Zamkati
- 1. Kumbukirani chomwe chibwenzi chimakhala
- 2. Lumikizanani ndi momwe mukumvera
- 3. Onetsetsani mgwirizano pakati pa onse
- 4. Gwirizanani pazinthu zina
- 5. Osanena kuti mumawakonda
- 6. Musamanyengeke kapena kunyengerera wokondedwa wanu
- 7. Osangokhala anthu olamulira kapena osalamulirika
- 8. Pewani masabata kuti mukhale ndi malire abwino
- 9. Zindikirani kuti ubalewo ndiwosakhalitsa
- 10. Lemekezanani
Anthu ena amakonda maubale ocheperako kuposa maubale odzipereka. Kwa osaphunzira, kodi mumatanthauzanji kukhala pachibwenzi?
Chibwenzi chachifupi kapena chanthawi yayitali chimakhala chosiyanasiyana, kuyambira usiku umodzi, makonzedwe a "abwenzi omwe ali ndi phindu", kuyimba zofunkha, opanda zingwe zogonana kapenanso kungokhala pachibwenzi.
Zachidziwikire kuti nthawi ina, ngati munthu ali ndi maloto okhazikika ndikukwatira, angafunikire kuyamba kuganizira momwe angasinthire kuchokera pakungosangalala ndi chibwenzi chokha mpaka kukhala ndiubwenzi wokhazikika.
Padzakhala anthu omwe chibwenzi chawo chimatha kudzipereka kwambiri, ngakhale pali zovuta zina kuposa zomwe zidakonzedweratu.
Koma palinso nthawi zina pamene munthu m'modzi atha kukhala pachibwenzi chokha kuti angokhala ndi malingaliro ozama kwa yemwe akusangalala naye ndipo akuyembekeza kuti akhale chibwenzi chodzipereka.
Koma, winayo akusangalalabe mopepuka, akusangalala ndi ubale wosadzipereka.
Zomwe zimapangitsa kuti pakhale funso loti, ndi malangizo ati omwe angakhalepo pachibwenzi? Mungadziwe bwanji ngati zinthu zikukulirakulira kukhala chinthu chachikulu kwambiri? ndipo mumathana nazo bwanji ngati sizomwe mukufuna?
Upangiri wapaubwenzi wamba ndikuti ndizovuta kudziwa mayankho onse a mafunso awa kuyambira pachiyambi, anthu osiyanasiyana ndipo mkhalidwe uliwonse udzakhala wosiyana.
Koma ngati mutsatira malangizowa momwe mungakhalire pachibwenzi, mupeza kuti simudzakhalanso ndi mafunso ngati amenewa.
1. Kumbukirani chomwe chibwenzi chimakhala
Chabwino, tikudziwa kuti simungathe kuwongolera momwe mumamvera nthawi zonse, ndipo ngati muli ndi chizolowezi chofuna kukondana mosavuta, chibwenzi chokha sichingakhale chanu.
Ndizosavuta komanso zosagwirizana.
Ndi momwe chimakhalira chibwenzi, kugonana komwe kulibe malamulo kapena kudzipereka kwakanthawi kwa wina ndi mnzake mtsogolo.
Ngati mukuganiza kuti mudzatha kuthana ndi chibwenzi chokha ngati njira yoyandikirana ndi winawake, mumamuganizira kale munthuyo, ndiye kuti kukhala pachibwenzi nawo ndi njira yomwe ili pachiwopsezo chachikulu chomwe chitha kubweretsa inu kupweteka.
Ndizosankha zanu kaya mukufuna kutenga chiopsezo kapena ayi koma tikukulimbikitsani kuti muganizire za chiopsezo chokhala pachibwenzi choyamba.
2. Lumikizanani ndi momwe mukumvera
Ngati mukukhala pachibwenzi ndipo mukudabwitsidwa kuzindikira kuti mukuyamba kugwira 'zomwe akumva' za munthu amene mukusangalala naye, siyani kuwawona kwa milungu ingapo kuti muzitha kudziwa momwe mukumvera.
