Zamkati
- Kodi mukugonana ndi wokondedwa wanu
- Chinsinsi chokhazikitsa ubale wabwino
- Sankhani lero kuti mukhale osiyana ndikusintha moyo wanu wogonana
Banja lina posachedwapa linati, "Ndani ali ndi nthawi yogonana, muli ndi zochuluka zomwe mukuchita ndi zambiri zoti muchite ndipo mwangotopa, ndiye kuti simumazichita pafupipafupi (kapena nkomwe)."
Zochuluka kwambiri zoti tichite, otanganidwa kwambiri zogonana, otopa kwambiri ndi maubwenzi, komanso chibwenzi ndipo mumadabwa chomwe chimapangitsa maubwenzi ambiri kulimbana?
Kodi mukugonana ndi wokondedwa wanu
Mwinamwake mukuyika zogonana ndi mnzanuyo pansi pamndandanda. Mumadikirira mpaka zonse zomwe zitha kuchitika kuntchito, kunyumba, ndi ana anu, ndi anthu ammudzi, tchalitchi, achibale anu ndi zinthu zina zomwe mumachita zonse zatha kenako kunena kuti mulibe kanthu.
Pamene chiwerewere ndi wokondedwa wanu chatsalira mpaka kotsiriza ndiye chatsalira nchiyani kuti kulumikizana kuchitike?
Wina ayenera kusuntha, kukhala ndi chosowa, kufunsa kupezeka kwa mnzake ndikupempha kuti agonane zomwe ambiri sakonda kuzikambirana.
Ambiri anena kuti: “Ndikuganiza kuti‘ chiyenera kukhala ’chinthu chachilengedwe chimene chimangochitika. China chake chomwe chimachitika popanda mphamvu, chidwi kapena kukonza zochitika zamoto kuyenera kuyaka, ndipo ziyenera kukhala zokonda komanso zachikondi monga momwe zilili m'makanema.
Nazi izi zenizeni. Pokhapokha mutakhala dala, osamala komanso kuchita dala za kugonana kwanu ndi mnzanu, sizingachitike.
Chinsinsi chokhazikitsa ubale wabwino
Muyenera kuyesetsa kupanga ubale wogonana ndi wokondedwa wanu, khalani ndi nthawi yopanga izi ndikuziyika patsogolo, osati kumapeto kwa tsiku kapena chinthu chilichonse kuti mulembe mndandanda wazomwe muyenera kuchita nthawi yapadera.
Kugonana ndi mnzanu komanso kulumikizana si matsenga ndipo sizimachitika popanda kusamalira. Ena anena kuti: “Sindikuganiza zogonana.” Itha kukhala nthawi yoti muyambe kuganizira za izi, kuti muthe kuzipanga! sungapambane pantchito osaganizira, sichoncho?
Mu upangiri wa maanja, ndimamva ambiri omwe ali ndi moyo wosagonana omwe akudandaula za "msana wam'mbuyo" womwe nthawi zonse amafuna. Amakumba phazi lawo ndikukana "kuzichita" ndikukana mwayi wokhala pachibwenzi ndikupanga ubale wopatsa mnzakeyo patsogolo.
Awiriwa akuti: "Adandiuza kuti sakonda ichi kapena icho kapena anali otanganidwa kwambiri ndiye simudzachitanso." Chifukwa chiyani mumachita izi? nonse ndinu anthu odzikonda omwe mukufuna koma mukuzengereza kupereka. mumaopa kukanidwa komabe mukufuna kuvomerezedwa ndi chikondi chopanda malire.
Sankhani lero kuti mukhale osiyana ndikusintha moyo wanu wogonana
Mudzafunika kusankha kutuluka m'ndondomeko yanu ndikuyesa zinthu zatsopano ndi machitidwe atsopano kuti musinthe ndikukhalanso ndi ubale wogonana ndi wokondedwa wanu.
Nazi njira zomwe kusamala kumathandizira kuti ubale wanu ukhale wosangalala komanso kukonza ubale wogonana ndi mnzanu.
- Kumbukirani kuti zonse sizokhudza inu ndi zomwe mukufuna, kumva, kapena zosowa kapena mnzanu. Ubwenzi, makamaka ubale wanu wogonana umafunikira mafuta kuti awotche.
- Khalani kusintha komwe mukufuna kuwona pakugonana kwanu. Kuyembekezera kuti mnzanu apite, kukuchitirani inu, kapena kuwonetsa kuti akufuna inu ndi njira yongopeza zomwe mukufuna. Ngati mukufuna ubale wapamtima, wokondana, wachikondi ndi zothetheka - pangani izi kuti zichitike! Kupsompsona kuti mupsompsone, kugwira kuti mugwirizane.
- Kumbukirani wokondedwa wanu, zosowa zawo, chilankhulo chawo chachikondi, ndi zomwe amakonda (kugwirana manja, kugwira, nthawi yabwino, kuwombera, kupindika msana). Izi zimakupatsani chidziwitso cha momwe mungalumikizire.
- Ngati mukufuna kufinya msana kapena kukhudza kwambiri, kugwirana manja, kukumbatirana, ndiye yambitsani izi ndi mnzanu ndikusinthana. Awa ndi malo omwe simumalankhula kwambiri, ndipo zochita zambiri zitha kukuthandizani nonse.
- Yang'anani pa "zoyambitsa" zomwe zimapanga malo ogonana komanso malingaliro. Kukhala ndi ana anu kulowa m'chipinda chanu kapena chogona nthawi iliyonse sikungapangitse malo ogonana. Nchiyani chimakupatsani inu ndi mnzanu mu malingaliro? Ganizirani mmbuyo.
Kodi nyimbo, kuvina, kugwira, kapu ya vinyo, kusamba limodzi, kugona popanda zovala zogonera, kukhala ku hotelo, kutchuthi, kuvala zovala zamkati kapena zina? Pangani malo omwe angapangitse kuti azisangalala komanso azigonana.
- Mutha kuyesa njira zakusinkhasinkha za maanja ndi kugonana. Ndi njira yabwino yobwezeretsanso chikondi ndikubwezeretsanso chidwi chaubwenzi wanu. Pali njira zingapo zosavuta kutsatira, zowunikira zomwe anthu angatenge pa intaneti poyambira ndikuwongolera ubale wawo.
Ubale wanu wogonana komanso kukondana zili m'manja mwanu. Ngati mukufuna kukondana kwambiri, yambani ndikusintha nokha kuti izi zichitike. Ngati mukukhala pachibwenzi ndi wina kwa nthawi yoyamba ndikuyembekeza kuti mupange ubale wokonda zachiwerewere, mungatani?
Izi sizingachitike ponyalanyaza kapena kunena kuti mwatopa kwambiri kapena simukuganiza; izo zikanakhoza kupanga kutha. Kodi ndi zinthu zitatu ziti zomwe mungachite kuti mukhale mwa inu nokha ndikusintha komwe mukufuna kuwona pachibwenzi chanu chogonana?
Ndi mphatso yomwe mumadzipatsa nokha komanso maziko a maubwenzi onse ogonana. Pangani izi kuti zichitike lero!