Zamkati
- Zoona zake ndizosiyana
- 1. Yambani ndi kukonza zakukondana kwanu
- 2. Yesetsani kugonana
- 3. Khalani olimba mtima komanso omasuka mthupi lanu
- 4. Sindikudziwa momwe mungayambire? Pitani kuchipatala
- 5. Pogonana kwambiri, osanyamula mkwiyo kupita kuchipinda
Anthu ambiri okwatirana amadabwa akamva kuti kugonana kotentha sichinthu chomwe chimabwera mwachilengedwe anthu okwatirana akakwatirana. Kupatula apo, makanema ndi makanema apawailesi yakanema amatiwonetsa mndandanda wazithunzi zogonana, pomwe mwamuna ndi mkazi wake amagona, nthawi yomweyo amayamba kupanga zopanga zapamwamba, kukhutitsana munthawi yomweyo (m'mphindi zisanu, pamwamba), kenako kukumbatirana ndi kunong'onezana mawu ofewa achikondi mpaka usiku.
Zoona zake ndizosiyana
Kugonana kwabwino sikwabadwa nako ndipo tiyenera kuzindikira kuti "aliyense akuchita bwino kuposa ife." Kugwirizana kwanthawi yomweyo komanso kuyandikira ndizosatheka; izi zimatenga nthawi kuti zimange pakati pa anthu awiri. Kodi ndi njira zina ziti zomwe zingapangitse kuti okwatirana azisangalala?
1. Yambani ndi kukonza zakukondana kwanu
Pano pali chowonadi chamoyo: kugonana kwakukulu kumapangidwa ndi zinthu ziwiri: kukondana NDI kugonana. Ngati pali m'modzi yekha mwaomwe alipo, kugonana sikukutengerani ku paradiso, kapena kukhala kosakumbukika.
Kodi timatanthauza chiyani tikamakondana? Kukondana kwamaganizidwe ndikumva kuti mumamudziwa bwino mnzanu: mantha ake onse, kufooka, zilakolako, kuwopsa, zopweteka zakale komanso zisangalalo zomwe zilipo. Ndikumverera kuti mnzanu ndiye pogona panu pomwe moyo umakuponyerani mpira kapena ziwiri. Ndikumverera kuti mukakhala ndi mnzanu, mumakhala "kunyumba"
Kodi tingakulitse bwanji kulumikizana kwathu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wathu kuti tigonane bwino?
Pali njira zambiri zokulitsira ubale womwe muli nawo ndi mnzanu. Yambani ndi kuyankhulana wina ndi mnzake m'njira yopindulitsa kamodzi patsiku. Izi zikutanthauza kuyankhulana kwabwino, kochokera pansi pamtima popanda zosokoneza: palibe foni, palibe pc, palibe wailesi yakanema kapena piritsi mu dzanja limodzi pomwe mumamvera mwamunayo kwa amuna anu kwinaku mukuyang'ana pazenera. Imeneyo si njira yabwino yolumikizirana naye ndipo sachita chilichonse cholimbikitsa kukondana.
Kuphatikiza pakukambirana moona ndi amuna anu, kukondana kwamaganizidwe kumatha kulimbikitsidwa chifukwa chocheza limodzi kuchita zomwe inu nonse mumakondwera kuphunzira. Uwu ukhoza kukhala masewera atsopano, kapena kalasi yamaphunziro aanthu achikulire, kapena china chobwezeretsa monga kutikita minofu kapena yoga. Kulimbana ndi malingaliro ndi thupi lanu muzochita zomwe zingakhudze nonse mwachilengedwe kumalimbitsa malingaliro anu.
2. Yesetsani kugonana
Chifukwa chake kuyandikira kwanu kumakula tsiku lililonse. Tiyeni titenge izi ndikuyamba kuyang'ana kwambiri pakusangalala ndi moyo wanu wogonana.
