Zamkati
The Relationship Cure yolembedwa ndi a John Gottman omwe adayambitsa nawo Gottman Institute ndi buku lotengera kukonza maubwenzi apamtima.
M'bukuli, Dr Gottman amalangiza owerenga pulogalamu yothandiza kuti athe kuyankha ndikugawana zidziwitso zamumtima wina ndi mnzake. Pulogalamuyi itha kugwiritsidwa ntchito m'njira zosiyanasiyana pamoyo wawo kuphatikiza maukwati, bizinesi ndi makolo.
Malinga ndi iye kupambana kwa ubale kumatengera zochitika za chidziwitso pakati pa awiriwa. Izi zimalola kulumikizana kwabwino komanso, kumathandizira pakupanga kulumikizana kwamphamvu pakati pa anthu awiri.
Anthu akalumikizana, amayamba kukhala bwino ndikufika pamalopo pomwe amatha kugawana zolemetsa ndi chisangalalo cha moyo wawo.
Malinga ndi kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi Dr. Gottman, pomwe izi zimachitika kwambiri, ubale umayamba kukhutira. Izi zimachepetsa mwayi woti anthu awiri amenyane ndikukangana.
Njirayi imathandizira kuti azigwirabe ntchito komanso kulumikizana. Chifukwa chachikulu cha kusudzulana kwakukulu masiku ano ndikulephera kwa anthu awiri kuti azikhala pachibwenzi komanso kulumikizana.
Kuti mukhale pachibwenzi, ndikofunikira kuti anthu aphunzire kugawana wina ndi mzake ndikuyankha momwe akumvera.
Kodi pulogalamuyi imagwira ntchito bwanji?
Dongosolo lodzithandizira lomwe Dr. Lingaliro ili ndilofunikira pakulankhulana kwabwino komanso kulumikizana kwamaganizidwe.
Kutsatsa, monga akufotokozera Gottman ndikuwoneka pankhope, kachitidwe kakang'ono, mawu omwe mumanena, kukhudza ngakhale kamvekedwe ka mawu.
Ndizosatheka kulumikizana motere. Ngakhale mutakhala kuti simukuyang'ana pankhope panu ndikuyang'ana pansi, kapena mukuyesetsa kuti muwakhudze, mumalankhulana osadziwa. Yemwe mukumukhudza adzalumikiza tanthauzo ku bizinesi yanu mosadziwa.
Chotsatira Dr Gottman amafotokoza ndi magulu atatu osiyanasiyana momwe yankho lanu lingagwirizire:
1. Gawo loyamba ndi yankho la "kutembenukira". Izi zimaphatikizapo kuyang'anitsitsa maso, kumvetsera mwatcheru, kupereka malingaliro, malingaliro, ndi momwe akumvera.
2. Gawo lachiwiri ndi yankho la "kutembenuka". Kuyankha uku ndikulephera kutengera chidwi chamunthuyo powanyalanyaza, kukhala otanganidwa kapena kuyang'ana pazambiri zosagwirizana.
3. Gulu lachitatu la mayankho ndiloopsa kwambiri ndipo limadziwika kuti "kutembenukira". Zimakhala ndi mayankho ovuta, otsutsana, okonda kumenya nkhondo komanso oteteza.
Tsopano muyenera kudziwa mayankho awa chifukwa iyi ndi njira yoyamba mwa isanu yosamalira ndi kulimbikitsa ubale wabwino.
Nazi njira zina:
Gawo lachiwiri
Gawo lachiwiri la machiritso a ubale ndikupeza momwe ubongo ulili komanso momwe dongosolo lamalamulo limagwirira ntchito, physiology.
Lamuloli limadziwika kuti ma circuits amitsempha omwe amapezeka muubongo omwe amalumikizana wina ndi mnzake kudzera pamagetsi amagetsi.
Izi ndizoyenera kudziwa zikhalidwe za munthuyo zisanachitike, monga momwe alili.
M'buku lino, pali mafunso angapo omwe akuthandizani kuzindikira machitidwe akulu kwambiri amunthuyo ndi momwe amagwirira ntchito kuti athandizire kukhala bwino.
Gawo lachitatu
Gawo ili limaphatikizapo kugwiritsa ntchito mafunso amafukufuku kuti mupeze cholowa cha mnzanuyo ndi momwe zimakhudzira kuthekera kwa munthu kulumikizana ndi mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya kubetcha.
Chitsanzo chabwino cha izi chingakhale kudziwa momwe banja la mnzanu lingakhalire ndikufalitsa kwawo m'mibadwo ndi mibadwo.
Gawo lachinayi
Gawo ili m'machiritso a ubale ndikukula kwa maluso olumikizirana ndi malingaliro. Pachifukwa ichi muyenera kuwunika ndikuphunzira njira zomwe thupi limalumikizirana, tanthauzo lake, kufotokoza malingaliro, kutchera khutu, kupanga luso lomvetsera ndikuwonetsa miyambo yofunikira.
Zitsanzo zina za chilankhulo chamthupi zitha kukhala poyambira kuzindikiritsa.
Gawo lachisanu
Ili ndiye gawo lomaliza ndi lachisanu la machiritso a ubale. Zimaphatikizaponso kuphunzira kuzindikira ndikupeza tanthauzo lomwe wina ndi mnzake ali nalo. Gawo ili limaphatikizapo kuzindikira masomphenya ndi malingaliro a munthu winayo kuti mupeze cholinga chofanana.
Zimaphatikizaponso kuzindikira ndi kulemekeza masomphenya awo ndikuwathandiza ndi cholinga chawo.
Relationship Cure imapatsa owerenga malangizo othandiza kutengera chidziwitso chambiri komanso zamankhwala.
Dr. Gottman akufuna kuthandiza anthu kuzindikira njira zosavuta za chikondi chobisika ndikuyang'ana kulimbitsa thupi, komabe; momwe mumagwirira ntchito paukwati wanu zili kwa inu. Palibe amene amadziwa bwino zaubwenzi wanu kuposa inu.
Chifukwa chake werengani bukuli, mumvetsetse momwe zinthu zimagwirira ntchito muubwenzi ndikugwiritsa ntchito ubale wanu.