Zamkati
- Kodi chimatanthauza chiyani kwenikweni muubwenzi?
- Zizindikiro za 10 zakusonyeza kwanu kuti zikuwononga ubale wanu
- 1. Chilakolako chofuna kukhala cholondola, nthawi zonse
- 2. Kuyankhulana kumayamba kutsika
- 3. Mumayamba kusonyeza nsanje
- 4. Mumasewera wovulalayo
- 5. Kunyada / kudzikuza
- 6. Zimakuvutani kuvomereza ndikupepesa, ngakhale mutalakwitsa
- 7. Mutha kukhala ndi zizolowezi zoukira
- 8. Wokondedwa wanu nthawi zonse amalephera kutsatira mfundo zanu
- 9. Simudziwa chilankhulo chachikondi cha mnzanu
- 10. Mpikisano wopanda thanzi
- Kukulunga
Akatswiri pankhani za maubwenzi, alangizi a mabanja, ndi anthu omwe akhala ndi maubale opambana nthawi zambiri amagwirizana pa chinthu chimodzi; kudzikonda kwakukulu ndi ubale wathanzi sizimayendera limodzi.
Kukhala paubwenzi ndi wina yemwe ali ndi chidwi chofanana ndi The Empire State Building ndizovuta zomwe anthu ambiri sangadutsemo. Zimafika poipa ngati munthu uyu ndi 'inu.'
Nkhaniyi ikuthandizani kuwunikira pamutu wa 'kudzipereka muubwenzi' ndikupatsanso chidziwitso chomwe mungagwiritse ntchito nthawi yomweyo.
Nazi zizindikilo khumi zosonyeza kuti chidwi chanu chikuwononga ubale wanu. Komabe, tisanalowe mu izi, tiyeni tisonkhanitseko mbiri yakumbuyo.
Kodi chimatanthauza chiyani kwenikweni muubwenzi?
Tivomerezane. Kuvomereza kuti mwina mungakhale odzikuza sichinthu chophweka kwambiri mukamacheza nanu.
Zowonadi zake, ichi ndi chinthu chimodzi chomwe anthu ambiri amanyalanyaza chifukwa kuzindikira kungakhale kochulukira kuti athe kuthana nawo.
Kodi 'zili' momwe muliri, kapena kodi 'zimayenerera kukhala chiwonetsero cha kudzikuza kwakukulu? Kodi ndichinthu chomwe chiyenera kukudetsani nkhawa, kapena mnzanuyo akuyenera kuzolowera mtundu wanuwu?
Mulimonsemo, kumvetsetsa kuti 'ego' ndi chiyani kumakupatsani chidziwitso cha momwe zingawonetsedwere muubwenzi wanu. Ndiye, kodi kudziwika pachibwenzi kumatanthauza chiyani?
Umunthu wanu ndikudziyang'anira kwanu kapena kudzidalira.
Mukasungidwa moyenera, kukhala wathanzi ndikofunikira kuti ubale ugwire ntchito chifukwa muyenera kukhala ndi lingaliro lodzidalira kuti mukhale pachibwenzi chabwino.
Komabe, pamutu wazokambirana izi, tikuyang'ana kwambiri kukhala ndi 'ulemu waukulu' komanso momwe izi zingasokonezere ubale wanu.
Munthu akakhala ndi 'ulemu waukulu,' amadzazidwa okha, makamaka m'njira yomwe ena amamuwona ngati wokhumudwitsa.
Kudzitama kwakukulu pachibwenzi kumawonekera m'njira zosiyanasiyana, ndipo nkhaniyi idzawonetsa zisonyezo khumi zakuti malingaliro anu atha kusokoneza ubale wanu m'njira yolakwika.
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Zizindikiro za 10 zakusonyeza kwanu kuti zikuwononga ubale wanu
Mukawona izi zakusonyeza ubale wanu, mungafune kuyika mapazi anu pamabuleki ndikuwunika komwe mukupita.
Zitha kukhala kuti malingaliro anu abisala kwinakwake mumdima, akuyembekeza kukanikiza mwamphamvu ubale wanu ndikuukakamiza kuti uswe.
1. Chilakolako chofuna kukhala cholondola, nthawi zonse
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zoyambirira kuwonetsa kudzikuza mu ubale wanu; chikhumbo chofuna kukhala wolondola nthawi zonse osalabadira kapena kusamalira chidwi cha mnzanu.
Chokhacho chomwe ndichofunikira ndikuti muwonetsetse zomwe mukufuna komanso kuti mnzanu avomereze kuti zinali zowona.
