Zamkati
- Nkhondo yatha
- Poopa zamtsogolo
- Kutulutsidwa mwathupi
- Zinthu sizinasinthe
- Tsogolo lanu siliphatikiza mnzanu
Kunali m'mawa kwambiri, mwamuna wake asanadzuke kuti adzagwire ntchito, kuti Sandy adadzuka kudzalonjera tsikulo. Adatuluka kupita kukhitchini ndikuphika khofi, adakhala chete akupumira, ndikuyang'ana pazenera. Zambiri mwa iye zikuwoneka ngati zopezeka munthawiyo.
Kenako, atabwerera kuchipinda chogona chachikulu ndikudutsa mwamuna wake amene anali mtulo, sanamve kanthu. Kwa miyezi yambiri anali atakwiya komanso kukhumudwa chifukwa cha zonse zomwe zidachitika pakati pawo. Iwo ankamenyana pa kanthu kalikonse kakang'ono. Sanangomutenga konse, kapena kuyesa. Sanafune kuti athetse ubale wawo kapena kucheza nawo. Ndipo moyo wawo wogonana sunapezekeko. Ankamukonda kamodzi, koma tsopano amawoneka ngati munthu wosiyana.
Mmawa umenewo adadabwa kuti mkwiyo wake watha kwathunthu, ndipo m'malo mwake mudali chabe. Munali munthawiyo pomwe adadziwa kuti moyo wake wopita patsogolo sukaphatikizaponso amuna awo. Mawu oti "chisudzulo" sanachitenso mantha kwa Sandy. Ndi momwe adadziwira kuti ukwati wake watha.
Ngakhale sizachilendo m'banja kukhala ndi zokhumudwitsa zambiri, ngati mukukumana ndi zovuta zambiri kuposa zomwe mumakhala nazo mutha kukhala ndi mwayi womenyana. Mwayi wosintha ndikukula limodzi. Ndizovuta, koma zitha kuchitika ngati nonse muli okonda komanso ofunitsitsa. Ndi pamene zinthu zimapitilira pamene-pakupita nthawi ya nkhondo-pamene kusudzulana sikungapeweke. Mudzadziwa kuti banja lanu latha ngati mupeza izi:
Nkhondo yatha
Ngati inu kapena mnzanu simukuyeseranso kumenyera ukwatiwo, ndiye kuti zikuyenera kuti zatha. Ngati pangakhale mwayi womenyera kuti pali china chomwe chatsala kuti mupulumutse, mwina inu kapena mnzanuyo mungalire, kukuwa, kupempha, kuchonderera, kapena kuchita china chachikulu kuti muyesetse kupulumutsa. Mutha kuitanitsa chisudzulo pakadali pano ngati njira yomaliza yoti wina aliyense asokonezeke ndikusintha zinthu - pali china choti apulumutse ngati zili choncho. Koma pakakhala bata pang'ono, kuleza mtima, kunyalanyaza, kusasamala, ndikuyembekezera mapeto, ndiye kuti mapeto mwina ali bwino.
Poopa zamtsogolo
Pakakhala chinthu china chokhudza ubale chomwe chatsala kuti chisungidwe, ndiye kuti inu kapena mnzanu mudzakhala okhumudwitsa ndikuwopa zomwe zingachitike. Mudzakhala ndi nkhawa ndi momwe zinthu zidzakhalire. Mumasamala za ubale wonse womwe mumakhala nawo mpaka kumadera nkhawa zomwe mungakumane nazo kuti zinthu zikhale bwino. Ngati ukwati watha, komabe, mwina simusamala za tsogolo lanu; mungodziwa kuti zidzakhala bwino kuposa momwe ziliri panopo. Ndipo muli bwino ndi izo. Komanso, ngati ukwati watha, ndinu wokonzeka kuchita chilichonse kuti mumalize.
Kutulutsidwa mwathupi
Mukakhala kuti simalumikizidwa ngati banja, zikuwonekeratu kuti simukugwirizana. Simugonana, simukupsompsonana, simupsompsonana — simukhala limodzi. Mwinanso mumapewa kutsutsana wina ndi mnzake. Chilakolako chatha ndipo zimangomva zovuta. Izi zikachitika, mutha kuyesa kukachita chibwenzi kwina, ndipo ngati simusamala za zomwe mungachite mukamachita chibwenzi, ndiye kuti ukwatiwo ungafike poti sangabwererenso.
Zinthu sizinasinthe
Pamene okwatirana ali ofunitsitsa kusintha, ndiye kuti banja silinathe. Pali zinthu zina zofunika kuyesera, njira zatsopano zoyankhira, njira zatsopano zochitira kuti chibwenzicho chikhale bwino. Pali chithandizo cha maanja, maanja obwerera, usiku wamasana, zokambirana zambiri pazonse, ndi zina zambiri. Koma ngati mwatopa njira iliyonse, yesani zonse zomwe mungaganizire ndi zina koma zinthu sizinasinthe, ndiye kuti banja latha. Ngati sikugwira ntchito ngakhale mutayesetsa kwambiri, ndiye kuti zinthu sizingasinthe. Mudzadziwa kuti nthawi yakwana.
Tsogolo lanu siliphatikiza mnzanu
Tikangokwatirana kumene, sitingathe kulingalira za moyo wathu popanda wokwatirana naye; makamaka titha kuyerekezera kukalamba limodzi. Pazochitika zonse zamtsogolo mwathu, wokwatirana naye ndi gawo lofunikira. Koma ngati zinthu muubwenzi zasokonezeka mokwanira, ndiye kuti malingaliro amtsogolo atha kusintha kwambiri. Ngati inu ngati chiyembekezo chanu chamtsogolo ndi maloto anu - monga kupita maulendo, kukawona adzukulu, kuchita zinthu zosangalatsa limodzi - osaphatikizaponso mnzanu, ndiye kuti banja likhoza kukhala tsogolo lanu. M'malingaliro mwanu, mukuyerekeza kale momwe moyo ungakhalire popanda iwo, ndipo ichi ndi chisonyezo chabwino kuti banja lanu litha.