3. Khalani olimba mtima komanso omasuka mthupi lanu
Landirani thupi lanu, pomwe lili pompano, ndipo zindikirani momwe limakusungirani mokhulupirika tsiku lililonse. Dzikumbutseni kuti amuna anu amakonda thupi lanu ndipo amasangalala nalo. Inunso muyenera kutero! Ngati mukugwirabe ntchito yodzikonda nokha, ndikuchita manyazi pang'ono mukamayang'ana pagalasi ndikuwona kuti mukulemera, kapena simukukonda ntchafu kapena mimba, musadandaule!
Amayi ambiri amadziwa chinsinsi chosangalatsa amuna awo, ndikuphimba zomwe zimawalepheretsa kumasuka pabedi: zovala zamkati. Ngati mukuda nkhawa ndi mimba yanu, valani kamiso kabwino. Ntchafu pang'ono jiggly? Nanga bwanji masokosi ena ndi lamba wa garter? Mudzamva bwino; amuna anu amaganiza kuti ndinu otentha kuposa kale. Zonsezi zimakupatsani mwayi wodziwonetsera nokha ndi zokhumba zanu momasuka mchipinda chogona, kukulitsa kukhutitsidwa kwanu pakugonana.
4. Sindikudziwa momwe mungayambire? Pitani kuchipatala
Ngati muli ndi mafunso okhudzana ndi chisangalalo chogonana komanso chifukwa chiyani, yambani ndi wochita zachiwerewere. Osadikirira mpaka inu ndi amuna anu mutayamba kukhumudwa chifukwa chakusazindikira zazing'onoting'ono kapena mabacteria owopsa. Magawo angapo ndi othandizira azakugonana atha kukhala othandiza kwambiri ndikukutsegulirani kuti mufufuze zamakhalidwe anu opanda manyazi kapena kuzengereza.
Ngati simungapeze wothandizira kugonana, pali mabuku ndi masamba ambiri omwe angakhale othandiza. Tengani nthawi yanu powerenga zopereka zonse ndikuwona zomwe zikusangalatsa kwa inu. Gawani izi ndi amuna anu ndikufunsani zomwe zimawakomera.
Khalani okonzeka kulandira malingaliro akale, monga zoseweretsa zogonana komanso maliseche. Kudzikondweretsa nokha ndi njira yabwino yophunzirira zomwe mumakonda, pamtundu wanji komanso mwamphamvu. Muthanso kutenga nawo amuna anu pochita izi. (Adzachikonda, tikhulupirireni!). Zoseweretsa zakugonana zitha kuthandizanso kukuthandizani kuti muzisangalala ndi kugonana popeza zimatha kukupatsani chilimbikitso chomwe mwina simunakhalepo nacho kale, kukuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi vuto losavuta. Kumbukirani: palibe manyazi pamenepa, ndipo machitidwe onse ogwirizana ndikupereka zosangalatsa ndi machitidwe abwino!
5. Pogonana kwambiri, osanyamula mkwiyo kupita kuchipinda
Ndizovuta, mwinanso zosatheka, kusangalala ndi kugonana ndi amuna anu ngati muli ndi mkwiyo kapena mkwiyo kwa iye. Maganizo awiriwa atha kukhala gawo laimfa pa moyo wanu wogonana. Chifukwa chake ngati pali zovuta zomwe mukukambirana, kambiranani momasuka ndi amuna anu. Yesetsani kuthetsa mavutowa kuti inu ndi iye muzitha kutenga nawo mbali popanga zachikondi popanda kukwiya.
Kupanga chikondi kosangalatsa kumaphatikizapo kulekerera pang'ono, ndipo mukufuna kutero kwathunthu komanso mofunitsitsa. Mukakagona mwakachetechete mopenga chifukwa aiwala kutenga zobwezeretsedwazo kumtunda, ziyaninso modekha kuti mutha kuyang'ana kwambiri pazinthu zosangalatsa monga kugonana!