Zamkati
- Kupanga chibwenzi chakuya
- Kukwiya kosathetsedwa ndi wokondedwa wanu kumayambitsa chibwenzi
- Sinthani ubale wanu
- Kufunafuna thandizo kuti muwone chomwe chayambitsa kuyesayesa kwanu
- 1. Kutulutsidwa kwa oxytocin
- 2. Zimakukakamizani kuti mukhale pachibwenzi patsogolo
- 3. Kumalimbitsa chitetezo chathu cha mthupi
- 4. Kuwonjezeka kwa luso lolankhulana
- Chotsani midadada yolumikizirana
Pambuyo pa miyezi ingapo yoyambirira ya chibwenzi kwa anthu ambiri, chibwenzi chimamwalira mwachangu.
Sikwachilendo kwa anthu omwe ali pachibwenzi pachiyambi cha chibwenzi chawo, kuti apitilize kupitilira miyezi isanu ndi umodzi yoyambirira kapena kupitilira apo, zomwe zimabweretsa kuchepa kwaubwenzi.
Kwa zaka 28 zapitazi, wolemba, wogulitsa komanso wothandizira kwambiri David Essel wakhala akuthandiza anthu kuti azilumikizana kudzera muubwenzi, kugonana, komanso kulumikizana kuti apange ubale wabwino kwambiri.
Kupanga chibwenzi chakuya
Pansipa, David akutitsutsa, kuti tikhale ndiubwenzi wopitilira muyeso kuposa 99% ya anthu omwe adaganizapo zakuchita.
Ndimakumbukira umodzi mwa maubwenzi okhutiritsa kwambiri omwe ndidakhalapo nawo, anali ndi mayi yemwe amafuna kukhala pachibwenzi ndikugonana ndi ine monga momwe ndimachitira naye.
Titakhala pachibwenzi chaka chimodzi, zinali ngati tangokumana kumene. Izi zinali zosowa kwambiri, zapadera kwambiri, kotero kuti ndimafuna kugawana nawo uthenga wonena za ubale wamtunduwu umawoneka bwanji padziko lapansi.
Kotero ine ndinatero.
M'maphunziro aliwonse omwe ndidapereka, ndipo izi zikuyambiranso mzaka za m'ma 1990, ndidapeza njira yolongosolera momwe moyo wathu wapamtima udaliri wosangalatsa, komanso momwe zidatithandizira kumva kumvana pakati pathu tonse. Ndipo ngakhale chibwenzicho chinatha patadutsa zaka zingapo, kukumbukira kwanga nthawiyo sikunazime.
Zowonadi zake, zandipangitsa kulingalira za kukongola kwake kukhala ndi wina m'moyo wanu yemwe mumakonda tsiku lililonse la mwezi.
Kodi mwawerenga zomwe ndangonena? Zinali zamphamvu bwanji, kupanga zibwenzi ndi munthu tsiku lililonse la mwezi.
Kukwiya kosathetsedwa ndi wokondedwa wanu kumayambitsa chibwenzi
Tsopano, ngati muli pachibwenzi cholimbana izi zitha kukhala zovuta kwambiri.
Ngati muli pachibwenzi pomwe nonse muli osokonekera, izi zitha kukhala zovuta kwambiri. Ngati muli pachibwenzi ndipo palibe amene mwaganizirapo zogonana pazaka 10 zapitazi izi zitha kukhala zovuta kwambiri, koma chilichonse chovuta kuchita chimapereka mphotho yayikulu.
Kapenanso mwina muli pachibwenzi, koma nthawi zambiri kugonana sikungokhala pamwamba pamalingaliro anu.
Mwinamwake mwakhazikika kamodzi pa sabata, kapena sabata iliyonse sabata, kuti musamalire mnzanu koma simulowemo.
Tsopano, ichi chikhoza kukhala chizindikiro cha zinthu zambiri.
Chifukwa chimodzi chochepetsera kugonana kwathu kapena kugonana kumakhudzana ndi mkwiyo.
Ngati mwakhala mukusudzulana ndi wokondedwa wanu, njira imodzi yomwe timawagwiritsira ntchito mosazindikira kapena mosazindikira ndikutseka kuchipinda.
