Zamkati
- Nkhani ya biology
- Kupsinjika, kupulumuka, komanso kutengeka
- Kukumbukira za kupulumuka
- Kudzivomereza kwakukulu
Monga anthu, tonsefe timafuna kumva kuti timakondedwa mopanda malire. Kumva ngati ndife okwanira monga momwe ife tiriri.
Tikakumana ndi 'm'modzi,' timakwera pamwamba ndikumva kuti wina amene timamva kuti ndi wodabwitsa kwambiri awona china chake choyenera mwa ife.
Ife (kwakanthawi) timawalandira mosavomerezeka. Sitikuwona zolakwika zilizonse kapena zolakwika zilizonse.
Patapita kanthawi kochepa, mtambo wachisangalalo ukukwera. Zinthu zazing'ono zimayamba kutisokoneza za wina ndi mnzake, ndipo malingaliro osakhutira amalowa pang'onopang'ono muubale wathu.
Nkhaniyi ikufotokoza momwe, kudzera mukuzidziwitsa komanso kuzindikira, momwe mungakulitsire kapena kupeza chisangalalo m'moyo mwakuyesetsa kuwongolera mayankho amthupi ndi thupi lanu munthawi zosiyanasiyana zaubwenzi wanu.
Nkhani ya biology
Chisangalalo chomwe timamva pachiyambi cha chibwenzi ndichotsatira chakuchuluka kwakanthawi kwamahomoni ndi zamankhwala zomwe zimapangidwa kuti zitsimikizire kuti zamoyo zathu zikukhalabe ndi moyo.
Mahomoni amenewa amatipangitsa kuti tizikondana. Zimakhudza momwe timamvera komanso malingaliro athu, ndichifukwa chake timawona kuti ma idiosyncrasies ena ndi osangalatsa m'miyezi yoyambayi koma kenako amawakhumudwitsa.
Pofuna kuti nyama zizikhala ndi moyo, "mankhwala achikondi" awa amasunga malingaliro awo onse modzidzimutsa, komanso amadzipweteka okha kwakanthawi.
Koma matupi athu akadzakhazikika, timasiyidwa kuti tidutse momwe anthu akumvera zomwe zimativuta kwambiri ndikumangokhala osakhazikika.
Tonsefe timadziwa malingaliro a kudzimva olakwa kapena kumva kuti tili ndiudindo, komanso kulemera pachifuwa komwe kumayenda nawo.
Pafupifupi aliyense amadziwa kumva kwa odwala mdzenje lam'mimba lomwe limatsagana ndi manyazi. Kutentha kofiira pachifuwa chathu pamene takwiya kapena kukwiya sikumangokhala kovuta.
Sitikufuna kumva zinthu izi, ndipo timayang'ana magwero akunja kuti atichotsere ndikuti atithandize "kumva bwino."
Nthawi zambiri, timadalira anzathu kuti atitonthoze ndi kukwiya pamene alephera kapena ndi amene "amayambitsa" malingaliro athu poyamba.
Komabe, chifukwa chakusazindikira, zomwe anthu ambiri sazindikira ndikuti kutengeka ndi matupi amthupi omwe amatsatira ndizokumbukira.
Izi zikutanthauza kuti kalekale pomwe kulumikizidwa ndi omwe amatisamalira makamaka inali nkhani ya moyo ndi imfa, thupi lathu lidaphunzira kuyankha kuzisonyezo zilizonse zosasangalatsa, kukanidwa, kukhumudwitsidwa, kapena kudulidwa ndi omwe amatipatsa chisamaliro.
Nthawi izi zodulidwapo komanso mayankho amthupi lathu amakumbukiridwa ndikukumbukiridwa ngati nkhani yopulumuka. Koma kodi kupsinjika kumakhudzana bwanji ndi malingaliro?
Kupsinjika, kupulumuka, komanso kutengeka
Thupi likayambitsa kupanikizika, imatumizanso mahomoni ndi zamankhwala amthupi kudzera m'thupi, koma ndizosiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe zimaponyedwa mthupi lathu tikayamba kukondana.
Atumiki am'maguluwa amatumizidwa ndi kuyankha kwamoyo ndikupangitsa kuti thupi lathu likhale losasangalala lomwe lapangidwa kuti liziwonetsa zoopsa ndikuyambitsa ntchito yopulumutsa miyoyo yathu - yomwe, kumenya kapena kuthawa.
