Zamkati
- Kodi nkhani yamtima ndi yotani?
- Zizindikiro zachinyengo
- Kubera mumtima kumabweretsa mavuto
- Kuchira mwamaubwino
- Kupewa kusakhulupirika m'maganizo
Kodi mumaona kuti mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu ali ndi vuto lachifundo? Kapena, kodi mumadziopa kuti mukuchita zosakhulupirika ndi wokondedwa wanu?
Chabwino, maubale ndi maukwati sizongopeka nthawi zonse monga amafotokozedwera m'mafilimu kapena m'mabuku. Ndi ntchito yolimba, kulimbana, ndi misozi, komanso chisangalalo, chikondi, komanso kuyanjana.
Ubale uliwonse ndi wapadera. Zimabwera ndi zovuta zake zokha, ndipo palibe zovuta.
Kulimbana ndi mavuto azachuma, kusalumikizana bwino ndi kusagwirizana, mfundo zotsutsana, komanso kukakamizidwa ndi anthu akunja kumatha kusokoneza ubale ndikuyesa kupirira.
Koma, kodi zikutanthauza kuti kuchita zachinyengo ndi njira yothetsera mavuto am'banja?
Pakumva mawu awa, ambiri amakhulupirira kuti kunyenga kudziimba mlandu kapena kusakhulupirika kumatanthawuza kugonana kapena kugonana ndi munthu wina kunja kwa banja kapena mgwirizano.
Kuonera sikuti kumangotengera mbali yakuthupi yokha. Pali china chake chomwe chimatchedwa kukondana kapena kukhumudwa.
Kodi nkhani yamtima ndi yotani?
Ganizirani njira zomwe mumalankhulirana ndi munthu amene mumamukonda. Kodi mumawakumbatira? Kodi mumawachitira zinthu zabwino? Kutamanda kapena kulimbikitsa, ngakhale sikufunika?
Njira zomwe mumakondera wina wanu wamkulu zingawoneke ngati zoyenera kugawana ndi ena.
Mwachitsanzo, mutha kudzipeza mutalumikizana ndi kholo momwe mumalumikizirana ndi mnzanu nthawi yocheza bwino, kugawana zinthu, kufotokoza zakukhosi, ndi zina zambiri.
Zowopsa zimayamba msanga ngati palibe malire omwe angaperekedwe kwa omwe amalandira chikondi ndi chisamaliro chotere kuchokera kwa m'modzi kapena onse awiri.
Kubera mtima sikudalira kukhudzana ndi thupi. Ndikupereka ndikulandila chikondi kuchokera kwa munthu wina kupatula mnzanu wofunikira m'njira zomwe zimadutsa malire aubwenzi wabwinobwino.
Mnzanuyo ayenera kukhala yekhayo amene amaloledwa kulowa mu malo ogonana kwambiri m'moyo wanu. Ngati mukuloleza munthu wina kuti akhudze malo amtima mwanu ndikukhalapo, mwina mukukhala kuti mukuchita zachiwerewere kapena zachiwerewere.
Chifukwa chake, ndizofala kwambiri kuchitira umboni zochitika zakuthupi kuntchito chifukwa kuofesi kapena kuntchito ndimalo omwe mumakhala nthawi yayitali mukudzuka.
Chifukwa chake, m'malo ngati awa, mukafika kunyumba, mumatopa kwambiri kuti musakhale ndi nthawi yocheza ndi mnzanu. Chifukwa chake mumakonda kukhala osakhutira kunyumba ndikufunafuna chisangalalo pantchito kapena kunja.
Zizindikiro zachinyengo
Zochitika zamalingaliro sizowoneka chimodzimodzi nthawi zonse. Pali zizindikiro ndi magawo osiyanasiyana azinthu zam'maganizo.
Zizindikiro za kubera m'maganizo zimadalira magawo azomwe mukukumana nazo.
Ena amagawana maloto ndi zikhumbo zawo. Ena amagawana chisoni chawo ndikudandaula. Ena amalumikizana ndi wina m'njira zomwe sanalankhulepo ndi wokondedwa wawo.
Mutha kudabwa chifukwa chomwe abambo amakhala ndi zochitika zam'maganizo? Ndipo, kumene, akazi nawonso?
Kwenikweni, palibe banja langwiro; padzakhala tsatanetsatane wosowa komanso malo amkati omwe anyalanyazidwa. Kusakhulupirika kwamaganizidwe kumachitika munthu akalola wina wake kudzaza mphwayi.
Ngati mukulephera kulumikizana ndi mnzanuyo ndikupita kwa wina kuti mugawane nawo zochitika pamoyo wanu, mutha kukhala osakhulupirika.
Sizachilendo kuti maanja afunefune kulumikizana kunja kwa mgwirizano, koma ena akatenga malo oti adziwe zinsinsi zanu, mutha kupeza ena anu akunja akuyang'ana mkati.
