Zamkati
- Vuto la "abwenzi olakwika" vuto
- Vuto la chikhulupiriro chosemphana
- Kupeza anzanu atsopano
- Sikuchedwa kwambiri
Ndizotheka kunena kuti ukwati mwina ndi umodzi mwamgwirizano wofunikira kwambiri womwe ambiri aife tili nawo m'miyoyo yathu. Ndichimodzi mwazovuta kwambiri zomwe timakumana nazo m'moyo, pakati pa okwatirana komanso pakati panu ndi anzanu komanso abale. Koma ngati mukuwona kuti ukwati wanu ukusokoneza maubale anu munjira yolakwika, musafulumire kulumikizana ndi maloya osudzulana! M'malo mwake, muyenera kudziwa momwe mungathanirane nawo ngati vuto lina lililonse.
Tiyeni tiwone zina mwazovuta zomwe zimachitika tikamangiriza mfundozo. Osadandaula, awa sadzakhala mawu okhumudwitsa! Tikukhulupirira kuti mudzatuluka muli ndi zidziwitso zambiri, koma chidaliro muubwenzi wanu ndikukhazikika.
Vuto la "abwenzi olakwika" vuto
Pambuyo paukwati, mwina mwawona kuti simuchezanso ndi anzanu osakwatira monga kale. Ndizobwino komanso zomveka bwino! Sizingakhale zolondola kunena kuti ali ndi nsanje, koma zomwe mumafanana nazo - kukhala osakwatira - kulibenso. Izi zitha kupangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kulumikizana; pomwe nkhani zawo zamasiku oyipa zamadzulo zili ndizosiyanasiyana, nkhani zanu zimakhudza yemwe mudakwatirana naye.
Zitha kukhalanso zovuta kuti anzanu osakwatirana azicheza nanu limodzi ndi theka lanu, kumverera ngati gudumu lachitatu kapena kupitilira apo, kumverera ngati mwakwanitsa chinthu chomwe sanakwanitse kupeza chikondi. Mnzanuyo amathanso kukhala ndi vuto chifukwa chocheza ndi abwenzi anu kapena atsikana anu opanda iwo popeza kwa iwo atha kumva ngati mukuyesera kuthawa moyo wanu watsopano.
Ndiye mumatani ndi izi? Kodi mumalola kuti ubwenzi wanuwo uthe? Ngakhale izi zimachitikadi, sizoyenera kutero. Kuti mupewe vuto la gudumu lachitatu kapena vuto la mnzanu wosatetezeka, muyenera kupeza njira yopitilira kulumikizana nawo popanda banja lanu kukhala mkangano.
M'banja mwanga, ndinkayesetsa kuti ndisangalale ndi anzanga. Kwa zaka zambiri, ndakhala ndikukhala ndi maphwando azakudya zamadzulo, masewera apamasewera usiku, kutuluka pagulu kupita kumakanema. Monga banja lachikhulupiriro, ine ndi amuna anga tidakulitsa mgwirizano wathu ndi tchalitchi chathu - zomwe tidakana pomwe tidali achichepere koma tidapeza kuti ndizothandiza popanga gulu la anzathu ndikutitenga nawo gawo mdera losangalala komanso mosayembekezeka.
Vuto la chikhulupiriro chosemphana
Posachedwa, mnzanga adakwatirana. Anakulira Mkatolika ndipo bwenzi lake adaleredwa Chiprotestanti. Ngakhale kuti nkhondoyi idachitika kale, zitha kupangitsa kuti pakhale kusamvana pakati pa mabanja awiriwa. Kodi amakondwerera Khrisimasi motani? Kapena Isitala? Kapena ntchito zilizonse pankhaniyi? Panalibe zowawa, koma mnzanga ndi mwamuna wake anali ndi vuto.
Kudzera mu kunyengerera ndi kulumikizana sizinakhale vuto. Anakhala pansi ndi mabanja awo ndikukambirana zomwe ayenera kuchita. Zinapezeka kuti makolo amnzanga amasangalala ndi misonkhano yawo ya Khrisimasi kuposa ma Easter awo pomwe izi zidachitikiranso kwa makolo amwamuna wake. Pambuyo pake adagwirizana kuti apita kutchalitchi cha mzanga pa Khrisimasi komanso ku tchalitchi cha amuna awo pa Isitala.