Ngati mukuwasowa, ndiye kuti muli ndi zisankho ziwiri zamomwe mungachitire ndi chibwenzi chokha.
- Dzichotseni nokha ndikupita kutali ndi munthuyu.
- Adziwitseni momwe mukumvera(koma khalani okonzeka kuti winayo sangakhale ndi malingaliro otere ndipo atha kungokhala katswiri pamaubwenzi wamba).
Mukalandira yankho lomalizirali, osangotenga nokha kapena ngati kugogoda motsutsana ndi chidaliro kapena ulemu wanu, pitilizani ndikuphunzira kuchokera pamenepo.
Posachedwa mupeza wina amene mumamukonda, omwe samangokhala ndi zibwenzi wamba.
3. Onetsetsani mgwirizano pakati pa onse
Muubwenzi wapamtima, munthu m'modzi amatha kuwongolera mnzake.
Mwina ndi omwe samasamala kwenikweni koma nthawi zambiri, amene amakhala ndi mphamvu zambiri, amawombera. Amasankha nthawi yabwino yocheza, ndipo sangalumikizane ngati safuna.
Ngati mungapitirire ndi izi ndikupeza kuti mumalakalaka ndikudzifunsa kuti mudzamuwonanso liti mnzanu, ndiye kuti ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro zosonyeza kuti chibwenzi chanu chikukulirakulira ndipo mumamukonda munthu ameneyu.
Chifukwa chake, mwina ndi nthawi yoti muchokepo. Mwinanso, tsatirani malangizowo mu mfundo yoyamba.
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4. Gwirizanani pazinthu zina
Inde, tanena kuti nthawi zambiri palibe malamulo muubwenzi wamba, koma payenera kukhala malamulo ena okhudzana ndi chibwenzi.
Nthawi zambiri, m'modzi amafuna kupeza zambiri kuchokera pachibwenzi, choncho zikachitika, sizipweteka kukhala ndi malamulo oti muteteze nonse.
Malamulo monga ngati m'modzi wa inu ayimbira foni nthawi, winayo amalemekeza izi ndipo samakupangitsanso zina.
Malamulo ena ofunikira atha kuthandiza kuti nonse mumve ulemu.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati wina wa inu angakumane ndi wina, ayenera kudziwitsa mnzake amene akumuganizira. Kapenanso mutha kuvomereza momwe mungakumanirane - mwina simukukonda kuyimba kwawolanda, ndipo mukuvomera kuti mudzakumana kamodzi pa sabata.
Kungolankhula ndi mnzanu wapabanja za zomwe akuyembekeza kudzakuthandizani nonse kukambirana mfundo zomwe zikuvomerezeka ndikupatsa mphamvu onse awiri.
Nazi zitsanzo za mafunso omwe mungafunse wina ndi mnzake -
- Mumamva bwanji mukamakhala pachibwenzi ndi anthu ena muli pachibwenzi?
- Kodi tichita bwanji ndi zinthu ngati wina wa ife agwa mchikondi wina ndi mnzake, kapena wina?
- Kodi tikumana kangati?
- Kodi ubalewu uyenera kukhala wachinsinsi?
- Kodi timatani ngati m'modzi wa ife agwira 'zomwe akumva'?
- Timaliza bwanji zinthu m'njira yomwe tonse timamvetsetsa kuti zatha ngati wina wa ife sakumvanso?
Awa akhoza kukhala mafunso ovuta kufunsa, koma mudzakhala okondwa kuti munachita paubwenzi wanu, kapena ngati zinthu zisokoneza miyezi ikubwerayi.
5. Osanena kuti mumawakonda
Osanena kuti mumakonda munthu amene mukukhala naye pachibwenzi, pokhapokha mutatsatira mfundo zonse pamwambapa, makamaka yoyamba.
