Zamkati
- Dziwani zomwe mukanene
- Mfundo zazikuluzikulu kupsinjika
- Chitani zonsezi pamodzi
- Yembekezerani machitidwe osiyanasiyana
- Ndikulankhulana kosalekeza
Kulankhula ndi ana anu za chisudzulo atha kukhala amodzi mwamakalata ovuta kwambiri m'moyo wanu. Ndizovuta kwambiri kuti mwasankha kusudzulana ndi ana, kenako mumayenera kufotokozera nkhaniyo kwa ana anu osalakwa.
Zotsatira zakusudzulana kwa mwana wakhanda zitha kukhala zopweteka kwambiri, ngakhale mungaganize kuti kusudzulana ndi ana ang'ono kungakhale kosavuta kuthana nawo chifukwa sangafune kufotokozera.
Koma, pamakhala vuto pankhani yothetsa banja ndi ana ang'onoang'ono. Adzakumana ndi zambiri, komabe sangathe kufotokozera kapena kufunsa mayankho pakusintha kosafunikira pamoyo wawo.
Chomaliza chomwe mukufuna kuchita ndikupweteketsa ana anu, koma mosalephera chisudzulo ndi mwana wamng'ono kapena chisudzulo ndi ana achichepere chikhala chopweteka kwambiri kwa nonsenu.
Chifukwa chake, momwe mumachitira ndi chisudzulo ndi ana, polankhula mozindikira ndi ana anu za chisudzulo, zitha kupanga kusiyana konse, ndipo ndikofunikira kuyambiranso kukonzekera musanalalikire nkhaniyo kwa iwo.
Nkhaniyi ikufotokoza malangizo amomwe mungalankhulire ndi ana za chisudzulo komanso njira zina zoyankhulirana ndi ana anu zosudzulana.
Malangizo awa akhoza kukupulumutsani mukamayankhula ndi ana za chisudzulo komanso kuthandiza ana mwanzeru kusudzulana
Dziwani zomwe mukanene
Dziwani zomwe mukanene musanalankhule ndi ana anu za chisudzulo.
Ngakhale kudzipereka ndi ubwino wabwino kukhala nawo, pali nthawi zina pomwe kuli bwino kukhala ndi malingaliro anu momveka bwino - ndikuwuza ana anu za chisudzulo ndi nthawi yotere.
Mukamafunsa momwe mungauzire ana za chisudzulo, khalani pansi musanaganize kuti mudzanena chiyani ndi momwe munganene. Lembani ngati kuli kofunikira, ndipo muziwerenga kanthawi kochepa.
Sungani mwachidule, mophweka, komanso molunjika pankhani yokhudza ana ndi chisudzulo. Pasakhale chisokonezo kapena kukayika pazomwe mukunena.
Mosasamala zaka za ana anu, akuyenera kuti azimvetsetsa uthengawo.
Mfundo zazikuluzikulu kupsinjika
Kutengera ndi momwe zinthu ziliri kwa inu, zomwe ana amachita pakutha kwa banja pazaka zimasiyana. Mwina angakhale akuyembekeza uthengawu, kapena atha kubwera kwathunthu.
Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, zodabwitsa zina sizingapeweke pankhani ya ana ndi chisudzulo, ndikulankhula ndi ana anu za chisudzulo.
Mafunso ena ndi mantha atsimikiza kuti angachitike osayitanidwa m'malingaliro awo. Chifukwa chake mutha kuthandizira kuthana ndi izi mwa kutsindika izi:
- Tonsefe timakukondani kwambiri: Mwana wanu angaganize kuti chifukwa chakuti munasiya kukondana, simumakondanso ana anu. Atsimikizireni mobwerezabwereza kuti sizili choncho ndipo palibe chomwe chidzasinthe chikondi chanu cha makolo kapena kuti mudzakhalabe nawo nthawi zonse.
- Tidzakhala makolo anu nthawi zonse: Ngakhale simudzakhalanso mwamuna ndi mkazi, mudzakhala amayi ndi abambo a ana anu nthawi zonse.
- Palibe vuto lanu ili: Mwachibadwa ana amakhala ndi liwongo pa chisudzulocho, akumalingalira kuti ayenera kukhala atachitapo kanthu kusokoneza banja.
Uku ndikulakwa kwabodza kwakukulu, komwe kumatha kubweretsa mavuto osaneneka mtsogolo ngati sikudaphukire. Chifukwa chake tsimikizirani ana anu kuti ichi ndi chisankho cha achikulire, lomwe silili vuto lawo konse.
