Zamkati
- 1. Kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa
- 2. Kusowa kwa malire
- 3. Kudzidalira kwambiri
- 4. Manyazi obisika
- 5. Kuopa kukhala wekha / kusiyidwa
Kufanana pakati panu ndi omwe mumakonda, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe amakulankhulani mochititsa chidwi kumakupangitsani kukopeka wina ndi mnzake. Kufanana uku kumathandiza kwambiri kuti musavutike. Pemphani kuti mupeze ndikuchitapo kanthu ngati mukukhala wokonda kucheza ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wonyenga. Mvetsetsani ngati mukupitilizabe kukhala pachibwenzi choopsa chotere chifukwa cha mantha, udindo, kudzidalira kapena manyazi.
Zofanana za Narcissist / Caretaker
1. Kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa
Chiyembekezo chofuna kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa chimagwira mosiyana mwa ma narcissists komanso osamalira. A Narcissist amakhulupirira kuti ndi angwiro ndipo aliyense owazungulira ayenera kukhala wangwiro, pomwe inu monga osamalira mumakhulupirira kuti muyenera kukhala angwiro ndipo ndiudindo wanu kupangitsa mnzanu kukhala wosangalala bwino. Malingana ngati mukukhulupirira kuti ndiudindo wanu kusamalira malingaliro a mnzanu wonyenga, zosowa ndi ziyembekezo zanu, mupitilizabe kupusitsidwa ndi wankhanza.
2. Kusowa kwa malire
Mutha kukhala ndi malire abwinobwino muubwenzi wina. Komabe, ndizotheka kuti mutha kugwa mwamgwirizano ndi wokondedwa wanu. Mukamva chikondi chachikulu ndikusamalira munthu wina, malire anu amatha. Simukuganiza kuti ndizachilendo kumva kuti mumizidwa mwa okondedwa anu. Mutha kukhulupirira kuti sikulakwa kunena "ayi" kapena "kudzikonda", kapena kumukhumudwitsa iye mwanjira iliyonse. Ngakhale mutafuna kukhazikitsa malire kapena kusagwirizana mutha kumva kuti ndinu olakwa potero.
3. Kudzidalira kwambiri
Inu ndi mnzanu mwina mumadzizindikira kuti mumadzidalira. A Narcissist amapondereza kudzidalira kwawo kwamkati kwambiri kwakuti samadziwa kuti kulipo. Atapanikizika, anthu ochita zachiwerewere amathedwa nzeru ndi malingaliro awo olakwika, amwano, ngakhale amkati amkati, ndipo amagwiritsa ntchito ukali ndi kuwanyengerera kuti athetse kudzidalira, kunyada, kapena kudzidalira.
Owasamalira amayesetsa kukhala opatsa komanso achikondi ndipo nthawi zambiri amadzidalira. Komabe, mukamakhala pachibwenzi ndi wankhanza, kudzidalira kwanu kumatha msanga mukamayesa ntchito yosatheka yoyesa kukondweretsana ndi mkazi wamiseche. Monga wosamalira, mukumva kuti muyenera kukhala ndi "kutsimikizira" kwa wamisili kuti muli ndi zolinga zabwino, muli ndi mtima wabwino, ndipo mukuyesetsa.
4. Manyazi obisika
Narcissists ndi osamalira nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi manyazi ambiri obisika. Kuyesera kukhala angwiro pomwe simukumva bwino kumabweretsa mavuto kwa onse awiri. A Narcissist amawonetsa manyazi akunja kwa ena ndikuwadzudzula, kuwanyoza, kuwayika pansi, ndi kuweruza. Osamalira makolo awo amayamba kudziona ngati akazi kapena amuna awo ali osasangalala kapena sakwiya. Ngati munaleredwa ndi kholo lokonda zachiwerewere kapena opondereza mumayamba kumva manyazi kwambiri. Ndipo mukakhala ndi narcissist, mukakhala ndi manyazi ambiri.
Alicia adaleredwa ndi mayi wokonda zachiwerewere yemwe amangomudzudzula ndikumugwetsa. Sanamve bwino, ngakhale atagwira ntchito zingati kapena akwanitsa bwanji. Chifukwa chake, mwamuna wake akakalipa ndikukwiya kuti kulibe ndalama zoti achite zomwe akufuna, amayamba kulakwa. Amayesetsa kuti amvetsere ndikukhazika mtima pansi, koma amagwa pomwe Matt amamuimba mlandu ndikumudzudzula.
5. Kuopa kukhala wekha / kusiyidwa
Onse ochita zachiwerewere komanso osamalira anzawo ali ndi mantha othetsa ubale wosagwirizana, wotsutsana. Kukhala wekha, kumatanthauza kuti simuli wokwanira kapena wokwanira. Kusiya kapena kulolera kuti wina achoke kumawonetsa kulephera kwakukulu, kochititsa manyazi kwa onse ochita zachiwerewere komanso osamalira.
David atha kukhala wokhumudwa komanso wokwiya ndimomwe Serena akuwonera kuti amugwiritsa ntchito, koma sakuganiza zothetsa chibwenzicho. M'malo mwake, amangokhalira kulankhula mawu onyoza za kusungitsa nyumba, kudandaula kuti amupatsa ndalama zambiri, ndikupitilizabe kumamupatsa maphikidwe - zonse zomwe amanyalanyaza. Koma watsimikiza mtima kuti amuthandize kuti achite zabwino. Amanyalanyaza zinthu izi chifukwa adaganiza kale kuti sadzamusiya. Koma amaonetsetsa kuti achita zokwanira kuti amulepheretse kupita kumapeto chifukwa palibe njira yomwe angafunire kubwerera kubanja lake mwamanyazi.
Kutenga komaliza
Narcissists ndi osamalira ali ndi kukankha / kukoka, chikondi / chidani, wapamwamba / otsika, kupambana / kutaya mtundu wa maginito Syciosis. Makhalidwe anu osiyana amalimbikitsana, ndipo kufanana kwanu kumakupangitsani kulumikizana. Mwalumikizana ndi mgwirizano, ngakhale nthawi zambiri umakhala wankhanza, ubale umangoyang'ana pa wankhanza. Mutha kudandaula za izo, koma mumalola chifukwa mumaona kuti muli ndi udindo, muli ndi udindo, ndipo nthawi zambiri mumachita mantha kuti musapite nawo.