Onerani kanemayu pazolakwika zaubwenzi wamba. Mwinanso mutha kunyalanyaza zolakwazo muubwenzi wanu ndikupeza chilimbikitso m'malo mokondana.
Kubera mumtima kumabweretsa mavuto
Tsopano, ngati mukudabwa, kodi zochitika zam'maganizo zimasanduka chikondi?
Sipangakhale yankho lotsimikizika pa izi.
Chikondi chimatheka ngati mukukhalabe muubwenzi wopanda chiyembekezo, pomwe simukupeza chilichonse chosangalatsa komanso chosangalala.
Mbali inayi, zochitika zam'maganizo ndi mameseji, ngakhale zitha kuwoneka ngati njira yabwino yothetsera ludzu lanu lamalingaliro pomwe adayamba. Koma, izi zitha kukhala zamwano.
Pali kuthekera kwakuti mavuto pakati panu ndi mnzanu atha kukulirakulira, omwe akadatha kuthetsedwa mukadakhala kuti mumawayang'ana kwambiri musanapange zochitika zam'malingaliro.
Pali maphunziro omwe akutsutsana kuti ndi mtundu wanji wosakhulupirika womwe ungavulaze ubale. Ena amati kukhudzana ndi munthu wina ndichinthu chomwe mkazi kapena mnzanu sadzaiwala, ndipo onse awiri amavutika chimodzimodzi.
Ena anena kuti kuchita chigololo ndi kovuta kuthana nako; Kulumikizana pakati pa anthu awiri omwe sali pachibwenzi chitha kuwononga ubale womwe ulipo kale.
Ndi kubera m'maganizo kumadza kusakhulupirika, kuchepa kwa kulumikizana, komanso kukhudzana, ndikulepheretsa kuyandikana.
Kuchira mwamaubwino
Ngati mukudziwonera nokha, zizindikiro zakulakwa mutabera, ndikudzifunsa momwe mungathetsere zovuta zam'malingaliro, yankho labwino ndikungoyimitsa nthawi yomweyo.
Inde, zingawoneke zopweteka poyamba, koma mukangopanga chisankho, ingoyimitsani zochitika zanu zonse. Lekani kulumikizana ndi mnzanuyo ndipo lekani kugawana zakukhosi kwanu nthawi imodzi.
Kumbali inayi, ngati mukuwona kuti ndinu wokhumudwitsidwa ndi mnzanuyo ndipo mukuganiza kuti mungakhululukire bwanji zachinyengo, choyambirira ndikulankhula ndi mnzanu.
Lankhulani momasuka komanso moona mtima ndi mnzanu, ndipo ngati mukumva kuti ndi olakwa potero, si mlandu waukulu kuti muwalange moyo wawo wonse.
Kupewa kusakhulupirika m'maganizo
Podziwa zomwe kusakhulupirika kumakhudza, mungaganizire momwe mungapewere izi muubwenzi wanu?
Pali njira zingapo zodzitetezera zomwe munthu angachite kuti atsimikizire kuti ubale wawo watetezedwa ku chinyengo chotere.
Choyamba, kambiranani momasuka ndi mnzanu nthawi zonse!
Ngakhale mukuwona kuti ndizopusa kunena kuti ndi ndani amene wakuitanani kapena amene adakutumizirani mameseji pa Facebook, khalani okonzeka kuyankhula za izi ndi mnzanu kapena mnzanu. Dziwani za kuwongolera komanso kuchitira nkhanza, koma dziwani kuti kusakhulupirika komanso kubisa zidziwitso sizikhala ndi ubale wabwino.
Chachiwiri, kumbukirani kuti ndani amene amatenga nthawi yanu yambiri. Kodi mumapezeka kuti mumathera nthawi yochulukirapo ndi munthu yemwe si mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu ndipo mukuyamba kulumikizana kwambiri?
Imani ndi kulingalira za izo!
Sinthani maudindowo ndikuwona momwe mungatanthauzire khalidweli ngati wokondedwa wanu ali pachibwenzi kunja. Ndipo chachitatu, pangani ndikutsatira malire.
Palibe cholakwika kapena "sukulu yakale" pakupanga malire ndi ena.
Anzanu amuna kapena akazi okhaokha monga anzanu ena akhoza kukhala munthu wofunikira pang'onopang'ono mukalola kuti zichitike. Chifukwa chake chitanipo kanthu tsopano kuti muganizire 'kutalika' ndikotani; kambiranani ndi mnzanu kapena mnzanu kuti muwonetsetse kapena kudziwa malire oyenera.
Zinthu zimachitika; ena ndi oyipa kuposa ena. Ambiri sadzakumana ndi chiyeso chobera mwachidwi; ena mwina sangamve kuwawa chifukwa chobera mayeso.
Kupewa ndiko chitetezo chanu chabwino - ngati mungadzipezeke mukuyandikira malire anu, tengani gawo lalikulu ndikuwunikanso zinthu zofunika kwa inu. Mutha kupita patali kwambiri, koma simuchedwa kubwereranso kuti muyambirenso.