Zamkati
- Kodi Baibulo limati chiyani za mkwiyo m'banja?
- Momwe mungachitire ndi kupsa mtima muukwati
- Kutenga chithandizo cha akatswiri
- Kulimbana ndi mkwiyo muubwenzi: kuwongolera zomwe zimayambitsa
- Mkwiyo wanga ukuwononga chibwenzi changa, ndimatani?
- Kuzindikira kosangalatsa
Ngakhale mabanja omwe ali osangalala kwambiri amapirira mikangano chifukwa choti kusamvana ndi gawo limodzi la maubwenzi abwino. Popeza kuti kusamvana ndi kukwiya muukwati wanu ndichinthu chofunikira kuyembekezeredwa, ndikofunikira kuphunzira kuthana nazo kuti chibwenzi chikule bwino ndikupilira.
Chinthu chimodzi chomwe nthawi zonse chimafunika kuthana ndi banja ndi mkwiyo. Zitha kukhala zowopsa, koma mkwiyo siwoipa nthawi zonse. Nthawi zambiri imangokhala njira yowunikira mavuto. Popanda kupsa mtima, mavuto ambiri padziko lapansi sangakonzedwe kapena kuthetsedwa.
Pali njira ziwiri zosiyana zomwe anthu amatetezera mkwiyo. Anthu ena amapsa mtima ndikufotokozera mkwiyo wawo pomwe ena amapondereza. Kuphulika kumatha kubweretsa mawu opweteka omwe atha kuwononga ubale wa nthawi yayitali. Kumbali ina, kupondereza mkwiyo m'banja lanu kumatha kuyambitsa mkwiyo, womwe ukhozanso kuwononga maubale.
Kodi Baibulo limati chiyani za mkwiyo m'banja?
Muli miyambi yambiri ndi masalmo mu Baibo omwe amafotokoza zakusungilira mkwiyo. Miyambo 25:28; 29:11 lankhulani za kuzindikira kuopsa kwa mkwiyo kosalamulirika pomwe Miyambo 17:14 imati "Kupikisana kusanayambe tasiya". Chifukwa chake makamaka mukawona kuti mkangano pakati pa nonse mwakhala mukumenyana, ingopuma kuti uzizire ndi kuganiziranso zomwe zalakwika m'malo mongolalata wina ndi mnzake
Ngati nkhawa yanu ikadali pa "kukwiya kwanga kwasokoneza ubale wanga" ndiye kuti Miyambo 19:11 ikuwonetsa izi: "Kulingalira kwa munthu kuchedwetsa mkwiyo." Kotero yesetsani kukhala ndi chidziwitso musanapange mfundo zokhudzana ndi vutoli.
Komanso, malinga ndi Akolose 3: 13-14:
“Lamulanani ndi kukhululukirana ngati wina wa inu ali ndi chifukwa chodandaulira za wina. Khululukirani monga Ambuye anakhululukirani inu. Ndipo pamwamba pa makhalidwe onsewa valani chikondi, chomwe chimamangirira onse pamodzi mu umodzi wangwiro. ”
Zowonadi, kuwongolera mkwiyo muubwenzi kumafunikira kuleza mtima komanso kuthekera kokhululuka. Kugwiritsitsa mkwiyo mu banja lanu kumangopangitsa maubwenzi kukhala owawa ndipo nthawi zina kumabweretsa mavuto muubwenzi omwe sungadzalamuliridwe mtsogolo.
Momwe mungachitire ndi kupsa mtima muukwati
Njira yabwino yothetsera mkwiyo m'banja mwanu ndiyo kuphunzira momwe mungathetsere mkwiyo wanu osawononga banja lanu kapena nokha.
Mkwiyo ungamveke ngati wosalamulirika, koma ambirife tili ndi ulamuliro pa iwo. Kodi mudakhalapo ndi vuto lomwe mudakwiya kwambiri mpaka kumva kuti muphulika nthawi iliyonse? Kenako, mwadzidzidzi, mudalandira foni kuchokera kwa munthu wosagwirizana ndi komwe mumakwiya. Chodabwitsa, pakadutsa mphindi ziwiri, foniyo imakukhazikitsani mtima pansi ndipo mkwiyo wanu umatha.