M'malo mwake, popita nthawi mchaka choyamba, mzanga ndi mwamuna wake adakwanitsa kuwalimbikitsa makolo awo kuti azikapitanso kumisonkhano yamatchalitchi anzawo. Izi zikuwonetsa kuti kulumikizana ndichofunikira kwambiri polingalira momwe banja latsopano lingakhudzire ubale womwe ulipo ndi mabanja anu.
Kupeza anzanu atsopano
Monga aliyense amene angakhale pachibwenzi kwa nthawi yayitali angakuwuzeni, zimakuvutani nonse kupanga zibwenzi. Ngakhale mutha kukhalabe ndi anzanu akale (monga tafotokozera pamwambapa), nthawi zina sizingatheke. Ndipo komabe tonsefe timafunikira moyo wocheza; anthu ndi zolengedwa. Funso ndiloti mumatha bwanji kupeza anzanu atsopano zikavuta kuchita izi mukamakula?
Kodi mukukumbukira chifukwa chake zinali zosavuta kupanga mabwenzi mukakhala ku koleji kapena kusekondale? Sizinali chabe chifukwa chakuti mudakumana ndi anthu omwe mumafanana nawo ambiri. Zinali chifukwa choti munakakamizidwa limodzi, mwina chifukwa munkaphunzira limodzi. Ndicho chifukwa chake inu ndi mnzanu muyenera kulingalira zophunzira, makamaka yomwe ingakupatseni luso latsopano.
Mnzanga wina adakwatirana posachedwa ndipo iye ndi mkazi wake adakumana ndi vuto lomweli. Pakapita nthawi, abwenzi awo osakwatira, ngakhale amathandizana nawo mokwanira, samangofanana kwenikweni ndi iwo. Amatha kucheza ndi mabanja ena, koma maanjawo anali ndi ndandanda yawo komanso udindo wawo wowasamalira. Pamapeto pake, mnzanga ndi mkazi wake adayamba kumva kupsinjika kwakudzipatula koma samadziwa momwe angapangire anzawo.
Pozindikira izi, ndidawalangiza kuti aphunzire limodzi. Zinalibe kanthu kalasi yamtundu wanji, koma ngati ndichinthu chomwe angaphunzire limodzi ndi gulu lina la anthu pamlingo wofanana, zitha kubweretsa lingaliro lakuchezera komwe kumapangitsa maubwenzi kukhala osavuta kupanga. Anayamba kuganiza zakukonza, kuvina, ndikujambula, koma pamapeto pake adaganiza zoumba mbiya. Palibe mwa iwo amene anali ndi luso lowumba ndipo adaganiza kuti zingakhale zosangalatsa.
Zachidziwikire, atamaliza maphunziro awo a milungu isanu ndi umodzi, anali atacheza ndi anzawo akusukulu. Tsopano amakhala ndi mayanjano awoawo ndi abwenzi atsopanowa komwe onse amadya chakudya chamadzulo, kenako amamwa vinyo, ndikuumba dongo kwa maola angapo.
Sikuchedwa kwambiri
Izi ndi zina mwa mavuto omwe anthu omwe angokwatirana kumene amakumana nawo. Koma zonsezi ndi nkhani zotheka kusintha, monganso zina zomwe banja latsopano lingakumane nazo. Ukwati umakhudza ubale wanu ndi abwenzi komanso abale, koma sizowonongeka nthawi zonse, makamaka ngati mumadziwa kuthana ndi zosinthazi.
Leticia Chilimwe
Leticia Summers ndi wolemba pawokha yemwe wakhala akulemba pazokhudza mabanja komanso ubale wawo kwazaka pafupifupi 10. Wakhala ngati mlangizi wa ubale ndi mabizinesi ang'onoang'ono, kuphatikiza magulu amilandu pabanja.