Koma pankhani yaubwana, mayankho awa akamakumana nawo ndikukumbukiridwa koyamba, sitingathe kuchita chilichonse, chifukwa chake timazizira, m'malo mwake, timasintha.
Njira yosinthira ndichidziwitso cha anthu onse.
Zimayambira nthawi zoyambirira kwambiri m'moyo, zimathandiza kwa ife kwakanthawi kochepa (pambuyo pake, ngati abambo atiuza kuti tisalire kapena atipatsa zomwe tingalire, timaphunzira kuyamwa), koma nthawi yayitali, zimabweretsa mavuto.
Maziko a izi ndi mayankho a kupsinjika kwa mitsempha yathu, yomwe ndi gawo la phukusi loyambira lomwe timabadwira (limodzi ndi kugunda kwa mtima wathu, magwiridwe antchito am'mapapu athu, ndi dongosolo lathu lakugaya chakudya).
Ngakhale kuyambitsa kuyankha kumangokhala kwadzidzidzi (nthawi iliyonse ikawona zoopsa kapena zoopseza), kuyankha kwathu pazomwe zimayambika kumaphunziridwa ndikukumbukiridwa.
Kukumbukira za kupulumuka
Kuyambira tili ana mpaka kukhala achikulire, mayankho athu ophunzitsidwa ndi zomwe tazindikira kuti ali pachiwopsezo amayamba kugwirizana ndi malingaliro athu (pamene akukula).
Chifukwa chake, zomwe zimayambira ngati njira yosavuta yolimbikitsira / kuyankha kwamitsempha (taganizirani zokwawa zomwe zadabwitsidwa zomwe zimapita kukabisala), zimatenga malingaliro odzitsutsa komanso odziimba mlandu panjira, omwe amaphunziridwanso ndikukumbukiridwa - komanso amatanthauzanso kusunga zina mphamvu ya chitetezo mwa kulamulira.
Mwachitsanzo, popita nthawi, zimayamba kuchepa kuganiza kuti sitimakondedwa koposa kudalira kuti ndife okondedwa komanso otakata. Ganizirani zokumbukira zamthupi zaubwana izi ngati mtsuko wamabulo abuluu.
Tikamakula, chisangalalo cha chikondi chatsopano chimatha, timatsala ndi mtsuko wathunthu wamabulo abuluu (otha ntchito komanso osakwanira kukumbukira thupi).
Munthu aliyense muubwenzi uliwonse amabweretsa mtsuko wathunthu wa visceral / malingaliro / malingaliro akale zokumbukira kuubwenzi.
Lingaliro ndikuti tidzipangitse kudzidziwitsa tokha ndikukhala ogwirizana ndi zomwe tikumva komanso chifukwa chomwe tikumvera choncho.
Kudzivomereza kwakukulu
Mchitidwe wodzivomereza modzidzimutsa umayamba ndikudziyesa wokha kapena kudzizindikira.
Zomwe zikutanthauza kuti mutha kupeza chisangalalo kudzera mukudzizindikira mwa kuvomereza zomwe zikuchitika mthupi lanu pakadali pano.
Ganizirani nthawi yomwe mudakhala ndi mantha, udindo, manyazi, kapena kukwiya chifukwa cha mnzanu kapena ubale wanu.
Zikuwoneka kuti zimakhudzana ndikumverera kuti wakanidwa, kapena wosamvetsedwa, kapena wosakondedwa kapena kuti wachita china chake cholakwika kapena kungosokonezeka ndikutambasula ambiri.
Zowonadi, nthawi zonse izi zimakhala zopanda pake. Koma tili mwana, thupi limayankha ndi alamu kuti miyoyo yathu ili pachiwopsezo.
Chifukwa chake, mnzanu akawonetsa kusakhutira ndi chinthu chomwe mwina chinali kuyang'anira kosalakwa, zokumbukira zomwe zili mthupi lathu zimayitanitsa gulu lopulumutsa moyo (ma hormone ndi ma biochemicals omwe amabweretsa zomverera zosasangalatsa m'thupi).
Podzizindikira momwe izi zimagwirira ntchito, titha kukhala ndi zokumana nazo zatsopano, zomwe zimapanga zokumbukira zatsopano (tinene kuti ndi mabulo obiriwira) m'malo mwa akale.