Izi zikayamba kukuchitikirani, mutha kuzindikira kuti zimakuvutani kuvomereza kuti mwina mukulakwitsa zinazake.
Kuphatikiza apo, mwina simungamumvere mnzanuyo ndikuchita zomwe mumakhulupirira kuti ndizolondola nthawi zonse, ngakhale mutadziwa kuti wokondedwa wanu akhoza kukhala ndi lingaliro kapena lingaliro losiyana.
Zoyenera kuchita:
Dzikumbutseni nthawi ndi nthawi kuti muli pachibwenzi ndipo mnzanuyo ali ndi zofanana nawo.
Muziyesetsa kufunafuna malingaliro awo pazinthu zofunikira ndikukhala okonzeka kufikira nthawi yomwe akuwoneka kuti sakusangalala ndi zomwe mukufuna. Kumbukirani kuti kudzikuza kwakukulu kungasokoneze ubale wanu.
2. Kuyankhulana kumayamba kutsika
Kuyankhulana ndi gawo lofunikira paubwenzi uliwonse. Kuti mukhale ndiubwenzi wapamtima komanso kuyanjana kwambiri, pakufunika kuti okwatiranawo azitha kulumikizana.
Izi zimapitilira nthawi ina 'moni' kapena 'm'mawa wabwino.'
Tikulankhula za kulumikizana kwapafupi komwe mumalankhula ndi mnzanu ndikudzifotokozera. Komabe, kulumikizana sikungatheke ngati wokondedwa wanu wayamba kuwona zizindikilo zakusakondwa mwa inu.
Kuperewera kwa kulumikizana kumachitika chifukwa choti mnzanuyo atha kuyamba kuyenda pamazira ozungulira. Popeza zonse zomwe zili pachibwenzi zili ndi njira yodzikondera 'inu,' mutha kuyamba kuzindikira kuti akuchokerani.
Iwo kulibwino azibisa zinsinsi zawo tsopano. Wokondedwa wanu amakonda kukhala nthawi yambiri ndi anthu ena kuposa kukhala nanu.
Izi zitha kukhala chifukwa amaopa bomba lomwe lingaphulike ngati ayesa kukambirana nanu momasuka.
Ngakhale atachita zopusa kwenikweni, amatha kulankhulana ndi munthu wina kupatula iwe chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti mwina mungawapweteke kapena kuwaweruza mwachangu.
Zoyenera kuchita:
Njira yothetsera vutoli ili pokumbukira kuti kutenga malingaliro akulu muubwenzi wanu ndi lingaliro loipa. Kuphatikiza apo, yambani kuyesetsa kulankhulana bwino.
Pangani nthawi yocheza ndi mnzanu ndipo nthawi ino isakhale yolowerera; zida zamagetsi, chiweruzo, ndi zonse zomwe zingapangitse mnzanu kumva ngati wabedwa.
Ngati mukuganiza kuti zingathandize, mungafune kutsogolera ndikuyamba kukambirana powauza zakukhosi kwanu. Musaope kuyesetsa kuti mulowemo.
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3. Mumayamba kusonyeza nsanje
Chizindikiro china cha kudzikonda muubwenzi wanu ndi nsanje. Uku sikumverera kwanthawi zonse kwa nsanje ndi chitetezo chomwe chimayamba nthawi iliyonse yomwe mungawone kuti ndiwopseza ubale wanu.
Nsanje yamtunduwu nthawi zambiri imakhala yopanda maziko, yopondereza, ndipo nthawi zina imabwerera m'mbuyo.
Nsanje imadziwonetsera m'njira zambiri, ndipo imodzi mwazo ndi kufunitsitsa kuwongolera. Pansi pazikhalidwezi, mumafuna kudziwa komwe mnzanu ali.
Kusuliza kumadziwika ndi ubale wanu nawo, ndipo mutha kudzipezanso mukumata mphuno mwanu muzinthu zazing'ono zomwe sizinakukhudzeni kale.
Mwachitsanzo, mutha kufunsa kuti mudziwe dzina lachinsinsi lazida zawo ndikuwona mawu aliwonse omwe amatumiza / kuyimba foni yomwe amalandira. Ngakhale izi sizingakhale mavuto mwa iwo wokha, chovuta ndimaganizo omwe amakhala nawo.
Zochita izi nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuchokera kumalo okhala ndi poizoni komanso kufunitsitsa kutsimikizira kuti mnzanuyo palibe chabwino, ngakhale sizili choncho.
Nsanje imatha kudyetsa ubale mwachangu, makamaka popanga mphepo yolakwika ndikukakamiza wokondedwa wanu kuti ayambe kukuchenjezani.