Chifukwa chake timagwira ntchito maola ochulukirapo. Kapenanso timayamba kumwa kwambiri. Kapenanso timakhala nthawi yayitali ku masewera olimbitsa thupi kuti tisakhale kunyumba kwambiri.
Mwina timapita kuntchito koyambirira, chifukwa chake sitiyenera kukumana ndi okondedwa athu nthawi yapamtima m'mawa.
Sinthani ubale wanu
Zilibe kanthu kuti malingaliro anu ndi ati chifukwa chake moyo wanu wogonana wamwalira modabwitsa, koma vuto lomwe ndikupatsani ndi lomwe lingasinthe zomwe inu muli, ndi momwe ubale wanu umawonekera pakadali pano komanso kwa ena onse moyo wanu.
Ngati mulibe chilakolako chogonana, ndipo mulibe kukwiya komwe mumadziwa ndi mnzanu, ndipo inu ndi mnzanu mumalankhulana bwino tsiku lililonse, zitha kukhala zovuta ndi mahomoni anu ndipo zikanakhala choncho ndinganene kuti mukhale ndi mbiri yabwino mwachita mahomoni anu onse, ndi katswiri wamahomoni, kuti muwone ngati pali china chake chofunikira kuti mulimbikitse libido yanu.
Ndiye vuto ndi ili: Ndikufuna kuti mupange chikondi ndi wokondedwa wanu tsiku lililonse masiku 30 otsatira. Ndichoncho. Ndizo homuweki yanu. Wokongola kwambiri homework kapena bwanji?
Tsiku lililonse kwa masiku 30 otsatira, ngakhale zitanthauza kuti muyenera kukonzekera, ikani mu smartphone yanu, ikani mu daytimer yanu, pitirizani kuzichita.
Kodi mukuyenera kupeza wosamalira mwana pafupipafupi kuti izi zitheke? Osapachikidwa pachilichonse kupatula kumaliza ntchito yomwe ndakupatsani.
Ndipo ndikufa kwambiri pano.
Ndikudziwa, pogwira ntchito ndi makasitomala m'mbuyomu, kuti atatenga vutoli ndikulimaliza, moyo wawo wachikondi, ubale wawo, ndi zikhulupiriro zawo pamphamvu yaubwenzi wawo zidakulirakulira!
Tsopano, izi zitha kubweretsanso mkwiyo womwe simumadziwa kuti muli nawo.
Tiyerekeze kuti inu ndi mnzanu mwasankha kuthana ndi vuto langa, ndipo mupita masiku asanu ndi awiri oyamba ndikupanga chibwenzi tsiku lililonse, kenako mumagunda sabata yachiwiri ndipo pazifukwa zina simumangokhala, mwina Mnzanu adasintha malingaliro awo kuyambira pakupanga chikondi m'mawa mpaka madzulo ndipo mumakhala wokwiya nawo.
Kufunafuna thandizo kuti muwone chomwe chayambitsa kuyesayesa kwanu
Poterepa, onetsetsani kuti mwayamba nthawi yomweyo kuyamba kugwira ntchito ndi mlangizi, wina yemwe angakuthandizeni kuti muwone chomwe chikuyambitsa kusowa kwanu ntchito pambuyo pa tsiku lachisanu ndi chiwiri.
Ndipo chifukwa chomwe ndikunenera kuti muyenera kukonzekera kukaonana ndi mlangizi ndikuti ziyenera kukhala zovuta kuchita kwa inu ndi wokondedwa wanu, kupanga chikondi tsiku lililonse kwa masiku 30 owongoka.
Ichi si chilango, ayenera kukhala chisangalalo chachikulu!
Koma ikasanduka yotopetsa. Si kugonana konse, ndichinthu china chogonana chomwe chimabweretsa zotopetsa. Ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimakwiya.
Zifukwa zomwe inu ndi mnzanu muyenera kuvomerezera zovuta
Nazi zifukwa zinayi zazikulu zomwe inu ndi mnzanu muyenera kuvomerezera zovuta zanga, zogonana masiku 30 motsatizana, osakayika:
1. Kutulutsidwa kwa oxytocin
Chimodzi mwa mahomoni amphamvu kwambiri mthupi, amatchedwa "mahormone ogwirizana" pachifukwa chabwino.
