Zamkati
- 1. Dziwani kuti ukwati wachimwemwe umayamba ukwati usanachitike
- 2. Sankhani bwino, ndipo yesetsani kugwira ntchito mwakhama
- 3. Khalani athanzi kwa wina ndi mnzake
- 4. Sankhani yemwe akuchita zomwe zingathandize kuti banja liziyenda bwino
- 5. Yesetsani kupewa "kufa kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha"
Amuna kapena akazi okhaokha atha kukhala ndi ufulu wokwatirana ndipo ambiri aku America amachirikiza lingaliro lakukwatiwa kapena kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Pofunitsitsa kuti ubale wawo ukhale wovomerezeka ndikuwonedwa ngati wovomerezeka monga maanja ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, maanja ambiri ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha apita ku holo yamzinda kapena malo awo opembedzako kukadzipereka pamaso pa anzawo ndi abale.
Nanga bwanji za "mosangalala nthawi zonse"?
Kodi maanja ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha angaonetsetse bwanji kuti apitiliza kukonda, kulemekeza, kulemekezana ndipo — mofananamo - asangalale ndi banja lawo, mpunga utaponyedwa kale komanso nthawi yaukwati itatha?
Nawa malangizo othandiza okwatirana. Gwiritsani ntchito malangizo aubwenzi kuti mumvetsetse momwe banja lachiwerewere limagwirira ntchito ndikusungabe zomwe zikuyambitsa ukwati wa akazi okhaokha.
1. Dziwani kuti ukwati wachimwemwe umayamba ukwati usanachitike
Kodi maukwati achiwerewere amatha?
Inde, maukwati a akazi okhaokha amatenga nthawi yayitali ndipo banja losangalala lachiwerewere si nthano.
Maukwati a Lesibiyani atha kukhala moyo wonse ngati mukulimbitsa ubale wanu ndi mtima wanu wonse. Musananene kuti "ndimatero" muyenera kukhala otsimikiza kuti mkaziyu ndi amene.
Kafukufuku wokhudza ma lesibiyoni awonetsa kuti azimayi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakhala achangu kuchita zinthu mopupuluma kuposa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, komwe amuna amatha kuyika mabuleki kuti achite posachedwa.
Ndizowona kuti maukwati a akazi okhaokha ali ndi mwayi woti 50% asudzuke kuposa maukwati a amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Chifukwa chake, sizachilendo kuti muzifunsa momwe mungapangire kuti banja lachiwerewere liziyenda bwino.
Kuti mukhale ndi banja lachiwerewere, ganizirani mozama musanamangirire mfundozo, kuti musasunthire mfundo zomwezo zaka zingapo pamzerewu chifukwa mudalumphira mwachangu kwambiri.
Zimakhala zopindulitsa nthawi zonse kupereka upangiri musanakwatirane kuti mupimire kufanana kwa bwenzi lanu ndi bwenzi lanu, zomwe mungachite, komanso mwayi wokhala ndi banja labwino.
2. Sankhani bwino, ndipo yesetsani kugwira ntchito mwakhama
Uwu ndi umodzi mwamalangizo oyambira azibwenzi paubwenzi, womwe muyenera kukumbukira musanadzipereke.
Kuti musangalale ndi banja lanu, sankhani bwenzi labwino. Mukadziwa kuti mkaziyu ndi mayi amene mumafunitsitsa mutakhala naye moyo wanu wonse, yesetsani kuchita izi.
Samalani ndi mnzanuyo, komanso inunso. Dzidziwitseni nokha, zokonda zanu, ndi zokhumba zanu, ngati mukuyembekezera ubale wazakagonana.
Simukufuna kutopetsa kapena kusowa cholankhula mukakhala pansi moyang'anizana pagome.
Chitani khama kusunga maziko achikondi chaukwati wanu: onetsani chikondi, zonse zazing'ono — kakalata kochepa ka chikondi kamene kamasiyidwa pa kauntala kuti mnzanuyo akapezemo mutapita kuntchito — kwakukulu — ulendo wosadabwitsa wopita kumapeto kwa sabata malo obisika achikondi.
Zomwe mukufuna kupewa ndikutenga wina ndi mnzake mopepuka. Imeneyi ndi njira yotsimikizika yothetsera chisangalalo muubwenzi.
3. Khalani athanzi kwa wina ndi mnzake
Anthu athanzi amatha kusangalala ndiukwati wawo pano komanso mtsogolo. Kuthupi, izi zikutanthauza kudya chakudya chopatsa mphamvu kuti chitetezo chamthupi chanu chitetezeke ndikupewa matenda.
Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi tsiku ndi tsiku kuti muwonjezere mahomoni "abwino" ndikofunikanso .. Pa zauzimu, kuchita zinthu mwanzeru, kudzera mchipembedzo, kapena kusinkhasinkha kumakuthandizani kuti mukhale olimba.
Kukhala ndi thupi labwino komanso malingaliro kumathandizira kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti banja lanu likhale losangalala kwambiri.
