Zamkati
- Khalani otetezeka ku ziweruzo
- Nenani zinsinsi mopanda mantha
- Kuwona mtima ndi nthano
- Tingaphunzire chiyani pankhani zomwe ubale wa bromance zimawunikira muubwenzi wokondana?
- Chakudya choganizira - momwe anthu angakhudzire vutoli?
- Kodi tingathetse bwanji vutoli?
- Zomwe amuna amaphunzira
- Zomwe akazi amaphunzira
- Osalingalira kapena kuneneza
- Zolephera za phunziroli
Kafukufuku wosangalatsa wama bromance adachitika ku University of Winchester, UK.
Kafukufuku omwewo apeza kuti ophunzira aku yunivesite omwe adakumana ndi bromance ndikukondana, amapeza chisangalalo chochuluka kuchokera ku bromance kuposa momwe amapeza kuchokera pachibwenzi.
Kafukufukuyu adawonetsa kuti ophunzirawo adawona kuti bromance ndi yofanana ndi kukondana ndi mkazi koma wopanda chiwerewere.
Ma bromances malinga ndi kafukufukuyu akuti akuphatikiza-
- Kukumbatirana, ndipo ngakhale kupsompsonana kwaubwenzi (osatengedwa ngati kugonana).
- Kukambirana zaumwini ndi zachinsinsi ndi anzawo aku bromance.
- Kutengeka mtima.
- Kuulula zinthu zaumwini
- Chiwopsezo
- Kukhala otseguka ndikumva kukhulupirirana ndi chikondi
Zinanenedwa mu kafukufukuyu kuti omwe akutenga nawo mbali ananena zinthu zokhudzana ndi mnzake wa bromance monga; 'Ali ngati bwenzi lachinyamata' kapena 'tili ngati banja.'
Kafukufukuyu anali odabwitsa, makamaka chifukwa cha machitidwe achimuna ooneka ngati achilengedwe komanso onyansidwa kwambiri pakati pa amuna awiri.
Zolemba monga "Ndikuganiza kuti anyamata ambiri pama bromances amakumbatirana ... Si chinthu chogonana, mwina. Zikusonyeza kuti mumasamala ”ndi chitsanzo cha zinthu zodabwitsa zoterezi mu phunziroli.
Koma, ndichiyani za ma brom omwe omwe adachita nawo kafukufukuyu anasangalala kwambiri? Kodi pali zomwe tingaphunzire kuchokera pa izi zomwe titha kutenga muubwenzi wathu wamtsogolo?
Izi ndi zomwe taphunzira kuchokera pachibwenzi cha bromance, pazomwe amuna amafuna:
Khalani otetezeka ku ziweruzo
Yemwe amatenga nawo mbali pa kafukufukuyu adati chibwenzi chimakuweruza, komabe ukakhala pa bromance, mnzako wa bromance sadzakuweruza. Amuna omwe adachita nawo kafukufukuyu adati pa bromance samva kuti ayenera 'kuchita.'
Pomwe ali pachibwenzi ndi bwenzi amamva ngati akuyenera kuchita ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi nkhawa kuti ayike phazi lawo ndikunena zolakwika.
Samva ngati kuti atha kukhala pachibwenzi ndi chibwenzi.
Nenani zinsinsi mopanda mantha
Amuna mu bromance amamva bwino poulula zinsinsi zawo kwa omwe amakhala nawo pachibwenzi kuposa momwe amachitira ndi abwenzi awo. Izi ndizotheka chifukwa amuna samamva kuweruzidwa, kapena kuda nkhawa kuti anganene cholakwika.
Komanso, sankafunika kuda nkhawa za atsikana anzawo.
Kuwona mtima ndi nthano
Amuna amadzimva kuti sangakhale owona mtima ndi chibwenzi.
Adavomereza kuti anena zomwe akuyenera kunena kuti asunge mtendere kapena kugonana. Adavomerezanso kuti akunama kuti apewe mikangano yosapeweka.
Tingaphunzire chiyani pankhani zomwe ubale wa bromance zimawunikira muubwenzi wokondana?
Zikuwoneka kuti kusakhulupirika kwakukulu pakati pa amuna ndi akazi muubwenzi.
Osati momwe timakhalira muubwenzi koma momwe timamasukirana ndikugwirizana kuyambira kale.
Zili ngati kuti akazi samakhulupirira amuna kapena samamvetsetsa kuti ndiosiyana m'maganizo komanso mosiyana.
Chifukwa chake ngati bambo sakuwonetsa kuti amasamala momwe mkazi amafunira kuti izi zitsimikizidwe ayamba kukayikira machitidwe amnzake.
Makamaka, amayamba kudzimva osatetezeka ngati wokondedwa wawo amakonda komanso amadzipereka kwa iwo.