Zoyenera kuchita:
Mungafune kuyamba poyankhula momasuka ndi wokondedwa wanu. Onetsani malingaliro anu ndikuwululira mtima wanu kwa iwo kuti athane ndi nsanje pachibwenzi.
Auzeni ngati pali chilichonse chomwe amachita chomwe chimakusowetsani mtendere ndikukupangitsani kukayikira kudzipereka kwawo pachibwenzi.
Mukamachita izi, mverani zomwe anenenso. Kumbukirani kuti uwu ndi ubale, ndipo onse omwe akukhudzidwa akuyenera kukhala otetezeka kuti agwire ntchito.
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4. Mumasewera wovulalayo
Chizindikiro cha kuvulazidwa ndikumangokhalira kuopa kuti simukwanira. Chifukwa chake, mumayandikira ubale wanu kuchokera pamalo oti mukuzunzidwa ndikudzimvera chisoni.
Pazifukwa izi, mumakhala opanikizika ndipo ngati pali mpikisano wosadziwika pakati panu ndi mnzanu. Mumayesa zochita zanu motsutsana ndi miyezo yayikulu kwambiri ndipo yomwe, nthawi zambiri, imakhala m'maganizo mwanu.
Izi zikayamba kuchitika, mudzayamba kukambirana zoipa ndi inu nokha osati zambiri zabwino.
Zotsatira zake ndikuti kusakhulupirira kwanu aliyense (kuphatikiza mnzanu) kumayamba kuwuka, ndipo ndizovuta kusunga ubale motere. Kudziwonetsera kwachikondi muubwenzi wanu ndiwowopsa pachibwenzi.
Zoyenera kuchita:
Yambani polankhula ndi mnzanu. Adziwitseni zomwe mukukumana nazo komanso momwe mungathere, onetsetsani zowona zawo.
Pamodzi, mutha kupanga njira yoyendetsera nthawi zovuta muubwenzi wanu. Dongosololi lingaphatikizepo kufunsira thandizo la katswiri wazamaganizidwe ndikufunafuna chithandizo.
Mukamachita izi, kumbukirani kuti kudzipha kumapha, ndipo kuyenera kuchotsedwa pachibwenzi chanu nthawi yomweyo.
5. Kunyada / kudzikuza
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwamavuto akulu kwambiri pachibwenzi. Chimodzi mwazomwe zimafotokozedwa muubwenzi ndi kunyada komanso kudzikonda.
Chodzikuza ndichakuti chimayamba pang'onopang'ono koma chimatha kupanga chinthu chachikulu pakuthwanima kwa diso. Komanso kunyada kumawononga maubale.
Nthawi zambiri, kunyada pachibwenzi kumayamba pomwe munthu m'modzi amayamba kumva, pazifukwa zomveka, kuti ndiabwino kuposa mnzake.
Izi zitha kukhala chifukwa amalandila zochulukirapo, akuchita bwino pantchito yawo, kapena mwina chifukwa cha zinthu zina zosadziwika zomwe adaziyika m'malingaliro awo.
Zotsatira zonyada ndikuti zimakupangitsani kuyamba kuwona wokondedwa wanu monga wotsika pansi pa inu ndi chibwenzicho ngati chodzichepetsa. Ngati simusamala kwambiri, mavuto omwe amabwera ndi izi atha kukupangitsani nonse kuti muyambe kukondana.
Zoyenera kuchita:
Kuchita ndi ego ikhoza kukhala ntchito yolemekezeka. Kudzikuza kumeneku komanso kudzikonda sindiye chinthu chofunikanso.
Gawo loyamba pano ndikuvomereza kuti alipo ndipo apange chisankho chokhazikika chopeza njira yowazungulira. Mukamaliza kuchita izi, khalani ndi nthawi yolankhulana ndi bwenzi lanu.
Adziwitseni zomwe zikuchitika m'maganizo mwanu.
Ngati chifukwa chamalingaliro ndichinthu chakunja chomwe chingakonzedwe ndikusintha pang'ono muubwenzi (mwina, mnzanuyo ayenera kupeza ntchito yolipira bwino), gwirani ntchito limodzi kuti muwone momwe mungapangire izi.
Komanso, mungapindule kwambiri nthawi yakusinkhasinkha komanso kucheza ndi inu nokha komwe mumatha kudzikumbutsa nokha za mnzanu yemwe anakukokerani kwa iwo poyamba.