Ngati mumalankhula ndi mnzanu wamba ndipo nawonso ali ndi malingaliro ndipo akufuna kutenga zinthu gawo lina, ndiye kuti mwina ndiyo nthawi yoyenera kusinthana ndimakukondani.
Posachedwa ndipo mungakhumudwe kwambiri.
6. Musamanyengeke kapena kunyengerera wokondedwa wanu
Osanena zinthu zosokoneza kwa iwo, komwe mumangokhala pakati powauza kuti ndibwino kuti zonse zomwe mungasankhe zikhale zotseguka, komanso kukhala ndi nsanje kapena gawo.
Mukuwasokoneza.
Komanso, musagwere mumsampha wonyengerera pomwe amakuuzani kuti mukumane ndikuyamba chibwenzi ndi munthu wina, ndikuwonetseranso kufunikira kwanu kwa inu.
Ngati mukufuna kuti chibwenzi chizichitika, kutaya kusokoneza kwa equation.
7. Osangokhala anthu olamulira kapena osalamulirika
Ubwenzi wamba umakhudza anthu awiri ovomerezana.
Nthawi zambiri, m'modzi m'modzi amatha kupereka mphamvu zakutali kwa mnzake yemwe amaimba kuwombera posankha kulumikizana kapena kupewa kuwonana.
Osangovomera chilichonse chomwe anganene chifukwa choti simungaganize zowathamangitsa. Chofunikanso ndikuti mukhale ndi mgwirizano womwe simulamuliranso kapena kuwongolera zochitika.
Ngati mukumva ngati akukoka zingwe, chokani.
8. Pewani masabata kuti mukhale ndi malire abwino
Gawani sabata kuti muziyang'ana m'maganizo mwanu ndi mphamvu zanu pachilichonse chomwe mungafune kuyang'ana. Ntchito, banja, ntchito zina, kukulitsa maluso, kuchita zofuna zanu ndi zosangalatsa zanu.
Mwa kukhazikitsa china chake ngati "sabata lokha" simudzakhala mukuyembekezera zosatheka kapena kukulitsa mgwirizano.
Komanso, mudzakhala mukupewa zopweteka zilizonse, ngati mungayandikire kwambiri ndikukhala omasuka kwambiri ndi zomwe mumachita wina ndi mnzake.
Osakhazikitsa mapulani anu ochuluka mozungulira iwo kapena nthawi yochulukirapo yoperekera chibwenzi chawo.
9. Zindikirani kuti ubalewo ndiwosakhalitsa
Nthawi ina, mudzafunika kuyimitsa makonzedwe opanda zingwe awa, pitilizani ndi moyo wanu, ndikuvomereza kuti nawonso adzipangira okha moyo wabwino.
Yamikirani gawo losangalala komanso lokongola lomwe mudakhala nalo, ngakhale litakhala lalifupi.
10. Lemekezanani
Kukhala pachibwenzi mwachisawawa sikutanthauza kuti aliyense amalemekezana.
Sichotheka mu ubale uliwonse, wamtundu uliwonse. Zosowa, kudzipereka, kapena kwinakwake pakati.
Ndikofunika kutero kuchitira mnzanu wapamtima ulemu womwewo, kufatsa, ndi kukoma mtima komwe mungachitire wina aliyense-Kungochotsa kudzipereka kwaubwenzi wokhalitsa.
Pomaliza, kumbukirani kukhala oona mtima kwa inu nokha, ndi kunena zowona zakumverera kwanu.
Ndiwe munthu, ndipo si zachilendo kukopa winawake. Muyenera kukumbukira kuti malingaliro amenewo sangabwezeredwe munthawi imeneyi.
Ndikofunikira kukumbukira kuti chibwenzi chimatha kukhala chosavuta bola momwe mamembala onse awiri amakhalabe osakondana.
Potsatira malangizo othandizawa paubwenzi wokhazikika mudzatha kupeza maubwino osakhala pachibwenzi popanda kuwononga mtendere wanu wamaganizidwe ndikusunga sewero losafunikira mtunda.