Zamkati
Zikuwoneka ngati funso lofunsidwa wina akafunsa, ubale ndi chiyani, sichoncho?
Chowonadi ndi, ndizo ndi funso lofunikira. Koma yankho lake ndi lovuta kwambiri. Anthu akhala pachibwenzi, kukondana, kukwatira, ndi kusudzulana kwazaka zambiri, koma si ambiri aiwo omwe amangoyang'ana pomwe amaganizira kwenikweni amatanthauza kukhala paubwenzi wabwino. Timakonda kudutsa pamavuto nthawi zambiri, osaphunzira zambiri kulumikizano iliyonse yomwe timapanga ndi munthu wina.
Chowonadi ndi chakuti, timalumikizidwa kuti tizitha kulumikizana. Timakhumba kuyanjana komanso kuyandikirana ndi anthu ena, chifukwa chake ndibwino kuti tipeze malangizo othandizira kuti tichite bwino.
Sizophweka monga lamulo lagolide: chitirani ena momwe mungafunire kuti muchitidwe.
Pali zosintha zambiri zomwe zimapangitsa kuti ubale wamtundu wabwino ukhale wovuta kuposa momwe umawonekera. Ngakhale zitha kukhala zovuta kuzimvetsetsa, pali zipilala zina zomwe ubale wabwino womwe tidadziwitsapo waonekera. Tiyeni titenge miniti ndikukambirana mwatsatanetsatane za zipilazi, ndipo tikuyembekeza kuti ngati tingaziponye pansi, tidzakhala ndi moyo wachikondi kwanthawi yonse.
Kulankhulana
"Vuto lalikulu kwambiri polumikizana ndichinyengo chomwe chachitika".
- George Bernard Shaw
Ndipo apo muli nacho. A Shaw apeza chimodzi mwanjira zazikulu kwambiri zolepheretsa ubale wabwino, ndipo adachita izi mwachidule. Nthawi zambiri timaganiza kuti ndife otseguka komanso owona mtima pazofunika zathu, koma kwenikweni, timazengereza. Sitikuwonetsa mbali yakuya kwambiri ya ife eni chifukwa timaopa kuti munthu amene wakhala moyang'anizana nafe apeza kuti ndiyonyansa.
Kubwezeretsa monga chonchi kumatipangitsa kuti tigwiritsenso ntchito mbali zina zaubwenzi kapena banja. Bodza loyera apa, kusiyidwa pamenepo, ndipo mwadzidzidzi pali mipata yomwe idapangidwa mu zomwe mudaganiza kuti ndi ubale wowona mtima komanso wodalirika. Popita nthawi mipata iyi imakulirakulira, ndipo kulumikizana komwe mumakhulupirira kulibe kwenikweni.
Khalani otseguka. Khalani owona mtima. Onetsani mnzanu mbali yanu yoyipa. Ndi njira yokhayo yopangitsira ubale wanu kukhala wowona ndi zomwe mukuganiza.
Kudalira
Popanda kudalira, mulibe chilichonse. Ubale uyenera kukhala nyumba yanu yamalingaliro, chinthu chomwe mungadalire kuti mutonthozedwe. Ngati simumukhulupirira mnzanu, mudzadziyendetsa nokha (ndipo mwina nanunso) mopenga ndi nkhani pambuyo poti mwapanga kuchokera mumlengalenga. Ngati simukumva kuti mutha kukhulupirira mnzanu ndi mtima wanu komanso moyo wanu, muli pamalo olakwika.
Amati chikondi nchakhungu, ndipo pankhani yakukhulupirirana, ndi momwe ziyenera kukhalira.Osanena kuti muyenera kukhala opanda nzeru kapena chilichonse chonga icho, koma inu ayenera khalani okhulupilira kuti inu ndi mnzanu nthawi zonse mumachita zinthu zomwe zimakulemekezani inuyo komanso banja lanu, ngakhale mukukumana ndi mayesero otani.