- Tidakali banja: Ngakhale zinthu zisintha, ndipo ana anu adzakhala ndi nyumba ziwiri zosiyana, izi sizisintha kuti mukadali banja.
Chitani zonsezi pamodzi
Ngati kuli kotheka, ndibwino kukambirana ndi ana anu za chisudzulo limodzi kuti athe kuwona kuti amayi ndi abambo apanga chisankhochi, ndipo akuwawonetsa ngati mgwirizano.
Chifukwa chake, mungauze bwanji ana za chisudzulo?
Ngati muli ndi ana awiri kapena kupitilira apo, sankhani nthawi yoti mutha kukhala nawo pansi onse ndi kuwauza onse nthawi imodzi.
Pambuyo pake, mukamayankhula ndi ana anu za chisudzulo, kungakhale kofunika kuthera nthawi imodzi kuti mumve zambiri za ana omwe angafunike kutero.
Koma kulumikizana koyambirira kuyenera kuphatikiza ana onse kuti apewe vuto lililonse kwa iwo omwe amadziwa ndikuyenera kusunga 'chinsinsi' kwa iwo omwe sakudziwa panobe.
Yembekezerani machitidwe osiyanasiyana
Mukayamba kulankhula ndi ana anu za chisudzulo, mutha kuyembekezera kuti ana anu azisiyanasiyana.
Izi zimadalira kwambiri umunthu wa mwanayo komanso mkhalidwe wanu komanso zomwe zatsogolera pakupanga chisankho. Chodziwikiratu cha zomwe angachite malinga ndi msinkhu wawo:
- Kubadwa kwa zaka zisanu
Mwana akadali wamng'ono, sadzatha kumvetsetsa tanthauzo la chisudzulo. Chifukwa chake mukamayankhulana ndi ana asukulu yasekondale, muyenera kuyankha mosapita m'mbali komanso momveka bwino.
Izi zikuphatikiza zowona za kholo lomwe likusamuka, ndani aziyang'anira mwanayo, komwe mwana azikhala, komanso kuti awona kholo linalo kangati. Pitirizani kuyankha mafunso awo ndi mayankho achidule omveka bwino.
- Zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi mpaka zisanu ndi zitatu
Ana pa msinkhuwu ayamba kukhala ndi luso loganiza ndi kulankhula zakukhosi kwawo komabe, ali ndi kuthekera kochepa kokwanira kumvetsetsa zovuta monga chisudzulo.
Ndikofunikira kuyesa kuwathandiza kumvetsetsa ndikupitiliza kuyankha mafunso aliwonse omwe angakhale nawo.
- Zaka zisanu ndi zinayi mpaka khumi ndi chimodzi
Momwe luso lawo lazidziwitso likukula, ana am'badwo uno amatha kuwona zinthu zakuda ndi zoyera, zomwe zitha kupangitsa kuti awapatse mlandu wosudzulana.
Njira yosalunjika ingafunike kuti awafotokozere zakukhosi kwawo. Nthawi zina zingakhale zothandiza kuti ana a msinkhu uwu awerenge mabuku osavuta okhudza chisudzulo.
- Khumi ndi ziwiri mpaka khumi ndi zinayi
Achinyamata ali ndi kuthekera kokulirapo kokhoza kumvetsetsa nkhani zokhudzana ndi chisudzulo chanu. Adzatha kufunsa mafunso ozama ndikukambirana nawo mozama.
Pamsinkhu uwu, ndikofunikira kuti kulumikizana kutseguke. Ngakhale nthawi zina angawoneke ngati akupandukira komanso amakwiya ndi iwe, amafunabe kwambiri ndipo amafuna ubale wapamtima ndi iwe.
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Ndikulankhulana kosalekeza
Simungapitilize kulingalira zakomwe mungauze ana anu kuti musudzulana kapena momwe mungakonzekeretse mwana wanu kusudzulana, chifukwa nthawi zambiri amalankhula ndi ana za chisudzulo chochitika kamodzi.
Chifukwa chake, muyenera kuthana ndi mantha oti mungauze ana za chisudzulo kapena kuuza achinyamata za chisudzulo ndikudzikonzekeretsani kuthana ndi moyo wanu wonse.
Kulankhula ndi ana anu za chisudzulo ndikulankhulana kosalekeza komwe kumafunikira kusintha malinga ndi mayendedwe a mwanayo.
Pamene akubwera ndi mafunso ena, kukayikira, kapena mantha, muyenera kukhalapo kuti muwalimbikitse nthawi zonse ndikuyesera kukhazikitsa malingaliro awo munjira iliyonse.