4. Sankhani yemwe akuchita zomwe zingathandize kuti banja liziyenda bwino
M'mabanja azimayi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, maudindo a amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sadziwika kwenikweni poyerekeza ndiukwati wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti okwatirana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakhala ndi malingaliro owolowa manja pantchito za amuna poyerekeza ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Chifukwa chake zimangokhala kuti nonse mukulankhulana momwe mukufuna kugawa ntchito zoyang'anira nyumba momwe mungathere.
Kodi m'modzi wa inu mumachita bwino pa ntchito za DIY, monga kutsegula chimbudzi kapena zithunzi zopachika? Kodi mmodzi wa inu ali bwino kukhitchini, akusangalala ndi mapulani a menyu ndikupanga zakudya zokoma?
Kuti banja lanu lisawonongeke, mufunika kuyesetsa kuwonetsetsa kuti ntchito zapakhomo zigawidwa chimodzimodzi komanso kuti nonse mukuthandizira kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino.
Mkwiyo ukhoza kukula ngati m'modzi wa inu akuchita kugula, kuphika, kuyeretsa NDI kukonza nyumba. Ngati muli ndi bajeti yake, lingalirani kulipira ntchito zakunja (munthu woyeretsera, wojambula pamanja) ngati nonse simukufuna kuchita ntchito zina.
Kutumizira ena mwa maudindo osakhala abwino okwatirana kumatha kukupulumutsirani chisoni chachikulu.
5. Yesetsani kupewa "kufa kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha"
Malinga ndi katswiri wazakugonana waku America a Pepper Schwartz ophunzitsa ku University of Washington, muukwati wa akazi okhaokha, kugonana kumakhazikika pampando posachedwa muubwenzi - posachedwa kuposa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Chodabwitsachi chimadziwika kuti kufa kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Koma kupitiriza chibwenzi chokhalitsa popanda kukondana kumatha kukhala kovuta. M'banja lachiwerewere, kugonana ndikofunikira monga momwe zilili muukwati wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Chifukwa chake, maanja ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ayenera kuyesetsa nthawi zonse kuti moyo wawo wogonana ukhale wosangalatsa. Malangizo okwatirana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndiwofunika kwambiri chifukwa kufa kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe zimapangitsa kuti apatukane posachedwa kuposa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Chifukwa chake, malangizo ofunikira ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndikuyesera machitidwe azakugonana ndikuyesera zinthu zatsopano kuti zithandizire kupitilizabe kugonana kwakanthawi.
- Kumbukirani mphamvu yakukhudza
Kumayambiriro kwa chibwenzi chanu, mwina mumakhudzika pafupipafupi. Koma tsopano popeza muli pabanja lokhazikika, mungaiwale kufunikira kokhala ndi khungu pakhungu.
Tengani dzanja la mnzanu pamene muli kunja ndi pafupi; sisitani mapewa awo mukamaonera TV. Kuyanjana kwakuthupi kumatha kumasula mahomoni abwino otchedwa oxytocin omwe amakuthandizani kuti muzilumikizana.
Onetsetsani kuti mukugwira, ngakhale osagonana, kamodzi patsiku. Ndi chikumbutso chabwino cha momwe mumakonderana wina ndi mnzake. Umenewu ndi uphungu wofunika kwambiri paubwenzi wokhudzana ndi zibwenzi!
- Lowanani wina ndi mnzake nthawi zambiri
Patulani nthawi yolembetsera "ukwati wathanzi ndi chitukuko". Zokambiranazi zitha kukhala sabata iliyonse kapena pamwezi.
Yambani ndi funso loti "Ndingatani kuti moyo wanu ukhale wosavuta / wosangalatsa?" Izi zimatsegula zokambiranazo m'njira yabwino, kuwonetsa kuti mukufuna kumva momwe mungathandizire mnzanu.
Cholinga cha zolembetsazi ndikuletsa mikangano yaying'ono kuti isakulire ndipo mwina isakhale yosatheka.
Imeneyi ndi njira yabwinonso yotengera kutentha kwa banja lanu ndikuonetsetsa kuti nonse mukupitilizabe kupindula ndi mgwirizano wanu.
- Osanyalanyaza kufunika kokhala nokha nthawi ndi nthawi
Mawu akuti "kupezeka kumapangitsa kuti mtima ukondwere" ndiowona pamaubwenzi onse, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kukhala okwatirana sikutanthauza kuti muzilumikizana limodzi nthawi zonse.
Muzimanga nthawi yokwanira wina ndi mnzake muzochitika zanu. Kungakhale kumapeto kwa sabata muli nokha ku spa, kapena madzulo ndi makolo anu, muli nokha.
Onse okwatirana kwa nthawi yayitali adzakuwuzani kuti ndikofunikira kupatula nthawi yocheza, pokhapokha kukakumana kokoma komwe kumachitika mukangobwerera kwanu.
Awa ndi ena mwa malangizo ofunikira pa zibwenzi. Chofunikira kwambiri kukumbukira m'banja la amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndikuti musamutengere mnzanuyo ndikukhala okondana ndi mtima wanu wonse.