Izi zitha kuchitika chifukwa muli ndi ubale watsopano wokhala ndi zomverera zovuta za thupi, malingaliro, ndi malingaliro.
Kudzilandira kwathunthu ndikubwera kwakukumana mphindi iliyonse ndi lingaliro latsopanoli, kuyimitsidwa kwa chiweruzo, komanso kutha kuyima musanayankhe.
Kuti tipeze malingaliro atsopanowa, tiyenera kudzipereka kuti tizingoyang'ana matupi athu ndikuwazindikira ngati kukumbukira (nsangalabwi yabuluu).
Sikoyenera kukumbukira chilichonse; makamaka, ndikokwanira kuzindikira kuti thupi lanu limakumbukira, ndipo likuyankha ndi kukumbukira kwakale-ngati kuti moyo wanu unali pachiwopsezo.
Zomverera zathupi zomwe timamva sizomwe zimayambitsa kuvutika kwa anthu. Kuvutika kumapangidwa ndi malingaliro m'malingaliro mwathu.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake tivomereza kutengeka ndi momwe zimakhalira-njira yothandizira kupulumuka kwamitsempha yathu, titha kuyamba kumasula mavuto athu.
Titha kuvomereza kuti malingaliro athu amaphunziridwanso ndikukumbukiridwa kuyankha komwe sikutithandizanso (gawo la mtsuko wathu wabuluu wamabuluu).
Tikamadzilora tokha modzidzimutsa, timakhala ndi chokumana nacho chatsopano, ndipo chidziwitso chatsopanochi chimapanga malingaliro atsopano komanso achidwi komanso achifundo.
Nthawi iliyonse tikamachita izi, timapanga chikumbukiro chatsopano (nsangalabwi zobiriwira) pamtsuko wathu.
Izi zimatenga nthawi, koma pakapita nthawi mtsuko wathu wokumbukira umadzaza ndi miyala yatsopano (yatsopano), kufikira mayankho atsopano / kusinthidwa kumangowonjezera.
Miyoyo yathu imadziona kuti siyolemedwa, timakhala olimba mtima komanso olimba mtima, ndipo maubale athu amakhudzidwa chifukwa sitifunanso mayankho kunja kwa ife eni.
Mukadzipereka kukakumana mphindi iliyonse ndi malingaliro atsopanowa, ziphatikiza kusintha kosatha. Chofunikira kwambiri ndikuti mupange kaye pakati poyankha thupi lanu ndi malingaliro anu (zochita zokha) ndi zochita zanu.
Njira yothandiza kwambiri yopangira kupuma ndi kuwonjezera chizolowezi m'moyo wanu nthawi iliyonse yomwe mwapanikizika. Ndapereka njira imodzi pansipa:
Nthawi ina mukamadzakangana ndi mnzanu, kapena kudzimva kuti ndinu otalikirana, osamvetsetsana, kapena amene ali ndi udindo wokhudzidwa ndi mnzanuyo yesani izi:
- Lankhulani ndi thupi lanu, ndikuwuza kuti izi zimamveka zenizeni (thupi likukuwuzani kuti moyo wanu uli pachiwopsezo), koma sichowonadi.
- Tengani mpweya wokwanira osachepera khumi monga momwe mwalangizira apa: lembani mpweya m'mphuno mwanu ndikumverera chifuwa ndi mimba yanu. Imani pang'ono. Tulutsani mphuno yanu, mukumva chifuwa ndi mimba yanu. Imani pang'ono.
- Mukawona kuti malingaliro anu akusochera, yerekezerani manambala (ganizirani kalembedwe ka Sesame Street) pamutu panu ndikuwerengera kuyambira khumi mpaka umodzi mumodzi.
- Dziperekeni kuti musachite chilichonse mpaka thupi lanu litakhazikika, ndipo malingaliro anu azikhala okhazikika komanso okhazikika.
Popita nthawi, mtsuko wanu udzadzazidwa ndi maimabulu atsopano okumbukira, ndipo mutha kupitiliza kuthandiza omwe mumawakonda kuti akhale ndi ufulu, monga momwe mulili.
Kudzizindikira ndi gawo loyamba lokhalira wokhutira, lomwe pakapita nthawi limatha kubweretsa kudzilola, motero kutithandiza kupeza chisangalalo m'miyoyo yathu.