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M'masiku ndi tsiku zenizeni zenizeni, zinthu zambiri zimatha kusokoneza ubale wanu, ukangoyamba kumene, monga ngongole, ntchito, sukulu, banja, chikhulupiriro, ubale, ana, ndi mabizinesi.
Kulumikizana kwamalingaliro komwe nonse mumagawana, komwe kumakupangitsani kumwetulira pakati masana, kumasokonezedwa pang'ono pang'ono, ndipo palibe nthawi yopulumukira. Kukhumudwa kumatha kuyambika mwachangu.
Maonekedwe okopana ndi mawu achigololo apita. "Kula; palibe munthu wabwino komanso wosangalatsa nthawi zonse. ” Cholakwika!
Tisanalankhule za momwe tingayandikire kwa mnyamata komanso momwe tingalumikizane ndi mwamwamuna pamalingaliro, nazi zina zoyipa zakulephera kulumikizana ndi amuna anu motere:
- Kusungulumwa komanso kukhumudwa
- Kudzikayikira
- Mukula kutali
- Kusakhulupirika
Onaninso:
Kafukufuku wochitidwa ndi Marriage.com, azimayi atatu omwe akhala pabanja zaka zopitilira 20 aliyense, adagawana zinsinsi zawo zamomwe angalumikizirane ndimwamuna.
Nkhaniyi ikufotokoza zochitika zenizeni phunziroli kukuthandizani kulumikizana ndi amuna anu.
Nthawi zina zenizeni
Janelle (wokongoletsa) wakwatiwa ndi Ronnie (wokonza magalimoto) kwa zaka 23.
“Mwamuna wanga amakonda kusasinthasintha, komanso kunena zowona; Inenso ndimatero. Pambuyo pogwira ntchito tsiku lonse, kuthana ndi zofuna za makasitomala abwino osati abwino, ndipo nthawi zina mkazi wokwiya wakale, Ronnie angandidalire kuti sindikhala wophulika kapena wokhumudwa kumapeto kwa tsiku lalitali.
Ngakhale timakhala ndi mavuto nthawi ndi nthawi, ndikuonetsetsa kuti ndikudzikumbutsa kuti ndikhale munthu amene ndikufuna kukhala naye tsiku lililonse.
Safuna kumenyedwa ndi mayi wofuna chidwi, wokonda kutengeka maganizo kapena wodandaula pomwe samakonda. ”
"Inde, timakamba za chilichonse, koma tili ndi gawo losawerengeka lomwe limatithandiza kukonzekera zokambirana.
Timakonzekera zokambiranazo. Timateteza kukhazikika kwa ubale wathu. Ndimamupatsa mtima womwe umatsimikizira kuti akhoza kuyembekezera kugawana masiku ake ndi ine.
Amayembekezera kukondwerera ndi ine ndikusangalala. Zachidziwikire, sindimadziwikiratu nthawi zonse, koma chikhalidwe chaubwenzi wathu chimakhala chofanana. Izi zimathandiza kwambiri.
Zimapangitsa kukhala kosavuta kulumikizana mwamalingaliro. M'kupita kwa nthawi, zimakhala zosavuta. ”
Shelia (loya) wokwatiwa ndi Stanly (pulofesa ku yunivesite) kwa zaka 25.
"Kuti ndikhale wolumikizana ndi Stanly, ndimamupangitsa kuti azidzidalira. Ngakhale akalephera, ndimamulimbikitsa.
Samatopa ndi kuthokoza kodzipereka. Ndani satero? Amakonda kwambiri ndikamutsitsimutsa, ndichoncho.
Sindimunyoza pankhope pake. Ndimagwira chisokonezo ichi ndi anzanga achinsinsi, Hei, ndizomwe ali, sichoncho? Ndikuona kuti kugwirizana kumene kungakhalepo pakati pa anthu awiri ndi pamene adzavomerezane. ”
Yvonne (wantchito wosamalira ana) anakwatiwa ndi Paul (wogulitsa malonda) kwa zaka 21.