Kukumbutsa nthawi zonse za izi ndi njira imodzi yowonera kuti ndi ofunika nthawi zonse osatengeka ndi zinthu zazing'ono.
6. Zimakuvutani kuvomereza ndikupepesa, ngakhale mutalakwitsa
Chizindikiro china chodzikweza muubwenzi wanu ndikulephera kuvomereza kuti mwalakwitsa ndikupepesa kwa mnzanu, ngakhale zomwe mwachita zikuwonekera.
Mukakhala ndi vuto loipa ili, kuvomereza kuti mumalakwitsa pazinthu zina ndizosatheka. Nthawi zina, mumangokhalira kuvina mozungulira mutu kuposa kuyankhula ndi njovu m'chipindacho, nthawi yonseyi ndikusiya mnzanu akumva kupweteka kosaneneka.
Zoyenera kuchita:
Musaganize kuti wokondedwa wanu akumvetsetsa. Ngati mumachita zinazake ndipo zikuwoneka kuti sizolondola kapena ayi, khalani omasuka ndi mnzanu.
Lankhulani nawo ndipo musawachepetsere nkhawa zawo. Mukamachita izi, musachepetse mphamvu ya mawu atatu awa; 'Pepani"
7. Mutha kukhala ndi zizolowezi zoukira
Kunena zowona konse, kukhala ndi wankhanza ndizovuta ngati kukwera phiri la Everest. Mwamwayi, sizovuta kwenikweni kudziwa ngati muli ndi zizolowezi zamankhwala osokoneza bongo.
Zomwe mukufunikira kuti muziyang'ana ndizazing'ono kwambiri ndikudziyankhulira nokha moona mtima.
Mukakhala ndi zizolowezi zosokoneza bongo, zambiri zomwe mumachita zimakuzungulirani. Mumangoganizira pang'ono za momwe mnzanu akumvera.
Nthawi zambiri, mutha kuyesa njira zosiyanasiyana kuti awachititse chilichonse chomwe mungafune, ngakhale zitakhala zachinyengo.
Ngati mukulimbana ndi izi, mumatenga mpata uliwonse wodziwika kuti mulankhule za inu nokha ndikusangalala ndi momwe mulili kuposa ena.
Kungakhale kovuta kwa inu kuti muwerenge zikhalidwe za anthu omwe akuzungulirani chifukwa mudakulungidwa ndikufunikira dziko lanu. Mawu olankhula kwa wankhanza ndi "ine, inemwini, ndi ine."
Narcissism ndi chisonyezo cha kudzipereka muubwenzi, ndipo zotsatira zake ndikuti mnzanuyo amayamba kudzimva kuti ali pachibwenzi, osatha kufotokoza zomwe ali nazo, ndipo palibe mwayi wololera.
Zoyenera kuchita:
Sankhani kuti chizolowezi ichi ndichinthu chomwe muyenera kuchita mozindikira. Simungachite chilichonse kuti muthe kukana ngati simukuvomereza kuti pali china chomwe chikuyenera kugwira ntchito poyambirira.
Mukachita izi, yambani kuwonetsa zoyesayesa zanu kuti muwone mnzanu ali ndi ufulu wofanana ndi inu. Nthawi zina, mumayenera kuyimitsa chilichonse chomwe chikukukhudzani ndikukhala nawo.
Kumbukirani, kuthekera kololera ndi gawo lalikulu la ubale wabwino.
8. Wokondedwa wanu nthawi zonse amalephera kutsatira mfundo zanu
Kodi mumakhala okwiya nthawi zonse chifukwa choti mnzanu sakugwirizana ndi tanthauzo lanu 'wangwiro?'
Mwina alibe tanthauzo lenileni la mafashoni omwe mukufuna, kapena sangathe kukhala pagulu la anzanu chifukwa sali opukutidwa monga momwe mungafunire.
Mndandandawu ndiwosatha, ndipo ngakhale zina mwaziwopsezo zanu zingakhale zomveka, yankho lanu ndilofunika.
Chifukwa cha njira zikwi izi, mumapeza mnzanu akusowa; mumapanga ntchito 'kuwasintha'. Kusintha kumeneku kumaphatikizaponso kuwachitira nkhanza zosaneneka ndikuwapangitsa kumva kuwawa chifukwa cholephera kukwaniritsa miyezo yanu.
Khama lawo silitanthauza zambiri kwa inu chifukwa palibe chilichonse chomwe angachite chomwe chingawapangitse kukumana. Mukadzipeza mukuchita izi, ndi chizindikiro chodzidalira muubwenzi wanu, ndipo muyenera kuyisamalira nthawi yomweyo.
