Zamkati
- 1. Kukumbatirana kwanthawi yayitali
- 2. Zochita zolumikizira kupuma
- 3. Kuyang'anitsitsa moyo
- 4. Zinthu zitatu
- 5. Makutu awiri, mkamwa umodzi
- Zowonjezerapo maanja akugona asanachite masewera olimbitsa thupi
Enafe titha kukhala okhulupirira kuti "chikondi chenicheni chimachitika mwachilengedwe" ndikutanthauza kuti "ntchito siyenera kuyikika" maubale achikondi. Ngati ndinu olakwa pamalingaliro amtunduwu, mutha kukhala pamavuto.
Chowonadi nchakuti, chikondi chenicheni chimatenga ntchito ndi khama, patadutsa nthawi yayitali kusinthana kapena kuchita malonjezo. Koma kudziwa kumanga kwake ndi nkhani ina kwathunthu.
Ubwenzi wapabanja ndi kuphatikiza kwa kuyandikira kwa kuthupi, mmaganizo, m'maganizo, komanso mwauzimu komwe mumakhala ndi mnzanu pamene mukugawana moyo wanu limodzi.
Kulimbitsa chikondi m'banja ndikofunikira polimbitsa banja lomwe onse amagawana. Nanga ndi chiyani chomwe maanja angachite kuti apange banja lawo muubwenzi?
Kaya ndi masewera apabanja okondana, machitidwe apabanja apabanja, kapena ntchito zolimbitsa maanja zomwe muyenera kuyesetsa kupeza njira zopezera chiyanjano chaubale.
Lolani nkhaniyi ikukonzekeretseni kuti muyambe ndi ena machitidwe okondana okwatirana kuti mabanja agwirizanenso zomwe zimalimbikitsidwa pafupipafupi kuchipatala.
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1. Kukumbatirana kwanthawi yayitali
Tiyeni tichotse zinthu mosavuta. Sankhani nthawiyo, kaya usiku kapena m'mawa, ndipo muzigwiritsa ntchito nthawi yamtengo wapataliyo mukungoyenda mphindi 30 osachepera. Ngati nthawi zambiri mumazembera nthawi yayitali, onjezerani ola limodzi.
Chifukwa chiyani zimagwira ntchito?
Kuyandikira kwakuthupi ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro zakulumikizana. Ma pheromones, mphamvu zamagetsi, komanso kusintha kwa zinthu zomwe zimangochitika ndikungocheza ndi wokondedwa wanu zimapangitsa chidwi kulumikizana kofunikira muubwenzi wabwino.
Sikuti ntchitoyi imagwiranso ntchito ngati chithandizo chazakugonana komanso monga masewera olimbitsa thupi.
2. Zochita zolumikizira kupuma
Monga ambiri zochitika zapamtima, uyu atha kuwoneka wopusa poyamba, koma tsegulani malingaliro anu kuti muziyese ndipo mutha kungokonda. Inu ndi mnzanuyo mudzakumana pansi, osakhudza pang'ono pamphumi panu, maso atsekeka.
Muyamba kupuma mwakuya, mwakufuna kwanu motsatana. Kuchulukitsa komwe kumalimbikitsidwa kumayambira pa 7, koma inu ndi mnzanuyo mutha kutenga nawo gawo popuma momwe mungafunire.
Chifukwa chiyani zimagwira ntchito?
Kukhudza, ndi chidziwitso chakukhudza, komwe kumayenderana ndi kupuma, kumabweretsa malingaliro achilengedwe olumikizidwa kudzera pakupanga mphamvu zomwe zidasinthana kudzera pamphumi kapena chakra "wachitatu".
Izi zitha kupeza zina mwazinthu zathu zofunikira kwambiri kuti tithe kuchita zauzimu ndikusinthana ndi mphamvu kudzera munjira zamtundu.
3. Kuyang'anitsitsa moyo
Mu ichi Kumanga zolimbitsa thupi, mukungokhala moyang'anizana ndipo mudzayang'anana wina ndi mnzake, poganiza kuti maso ndi "zenera kulowa mumoyo". Mitundu yambiri yamtunduwu ingawoneke ngati yoyipa poyamba, iyi ndiyachikale.
Ngakhale mutha kukhala omangika pachiyambi, pamene mumazolowera kukhala ndikuyang'anitsana wina ndi mnzake ntchitoyi imakhala yopumula komanso yosinkhasinkha. Yesani kuyika nyimbo kuti mukhale ndi mphindi 4-5 zolingalira moyenera.
Chifukwa chiyani zimagwira ntchito?
Zochita zamtunduwu zimapangitsa kuti zinthu ziziyenda pang'onopang'ono. Iyenera kuchitika kangapo pamlungu kuti mupindule kwambiri. M'masiku ano otanganidwa, kuyang'ana kwa mphindi 4-5 kungoyang'anitsana kumathandiza awiriwo kupumula ndikupangananso.
Inde, ndibwino kuphethira panthawi yochita masewera olimbitsa thupi, koma yesetsani kupewa kuyankhula. Mabanja ena amagwiritsa ntchito nyimbo yamphindi 4 kapena 5 kukhazikitsa maziko ndi nthawi.
