Zamkati
- 1. Chinalakwika ndi chiyani
- 2. Mukulimbikitsidwa kuchita chiyani kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino?
- 3. Kudzimva kukhala woyenera kumatha kukupangitsa kuti ukhale m'banja lachiphamaso
- 1. Yang'anirani, konzekerani ndi kumvetsera kwa mnzanu
- 2. Lankhulani 'ndi' m'malo moyankhula ndi mnzanu
- 3. Bweretsani kudzichepetsa mbanja lanu
- 4. Kunena kuti pepani sikokwanira, tsatirani zochita
Ndiye mukukwatira kachitatu, ndipo tili otsimikiza kuti nthawi ino mukufuna kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino, makamaka, ndani amene akwatira ndi cholinga chothetsa banja? Palibe!
Tikukuthokozani chifukwa choyesetsa kwanu kupeza bwenzi lodzakhala naye moyo lomwe mungasangalale kukhala nalo moyo wanu wonse, komanso osataya nthawi pomwe ambiri akanafuna. Kukuthandizani paulendowu tili nawonso upangiri waukwati wachitatu womwe mwachiyembekezo ungakuthandizeni kuti ukwatiwu ukhale wamuyaya.
1. Chinalakwika ndi chiyani
Musanalowe m'banja lanu lachitatu, dzifunseni izi; Kodi chinalakwika ndi chiyani m'maukwati anga awiri akale? Ndalakwa chiyani? Kodi ndingasinthe bwanji machitidwe amenewa muukwatiwu?
Onetsetsani kuti mwalemba mafunso ndi mayankho anu kuti muzitha kulingalira ndikudzikumbutsa kuti mukhalebe olondola munthawizo mukayamba kubwerera mmbuyo munjira zanu zakale.
Upangiri waukwati wachitatuwu ndikukukumbutsani kuti muzindikire gawo lanu pamavuto am'banja lanu lakale. Ngakhale simunalakwitse chilichonse, kapena simunabweretse chisudzulo, dzifunseni kuti bwanji mudawakopa anthu amenewo? Kodi anakuphunzitsani chiyani?
Mutha kukhala ndi anthu omwe adakwatirana omwe achita zachinyengo, zomwe sizolakwa zanu, koma kudzifunsa nokha kuti ndi chiyani mwa inu chomwe chimakopa kubera pamoyo wanu kumabweretsa chidziwitso. Ngati mutha kuthana ndi izi, ndiye kuti simukopa anthu omwe amakuchitirani zotere mtsogolomo.
2. Mukulimbikitsidwa kuchita chiyani kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino?
Chigawo ichi cha upangiri wachitatu m'banja ndi piritsi lolimba lachikondi. Iwo amene amasamukira kapena kutuluka muukwati samakhala okonzeka kapena ofunitsitsa kuchita khama m'mabanja awo, zomwe zimawapangitsa kuti zisokonezeke.
Ngati uyu ndiinu, ganizirani kaye musanakwatirane ndipo onetsetsani kuti ndinu okonzeka kuyika chibwenzi chanu tsiku ndi tsiku ndipo nthawi zina mumakhala olakwika. Ngati simunakonzekere ndiye kuti zisungireni ndalama ndi zovuta ndikungocheza ndi mnzanu.
Chimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri pankhaniyi ndikuti nthawi zambiri pamakhala wokwatirana yemwe amaganiza kuti ali bwino ndipo safuna kunyengerera ngakhale atasokoneza chisangalalo cha ena. Ngakhale akulakwitsa.
3. Kudzimva kukhala woyenera kumatha kukupangitsa kuti ukhale m'banja lachiphamaso
Ngati mukumverera kuti muli ndi ufulu munjira iliyonse ndipo simukuyanjana nazo, mutha kukhala pachibwenzi kapena banja. Ndi zophweka choncho.
Izi zimawoneka nthawi zambiri (koma osangokhala) makamaka ngati wina ali pa banja lachitatu komanso ngati mnzake ali ndi ndalama zambiri.
Ngakhale mutakhala ndi ndalama zambiri, mukuyenerabe kuti winawake akukondeni momwe mulili, musakhazikike kwa wina amene amakukondani chifukwa cha ndalama. Ndipo ngati mukukonzekera kukwatira pazifukwa zoterezi, dziwani kuti inunso mukutaya chikondi chenicheni chifukwa chofuna ndalama. Ndizofanana kugulitsa moyo wanu.
Ngati mungavomereze khalidweli ndikuligwiritsa ntchito, mudzapeza kuti mukukwatirana pazifukwa zonse zoyenera - zachikondi, ndipo mwina mudzawona kuti simudzayeneranso kuthana ndi chisudzulo!
Nawu mndandanda wazikhalidwe zinayi zomwe mungagwiritse ntchito kuti muwonetsetse kuti mukusangalala ndi banja lachitatu losangalala.
1. Yang'anirani, konzekerani ndi kumvetsera kwa mnzanu
Tcherani khutu ku zomwe akunena, ndipo mukakhala nawo, ndipo muwona kuti malingaliro anu akusochera pazinthu zina, bweretsani kuti mumvetsere kwa mnzanu. Mukatero, mudzayamba kukhulupirirana komanso kukondana kwambiri, ndipo kulumikizana kwanu kopanda chidziwitso ndi mnzanuyo kuwadziwitsa kuti nonse mulipo.
2. Lankhulani 'ndi' m'malo moyankhula ndi mnzanu
Palibe amene amakonda kulankhulidwa 'pa' koma aliyense amasangalala akamacheza 'ndi.' Chotsani zopinga zosaoneka pakati panu mwa kukhazikitsa chizolowezi cholankhuliranachi ndikuwonera zosintha zomwe chinyengo ichi chimabweretsa.
3. Bweretsani kudzichepetsa mbanja lanu
Nenani kuti mukupepesa ngati mukulakwitsa, kapena nthawi zina ngati zingakonze zinthu. Nenani zikomo kwa mnzanu - zikomo chifukwa choganizira, kuganizira ena, kukupangitsani kumva momwe iwo akumvera. Khalani nawo nthawi, mverani iwo, muchepetse chitetezo chanu nawo. Khalani osatetezeka. Izi zonse zimapangitsa mnzanu kumva kuti amakukondani, mumamufuna komanso mumamuyamikira, nawonso amakuwonetsani, ndipo mupanga chikondi, ndikudalira popanda kuchita khama!
4. Kunena kuti pepani sikokwanira, tsatirani zochita
Ngati mupepesa china chake chomwe mwachita, osabwereza cholakwika chomwecho - pepani limakhala lopanda kanthu ngati simukuyesetsa kuchitapo kanthu ndipo ndiyo njira yofulumira yothetsera kukhulupilira ubale wanu - tikhulupirireni, izi ndi gawo limodzi la upangiri waukwati wachitatu womwe muyenera kudziwa!