Zamkati
Monga othandizira awiri, ndimangomva abwenzi akufotokozerana kuti ndi okakamira, ozizira, okana, kapena nthawi zonse mdziko lawo. Zomwe akufotokoza sizikhalidwe zaumwini koma masitayilo ophatikizika omwe amapangidwa adakali ana ndikupitilizabe kusokoneza ubale wathu ndi akulu.
Momwe timagwirizanirana ndi anzathu, kaya tikufuna kuyanjana kapena kuyandikirana, momwe timatanganidwira ndi ubale wathu wapamtima komanso momwe timachitira kukanidwa ndizomwe zimatsimikizira masitayelo athu. Mwanjira ina, masitaelo ophatikizika ndi njira zathu zolumikizirana ndi anzathu apamtima. Ndi zotsatira za kulumikizana kwathu koyambirira kothandizidwa ndi makolo athu komanso kulumikizana ndi anzawo.
Kuphatikizika kumatha kukhala kotetezeka kapena kosatetezeka, kutengera mtundu wa ubale wathu ndi makolo athu pomwe tidali achichepere kwambiri. Mitundu ikuluikulu iwiri yolumikizira osatetezeka ndi nkhawa komanso kupewa. Zomwe ndimakonda kwambiri pakati pa maanja omwe akukumana ndi mavuto azibwenzi ndi mnzake wokhala ndi chizolowezi chodziphatikizira chophatikizika ndi mnzake yemwe amapewa.
Othandizana nawo omwe amapewa kuphatikizika nthawi zambiri amapeza kuti sangathe kupereka zomwe anzawo akufuna kuchokera kwa iwo monga kukondana, kuyandikana, kapena kukondana. Njira yopewera kuphatikizika ndikusinthasintha kwakunyalanyaza kwamakedzana kwa makolo komwe kumadziwonetsera ngati kufunikira kodziyimira pawokha komanso kudziyimira pawokha muubwenzi wapamtima wa achikulire.
Akakhumudwa, anzawo omwe akupewa amafunika kukhala okha nthawi yoti akhazikike mtima pansi ndipo amakhala ndi nkhawa pamitengo yawo. Komabe, samayang'ana mkati kuti apeze chomwe chikuyambitsa mavuto awo. Nthawi zambiri amati kupsinjika kwaubwenzi kumachokera kwa wokondedwa wawo kapena kunja.
Anthu omwe ali ndi malingaliro akuti kudalira nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa zokhumudwitsa ndipo ali ndi luso posamalira ena koma osadzidalira amakhala ndi mawonekedwe okonda nkhawa. Omwe ali ndi chidwi chodzidalira amatha kuzindikira kuti wokondedwa wawo ndiwodzikonda kapena wodzikonda ndipo amamverera kuti ali pachibwenzi chimodzi pomwe zosowa zawo sizikusamalidwa momwe amasamalirira wokondedwa wawo.
Amakonda kukhala ndi chidwi chofotokozera zakukhosi akakhala okhumudwa. Kulumikizana modetsa nkhawa ndikumasinthasintha kwachikondi ndi chidwi cha makolo. Ayeneranso kukhala tcheru nthawi zonse pazomwe zimawopseza chibwenzicho ndipo amakhala tcheru ngakhale pakusintha pang'ono kwakusintha kwa wokondedwa wawo kapena kusunthika kwa ubalewo.
Mantha, nkhawa & nkhawa zimangowatangwanitsa ndipo amakonda kudumphira kumapeto kwa ubale wawo mwachangu.
Momwe mungalankhulire ndi mnzanu yemwe ali ndi vuto lodziphatika?
Anthu omwe ali ndi mafashoni okhudzana ndi nkhawa nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi nkhawa zakumverera kwawo kukhala kolemetsa, ndipo zovuta zawo zazikulu kapena mantha amakhala kupatukana, kukhala okha & kutayidwa.
Ngati mnzanu ali ndi vuto lodziphatikizira, zitha kukhala zothandiza kwa inu kutsatira malangizowa kuthana ndi zovuta muubwenzi wanu wamavuto.
- Yang'anani maso ndi maso ndikuwonetsa kuti ndinu omvetsera, otenga nawo mbali komanso omvera mukamacheza.
- Onetsani chidwi / chidwi ndikufunsani mafunso.
- Perekani chilimbikitso mokha komanso mukalimbikitsidwa.
- Gawani zinthu za inu ndi momwe mukumvera- osadziwa momwe mukumvera kapena komwe zinthu zimasokonekera kwa mnzanu yemwe ali ndi nkhawa.
- Yesetsani kukonza / kukonza zinthu pakadali pano kapena mwachangu. Apatseni mnzanu mpata wolankhula zakukhosi kwawo.
Momwe mungalumikizirane ndi mnzanu
Anthu omwe ali ndi masitayelo odziletsa nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi nkhawa zakulowetsedwa kapena kudzimva kuti atsekerezedwa, ndipo zovuta zawo kapena mantha awo akuwadzudzula / kuwadzudzula kapena kuwamvera.
- Ngati mnzanu ali ndi njira yodzitchinjiriza, zingakhale zothandiza kwa inu kuti:
- Mverani zambiri ndikukambirana zochepa- ziganizo zingapo panthawi yomwe pali kusiyana pakati pomwe mnzanuyo angayankhe- mukufuna kuti zokambiranazo zikhale zokambirana osati za munthu mmodzi. Mukadzipeza muli monologue, ndiye kuti mwataya kale omvera anu (okondedwa).
- Mupatseni mnzanu nthawi yoti akambirane momwe akumvera / malingaliro- musakhale otanganidwa ndi mafunso anu kapena onetsetsani kuti mnzanuyo akufotokozereni momwe akumvera nthawi yomweyo.
- M'malo mwake, adziwitseni kuti akhoza kukufikirani mukakhala okonzeka kuyankhula.
- Yambitsani zokambiranazo ndi chiopsezo komanso malingaliro ochepera- kuyambitsa zokambirana ndi mkwiyo, kudzudzula, ndikudzudzula ndizopanda phindu Ikani malingaliro anu pambali mphindi kuti mulimbikitse mnzanu kuti amasuke kuti apange ubale wosatetezeka.
- Yesetsani kukonza / kukonza zinthu mwachangu. Osaphimba mnzanuyo ndi mavuto angapo omwe simunathe kuthana nawo - m'malo mwake tengani nkhani imodzi panthawi imodzi, yithetsani ndikupita ku ina.
Izi ndi zina mwa njira zothandiza kwambiri kuti kulumikizana kuthe bwino m'banja. Ngakhale mitundu yaziphatikizi ndizosiyanasiyana, kufunikira kwa kulumikizana muubwenzi sikungakhazikitsidwe mokwanira. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuthana ndi funsoli - momwe mungakonzere kulumikizana muubwenzi ndikukulitsa chikondi, chifundo, ndi kumverana chisoni.