njira zabwino zothandizira maanja, muyenera kukhala okonzeka kulipira ndalama zenizeni. Othandizira ambiri amalipiritsa pa ora, ndipo zimatengera nthawi yayitali.
Mtengo umasiyananso kuchokera kwa othandizira kupita kwa othandizira kutengera mtundu wawo wamaphunziro, masitifiketi, ndi maphunziro omwe akwaniritsidwa.
Simuyenera kuchita kutenga ntchito yotsika mtengo kwambiri yomwe ilipo. Muyenera kukumbukira kuti zomwe mukusowa ndi chithandizo chabwino kwambiri chamankhwala choyenera nthawi ndi ndalama zanu.
4. Funani wothandizira ndi njira zomwe mumavomereza
Si onse othandizira omwe ali ndi njira imodzi yothandizira. Ena agwiritsa ntchito njira zosayenerana ndi njira zoyeserera kuti awone ngati angathe kugwira ntchito ngakhale pamaubale osavomerezeka.
Ngati simumva bwino ndi njira zamankhwala, muyenera kupeza ina yomwe mumakhala yosavuta komanso yotetezeka nayo.
Ngakhale wothandiziridwayo akuti ndiye wabwino kwambiri mtawuniyi, sizothandiza kuti mudzikakamize kuti muvomereze njirazi.
Kumbukirani, Kupambana kwa mankhwala kumadalira momwe mungakhalire ofunitsitsa kutenga nawo gawo pazomwe adapangira.
5. Pezani wothandizira amene akugwirizana ndi mfundo zanu
Maanja nthawi zambiri amabwera kuchipatala ngati njira yawo yomaliza yopewa chisudzulo.
Chodabwitsa ndichakuti ambiri azachipatala amakhulupirira kuti chisudzulo sichabwino kwenikweni, zomwe zimakhala zowona nthawi zina kukhala zachilungamo.
Komabe, ngati inu, monga banja, muli olimba mtima pachikhulupiriro chanu chakuti chisudzulo sichotheka, mungafune kupita kwa wothandizira yemwe amatsatira mfundo zomwezo.
Pali chifukwa chomwe othandizira omwe amatsutsana ndi kusudzulana ali bwino kuposa omwe amangokhala pampanda pankhaniyi.
Choyamba, chisudzulo ndi chovuta kwambiri kukonza mwamalingaliro, mwalamulo, komanso mwachuma osati kwa onse awiri komanso kwa ana awo, ngati alipo.
Kafukufuku wambiri watsimikizira kuti ana omwe makolo awo amathetsa banja amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi kupatukana kwa makolo awo ndikuti izi zitha kutengera zomwe amakula atakula.
Chachiwiri, kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti maukwati amakumana ndi zisangalalo zosintha pakapita nthawi. Izi zikuwonetsa kuti kugunda cholakwika muubwenzi wanu sizitanthauza kuti ndi mathero a nonse.
6. Sankhani wothandizira yemwe amadziwika ndi mabungwe ena
AAMFT kapena American Association for Marriage and Family Therapists ndi bungwe lopangidwa ndi othandizira omwe amadzipereka kwambiri kwa upangiri wa maanja ndi maanja.
Wothandizira yemwe ali m'gulu lino ndi amene adachita maphunziro okhwima, kutsatira zomwe zasankhidwa, ndikuyang'aniridwa ndi wochita ukwati. Ndi bungwe lapadziko lonse lapansi lomwe lili ndi mamembala oposa 50,000 padziko lonse lapansi.
Wothandizira amakhalanso wabwino ngati angalembetse ku AASECT kapena The American Association for Sex Educators, Counsellors, and Therapists.
Monga AAMFT, othandizira omwe amadziwika ndi bungweli adalandira chiphaso cha board ataphunzitsidwa mwakhama, kupeza chidziwitso choyang'aniridwa, ndikuwonetsa machitidwe oyenera.
7. Mankhwala apabanja pa intaneti
Mwinanso mungafune kuganizira zamankhwala othandizira pa intaneti. Inde zilipo.
Izi ndizabwino kwa maanja omwe nthawi zonse amasowa pamasom'pamaso chifukwa chaulendo wakuntchito kapena kutanganidwa kwambiri. Zimakhalanso zosavuta kwa makasitomala kuti athetse ngati chinthu china chosayembekezereka chikubwera.
Mutha kupezeka pamisonkhano yapaintaneti kulikonse komwe mungakhale muli ndi intaneti yolimba komanso kamera yogwira ntchito pa kompyuta, foni, kapena piritsi.
Othandizira othandizira pa intaneti ndikuti simukuyenera kulumikizana ndi gulu linalo. Izi zitha kupanga kusiyana kwakukulu pakukambirana, chifukwa cha zomwe sizikupezeka komanso zolepheretsa kulumikizana.
Zochita zanu ndizochepa kwambiri ngati mungokumana pa intaneti.
Komabe, ndibwino kukhala ndi mwayiwu m'malo mongopita kuchipatala chifukwa mulibe nthawi yoyendetsa kupita kuchipatala ndikukhala pansi ndi othandizira ola limodzi lathunthu.
Njira zabwino kwambiri zothandizira maanja kwa inu ndi mnzanu mwina sizingakhale pamndandanda wakomweko, chifukwa chake muyenera kusanthula pang'ono kuposa ma mile 30.
Popeza maupangiri onse omwe atchulidwa pamwambapa, ndikutsimikiza kuti mupeza wothandizayo yemwe akukuyenerani. Kumbukirani, kusankha kwamankhwala ndi chimodzi mwazomwe zimasankha pazotsatira zaubwenzi wanu.