Mukamagonana, oxytocin imamasulidwa, ndikupangitsa inu ndi mnzanu kukhala ogwirizana osati mwakuthupi komanso mwamalingaliro. Chitani zomwezo.
2. Zimakukakamizani kuti mukhale pachibwenzi patsogolo
Mukadzipereka kuti mugone masiku 30 motsatizana, muyenera kupanga chibwenzicho kukhala choyambirira, muyenera kuchikonza, kuchikonza ndipo zili bwino.
Mukapanga ubale wanu kukhala patsogolo kudzera mukugonana, zabwino zonse zabwino zimabwera kwa inu ndi mnzanu.
3. Kumalimbitsa chitetezo chathu cha mthupi
Kutulutsidwa panthawi yamankhwala kumapangitsa kuti mankhwala, ma neurotransmitters, amasulidwe kudzera muubongo monga dopamine, serotonin, ndi gaba.
Kutulutsidwa kwamankhwala amitsempha amtunduwu kumalimbikitsa malingaliro athu ndikulimbitsa chitetezo chathu cha mthupi.
Palibe zifukwa zobwezera vutoli masiku 30.
4. Kuwonjezeka kwa luso lolankhulana
Mukamagonana tsiku lililonse kwa masiku 30, mungafune kuyesa kukambirana ndi wokondedwa wanu kuti muzichita zinthu zaluso kuchipinda kapena kuchipinda.
Mwinamwake simunayambe mwagonana m'kamwa, ndipo mukuganiza kuti patsiku la masiku 30 loti mugonane tsiku lililonse mukufuna kuphunzira zambiri za momwe mungachitire zogonana mkamwa kwathunthu ndi mnzanu.
Kapena mwina mukufuna kuchita chiwerewere chonse patebulo lodyeramo. Ndikudziwa mwina mukuseka, sindine, ndafa kwambiri.
Kodi mukuwona kumene ndikudutsa?
Mukadzipereka kwa masiku 30 atagonana, tiyeni titsegule kulumikizana ndikuuza wokondedwa wanu zomwe mumakonda pazomwe amachita, ndipo afunseni zomwe mungachite bwino kuchipinda, kapena kukhitchini, kapena ku The shawa, kapena kulikonse komwe mungasankhe kugonana, kulumikizana kuyenera kumayenderera poyera.
Chotsani midadada yolumikizirana
Ngati muli ndi mabulogu olumikizirana, kamodzinso, pitani kwa mlangizi ngati ine, kuti akuthandizeni kufika pansi pamalopo, kuti tiwachotse ndikupita patsogolo m'moyo.
Mukapereka mwayi uwu kwa mnzanu, ndipo amakuwomberadi, ngati ndikadakhala ngati inu ndimapita kwa mlangizi, kuti muwone ngati mungakwanitse kuti abwere nanu. Ngakhale atakana, chitani ntchitoyi ndi Phungu pawekha, kuti mudziwe momwe mungathetsere kukanidwa kumene mwapatsidwa.
Mwinanso muyenera kubwerera ndikuwapereka m'njira ina. Mwinanso muyenera kuwalankhula nawo mosiyanasiyana. Kapena mwina mukuyenera kuwawonetsa nkhaniyi, pomwe angawerenge zaubwino wogonana tsiku lililonse kwa masiku 30 kuti azungulire mutu wawo poyerekeza kuti pali maubwino mazana ambiri kutsatira izi .
Ndikukhulupirira kuti dziko lino likufunika kukondana kwambiri. Kugonana kwambiri. Kulankhulana kwambiri. Ndi kulumikizana kwambiri muubale.
Ntchito ya David Essel 'imavomerezedwa kwambiri ndi anthu monga malemu Wayne Dyer, ndipo wotchuka Jenny McCarthy akuti "David Essel ndiye mtsogoleri watsopano wa gulu loganiza bwino."
Buku lake la 10, logulitsanso nambala imodzi, limatchedwa "Focus! Sulani zolinga zanu - Kuwunika kotsimikizika kakuchita bwino kwakukulu, malingaliro amphamvu, ndi chikondi chachikulu. "