Yerekezerani kuti muli pa siteji m'chipinda chachikulu chodzaza anthu. Muyenera kukamba. Pamutu womwe simukudziwa chilichonse. Omvera akukuyang'anirani, mumamva kuti mtima wanu uyamba kugunda pang'ono. Mimba yanu imayamba kumangika. Chifuwa chanu chimakumata, chimangokhala ngati wina wakhalani. Simungathe kupuma. Manja anu thukuta. Chizungulire chimayamba. Ndipo choyipitsitsa, mumamva liwu lanu lamkati likunena kuti "ukutani kuno?", "Bwanji udavomereza izi?", "Aliyense akuganiza kuti ndiwe wopusa". Mwadzidzidzi, phokoso laling'ono lirilonse limakulitsidwa - cholembera chogwera pansi chimamveka ngati wina waponya chivindikiro pamphika, maso anu amayang'ana mchipinda momwe kulira kwa zidziwitso za foni kumamveka ngati gulu la njuchi zokwiya. Anthu akukuyang'anirani, akudikirira kuti mulankhule, ndipo mukuwona nkhope zawo zakwiya. Inu mumayima pamenepo mukuganiza, "ndikuthawira kuti?"
Tsopano talingalirani ngati ngakhale ntchito zazing'ono zingakupangitseni kumva motere. Kuganizira zokambirana ndi abwana anu, kukwera basi yodzaza, kuyendetsa pamsewu womwe simukuwadziwa kumakupangitsani kukhala amanjenje. Ngakhale kulowa mgolosale kuti mutenge mkaka ndikuwona aliyense akukuyang'anani - koma ayi. Uku ndikukhala ndi nkhawa.
Kodi nkhawa ndi chiyani?
Kuda nkhawa ndimavuto ofala amisala. Malinga ndi National Institute of Mental health, 18% ya achikulire amakhala ndi nkhawa. Kuda nkhawa ndimikhalidwe yachilengedwe ndipo tonsefe tidzakhala ndi nkhawa m'miyoyo yathu. Komabe, kwa iwo omwe ali ndi vuto la nkhawa, nkhawa imapitilira mokwanira kuti zovuta zomwe zimayambitsa zimasokoneza moyo watsiku ndi tsiku. Amatha kuchita zonse zomwe angathe kuti akonze miyoyo yawo kuti apewe zochitika wamba zatsiku ndi tsiku zomwe zimawapangitsa kukhala ndi nkhawa, zomwe zimapweteketsa nkhawa komanso kutopa.
Kuda nkhawa kumakhudza osati akulu okha, komanso ana. Tweet izi
Ngati mwana wanu ali ndi nkhawa, pali zinthu zingapo zomwe mungaone, kuphatikizapo:
- Kuda nkhawa kwambiri
- Kumamatira, kulira, ndi kuvuta akamasiyana ndi makolo awo (ndipo samakhala ana kapena makanda)
- Madandaulo osatha am'mimba kapena zodandaula zina popanda kufotokozera zachipatala
- Kuyang'ana zifukwa zopewa malo kapena zochitika zomwe zimadzetsa nkhawa
- Kuchotsa pagulu
- Zovuta za kugona
- Kupewetsa malo okweza, otanganidwa
Kuwona mwana wanu akumenya nkhondo motere kumakhala kovuta kwa makolo. Mwamwayi, pali zinthu zomwe mungachite kuti muthandize mwana wanu kuthana ndi nkhawa.
Phunzitsani mwana wanu njira zabwino zowathandizira kuthana ndi nkhawa Tweet izi
- Sungani zodandaula: limbikitsani mwana wanu kuti aliyense azimva kuda nkhawa nthawi zina komanso kuti ndi njira yabwinobwino kumva. Uzani mwana wanu kuti nkhawa ingathe mverani zowopsa (makamaka tikamva matupi athu akuchita) koma kuda nkhawa sikungakupwetekeni. Aphunzitseni kunena okha “Izi zimawopsa, koma ndikudziwa kuti ndine wotetezeka. ” Akumbutseni kuti ndi kwakanthawi ndipo ngakhale magawo ovuta kwambiri amathera. Mwana wanu akhoza kumanena mumtima mwake “nkhawa yanga ikuyesera kunditeteza, koma ndili bwino. Zikomo chifukwa chondisamalira, nkhawa. ”
- Pangani miyambo yopumula tsiku la mwana wanu: muphunzitseni kuti azigwiritsa ntchito nthawi yopuma kuti azitulutsa zovuta zapanyumba. Iyi ikhoza kukhala nthawi yopumula pambuyo pa sukulu kapena musanayambe nthawi yogona. Phunzitsani mwana wanu kuti azindikire thupi lake asanafike kapena pambuyo pake, akuwona kusiyana kwa minofu yawo, kapena "agulugufe" awo. Dzipangeni nokha kukhala gawo la mwambowu. Ana amaphunzira kudzikhazika mtima pansi makolo awo akawapepesa kaye. Mutha kukhala ndikukumangirira pambuyo pa sukulu, kuwerenga nthawi, kapena kumusisita mwana wanu pang'ono. Zinthu zomwe zimakhudza kukhudza, kutentha, komanso kuyankhula ndi mawu olimbikitsa ndizothandiza kwambiri.