Khalani thanthwe
Mukudziwa momwe amayi kapena abambo anu adakunyamulirani pomwe mudagwa muli mwana? Mukamakula ndikukalamba mokwanira kuti mupite kudziko lapansi, mufunikirabe chithandizo choterechi. Makolo anu adzakhala nawo nthawi zonse mwanjira inayake, koma udindo wa "thanthwe" m'moyo wanu udzagwera pa wina wanu wamkulu.
Inu ndi mnzanu muyenera kukhala ofunitsitsa ndikulimbikitsana kuti mutenge wina ndi mnzake pamene akumva kukhumudwa. Ngati wina m'banja lawo wamwalira, muyenera kukhala phewa lawo kulira. Ngati akufuna thandizo poyambitsa bizinesi, muyenera kukhala kumwetulira komwe kumawalonjera zinthu zikachoka pamapiri.
Sichosankha, chimafunika. Muyenera kukhala munthu amene amawanyamula m'masiku awo amdima, ndipo akuyenera kukhala ofunitsitsa kubwezera zabwinozo.
Kuleza mtima
Monga anthu, timakonda kusokoneza. Tili ndi kupanda ungwiro komwe kumapangidwa mu DNA yathu. Kusankha kukhala moyo wanu ndi munthu wina ndi njira yoti "ndikukuvomerezani monga momwe muliri, zolakwika zanu zonse."
Ndipo ndikutanthauza.
Padzakhala nthawi zomwe amakupusitsani mwamisala.
Padzakhala nthawi pamene amakupweteketsani mtima.
Padzakhala nthawi zomwe amaiwala kuchita zomwe adalonjeza kuti adzachita.
Kodi muyenera kuwamasula? Ayi, sichoncho. Koma pamene mukuyesera kukhazikitsa mtendere ataphwanya lonjezo kapena atanena mawu owawa, muyenera kukhala oleza mtima nawo. Atha kuchitanso izi, koma mwayi ndi wabwino kuti satanthauza kuti akupweteketseni.
Anthu ndi abwino mwachibadwa. Koma nawonso ndi opanda ungwiro. Khulupirirani kuti munthu amene akunena kuti amakukondani samakhala wankhanza. Khulupirirani kuti amakonda kuchita zolakwika ngati inu.
Khalani oleza mtima ndi okondedwa wanu, ndi njira yokhayo yomwe zinthu zidzakhalire.
Khalani kunja kwa nkhani yachikondi yanu
Lolani mnzanuyo komanso inu nokha kuchita zinthu zina kunja kwa chibwenzi chanu. Khalani odziyimira pawokha ndikukondana kwambiri.
Ukwati nthawi zambiri umanenedwa kuti anthu awiri amakhala amodzi. Ngakhale ndi mwambi wabwino, sikuyenera kutsatiridwa momveka bwino.
Khalani ndi zosangalatsa zomwe sizikugwirizana nawo, ndipo alimbikitseni kuti nawonso azichita zomwezo. Sikuti muyenera kudzikakamiza kuti muzikhala motalikirana, koma kungopanga mpata wazokomera ubale wanu ndiwopindulitsa kwambiri. Zimakupatsani mwayi wokhala nthawi yopatukana, kenako ndikusangalala ndi nthawi zomwe mumagawana.
Simuyenera kuchita nthawi yonse yomwe mukudzuka limodzi. Khalani bwino mutuluke kunja kwa nthano yanu ndikubwerera kuti mulimbikitsidwe.
Mapeto
Kupanga moyo wachikondi si sayansi, kuli ngati luso; kuvina. Pali zipilala ngati izi zomwe ndi maziko a chinthu china chapadera. Koma mukazilemba izi, ubale wanu ndi wanu kuti mupange. Palibe banja kapena ubale womwe uli wofanana, chifukwa chake kuvina ndi ng'oma yanu mukangophunzira izi.