Zoyenera kuchita:
Wokondedwa wanu sangakhale wangwiro; palibe amene ali. Kudziwa izi kokha kukuthandizani kuti musinthe mayanjidwe anu pachibwenzi ndikupatsanso gawo lofananira kuti muwathandize kukula ndikuchita bwino m'malo osiyanasiyana m'miyoyo yawo.
Sinthanitsani mawu okhwima ndi mphindi zokambirana zakukhosi. Ngati zina zonse zalephera, lolani wolamulira m'moyo wa mnzanu (mwina kholo kapena mlangizi) alowemo ndikuthandizani kuwapangitsa kuti awone zifukwa zomwe akuyenera kukula.
9. Simudziwa chilankhulo chachikondi cha mnzanu
Aliyense ali ndi chilankhulo choyambirira chachikondi, ndiyo njira yayikulu yomwe amafunira kulandira chikondi.
Chizindikiro chimodzi choti kudziwika kwanu kukuwononga ubale wanu ndikuti simukudziwa chilankhulo cha mnzanu. Ngakhale mutatero, simumalankhula pafupipafupi momwe angafunire kuti amve.
Kusadziwa chilankhulo chachikondi cha mnzanu kungakupangitseni kuti mukhale ndi malingaliro oyenera pachibwenzi chanu.
Zoyenera kuchita:
Pansi pazikhalidwezi, gawo loyamba lomwe muyenera kuchita ndikupeza zilankhulo zosiyanasiyana zachikondi ndikuphunzira mnzanu kuti mupeze awo.
Ngati simukudziwa, pezani njira yochotsera yankho lawo osawulula zomwe mukufuna.
Yesani kuwafunsa mafunso ngati, "Ndingatani kuti ndikukumbutseni momwe ndimakukonderani?" ndipo mvetserani mwatcheru mayankho awo. Mukalandira yankho, onetsetsani kuti mukugwiritsa ntchito bwino zomwe mwaphunzira.
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10. Mpikisano wopanda thanzi
Njira imodzi yosagwirizana ndi ubale wanu ndikukupangitsani mipikisano yoyipa yomwe simuyenera kukhalamo.
Chibwenzi chanu chikayamba kupikisana kwambiri (m'njira yolakwika), onetsetsani kuti munthu wina akufuna kusewera.
Mukadzipeza mukupikisana kuti mubweretse ndalama zambiri, kukhala opambana komanso kudziyimira pawokha pazachuma, kuti muthe kuyika mnzanu m'malo mwawo, ndichizindikiro kuti mtima wanu watenga ziyeso zaubwenzi.
Zoyenera kuchita:
Dziwani kuti simulimbana ndi aliyense, makamaka mnzanu.
Ndi chinthu chimodzi nonse kuti mudzitsutse kuti mukhale bwino ndikukwera pachimake pantchito yanu kapena kulimbikitsidwa ndi kupambana kwa wina ndi mnzake, koma mukadzipeza muli mu mpikisano wamakoswe kuti mudzipambanitse, onaninso momwe zinthu ziliri .
Vomerezani kuti pali zomwe zikuchitika ndipo zimafunikira kuyang'aniridwa mwachangu.
Lankhulani bwinobwino. Kuyankhulana kumakhalabe chida chofunikira ndipo kumatha kuthana ndi vuto lalikulu muubwenzi. Kuchita izi kungakutsegulireni masitepe omwe muyenera kuchita kuti musinthe zomwe mukufuna.
Komanso, mungafunike kufunafuna chithandizo cha akatswiri nthawi yomweyo. Nthawi zambiri, kucheza kwina pamtima sikumadula kwenikweni.
Kukulunga
Momwe mungathetsere kudzidalira muubwenzi wanu?
Mfundo 10 zomwe zafotokozedwa mgawo lomaliza zikuwonetsa kuti kudzimva kopwetekedwa sikubweretsa zotsatira zabwino muubwenzi.
Ngati, mukawerenga nkhaniyi, zidakuwuzani kuti kudzikuza kwanu kukuwononga ubale wanu, yambani kupanga chisankho chosiya kudzikuza.
Zoyeserera zakambidwa pansi pazizindikiro khumi mgawo lomaliza. Chitanipo kanthu pazifukwazi ndikukhala okonzeka kulola nthawi kuti iwonongeke.
Vuto lodzidalira muubwenzi wanu lidzafa mwachilengedwe mukamachita izi. Kumbukirani, kudzikonda kumapha maubale. Mkhalidwe wosweka ndi ubale wathanzi sizimayendera limodzi!