Zamkati
- Kuyamikiridwa ndi zomwe amafunikira nthawi zonse
- Kuzindikira kwambiri
- Kudziona kuti ndiwe wapamwamba
- Amakokomeza zomwe achita
- Yoyang'ana kukongola ndi mphamvu
- Mochenjera mwachilengedwe
- Zizoloŵezi za nsanje
- Simungavomereze kutsutsidwa
Narcissism ndi liwu lachi Greek lomwe limakhudza kudzidalira komanso mawonekedwe amunthu. Ndi chikhalidwe chodzikonda kwambiri.
Kuphatikiza apo, munthu yemwe ndi wankhanza ndi wodzikonda; safunikira kukhala okongola kuti akhulupirire kuti ali. M'malo mwake, amakhulupirira okha kuti ndi okongola komanso apamwamba kuposa ena. Kuchita ndi wolemba nkhani kumakhala kovuta ngati simungathe kuwadziwitsa izi. Ngakhale zitha kukhala zosavuta kunena kuposa kuchita, komabe, ndichinthu chomwe chiyenera kuchitidwa.
Makhalidwe a wankhanza
Chikondi chako chikafika pachimake, ndiye kuti kunyoza kumasintha kukhala vuto lamunthu. Munthu wodwala matendawa amachita zinthu modzidzimutsa, ndipo malingaliro ndi machitidwe a munthu ameneyo sangathe kumuwona ngati wabwinobwino. Makhalidwe ena a anthu oterewa amabweretsa machitidwe omwe, ngati atadziwika, atha kukuthandizani kuthana ndi wamisala.
Nazi zina mwamakhalidwe omwe munthu wachabechabe akuwonetsa omwe afotokozedwa pansipa. Ngati mukufuna kudziwa momwe mungagwirire wamisala, werengani pa:
Kuyamikiridwa ndi zomwe amafunikira nthawi zonse
Njala yawo yotamanda njosatha. Chofunikira koposa, kutamandaku ndi kwa iwo okha, ndipo safuna kuti aliyense ayembekezere zomwezo kwa iwo.
Zowonadi zake, ngati nthawi zina samva kuyamikiridwa komweko pamtima ndiye amakwiya ndikukhumudwitsidwa.
Nthawi yomweyo, kafukufuku adawonetsanso kuti kuyamika mopitilira muyeso kumatha kubweretsa chisokonezo mwa ana.
Kuzindikira kwambiri
Sazindikira kuti ena alinso ndi mtima ndipo aliyense ali ndi phindu lina. Olemba ma Narcissist samamvera ena chisoni; amafunadi kuti iwonso aziwayendera kuposa ena.
Kudziona kuti ndiwe wapamwamba
Mosasamala kanthu kuti apindula chilichonse kapena ayi ali ndi malingaliro ena apamwamba omwe amawazungulira nthawi zonse.
Amafuna kuti adziwike kuti ali ndiudindo wapamwamba kuposa enawo.
Amakokomeza zomwe achita
Kuphatikiza apo, ngati ali ndi talente yazinthu zomwe zawalola kuti akwaniritse zomwe amafuna; kotero kukwaniritsidwa uku nthawi zonse kumakokomezedwa ndi andalama.
Yoyang'ana kukongola ndi mphamvu
Kutanganidwa ndi malingaliro okhudza kukongola, mphamvu, kuwala, bwenzi labwino pamoyo ndi chinthu china chofunikira kwa anthu otere. Zingakhale zovuta kuzizindikira nthawi zina chifukwa anthu ambiri amakopeka ndi zinthu izi koma anthu omwe ali ndi chidziwitso chothana ndi wankhanza amadziwa kuti kutanganidwa kwawo kuli pamlingo wina kwathunthu.
Mochenjera mwachilengedwe
Amayendetsa zinthu ndikuganiza za njira zovuta kupeza zomwe akufuna. Kuphatikiza apo, amathanso kutenga mwayi kwa anthu ena, kukhala aulemu kwambiri komanso okoma mtima kuti chifuniro chawo chivomerezedwe. M'malo mwake, kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi University of Alabama adawonetsanso kuti anthu oterewa amatha kuyesa kuchitira anzawo nsanje.
Zizoloŵezi za nsanje
Nthawi zonse amasirira ena ndipo amaganiza kuti ena amawasirira popeza ndianthu angwiro okhala ndi kukongola ndi ubongo. Izi zimapangitsa kuti kulimbana ndi wankhanza kukhale kovuta kwambiri chifukwa amaganiza kuti anthu angofuna kuwapeza akawunikira zomwe amakonda.
Simungavomereze kutsutsidwa
Pomaliza, amadzudzulidwa mwamanyazi (onani kafukufukuyu wosangalatsa yemwe amalankhula za ubale wotsutsa ndi narcissism).