- Phunzitsani mwana wanu kusinkhasinkha, njira zopumira, komanso kupumula kwa minofu: njirazi zatsimikiziridwa kuti zimathandiza anthu kudziletsa komanso "kukhala ndi moyo pakadali pano." Izi ndizothandiza kwa ana omwe ali ndi nkhawa chifukwa amakonda kumaganizira zamtsogolo. Aphunzitseni kupuma ndi mimba mmalo mwa mapewa. Pamene akupuma, aphunzitseni kuwerengera mpaka 4 pamutu pawo. Awuzeni apumenso mpaka anayi. Chitani izi mobwerezabwereza kwa mphindi imodzi ndikuwalimbikitsa kuti aganizire momwe akumvera pambuyo pake. Pali njira zambiri zosinkhasinkha za ana. Network Yachinyamata ndi Achinyamata Yathanzi la Eastern Ontario ili ndi pulogalamu yabwino yotchedwa Mind Masters. Amapereka CD yaulere komanso yotsitsika yomwe mungachite ndi mwana wanu apa: http://www.cyhneo.ca/mini-mindmasters.
- Kuphunzitsa mwana wanu kukhala ndi maziko ake: kuda nkhawa nthawi zambiri kumatha kubweretsa mkangano wamaganizidwe othamanga. Kuyesayesa mwamphamvu kuletsa malingalirowo kumatha kukulitsa vuto. Kupititsa patsogolo chidwi cha nangula mpaka pano ndikopambana. Phunzitsani mwana wanu momwe angachitire izi powatchulira zinthu zisanu zomwe amamva mozungulira, zinthu zisanu zomwe amatha kuwona, zinthu zisanu zomwe zimatha kumva komanso zinthu zisanu zomwe angamve. Zomverera izi zimatizungulira nthawi zonse koma nthawi zambiri timazitulutsa. Kubwezera izi kwa ife kumatha kukhala kuziziritsa kwakukulu komanso kothandiza.
- Phunzitsani mwana wanu momwe angazindikire nkhawa m'thupi lawo: Mwana wanu amadziwa nthawi yomwe ali ndi nkhawa yayikulu. Chimene mwina sazindikira kwenikweni ndi momwe nkhawa imakulira. Apatseni chithunzi cha munthu. Apatseni utoto kuti asonyeze momwe akumvera nkhawa zawo. Amatha kujambula zolembedwa pamtima pawo, kapena madzi abuluu m'manja mwawo akungotuluka thukuta. Nenani za nkhawa zochepa komanso kubwereza izi. Aphunzitseni kuzindikira pamene ali ndi nkhawa pang'ono mthupi lawo ndikuwathandiza kugwiritsa ntchito njira zothetsera mavuto awo kale nkhawa yawo imakwera kwambiri.
- Phunzitsani mwana wanu kumasula ndi kumasula: ana ena amayankha bwino akamafinya mnofu uliwonse womwe ali nawo mwamphamvu momwe angathere, kenako nkuzisiya. Awuzeni afinyike manja awo ku nkhonya zolimba momwe angathere ndi kufinya! ..... Finyani! ......... Finyani! ..... ndi ..... Lolani lipite! Afunseni momwe manja awo akumvera. Kenako chitani ndi manja awo, mapewa, miyendo, miyendo, mimba, nkhope ndiyeno matupi awo onse. Afunseni kuti atseke maso awo ndikupumira pang'ono pambuyo pake ndikuwona momwe matupi awo akumvera.
Ndi nthawi komanso kuleza mtima, mwana wanu amatha kuphunzira kuthana ndi mavuto akapanikizika. Ndikofunika kutenga nthawi yanu pamalingaliro aliwonse osataya mtima ngati ena samugwirira ntchito mwana wanu. Mukapeza njira yoyenera kwa inu, imagwira ntchito ngati chithumwa! Musataye mtima ngati simupeza "chipolopolo chamatsenga" koyambirira.
Gawo lovuta la malusowa ndikuti muzichita ndi mwana wanu pafupipafupi. Kuti mwana wanu aphatikize kuphunzira, chizolowezicho chiyenera kuchitika akamva bata. Akachidziwa bwino pamene akumva bwino, adzakhala ndi mwayi wogwiritsa ntchito zida zothanirana ndi vuto lawo pamene sakumva bwino.
Chofunika koposa, ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa ndi mwana wanu. Musachepetse momwe akumvera kapena zochita zawo. Ngati mukumuuza mwana wanu nthawi zonse kuti "akhazikike mtima pansi," uthengawo ndikuti zomwe akuchita sizothandiza, kuwonjezera nkhawa m'kupita kwanthawi ndikuwaphunzitsa kuti sangadzidalire kuti atha kuthana ndi zovuta pamoyo wawo. Nenani kwa iwo "Ndikumvetsetsa kuti izi ndizovuta kwa inu. Ndikudziwa kuti mukugwira ntchito molimbika kuti izi zitheke. Ndipo ndikuganiza kuti mutha kutero. ”
Kuda nkhawa ndi kovuta, makamaka kwa ana. Koma anthu ambiri amakhala ndi moyo wopambana ndipo amatha kumasulira nkhawa kukhala njira yolimbikitsira kufikira akulu. Ndi nthawi komanso kuleza mtima banja lanu lingathe kupanga njira zomwe zingathandize mwana wanu kuthana ndi nkhawa komanso kulimbitsa banja lanu lonse.