Zina zakusowa kukhulupirirana kapena kufunikira kotsimikizika kopanda mawu zidzangokhala zoyembekezera zabodza kwa amuna ndi maubale, zomwe zimayambitsidwa chifukwa cha chikhalidwe ndi ziyembekezo.
Chakudya choganizira - momwe anthu angakhudzire vutoli?
Akazi, makamaka, nthawi zambiri amatengedwa ngati apadera komanso osakhwima. Amakula akuyembekeza zomwezo kuchokera kwa anzawo. Chikhalidwe cha Mfumukazi chimagwirizana ndi izi.
Amuna nawonso amakula mozungulira lingaliro la 'akazi osakhwima.' Amakhala osakayikira momwe angakhalire ndi mtsikana moyenera chifukwa amamuwona ngati wosakhwima komanso wosalimba.
Izi zikutanthauza kuti sangakhale nawonso momwe angathere ndi anzawo.
Amuna mwachilengedwe adapangidwa kuti azibzala mbewu zawo.
Amayi amayenera kukhala osamala ndi izi asanakonzekere kukhazikika.
Komabe, chikhalidwe chimalimbikitsa zachiwerewere ndi chiwerewere. Mutha kukhala otsimikiza kuti amayi nthawi zambiri amadalira mnyamatayo ndi zolinga zolakwika.
Pali kusowa kwamaphunziro okhudza momwe angathetsere izi ngati mkazi komanso ngati wamwamuna.
Amuna ndi akazi ambiri samamvetsetsana.
Pokhapokha mutakula pakati pa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, mwaphunzira kumvetsetsa za anyamata kapena atsikana kudzera muzochitikira, kapena makolo anu atamvetsetsa kufunikira kophunzitsa ana awo momwe angakhalire ndi anyamata kapena atsikana, simudziwa momwe mungalumikizirane.
Muyenera kuti muphunzire ziphunzitso za anthu kuti muphunzire (zomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu asamakhulupirire komanso kuti asamvetsetse chifukwa zasokonekera komanso kusokonezedwa ndi zomwe timafunikira).
Kodi tingathetse bwanji vutoli?
Titha kuyesetsa kudzizindikira tokha ndikuwunika momwe timakhalira ndi amuna komanso mosemphanitsa. Tikhozanso kuyamba kuphunzira momwe tingagwirizane moyenera m'njira yolimbikitsa kudalirana.
Zomwe amuna amaphunzira
Amuna adzafunika kudziletsa pazakugonana komanso ulemu kwa amayi kuti athe kumva kuti akhoza kukukhulupirirani.
Zomwe akazi amaphunzira
Akazi, kumbali inayo, akuyenera kusiya malingaliro a diva kapena a princess ndi machitidwe okakamiza ndikufikira ubalewo moyenera.
Ndikofunikanso kuzindikira kuti abambo samalankhula momwe mumaganizira choncho mwina mukuwerenga molakwika zizindikirazo.
Osalingalira kapena kuneneza
M'malo mongoganiza kuti bambo akuganiza kapena akuchita zomwe mukuganiza kuti akuchita, sinthani nkhaniyo.
Komanso, lekani kuneneza mnzanu wamwamuna kapena china chake. M'malo mwake, afunseni kuti kulumikizana kopanda mawu kumene mwangowona kumene kumatanthauza chiyani.
Nenani 'mukuyang'ana nkhope yanu yomwe ndikuyesera kuti ndiwerenge, koma sindikumvetsa, nchiyani chakupangitsani kukoka mawuwo? Ndikungofunsa kuti ndikumvetsetseni bwino.
Ndipo kwa abambo, muyenera kudziwa kuti azimayi nthawi zonse amateteza chilengedwe, akufuna kudziwa kuti mulibwino komanso kuti ali bwino ndi inu ndi chikhalidwe chawo.
Chifukwa chake kuthandiza mnzanu kuti akumvetsetseni popanda kumva kuwawa akamakufunsani mafunso ngati omwe afotokozedwa pamwambapa kumathandiza kwambiri kuti musangalatse mnzanu kuposa momwe mungaganizire.
Zolephera za phunziroli
Phunziroli ndi lodziwikiratu ndipo likuwonetsa zowonadi zina zapakhomo zomwe tonse tingapindule nazo pophunzira.
Komabe, ndikofunikira kuvomereza kuti phunziroli limangophatikiza amuna 30 okha, onse amisinkhu yofanana kapena yofanana komanso malo omwewo. Palibe chitsimikizo kuti chikuwonetsa anthu onse komanso maubale ndi ma bromance padziko lonse lapansi.
Ngakhale china chimandiuza, makamaka kumadzulo kuti titha kumvetsetsa izi.
Tikukhulupirira, maphunzirowa apitilira, ndipo tidzaphunzira zambiri za momwe tingasinthire ubale pakati pa abambo ndi amai.