Zamkati
- Simukulimbana ndi kapeti
- Wokondedwa wanu sangakwaniritse zolakwa zanu
- Nanga chimakhala chotani kuti tipeze mnzathu?
- Momwe mungasamalire kukangana kwaubwenzi
- Komwe matsenga amachitikira
- Momwe mungalimbanirane bwino ndi mnzanu
Sheryl ndi Harvey, kasitomala angapo adagawana nawo mkangano wawo waposachedwa kwambiri. Anakangana zoti asese kapena kupukuta kapeti yawo.
Sheryl adauza Harvey kuti, “Muyenera kupukuta kapeti kuti iyere. Palibe njira yoti mutha kuchotsa dothi lonse, fumbi ndikukhalanso ndi zowawa. ”
A Harvey adayankhanso poyankha, "Inde ndidzatero. Ndachita kafukufukuyu ndipo tsache ndi lokwanira kutulutsa dothi lokwanira, fumbi komanso fumbi kuti nyumba yathu ikhale yathanzi komanso fumbi ndi dothi lopanda kanthu. ”
Izi zidachitika mozungulira kangapo, aliyense mwamphamvu akutaya kafukufuku wawo kutsimikizira kuti mfundoyi ndi yolakalaka kuposa kale.
Simukulimbana ndi kapeti
Chomwe chiri ndichakuti, Harvey ndi Sheryl sanali kukangana za kapeti.
Ndipo iwo sanali ngakhale kudziwa izo. M'malo mwake, pafupifupi mikangano yonse yakuzama ilibe chochita ndi chilichonse chomwe banjali likuganiza kuti akukangana. Zotsutsanazo ndizokhudza kuwona ndikumveka ndi munthu amene mumamukonda kwambiri padziko lapansi.
Palibe chowopsa kapena chowopsa kuposa kumva kuti munthu amene mumamukonda sakukulandani kapena sakukuyenderani.
Kwa ambiri aife, mosazindikira, tikukhulupirira kuti munthu amene timusankhe kuti tikhale naye m'banja adzatipeza mosagwirizana ndikungotipeza. Chowonadi chomvetsa chisoni ndichakuti, satero, ndipo satero.
Chikondi chopanda malire, monga Erich Fromm, wolemba bukulo, "The Art of Loving" amangokhudza ubale wa mwana ndi kholo lokha. China chake chofananira ndi kukhanda.
Wokondedwa wanu sangakwaniritse zolakwa zanu
Muubwenzi wokondana kwambiri, gawo lirilonse la banjali limafunikira kudzikonda komanso kudzidalira.
Sangayembekezere kuti wokondedwa wawo apanga zolakwa zawo.
Izi sizikutanthauza kuti sitifunikirabe chifundo kapena kumva ngati mnzathu ali kumbali yathu, ngakhale sakugwirizana nafe.
Nanga chimakhala chotani kuti tipeze mnzathu?
Chimodzi mwazinthu zazikuluzikulu zomwe banjali limachita mantha ndikuti ataya ubale wawo.
Izi zimapangitsa kumva malingaliro a okondedwa awo kukhala owopsa, makamaka zikasemphana ndi zikhulupiriro zawo.
Zimatengera kulimbika mtima komanso kudalira kuti mumve kuti anzanu omwe mumawakonda samawona kuti mukuwononga nokha. Mukamakhala ndi nthawi yomvetsera momwe mnzanu akuwonera, wokondedwa wanu amamva kuti amakondedwa komanso amasamalidwa. Izi zimawapangitsa kufuna kuti nawonso abweretse zomwezo.
M'malo mwake, matsenga enieni amabwera pakumva malingaliro a mnzanu. Pamene aliyense wa inu amasinthana kumvera malingaliro a mnzake, ndipamenenso mudzakhoza kufika kumalo atsopano omvetsetsana ndikupanga mawonekedwe ena achitatu. Malingaliro awa atha kukhala okulirapo kuposa omwe mudayamba nawo.
Momwe mungasamalire kukangana kwaubwenzi
Pofuna kuthana ndi mavuto muubwenzi, tsatirani izi.
- Zindikirani kuti pali china chake chabodza pansi pazitsutsano zanu chomwe chimamveka chowawa kwambiri kuchipeza.
- Dzipatseni nthawi kuti mumve komwe ululu umakhala mkati mwanu.
- Dzipatseni nokha nthawi kuti muwone ngati ikukukumbutsani chilichonse.
- Lolani kuti mukhale osatetezeka ndikugawana izi ndi mnzanu. Ndikudziwa ndikupanga izi kukhala zosavuta, ndipo zitha kutero.
- Ndizovuta ndipo nthawi zina zimafuna thandizo kuchokera kwa munthu wina.
Njira imodzi yomwe kukangana kumathandizira ubale wanu ndikuti kumakupatsani mwayi wofotokozera zosowa zanu kwa wokondedwa wanu ndipo kumakuthandizani nonse kukula momwe mungathere kuzindikira chomwe chakhumudwitsacho.
Malingana ngati nonse mukukangana momangika pali mwayi wofika muzu wamavuto asanakule. Chifukwa chake, iyi ndi njira imodzi yowonera zokambirana muubwenzi ngati njira yopewa kuwonongeka kosatheka ndi mnzanu.
Komwe matsenga amachitikira
Pogwira ntchito ndi Sheryl ndi Harvey ndidatha kuwathandiza kuti adziwe zomwe zimapangitsa kuti kugawana nawo munjira yowopsa ndi kowopsa, kuti athe kuchita mogwirizana komanso mosatekeseka.
Sheryl adazindikira kuti amadziderera ndipo amadzimva kuti nzeru zake sizokwanira. Pamene adamenyera nkhondoyo. Zomwe amayesetsa kunena zinali, "Ndimvereni chifukwa ndiyenera kudzimva kuti ndine wanzeru."
Momwe mungalimbanirane bwino ndi mnzanu
Kumbukirani, muli mgulu lomwelo.
Harvey anali kunena china chosiyana kwambiri. Iliyonse idazolowera anthu kuwayamikira chifukwa cha luntha lawo. Akakangana za yemwe anali wolondola kapena wolakwa, zomwe amafuna ndikumva kuti ndi anzeru ndikuwoneka ndi amene amamukonda.
Mwina nawonso onse akufuna kuti nyumba yawo ikhale yaukhondo. Koma amasamala kwambiri zakumva kuti munthu wofunika kwambiri kwa iwo amamukonda.
Pamene Harvey adatha kuzindikira kuvutika kwa Sheryl ndikukhalapo pomwe amalira osamuweruza, adamva kupezeka kwake, komwe kumachiritsa kwambiri. Izi zidapangitsadi kusintha komwe onse amafunikira kuti amve kukondedwa.
Anthu okwatirana akaphunzira kuyankhula chilankhulo chofooka wina ndi mnzake, malingaliro awo olumikizana amakula kwambiri.
Amafuna kumva wina ndi mnzake ndikukhala okonzeka wina ndi mnzake. Apa ndipomwe nthawi zamatsenga zachikondi komanso zachikondi zimachitika. Ngakhale pakakhala kukangana pachibwenzi.
Ngati izi zikukuvutani, khalani omasuka kusiya mzere ndikudziwitseni momwe ndingakuthandizireni.