Ngati mwakhala mukukumana ndi zoterezi, ndiye kuti mutha kuugwira mtima - mwina zingakhale zovuta, koma muli ndi zida zina kale. Ngati simukugwirizana ndi zomwe foni imachita mwachisawawa, ndiye kuti mwina muli ndi ntchito yozama yochitira mkwiyo. Kulimbana ndi mkwiyo m'banja sikungatheke. Khama ndichinsinsi.
Kutenga chithandizo cha akatswiri
Kutenga chithandizo cha akatswiri kuti muchepetse mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo muubwenzi ndichinthu chomwe mwina simungaganizire poyamba koma kulandira chithandizo cha akatswiri sikuyenera kukhala kwachikaiko. Zitha kukhala zothandiza kwambiri kugwira ntchito ndi katswiri wophunzitsidwa kuti akuthandizeni kuphunzira kuwongolera mkwiyo wanu pochirikiza banja lanu.
Kuthetsa mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo mu banja kumafunikira ntchito yambiri kuphatikiza kukonza kulumikizana ndikusintha zizolowezi zina kapena malingaliro amunthu pazinthu zina. Nthawi zina, othandizira amatha kuthandiza mabanja mosavuta kuchita izi.
Kulimbana ndi mkwiyo muubwenzi: kuwongolera zomwe zimayambitsa
Kuti athane ndi kupsa mtima ndi mkwiyo m'banja, muyenera kukhala ndi cholinga choyang'ana zomwe zimayambitsa mnzanu komanso zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti musamayende bwino. Kuchotsa kapena kuthana ndi zinthu zomwe zimayambitsa mkwiyo m'banja lanu kungakuthandizeni kuthana ndi mkwiyo m'banja lanu.
Kwa ena zitha kukhala zazing'ono monga ntchito zapakhomo, kucheza ndi abwenzi kapena china chake chovuta kwambiri monga kusamalira ndalama monga banja.
Mulimonsemo, kusamalira mkwiyo m'banja ndichinthu chomwe chiyenera kuchitidwa mwachangu. Kuchita ndi mkwiyo muubwenzi ndi theka lanu labwino, kapena kuti, kuthana ndi mavuto okwiya muubwenzi uliwonse, kumafuna kuti mudziyese nokha yang'anani limodzi momwe ziriri kupeza yankho osati kungotsimikizira yemwe akulondola.
Mkwiyo wanga ukuwononga chibwenzi changa, ndimatani?
Ngati mwazindikira kuti mkwiyo wanu wakhala vuto lalikulu muubwenzi wanu, ndiye gawo loyamba kuti mukhale bwino. Nkhani zaukali m'banja zimatha kuyang'aniridwa ndi onse awiri koma pamapeto pake zimadalira kuchuluka kwa ntchito zomwe mukufuna kukhala tsiku lililonse.
Ngati mkwiyo muukwati wanu ukuwononga banja lanu, muyenera kutero pangani mfundo zanu zofooka ndipo onaninso ngati mumakwiyira mnzanuyo chifukwa cha zolakwa zawo kapena zanu.
Mkwiyo wa amuna anga ukuwononga banja lathu ...
Ngati mukufuna njira yothetsera vutoli, musataye mtima. Zomveka kapena zopanda nzeru, mkwiyo wotere ungakhale wovulaza kwa inu m'kupita kwanthawi. Kukhala pamodzi ndi munthu amene amatha kupsa mtima mosiyanasiyana kungakhale kovuta.
Ndiye njira yabwino yothetsera mkwiyo wa amuna anu ndi iti? Kulingalira naye ndichinthu china, kusintha nokha ndi njira ina yothetsera mkwiyo m'banja lanu. Koma ngati zonse zalephera ndipo zinthu sizingatheke, musazengereze kufikira munthu wodalirika. Amatha kukhala wina m'banja, mnzanu, woyandikana naye kapena wothandizira.
Kuzindikira kosangalatsa
Malinga ndi Katswiri wa zamaganizidwe Dr. Herb Goldberg, maanja amayenera kusamalira poyambira pachibwenzi chifukwa zimangokhala bwino mtsogolo. Phunziro la Florida State limathandiziradi izi. Zinapeza kuti maanja omwe amatha kufotokoza zaukali koyambirira kwa chibwenzi amakhala osangalala nthawi yayitali.
Mavuto okhumudwitsa m'banja amatha kuwathetsera mwa kuwathetsa munthawi yochuluka ndikupanga nthawi yochuluka kwa wina ndi mzake komanso kusankha nkhondo zanu mwanzeru. Palibe chomwe chikondi china sichingathetse.