Ndimapeza kuti bambo anga ndiosangalatsa, nthawi zonse akhala nawo, kuyambira nthawi yoyamba yomwe ndidakumana nawo. Akamalankhula, sindimamudula pakamwa. Anati amakonda izi za ine kuyambira pachiyambi.
Amati mkazi akasokoneza mwamuna, amamva kuti alibe chidwi ndi zomwe akunena.
Ndaphunzira zambiri kuchokera kwa Paulo. Ndimadana ndi masewera, makamaka mpira, ndi basketball. Koma chifukwa ndikudziwa kuti amakonda masewera, ndimapita nawo kumasewera nthawi ndi nthawi. Ndikuwonera, amafotokozera masewerawa, ndipo musanadziwe, ndikudziwa zomwe zikuchitika.
Nthawi ina, ndidadzipeza ndekha ndikusangalala ndi touchdown, koma Paul adandikumbutsa mwachangu kuti sinali gulu lathu. Koma adati adali wokondwa kuti ndimadziwa chomwe chimakhudza.
Masewera sikadali chinthu changa. Zilibe kanthu, Paul amakonda kulankhula zambiri ndipo amakonda pomwe ndikudziwa zomwe akunena.
Ndikumva kuti munthu amene muli nayeyo ayenera kuchita nawo chidwi pazinthu zomwe mumakonda. Zimakulumikizani mumtima mwanu komanso zimakupatsani zokumbukira zabwino zambiri zomwe zingakuthandizeni kupirira nthawi yabwino komanso yoyipa. ”
Kuleza mtima ndi kiyi
Pomaliza, onse omwe anafunsidwa adagwirizana kuti sizovuta kulumikizana ndi amuna anu, koma zimakhala zosavuta pakuchita ndi nthawi. Kuphatikiza apo, maubwino ake ndiabwino.
Zonse zimaphika pakuvomerezeka ndikutsimikizika. Amayiwo amalumikizana ndi amuna awo pokhala ovomerezeka, osasinthasintha, komanso olimbikitsa.
Onsewa amawoneka kuti amakumbukira zabwino zomwe okwatiranawo amatha kubwerera nthawi zonse akamayenda ndi kena kena chabe kuti agwirizane muubwenzi kapena kuti asangalatse amuna awo.
Palibe azimayi omwe amamva kuti ntchito yomwe adayika pachibwenzi chawo inali yopanda chilungamo chifukwa cha zomwe amapeza, chikondi chosatha.
Kulumikizana motengeka ndi mwamuna
Kumayambiriro kwa nkhani ino, tidagawana zovuta zina chifukwa cholephera kulumikizana ndi amuna anu. Tsopano tikugawana zinthu zina zomwe muyenera kukumbukira momwe mungayambitsire kulumikizana kwamwamuna.
- Kulankhulana momasuka ndi moona mtima - Adziwitseni amuna anu, modekha, momwe mukumvera. Muuzeni kuti simukumva kuti muli naye pafupi monga momwe munalili kale. Funsani ngati pali chilichonse chomwe mungachite kuti muthandizenso kulumikizana.
- Osasewera mlandu - Musamuuze kuti ndi amene analakwitsa kuti muzimva kuti sakukhudzidwa. Kuyika zolakwa zonse pa iye kumamupangitsa iye kudzitchinjiriza ndikupanga kulumikizana kosayenera. M'malo mwake, muuzeni kuti mukufuna kulumikizana ndi iye monga momwe munalili kale.
- Dongosolo madeti usiku - Kukhazikitsa tsiku usiku kamodzi pa sabata ndikulitsatira mwachipembedzo kumapangitsa kulumikizana kozama kwa onse awiri.
- Kugonana pafupipafupi - Izi zitha kukhala zovuta kuchita, makamaka ngati simukugwirizana, koma kuchita zogonana kupindulitsa nonse. Kugonana komwe kumabweretsa chiwerewere ndi imodzi mwamlingo waukulu kwambiri wa oxytocin, kapena "mankhwala achikondi" omwe mungapeze.