Kodi mumadziwa kuti pali vuto lina lomwe limatsanzira narcissism komanso vuto la m'malire. Onani kanemayu kuti mudziwe kufanana ndi kusiyana kwake:
Momwe mungachitire ndi narcissist
Ndizovuta kwambiri kuthana ndi wamankhwala chifukwa savomereza zomwe akukumana nazo, lomwe ndi vuto lamunthu. Komanso, akafunsidwa kuti akachezere adotolo, amatha kuwakwiyira ndi mkwiyo chifukwa chiyembekezo chomwecho chimapweteketsa kudzidalira kwawo. Zitha kuchitanso kuti, nthawi zina, kuzunzidwa komwe kumatha kupweteketsa mnzanu kapena wapamtima.
Ndiye chochita? Kodi mungawapangitse bwanji kuti azindikire kuti ali ndi mikhalidwe yankhanza?
Sizovuta kwambiri. Zotsatirazi ndizinsinsi zina zomwe zimatithandiza kuthana ndi wamwano.
Khalani aulemu
Mukufuna kudziwa momwe mungachitire ndi mwamuna wa narcissist, bambo, mayi, mkazi, bwenzi kapena m'bale wanu? Yambani ndi kuyankhula nawo mwaulemu m'malo mochita nawo mokwiya. Mverani zomwe akuganiza ndikumverera kenako pang'onopang'ono kupeza yankho.
Musalimbane nawo kapena kuwakakamiza kuti achite chilichonse chosagwirizana ndi malingaliro awo.
Afunseni
Narcissists nthawi zonse amadziwa za mawonekedwe awo, malingaliro awo, komanso umunthu wawo wonse, koma atha kuwoneka ovuta kwa ena. Chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti tiwafunse mafunso ngati, 'Kodi mudaganizapo zomwe anthu ena angaganize za inu?', 'Kodi simukufuna kudziwa momwe ena akumvera za inu ndi machitidwe anu odabwitsa? ndikufuna kuoneka opanda ungwiro pamaso pa ena? '
Mafunso oterewa adzawapangitsa kudabwa ndi machitidwe awo. Chifukwa nthawi zonse amafuna kuwoneka bwino, ayesa kuwasintha, koma pang'onopang'ono.
Uwu ndi umodzi mwamalangizo othandiza kwambiri kuti mukambirane ndi wolemba nkhani zamankhwala.
Sankhani 'AYI' pamafunso awo ambiri
Nthawi iliyonse anthu oterewa akavomerezedwa ndi zomwe amalankhula, amawonongeka kwambiri zomwe zimapangitsa kukhala ndi wantchito zantchito nthawi zina. Amakhulupirira kuti ndi okhawo olondola pomwe ena akuwatsutsa. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mnzanu, yemwe ndi wankhanza akuti, 'Kodi sukuganiza kuti ndine wanzeru kuposa mnzathu ameneyu?'
Njira yabwino yoyankhira wotsutsa ndikuti yankho lanu liyenera kukhala lolakwika. Kuphatikiza pa kunena kuti ayi, muyenera kufotokozanso chifukwa chake mukamachita zinthu ndi wankhanza. Yesetsani kulimbikitsa mnzanu kuti awerenge zabwino zomwe anthu amawazungulira.
Khalani achifundo kwa ena
Pochita ndi wankhanza, ayenera kuwaphunzitsa kuti ndibwino kukhala munthu wamba. Kumvera ena chisoni ndikofunikira pakupanga ubale ndi iwo.
Mukamagwirizana ndi anzanu, anzanu kapena abale anu ali bwino, mumakhala omasuka kucheza nawo. Izi zimakupatsani mwayi wogawana malingaliro anu.
Kuphatikiza pa izi, kumvetsetsa ena ndikofunikira; wankhanza ayenera kuphunzira kuyenda mu nsapato za wina.
Palibe manyazi poyendera katswiri wamaganizidwe
Yankho loti ndife ndani amadziwika ndi ena. Titha kukhala odzikonda kwambiri komanso odzikonda mpaka kukana kupezeka kwa anthu omwe atizungulira. Chifukwa chake, ngati mungafotokozere zamomwe mumamvera, pitani kwa katswiri wazamisala yemwe amadziwa bwino kuthana ndi vuto laukazitape. Kambiranani mavuto anu ndikuwachotsa.
Komanso, ngati wina yemwe mumamudziwa akuwonetsa zizindikirazo mwa njira zonse, alangizeni kuti athandizidwe koma kuti ayankhe moyenera, nthawi zonse kumbukirani kukhala aulemu komanso osazitchinjiriza mukamakumana ndi wankhanza.