4. Zinthu zitatu
Inu ndi mnzanu mutha kusewera iyi ngakhale mumakonda. M'modzi wa inu atha kunena zinthu zanu zonse nthawi imodzi, kapena mutha kusinthana. Ganizirani mafunso omwe mukufuna kufunsa; lembani ngati zingathandize.
Mafunso adzafotokozedwa motere:
Ndi zinthu zitatu ziti zomwe mungafune kudya mchere mwezi uno?
Kodi ndi zinthu zitatu ziti zomwe mungatsatire popita nawo pachilumba chotentha?
Ndi zinthu zitatu ziti zomwe mukuyembekeza kuchita limodzi zomwe sitinayesere?
Izi ndi zitsanzo chabe; mumapeza lingaliro.
Chifukwa chiyani zimagwira ntchito?
Ichi ndi kukondana komanso ukwati zolimbitsa thupi. Zimathandizira kulumikizana pakati panu powonjezera luso lolumikizana ndikupatsanso chidziwitso cha malingaliro a anzanu, momwe akumvera, komanso zokonda zawo.
Zimathandizanso popeza zokonda zimatha kusintha pakapita nthawi. Mayankho aperekanso chidziwitso chomwe chingakhale chothandiza mtsogolo.
5. Makutu awiri, mkamwa umodzi
Pogwiritsa ntchito khutu lomvetsera, wina akulankhula kapena “kutulutsa” mutu womwe wasankha, pomwe mnzake akuyenera kukhala moyang'anizana, kumangomvetsera osalankhula.
Nonse a inu mungadabwe momwe zimakhalira zachilendo kumangomvera osalankhula. Pakatha mphindi zisanu, mphindi zitatu, kapena mphindi zisanu ndi zitatu, omvera amakhala womasuka kuyankhapo.
Chifukwa chiyani zimagwira ntchito?
Kumvetsera mwachidwi ndi njira ina yolumikizirana yomwe imakulitsa kuthekera kwathu kuti timvetsere mozama ndikutulutsa chidziwitso cha ena.
Kuyang'ana kwambiri iwo popanda zododometsa kumawapangitsa kuzindikira kuti sitimakhala ndi chidwi chilichonse; china chake chofunikira kwambiri koma chomwe sichikupezeka masiku ano m'dziko lotanganidwa.
Kumvetsera mwadala kumatikumbutsanso kuti tisamangoganizira za munthuyo popanda kunena malingaliro athu asanakwane. Pamapeto pa ntchitoyi, mudzasinthana malo ngati wokamba nkhani / womvera.
Zowonjezerapo maanja akugona asanachite masewera olimbitsa thupi
Nayi njira zodabwitsa zogonera zomwe mungaphatikizire pamoyo wanu watsiku ndi tsiku kuti mukhale ndiubwenzi wabwino:
- Sungani mafoni anu kutali: Sikuti kungosunga foni ndikobwino chabe paubwenzi wanu komanso kukhala ndi magetsi opanda zero kumathandizanso paukhondo wa kugona. Zidzathandizadi pa kugona komwe mungakwanitse.
Sankhani kulumikizana kwanu ndi mnzanu kwa kanthawi musanagone - lankhulani za tsikulo, malingaliro anu kapena china chilichonse chomwe chili m'maganizo mwanu. Onetsetsani kuti muzimitsa mafoni kapena kuyatsa makandulo onunkhira ochepa kapena awiri kuti mugwirizane bwino.
- Kugona maliseche: Kuchotsa zovala zanu zonse musanagone kwatsimikizira kukhala ndi thanzi labwino (limayendetsa cortisol, ndilothandiza pa thanzi lakuberekera komanso kumawongolera khungu). Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri zogonana zogonana. Kuphatikiza apo, zimathandizanso inu ndi mnzanu kukhala ndi khungu lochulukirapo pakhungu lomwe limatulutsa oxytocin. Kuphatikiza apo, zimapangitsa kugonana m'mawa kukhala kosavuta kwambiri!
- Kusisita wina ndi mnzake: Kusisitana ndi chizolowezi chabwino kusunga! Ingoganizirani kuti mwakhala ndi tsiku lovuta ndipo mukusangalatsidwa ndi wokondedwa wanu ndikumusisita mwachikondi. Kaya muli ndi chifukwa chotani, kutikita minofu ndi chida chothandiza kupumulira musanagone komanso kulumikizana kwa maanja.
- Onetsani kuyamikira: Kodi mukudziwa zomwe zimayamwa kumapeto kwa tsiku? Kudzudzula. Tsopano bwezerani izi ndikuthokoza ndipo mudzawona kusintha kwake pamoyo wanu. Nenani zikomo kumapeto kwa tsikulo kwa mnzanu ndipo muwona momwe moyo umakhalira wopindulitsa.
- Kugonana: Njira yabwino yolumikizirana usiku ngati banja ndi kugonana! Zachidziwikire, simungathe kuzichita tsiku lililonse. Koma, kondanani wina ndi mnzake mwachidwi / zogonana ndikuwunika zosankha zopanda malire usiku uliwonse.
Dziperekeni mphindi zosachepera 30-60 patsiku lanu maubwino othandizira maanja ndi mnzanu ndipo muwoneni zakukwera kwake kwamphamvu m'mbali zonse za moyo wanu.