Zamkati
- Kuopsezedwa ndi kukhulupirika kawiri
- Kusunga mtunda wathu
- Kufufuza njira yotetezeka
- Kupeza njira yathu
Ndinakumana ndi chikondi cha moyo wanga pomwe ndinakumananso ndi khumi ku sekondale mu 1975.
Vuto linali kuti ndinali ndi wokonda chinsinsi kale - Kudya Matenda (ED). Anali wokonda yemwe adanditengera banja langa loyamba; wokonda yemwe ndodo zake zokopa zinali zowopsa. Mosasamala za zoopsa, ndidathamangira kuubwenzi watsopanowu ndipo patatha chaka chimodzi, ine ndi Steven tidakwatirana.
Kuopsezedwa ndi kukhulupirika kawiri
Steven samadziwa kuti adakwatirana ndi munthu wokonda kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo - wina yemwe amamenyera komanso kutsuka pafupipafupi. Wina yemwe mwamunayo anali wokonda kugwiritsa ntchito singano pamlingo ngati barometer yake yokopa komanso yofunika. Ndili ndi ED (ndiko Kudya kwa Matenda, osati Erectile Dysfunction!) Ndi mbali yanga, ndimaganiza kuti ndapeza njira yochepetsera mphamvu, kudzidalira komanso kusasinthasintha. Ndi ku banja losangalala. Ndimadzinyenga ndekha.
Polephera kuthana ndi vuto la ED, ndidawonjezerapo kawiri kuti Steven asadziwe zachilendo zanga. Ndi nkhani yomwe sindingakambirane nayo — nkhondo yomwe sindingamulole kuti andithandize. Ndinkafuna Steven ngati mwamuna wanga. Osati wondilondera. Osati wankhondo mnzake wolimbana ndi mdani wanga wamkulu. Sindingathe kupanga ED kukhala wotsutsana muukwati wathu chifukwa ndimadziwa kuti ED akhoza kupambana.
Ndinkalimbana ndi tsiku lonse ndikumenya besi ndi kuyeretsa nthawi yamadzulo Steven atagona. Moyo wanga wapawiri udapitilira mpaka Tsiku la Valentine 2012. Kuopa kufera m'madzi omwe ndimasanza komanso kuwopa kuwonongeka kwa thupi langa pamapeto pake kunandipangitsa kuti ndisafunefune thandizo. Ndinayigwedeza koyera, patatha milungu itatu ndinayamba kulandira chithandizo chamankhwala kuchipatala kuchipatala cha matenda okhudzana ndi kudya.
Kusunga mtunda wathu
Sindinasambepo kuyambira tsiku losaiwalika la Valentine. Komanso sindinalole Steven kulowa ngakhale pamenepo. Ndinapitilizabe kumutsimikizira kuti iyi inali nkhondo yanga. Ndipo sindimafuna kuti atenge nawo mbali.
Komabe, ndidazindikira, monga momwe adadziwira, miyezi ingapo nditatulutsidwa kuchipatala, ndimamuyankha modekha, mosasamala kanthu za mutu wakukambirana. Kodi huleyu umachokera kuti?
"Mukudziwa," ndidatuluka tsiku lina, "Miyezi isanu ndi umodzi bambo anu ali ndi khansa ya kapamba, mumayang'anira maulendo onse a dokotala, mumayang'anira mankhwala ake a chemotherapy, mumasanthula malipoti ake onse a labu.Kumumenyera kwanu mwamphamvu kunali kosiyana kwambiri ndi machitidwe anu osakhazikika mukamalimbana ndi bulimia yanga, ”ndinatuluka mwaukali. “Yemwe amayenera kukhalako ine? Ndani amayenera kukhala nane nthawi yomwe ndinali wosuta komanso wokakamira?
Adadzidzimuka ndi mkwiyo wanga. Ndi chiweruzo changa. Koma sindinali. Kukwiya, kupsa mtima, ndi kusaleza mtima zinali kukula ngati namsongole wofala m'mimba mwanga.
Kufufuza njira yotetezeka
Pomwe tidakumanizana Loweruka lamvula kwamadzulo, tidavomereza mwamtendere kuti tonsefe tikufunika kudziwa chifukwa chomwe adaponyera mpirawo komanso chifukwa chomwe ndinali wofunitsitsa kumenya nkhondo yanga ndi ED ndekha. Kuzindikira momwe tingakhalire limodzi ndikuthana ndi zokhumudwitsa zathu zakale inali njira yanzeru kwambiri. Kodi tinali olimba mokwanira kufunafuna nzeru? Kukana mlandu? Kutaya madandaulo owawa?
Tinayamba kuyang'ana malasha a mkwiyo wathu.
Ndinavomereza lingaliro lakumveka bwino-kufunikira kokhala omveka pamawu anga-osati pazomwe sindinkafuna zokha, komanso momwe ndingakwaniritsire zomwe anachita ndikufuna. Ndinafotokozera Steven kuti sindimafuna kuti akhale woyang'anira wanga. Ndipo ndidagogomezera kuti ine anali Ankafuna kuti amuthandize komanso amusamalire, akhale ndi chidwi, adziwe za kudya kosasokonezeka, kuyankhula kwake ndi akatswiri ndikundipatsa zonse zomwe adazipeza komanso malingaliro ake. Awa anali mfundo zomwe ndinali ndisanafotokozepo mwachindunji. Ndipo ndidavomera ndikupepesa chifukwa chomutsekera pantchito yanga yonse yothandizidwa ndikuchira.
Adaphunzira kuti asanditengere kwenikweni. Adaphunzira kunyalanyaza zinsinsi zanga ndikufufuza kuti amveke. Anaphunzira kukhala wolimba pakukhulupirira kwake komwe udindo wake monga mwamunayo ndi womwe ali. Ndipo adaphunzira kupereka mokweza zomwe anali wofunitsitsa komanso osafuna kuchita, kuti, tonse pamodzi, titha kupanga pulani yothandiza.
Tidali ndi vuto loti tidazunzidwa ndi malingaliro athu olakwika. Tidali ndi zomwe tidalephera kufufuza ndikukhazikitsa milingo yovomerezeka yotenga nawo gawo yomwe timafunitsitsadi. Tidali ndi zomwe sitimatha kuwerenga malingaliro.
Kupeza njira yathu
Andikhululukira chifukwa chomuwuza kuti atuluke. Ndamukhululukira chifukwa chosakhudzidwa nawo. Ndipo talonjeza kuti tichititsa mantha athu kukanidwa komanso kusatetezeka kuti tilemekeze ndikufotokozera zakukhosi kwathu ndi zosowa zathu.